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    Blaming My Parents For Everything!
    Blaming My Parents For Everything!
    Blaming My Parents For Everything!
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    Blaming My Parents For Everything!

    By Tosin Ojumu

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    A short ebook from my relationship series and blog: "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" that is all about building an outstanding foundation for an outstanding marriage. This ebook contains 7 articles:

    Body, Soul and Spirit!
    Well one day it occurred to me that if we as humans are composed of body, soul (or mind, will, intellect, creativity, emotions) and spirit, and if as a couple you are to be “one flesh”, then perhaps a deep and true love between a husband and wife would also reflect those three elements, that as a couple you would be deeply bound together and united in these three aspects.

    Blaming My Parents for Everything!
    I was recently reading a post on another blog written by someone from a similar cultural background to mine. It was about being single as a Nigerian. I could identify so strongly with so much of what she said. One particular line made me laugh out so loud:

    “These are the same people who all but glued a note to my forehead saying “no boys allowed” all through my 16 years of school.” Oh my goodness, yes, yes and yes!

    Mr & Mrs “Married Three Years” (Short Story)
    Pretending to be asleep, I watched my husband as he prepared for the day ahead of him. Still seething from last night’s argument, I indulged my anger a little as I mentally rehearsed all his weak points. I had already recited a few when he walked back towards the bed, bent over and gently kissed me on my forehead. “Good morning sweetheart.”

    To Rekindle Your Fire, Try Rekindling Your Friendship!
    So many couples talk about losing the fire or the spark of attraction between them after a few years of marriage. Could this be a solution: to work on your friendship, to help reintroduce that atmosphere that is conducive to expressing those yearnings? What I mean is working on your communication, the trust between the two of you, the intimacy.... That kind of attitude when you are first getting to know someone, and you find them so fascinating that you want to find out absolutely everything about them

    Let’s Talk About...Shyness!!!
    So yes, talking about shyness!
    Shyness has been possibly the single biggest factor affecting my interaction with men throughout my entire life. Actually, I spent the first 11 years of my life being shy with essentially everyone until I realised that many people were (even) more scared of me than I was of them! But since then, I have greatly struggled to shake off my romantic shyness. Actually, I am so much better than I used to be.

    Ignoring My Huggie-Wuggie?
    In fact, it is something that people say that it is when you make time to invest into yourself that you are truly empowered and energised to help other people. By God’s grace, I deeply hope and expect that my eventual longed-for marriage will truly be a place of mutual empowerment and energising, both for me and my husband. This hope is so profound within me that even now before marriage I find it energising and encouraging and inspiring to simply talk about this hope!

    Let’s Talk (Again!) About Doing the Pursuing!
    This is possibly the most offensive aspect of this blog, the idea that a woman might be a human being in her own right, not just someone’s potential help-meet, and that she should choose her husband as surely as he chooses her, to fit in with her own life goals. Surely marriage could successfully be about two people mutually choosing one another?

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTosin Ojumu
    Release dateJul 29, 2019
    ISBN9780463984055
    Blaming My Parents For Everything!
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    Tosin Ojumu

    Hello, my name is Tosin and for many years I have sat down and thought through questions about how to have an outstandingly successful marriage, and what I need to do before I get married to best ensure that successful marriage. Over the next few weeks and months I aim to publish a new ebook everyday from my blog and relationship series "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie." Visit my blog address listed here to see the full list of ebooks as well as video excerpts for each ebook :)

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      Blaming My Parents For Everything! - Tosin Ojumu

      Blaming My Parents for Everything!

      Copyright 2019 by Tosin Ojumu

      Published at Smashwords.com

      Thank you for downloading this ebook. This book remains the copyrighted property of the author, and may not be redistributed to others for commercial or non-commercial purposes. If you enjoyed this book, please encourage your friends to download their own copy from their favorite authorized retailer. Thank you for your support.

      Table of Contents

      Body, Soul and Spirit!

      Blaming My Parents for Everything!

      Mr & Mrs Married Three Years

      To Rekindle Your Fire, Try Rekindling Your Friendship!

      Let's Talk About...Shyness!!!

      Ignoring My Huggie-Wuggie?

      Let's Talk (Again!) About Doing the Pursuing!

      Cover Image by WikiImages from Pixabay

      The ebook summary is available on my website at https://huggie-wuggie.com/excerpts/ebook-summary-blaming-my-parents-for-everything/

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      Body, Soul and Spirit!

      This ebook was previously posted on my blog "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" on 17 July 2015.

      To see this ebook in other formats please check out my website at: https://huggie-wuggie.com/excerpts/body-soul-and-spirit/

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      The ideas I hope to express in this post first occurred to me months and months ago. However, they were some of the post ideas I kept remembering then forgetting intermittently. When I first had these ideas the truth (I hope!) of the ideas struck me quite forcibly, but still they were theory. Very recently though, things have happened to me in my own life which would bring these ideas from the realm of theory to make them more real in my own life.

      So these then are the ideas: On this blog, I never stop shouting about how I want (and very much need!) to be deeply crazy about my husband. Well one day it occurred to me that if we as humans are composed of body, soul (or mind, will, intellect, creativity, emotions) and spirit, and if as a couple you are to be one flesh, then perhaps a deep and true love between a husband and wife would also reflect those three elements, that as a couple you would be deeply bound together and united in these three aspects. To some people this might sound somewhat obvious? However I honestly cannot remember anyone else talking about marital unity this way before!

      So in practice I guess this is what this might look like:

      SPIRIT:

      Concerning our relationships with God, we are both striving after the same things. We are both investing our everything to be our best for God, to know God, to live His Word and His truth. Furthermore, I deeply admire my would-be husband's heart for God, and his character, as he admires my own. I literally love his spirit, and how that is manifested in his life, and in his relating with people, as he also loves my own spirit. Finally, I so deeply yearn for spiritual intimacy with this man; that is, to talk about God with him, to pray with him, to study the Bible with him, as he represents the kind of spiritual passion and commitment that I want to demonstrate in my life, and I want to surround myself with. I also want to get his frank and candid insight into different spiritual matters. I am sure that he would bring a new and powerful Spirit-driven perspective to various issues on which I am struggling for clarity, and I can't wait to have him around all the time for the sake of constantly being able to ask him: What do you think about this?

      Questions to ask with someone I am romantically considering: Am I deeply craving spiritual intimacy with him? Am I looking to him to learn all that I can spiritually? Does he represent a deep well of spiritual wisdom that I wish I could access as freely as I might need at any time? Sometimes the word Spiritual can be a little confusing in this context. We've all met those people who never stop talking about matters of God, and the Bible, who are always seeking a)to make sure everyone else is aware of their superior wisdom b)to share this wisdom with everyone else, whether or not it is sought or requested. People often treat me as if I am one of these people myself! And yet these are not necessarily the kind of people that I think represent true spiritual strength.

      For me, true spiritual strength is primarily expressed in two ways: living for God, that is, living for

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