When you boil it down, all of us want super intimate relationships. But how
do we get there? Especially with our loved ones?  There’s not much out
there to model from. Hard to learn from your parents. It’s not like there’s
a class in school on how to have intimate relationships or even what to
look for. Really, there’s not any kind of guidance. We’re all grasping at
straws, feeling our way without much of a map. 

And when you live in our culture, there’s some pretty strict rules about
what relationships look like. We’re either watching movies like Love
Actually, where a guy shows up holding poster-board that says “to me,
you’re perfect” or we’re watching hardcore porn of people’s junk. When it
comes to intimacy, there’s two types of trained professionals that people
pay to get help: Either you’re droning on to a shrink about your problems
or you might have some specific sexualized fantasies that you need to
exercise. For that, you might turn to a Dominatrix.