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Dear Therapist: My Mother Wants Me to Cut My Fiancé Out of My Daughter’s Life

I’m happy with the way my fiancé and I are raising my daughter, but my mother isn’t.
Source: BIANCA BAGNARELLI

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Dear Therapist,

I was married for five years and had a daughter during that time. My divorce became a family crisis for my parents; they’d been married for 29 years and they did not approve of my pursuing a divorce. After I got divorced—when my daughter was 2—my ex was not around and my mother helped me raise her.

My daughter is now 9 and I’ve finally moved on with my life. I live with my fiancé and my daughter calls him Daddy. We have been together for four years and he’s a great father figure. He drops my daughter off at school, helps with her homework, and got her involved in softball.

My mother doesn’t love my fiancé’s involvement.

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