Melissa Dessereau: Polyamory, Pt2

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Melissa Dessereau: Polyamory, Pt2

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Part Two of my conversation with Melissa Dessereau, MFT, in which we discuss attachment theory, and why queers are especially well equipped for non-monogamy. For information regarding your data privacy, visit acast.com/privacy

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