We hope you're enjoying The Nuanced Life enough to leave us a favorable review, subscribe, and share it with others!  In today's episode, we start by discussing The Secret Life of Um and communication cues in conversations. Then we talk about listener feedback on our clothing discussion, which leads us to discuss competition among states.  In our main segment, we discuss whether parents should try to make their children happy. Based on articles from Richard Weissbord and Erica Komisar and a book by Jennifer Senior, we determine that there are better goals--maturity, resilience, and connection.  We end with Oriah Mountain Dreamer's The Invitation.