#34 – Keeping the Spark Alive

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#34 – Keeping the Spark Alive

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In episode 34, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. Kirstin Mark about how couples can keep desire alive in long-term relationships! Earlier this year, the Journal of Sex Research published a paper that reviewed research from 64 empirical articles all of which tried to answer the question of how to maintain sexual desire in long term relationships.

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A podcast about the ins and outs of the latest research about everyone’s favorite topic hosted by Dr. Zhana and Joe Pardavila.Looking to have your sex questions answered? Send them over to scienceofsexpodcast@gmail.com!

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#1 – How sexually diverse is the U.S.A.?: Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Brian Dodge, Ph.D. about the study called “Sexual diversity in the United States: Results from a nationally representative probability sample of adult women and men.” by The Science of Sex
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#3 – Brains of promiscuous men are different than those of monogamous men?: Dr. Zhana and Joe discuss a recent study authored by Dr. Lisa Dawn Hamilton. The brains of highly promiscuous men processed romantic information differently than the brains of highly monogamous men. This was not the case with sexual information - both ... by The Science of Sex
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#13 – What turns on Women who are into Casual Sex?: Contrary to many popular stereotypes, there are many women who are as equally into casual sex as some men, but what do these women prefer when it comes to their partners? This week, Naomi Muggleton, the lead author on this study, by The Science of Sex
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#18 – Sex-Question-Palooza: This week, Joe and Dr. Zhana switched things up and decided to answer some questions we’ve been asked by listeners! Talking about a range of topics including, cuckolding, open relationships, blowjobs, pubic hair, consent, and more! by The Science of Sex
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#7 – Asexuality 101: We often talk about issues regarding the gay, lesbian, and bisexual communities, but what about those who identify as asexual? On the latest episode, Joe and Dr. Zhana talk to Lara Greaves about an interesting yet rarely discussed topic: asexuality and... by The Science of Sex
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#20 – What Makes People Gay?: Are there biological factors that contribute to sexual orientation? Studies have concluded that the brains of heterosexual vs homosexual individuals are organized differently. To talk about his research on this subject, Dr. by The Science of Sex
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#9 – Is Porn Bad for Your Marriage?: Can porn negatively impact a marriage? This week on The Science of Sex, Joe and Dr. Zhana went deeper into a rather controversial topic involving the impact that watching pornography can have on marital quality and longevity. by The Science of Sex
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#4 – Unlocking the Secrets of the Female Orgasm: Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to a doctor who's been called "The Vagina Scientist." Dr. James Pfaus and his team published an article attempting to resolve the controversy surrounding clitoral versus vaginal orgasms and we break it down in this episode of "Th... by The Science of Sex
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#2 – Real Life? Artificial Intelligence can determine a person’s sexual orientation: Joe and Dr. Zhana speak with Dr Michal Kosinski (Stanford University) about his controversial study on Artificial Intelligence being able to distinguish gay from straight faces. by The Science of Sex
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#6 – How to get a Ph.D. in Threesomes: Is it really “not gay if it’s in a threeway?” In episode 6, Joe and Dr. Zhana speak with Dr. Ryan Scoats, a man who according to the New York Post “got his PhD in threesomes.” by The Science of Sex
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#11 – Sex During AND After Pregnancy: We love talking about sex, but what about sex during pregnancy and after childbirth? Earlier this year, a review paper was published summarizing what we know from research about sexual behaviors during pregnancy and the year after childbirth. by The Science of Sex
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#5 – Are Millennials more or less sexually permissive than their parents?: Are Millennials really the “hookup generation”? In this week’s episode, Joe and Dr. Zhana talk to Dr. Brooke Wells, an associate professor and director of the PhD program in Human Sexuality at Widener University, by The Science of Sex
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#12 – Understanding Male Sexual Aggression: Our news cycle has been filled with countless examples of male sexual misconduct, from sexual assault, to harassment, to just general creepiness across virtually every profession and social sphere. We are still having trouble identifying why these acts... by The Science of Sex
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#8 – What happens to women’s brains when they orgasm?: What is really going on in the female brain before, during, and after an orgasm? This week, Joe and Dr. Zhana talk to Dr. Nan Wise, who published a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine that disputed past research of brain scans of women during orgas... by The Science of Sex
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#15 – Once a cheater, always a cheater: Once a cheater, always a cheater…right? In our 15th episode, Joe and Dr. Zhana spoke with Kayla Knopp, the lead author on a study that focuses on the likelihood of “serial cheating” in individuals. by The Science of Sex
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#14 – Let’s Talk About Sexts: What do the sexting habits of adults 21 and over look like? In a recent paper, researchers surveyed a nationally representative sample of almost 6,000 single US adults ages 21+ about their sexting experiences, by The Science of Sex
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#16 – Orgasms for Dummies: It might not be a surprise that, on average, straight women orgasm less frequently than straight men, but why is this? On this week's show Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. David Frederick about his survey of over 50,000 Americans, by The Science of Sex
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Holiday Special Edition #1 – Dr. Zhana Live from SSSS: This week is the first holiday special of The Science of Sex, live from The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS). SSSS is an international organization dedicated to the advancement of knowledge about sexuality, and in November, Dr. by The Science of Sex
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#10 – How Common Are Sexual Problems?: How common are sexual problems and when should they be cause for concern? On this week’s episode, Joe and Dr. Zhana speak with Dr. Kirstin Mitchell about her research on sexual function and dysfunction. by The Science of Sex
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Holiday Special Edition #2 – Dr. Zhana Live from SSSS: This week is the first holiday special of The Science of Sex, live from The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS). SSSS is an international organization dedicated to the advancement of knowledge about sexuality, and in November, Dr. by The Science of Sex
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#26 – Pedophilia Explained: In episode 26, Things got a little heavy in this episode where we talked to James Cantor about his research on pedophilia. by The Science of Sex
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#17 – Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Cuckolding: Could cuckolding be a positive thing for some couples? A new study investigates fantasies about and experiences with cuckolding in a large and diverse sample of gay-identified men. by The Science of Sex
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#31 – Managing Low Sexual Desire: In episode 31, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. Lori Brott about some ways that people can manage low sexual desire. Low sexual desire among women is thought to be common around the the time of menopause, and despite what people might assume, by The Science of Sex
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#19 – BDSM vs. Rape Culture: Do consent-oriented communities (like BDSM) experience lower levels of rape culture? In episode 19, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. Kathryn Klement about her research on this topic. by The Science of Sex
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#25 – Do Women have a Sexual Orientation?: In episode 25, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to J. Michael Baily about sexual orientation: What is it and do women have one? Sexual orientation, although widely agreed upon to exist, is still disputed by some in the scientific community. by The Science of Sex
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#45 – The Truth About Female Infidelity: In Episode 45, Dr. Wednesday Martin, author of the new book UNTRUE, gets into a heated discussion with Dr. Zhana about to what extent women and men differ when it comes to sex drive, monogamy, and infidelity, and why this might be the case. by The Science of Sex
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#21 – To Shave Or Not to Shave: Is there a relationship between pubic hair and STD’s? Turns out, not having any pubic hair may actually increase the chances of contracting an STI. To talk about the study that focuses on pubic hair, we interviewed Dr. Benjamin Breyer. by The Science of Sex
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#24 – Pumps…Strap Ons…and The Rubber Penis Illusion: In episode 24, we explore some of the ways that people can treat erectile dysfunction without medication. There has been significant research conducted on those diagnosed with erectile dysfunction (ED). Many of those treatments include prescription med... by The Science of Sex
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#23 – Straight-ish: What does it mean when someone identifies as “mostly-straight?” While some easily self-identify as gay, straight, bisexual, or pansexual, there are others who’s sexual orientation isn’t as clearly defined by society. In episode 23 we spoke with Dr. by The Science of Sex
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#32 – Porn Ed.: In episode 32, Dr. Zhana and Joe talk to Dr. Emily Rothman about the benefits of educating kids about porn. A new study reported on joint efforts by folks at Boston University and the Boston Public Health Commission to educate young people about pornog... by The Science of Sex
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