Who's in Your Room?: The Secret to Living Your Best Life
By Ivan Misner, Stewart Emery and Rick Sapio
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Can you imagine living a better life? Would you like to surround yourself with more supportive people? There’s hope! You see, the quality of your life depends on the people in your life.
THE SIMPLE AND POWERFUL IDEAS IN THIS BOOK CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE FOREVER.
Who’s in Your Room? introduces you to the concept of your life being like a room—a room where anyone who enters affects your life . . . forever. Although this concept may sound frightening, this book gives you the tools and exercises you need to take control of your room and live the life you desire. This book brings in experts to describe how people leave you with memories that cannot be erased but can be managed. You manage them by determining what’s really important to you, and then you can determine how to spend your time and whom you should be spending it with. Stop living according to everyone else’s rules. Shape your life by taking control of your room. Live your life by your design!
Ivan Misner
Dr. Ivan Misner is the Founder & Chief Visionary Officer of BNI, the world’s largest business networking organization. Founded in 1985 the organization now has over 10,000 chapters throughout every populated continent of the world. Each year, BNI members pass millions of referrals generating billions of U.S. dollars in business for the members each year. Dr. Misner’s Ph.D. is from the University of Southern California. He is a New York Times Bestselling author who has written 27 books including one of his latest books – Who’s in Your Room? He is the recipient of the John C. Maxwell Transformational Leadership Award and is also a columnist for Entrepreneur.com. He has been a university professor as well as a member of the Board of Trustees for the University of La Verne. In addition, he has been featured in the L.A. Times, Wall Street Journal, and New York Times, as well as numerous TV and radio shows including CNN, the BBC, and The Today Show on NBC.
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Who's in Your Room? - Ivan Misner
Who’s
in Your
ROOM:
THE SECRET TO CREATING YOUR BEST LIFE
Who’s
in Your
ROOM:
THE SECRET TO CREATING YOUR BEST LIFE
Ivan Misner, Ph.D. Stewart Emery, L.H.D. Rick Sapio
Indigo River Publishing
Who’s in Your Room?
Copyright © 2018 by Ivan Misner, Stewart Emery, Rick Sapio
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
IMAGINE YOU LIVE IN ONE ROOM
GUARDING YOUR DOOR
DETERMINING YOUR VALUES
ASSESSING WHO’S IN YOUR ROOM
TRAINING YOUR DOORMAN
HANDLING PEOPLE ALREADY IN YOUR ROOM
LIVING IN YOUR ROOM
THE ROOM YOU DESIGN
Chapter One
IMAGINE YOU LIVE IN ONE ROOM
Imagine that you live in one room. Imagine that you live your entire life in this room where you and your imagination create your life. Anything at all can be contained in this space. Inside are all the people who enter, as well as the relationships and obligations that come with them. You can update and expand your room to accommodate new possibilities in your life. However, there is a unique and permanent feature of this room: It only has one door. It will only ever have one door. You may think that there is nothing unique or unusual about this one-door thing. Lots of rooms only have one door. True, but this particular door is a one-way door. Enter Only.
NO EXIT. Whoever comes through this door, and whatever they bring with them, cannot leave—ever. They will be with you in your room for the rest of your life.
This concept matters to you because the quality of your life depends upon who’s in your room.
One more time: The quality of your life depends upon who’s in your room.
It does. The person you become and whether or not you are happy and successful depends on who’s in your room. Really.
Hit pause. Time to think. How is this landing?
So who’s in your room? Take a moment. Look around. Take a quick inventory. You could start with your contact list, your social media list, and check who’s in your checkbook. Who’s in, up close and personal? Who else is in—friends, family members, people you work with, people you love having in your room along with people you wish weren’t there?
Okay. That’s a moment. You’ll look longer later.
Now ask yourself, based upon what you’ve seen so far: Would you have made different choices had you known that anybody who came into your room was going to be in it forever? Almost everyone we’ve asked has said yes to this question.
Now that you recognize this point, the important question going forward is this: How are you going to select people you wish to have in your room now that you know they can never leave?
Many people report that they immediately have an OMG! moment when first introduced to this notion. Some launch into flashback mode and say that for them it is like watching a high-speed rerun of their entire life. A train wreck for some, or just a very bumpy ride for others.
Now, if you are about to push back with It can’t literally be true that once people get in my room they are in it forever,
instead ask yourself this: Would I be willing, from this moment on, to live as though it were true? In fact, neurologists report that as far as your brain is concerned, this really is true. According to renowned psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Daniel Amen, founder of the Amen Clinics, Any significant input that is received in your brain triggers neural activity that cannot simply be erased or deleted as though it never happened.
If someone hurts you, was mean to you, or belittles you, they stay in your room and they’re all over your brain. Their voice is in the voice-recognition part of your brain, their face is in the facial-recognition part of your brain, and they don’t go away. When you meet someone and they