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    Invisible Abuse - Instantly Spot the Covert Deception and Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists, Effortlessly Defend From and Disarm Them, and Effectively Recover: Deep Relationship Healing and Recovery
    Invisible Abuse - Instantly Spot the Covert Deception and Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists, Effortlessly Defend From and Disarm Them, and Effectively Recover: Deep Relationship Healing and Recovery
    Invisible Abuse - Instantly Spot the Covert Deception and Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists, Effortlessly Defend From and Disarm Them, and Effectively Recover: Deep Relationship Healing and Recovery
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    Invisible Abuse - Instantly Spot the Covert Deception and Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists, Effortlessly Defend From and Disarm Them, and Effectively Recover: Deep Relationship Healing and Recovery

    By Kara Lawrence

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    YOU'RE IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT SOMETIMES YOU FEEL ALONE.

    Sometimes you worry that your partner is only "putting up" with you.

    These are just two of the common warning signs that you are in a relationship with a narcissist, and they should never be ignored.

    You may also find your partner to be very controlling, down to what you wear or eat. You may feel like you're walking on eggshells around another person, not comfortable or at ease with them (this is a big one).

    If this is the case, it's possible that you may be suffering from Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome. Congratulations! You have taken the first step towards recovery: seeking the truth.

    Informing yourself and arming yourself with knowledge is all too critical for those suffering under a narcissist because, as you may have observed, the narcissist will often assert their reality onto you. This can cloud your judgment and make it easy to forget what is normal and healthy behavior.

    And worst of all, the abusive tactics of narcissists are almost always covert, making them difficult to spot, and giving the narcissist "plausible deniability" that can result in hair-pullingly frustrating arguments with them that seem to go nowhere as they defend their actions.

    Take a deep breath. If you feel guilty or at fault, it's only the narcissist's voice talking in your head. The sole purpose of this book is to unravel that web that the narcissist has spun so that you can have a clear vision of the condition, and take the steps to heal from any trauma that has occurred and prevent it from happening all over again.

    Inside these pages you will find:

    • The six telltale warning signs of Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome

    • A trick to always spot a narcissist quickly and effortlessly

    • Indefensible weapons to disarm the covert narcissist

    • The surprising truth about why empaths and sensitive people are drawn to narcissists

    • The number one powerful tool for healing from narcissistic abuse

    • Other recovery methods for the narcissists in your family, including narcissistic mothers

    • Effective ways to protect yourself from future abuse and never tolerate it again!

    And much more…

    Don't let a narcissist convince you that nothing is wrong! If you're feeling confused, that's okay! Begin your journey to recovery and to the person that will treat you the way you want today. Arm yourself with this collection of proven techniques and a wealth of knowledge that is quick and easy to absorb. Start reading today!

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherKara Lawrence
    Release dateNov 9, 2019
    ISBN9781393568742
    Invisible Abuse - Instantly Spot the Covert Deception and Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists, Effortlessly Defend From and Disarm Them, and Effectively Recover: Deep Relationship Healing and Recovery

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      Invisible Abuse - Instantly Spot the Covert Deception and Manipulation Tactics of Narcissists, Effortlessly Defend From and Disarm Them, and Effectively Recover - Kara Lawrence

      Introduction

      Do you feel alone or abandoned even when you are in a relationship? Are you worried that your partner is only putting up with you? Do you ever feel like you are not good enough?

      Do you ever feel that the person you fell in love with is not the same person you are with today? Where did the charm and charisma go? Are you in a relationship where you are being controlled even down to what you wear or eat? In fact, you feel that the relationship has gotten abusive, but you are too afraid to say anything because you might be punished or ignored.

      If you feel this way, you might be dealing with a narcissist.

      What is a narcissist?

      A narcissist, or person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, is a person who falls on the spectrum of being narcissistic. People with this mental illness have an inflated sense of superiority.  They believe they are the most important person in the room; require a lot of attention; lack empathy for other people; and demand that people treat them as being superior to others. Moreover, people with Narcissistic Personality Disorder often become abusive towards others and try to control people that they feel are below them.

      If you feel like you are always walking on eggshells around your partner, or your partner constantly belittles you and makes you feel undeserving, you may be suffering from Narcissistic Abuse Syndrome.

      However, you have taken the first step towards recovery: seeking the truth. Narcissists will assert their reality onto you, clouding your judgment of what is normal and healthy behavior. The purpose of this book is to unravel the web that their influence has spun, give you clear insight into the condition, and offer recommendations on how to heal from the trauma and prevent it from happening again.

      There was a time in my life where I was always trying to prove myself to my narcissistic mother and later, a partner who had the same narcissistic characteristics as my mother. I suffered needlessly for years, constantly doubting myself and exhausting myself by putting my efforts towards achieving an unattainable goal that the narcissist in my life was constantly rewriting (though I didn’t know this at the time).

      Eventually, the abuse became more serious. I began to believe that I was inferior to other people, my narcissistic partner in particular. This plunged me into a deep depression where I lost all my will to live. I was totally isolated from my friends and family because that was how my narcissistic partner controlled me. Everything I did was wrong and made my partner unhappy. When I was at my lowest point, I called a helpline, and this started my journey of recovery. Once I knew what I was dealing with, I was able to get the help that I needed.

      With knowledge of Narcissistic Personality Disorder and a few simple tools under my belt, I was able to identify four steps  in order to heal from narcissistic abuse:

      1. Identify the problem - hint: it is NOT your fault!

      2. Separate from the abusive individual - this can be difficult, but this book offers tips to help.

      3. Heal from trauma - we will go over several popular techniques and some unorthodox ones.

      4. Avoid repeating the cycle! Defend yourself in the future from the same type of abuse over and over again.

      Through the implementation of this process, I was able to recover fully from the trauma of abuse and seek out healthy and supportive relationships. Ultimately, I found my current partner, someone I can be around without judging or questioning myself.

      After my recovery, I began to study this mental illness so that I could help others who were similarly abused. This book is the culmination of my research and personal experiences with people suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

      Every day that you remain in a relationship with someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a day that you are in danger of losing yourself. The abusive individual, whether he or she knows it, is covertly selling you the idea that you are not good enough; that you are the problem in the relationship; and that things would be better if you would only change.

      But by starting your journey of recovery, you have put yourself on the road to freedom from the shackles of narcissistic emotional abuse. Be confident that with the right knowledge at your fingertips, followed by the appropriate actions, you, too, can make a full recovery and escape abusive relationships.

      No longer will the person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder be able to abuse you emotionally or psychologically; you will recognize the signs of manipulation and know how to take that power away from them. By understanding what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is, you will be able to step up and control your own life.

      The first step to a newer, healthier, more confident you involves arming yourself with the knowledge compiled for you in the following pages. But equally important are the actions you must follow, which are also outlined ahead.

      The more you know about Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the sooner you will be able to start your recovery. In this book, you will find the knowledge that will set you free. Don’t be afraid to change your life for the better. Take a deep breath and dive right in!

      Chapter One:  Who is the Narcissist?

      After years of searching for The One, you finally found someone who connects with you. He’s handsome, intelligent, and seems to be really into you. You have a whirlwind courtship; you’ve never been treated this well before. Before you know it, you’re a couple, and all of your dreams have come true: You’ve found your perfect love.

      This sounds like the beginning of a fairy tale - lonely woman finds a perfect man. But while it might have started out like a fairy tale, it doesn’t end like one. Out of nowhere, the person you fell in love with begins demeaning you. He makes you feel guilty about things you didn’t do. He flaunts his intelligence and makes you feel foolish. Stop acting so ignorant, he says. You stop going to Mensa meetings in fear of being humiliated.

      Last night, he said some things that made you question his intelligence. Quietly, you start to suspect that he isn’t very clever, though he seems to think he is. He tells you every day that you aren't worthy of someone as important as he is. You should feel lucky he’s still willing to be with you. Saturday evening, at the party, he pulls you aside while you were talking to Jimmy. Get with the program, he quietly seethes.

      Jimmy is witty, and you miss that in a partner. On the way home, you make the mistake of saying you enjoyed the party. You mention that Jimmy was really witty and smart, and he falls into a rage, screaming at you. You should worship him and no one else! He slaps you when you open your mouth to say something. Your cheek stings. You’ve bitten your tongue, and it’s bleeding.

      He doesn’t care.

      He drives on like nothing happened. He says that everyone is jealous of him. People wish they were him. Watch your behavior, he warns you, because there are dozens of women dying to be with him.

      This scenario has happened to many women. They fall in love with a narcissist, and their life is turned upside down. Their confidence is blown, and they lose the ability to walk away. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is worse than an addiction. It’s like being in a funhouse with blurry mirrors - you lose your unique sense of reality and fall into that of the narcissist.

      Are you in a relationship like this? Are you in love with a narcissist?

      Let’s examine the definition of a narcissist.

      The Narcissist

      A true narcissist is a person who thinks that he is better than everyone else on the planet. This person needs to be told frequently that he is unique and just about perfect. He needs to be admired for all his qualities, whether real or imagined. When something happens to you, he does not connect with your situation and cannot empathize with you. He will hurt your feelings a million times over and never care. If your dog dies, it will not affect him at all. You never see an ounce of feeling. If this sounds like your partner, I'm sorry to say that you are involved with a narcissist.

      The person you are with is a textbook case of narcissism. He has a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (American Psychiatric Association, 2013); needs to be admired in everything that he does; and has a total lack of empathy.

      You might be in denial about the narcissist in your life, so I want to help you understand this illness and think about breaking away. Leaving will be hard, but it can be done, and the more you know, the better equipped you will be when that time comes. Hence, we’ll start from the beginning and learn exactly what a narcissistic personality is.

      What Is an Overt Narcissist?

      The overt narcissist is a person who is open about narcissistic. There is nothing ambiguous about this type of person; he stands out in a crowd. The overt narcissist is a person whose life revolves around grandiosity. While he may appear humble at first, his humility is an act that hides intense ambitions, extravagant behaviors, and an unwavering belief in his own infallibility.

      If you have a relationship with the overt narcissist, it will be a shallow one. An overt narcissist seeks your

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