TU11: Gain Influence and Balance Power in Important Relationships

FromTherapist Uncensored Podcast

Start listening View podcast show

TU11: Gain Influence and Balance Power in Important Relationships

FromTherapist Uncensored Podcast

ratings:

Length:

30 minutes

Released:

Oct 27, 2016

Format:

Podcast episode

Description

Understanding the difference between feeling controlled and being infuenced. How to not be a doormat or a bully in important connections.

Released:

Oct 27, 2016

Format:

Podcast episode

Titles in the series (100)

Use the science of the mind and relationships to update your understanding of yourself and those you love – candid conversations with 2 Austin therapists and their guest experts.

Skip carousel

TU05: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships: Attachment 101 Part 1: It’s been a long time since I was a kid so how could it possibly matter how I was raised? by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
33 min listen
TU10: The 7 Circuits of Emotion: What Animals Can Teach Us about Human Relating: Get your squeak on! The rat tickler's research on human emotions. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
32 min listen
TU20: Developing Racial Identity With Guests Rudy Lucas And Christine Schmidt: Help is here for having those uncomfortable conversations... like whether or not there such a thing as reverse-racism, what's going on when people ask about white lives matter, how is racism different than prejudice, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
50 min listen
TU13: Our Powerful Fascination With Narcissism In The Era Of Trump: In-depth discussion on narcissism in our current political climate with Dr Leonard Cruz and Dr Steven Buser by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
57 min listen
TU15: Decoding The Science Of Interpersonal Neurobiology: Explained in plain speak. Unpack the complicated science behind the brain the mind and secure relating. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
33 min listen
TU08: Understanding Emotional Triggers: Why Your Buttons Get Pushed and What To Do About It: Therapists explain the neuroscience behind emotional over-reactivity. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
28 min listen
TU01: Communication 101: Decoding Couples Communication: Learn why communicating your feelings doesn't lead to your partner changing and why your belief that it should creates havoc. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
33 min listen
TU04: A Simple Technique to Reduce Stress and Worry: Mindful Awareness Practice in Action: This is a very short episode that demonstrates a simple but very powerful technique that improves neural integration and reduces stress by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
6 min listen
TU14: How To Handle Post Election Tensions: Tips For The Holidays And Beyond: The surprising election results ave created deep passions which threaten to upend families, divide neighbors and strain work relationships. Understand powerful political passions and how to navigate them. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
36 min listen
TU18: Polyvagal Theory: Understanding Irrational Threat Responses in Relationships: How fostering social engagement enhances health and wellbeing by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
27 min listen
TU03: Different Sex Drives: Are We Screwed?: Most couples don't match up perfectly when it comes to their sexual desires. What happens next? Understanding sexuality, emotions and sexual desire in long-term relationships can help keep the fires burning and help keep conflict, or drift, at bay. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
43 min listen
TU09: Minding Your Relationship: Three Mindfulness Exercises to Practice With Your Partner: Learn specific tips on engaging with your partner that can immediately increase relationship satisfaction for both of you. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
24 min listen
TU07: What is Group Therapy and 5 Reasons You Should Try It: One of the most terrifying treatment modalities explained. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
19 min listen
TU11: Gain Influence and Balance Power in Important Relationships: Understanding the difference between feeling controlled and being infuenced. How to not be a doormat or a bully in important connections. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
30 min listen
TU36: The Neuroscience Of Psychotherapy: An Interview With Louis Cozolino: Understand how psychotherapy works and how stimulating brain plasticity enhances its effectiveness by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
32 min listen
TU02: Brain Science 101: How Understanding Your Brain Can Improve Your Relationship: Learn how to outsmart your brain and steer towards security. We will unpack the three specific brain structures that affect our sense of well-being and our relationships. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
28 min listen
TU12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good for Us: Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin: Healthy relating to your family, partner and friends isn’t always easy. Learn why and what you can do to make it go smoother. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
55 min listen
TU19: Increase Your Cool By Managing Your Ventral Vagal System: Tips and tricks to manipulate your nervous system by increasing perceived safety and disarming the sense of threat- the Polyvagal Theory revisited. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
36 min listen
TU41: The Dark Side Of Therapy: Recognizing When The Therapeutic Relationship Goes Bad: Given that the single best predictor of therapy success lies in the relationship between therapist and client, what happens when that relationship becomes dysfunctional? In this episode, we discuss how to distinguish between therapy that gets hard in t... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
40 min listen
TU06: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships (continued) Part 2: Attachment 102 Part 2: This isn’t parent-blaming, it’s compassionate truth-telling so we can do it right this go round. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
26 min listen
TU16: Inside The Mind Of Dr Dan Siegel: An Interview: Join us as we talk with the founder of Interpersonal Neurobiology and listen to him explain how the mind doesn't just exist inside your skull. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
59 min listen
TU25: Ping-Pong vs Catch: Turning Communication from Competition to Connection: The art of listening seems so easy on the surface but often proves challenging in our lives. Listening can create feelings of powerlessness and subordination that makes us act out in ways that we often don’t even recognize. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
31 min listen
TU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal Neurobiology: Listen to our conversation with therapists from Austin In Connection - recorded live! We joined Austin In Connection for their Year of Conversations meeting to explore the foundations of relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
37 min listen
TU22: Love Letter To Group Psychotherapy: Group therapist tell us why they love group therapy and why it is valuable to their clients by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
9 min listen
TU32: Mentalizing:Breaking Down A Critical Component For Secure Relating With Tina Adkins: The coolest thing about mentalizing is that it is teachable and can interrupt the transmission of insecure attachment with very low level interventions compared to years of psychotherapy. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
56 min listen
TU42: Sexual Vitality, Refreshing our Understanding of Sexual Health with Doug-Braun Harvey (Part 1 of 2): Add pleasure to the notion of healthy sex and the whole conversation changes! In this very sexy conversation (earphones around little kids are good idea for this one!), we talk about the balance between pleasure and safety as a way to think of sexual ... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
52 min listen
TU30: The Stages of Change: A Roadmap to Readiness: We all know it doesn’t happen until we're ready for it, but that doesn’t stop us from trying to ram change down our loved one’s throat. This episode will help us be smarter, kinder, and more importantly, make change more effective for those we love. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
28 min listen
TU23: Building Grit Through Self Compassion with Dr Kristin Neff: Self compassion includes fierce accountability and is essential to psychological health… who knew? Most of us think of it as being soft on yourself, but in this episode our guest will reveal the surprising power and science of self compassion. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
60 min listen
TU21: Reduce Drama in Your Life – Unpack The Victim Perpetrator Rescuer In Us All: Victim Perpetrator Rescuer? Rigid, self-defeating or even self-satisfying roles can limit our happiness in life at times. Learn more about theses three roles we all carry inside us and how we can transform them to make us stronger and happier. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
22 min listen
TU48: Tensions Around #MeToo, Bridging Gender in This Conversation: Can healthy dialogue around the #MeToo phenomena cross genders? We explore the tensions felt by both men and women in their discussions around sexual harassment and assault and explore strategies for increasing understanding and connection. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
59 min listen

More Episodes from Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Skip carousel

Holding Your Own – Exploring the Concepts of Our Book with Ann & Sue (235): After years of hard work, Sue and Ann could not be more excited to celebrate the release of their book. This episode discusses the themes and concepts, while emphasizing the importance of secure relating and holding one's own in an insecure world. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
52 min listen
Integrative Attachment Theory with Dr. David Elliott (224): Exactly 100 episodes later, Ann and Sue are thrilled to be back discussing Integrative Attachment theory with Dr. David Elliott. Together they delve into the therapy model's development, centered around three key elements: enhancing collaboration, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
62 min listen
Information Processing: Sunglasses, Early Attachment & More with Ann & Sue (233): Ann and Sue are back for another deep dive, this time on all things information processing. Using the concept of sunglasses as a metaphor for information distortion, they explain how our internal working models and attachment experiences shape the way ... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
50 min listen
Collective Activation: Navigating Today’s Social Crisis (232): Ann and Sue delve into the pressing emotional and social challenges confronting our world today. They examine the impact of divisive political rhetoric, the ongoing COVID-19 pandemic, collective distrust, and widespread trauma on individuals and societ... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
62 min listen
Hypnosis for Healing: Understanding the Powerful Science with Dr. David Spiegel (231): Join Dr. Ann Kelley and Dr. David Spiegel as they dive into the benefits and misconceptions of hypnosis. Hypnosis is a state of highly focused attention and cognitive flexibility, allowing individuals to explore new possibilities. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
66 min listen
Mind, Body, Heart, Spirit: Embodying Liberation Psychology with Dr. Shena Young (230): Join co-host Sue Marriott and Dr. Shena Young as they dive into liberation psychology and the conflict between intuition and the traditional European model of psychology. Dr. Shena highlights embodying a holistic approach to help heal traumas and deepl... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
65 min listen
Setting Boundaries that Stick with Juliane Taylor Shore (229): We’re back with long-time friend of the podcast and expert, Juliane Taylor Shore LMFT, LPC, SEP. As we reflect on our episode from six years ago on boundaries, we dive into new knowledge and how we can create boundaries that stick. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
56 min listen
Decolonizing Mental Health Delivery with Melody Li (Part 2, Episode 228): This is part two of a two-part series with the founder of Inclusive Therapists, Melody and TU Co-host, Sue Marriott. This episode features challenging yet important conversations on active anti-racist practices, exploration of oppression, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
38 min listen
Decolonizing Mental Health Delivery with Melody Li (Part 1, Episode 226): series with the founder of Inclusive Therapists, Melody and TU Co-host, Sue Marriott. We are pushing for more inclusive, anti-racist, and decolonialized practices.The conversation is challenging but important as we explore liberation psychology that h... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
42 min listen
Love Letter To Group Psychotherapy (Replay – Episode 226): Click here to learn more about the conference!! Love Letter to Group Psychotherapy While Ann and Sue are in DC at the American Group Psychotherapy Association Conference, we thought this was the perfect opportunity to replay one of our favorite episo... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
12 min listen
A neuroscience-proven expressive writing protocol with Dr. James Pennebaker (225): Co-hosts Ann and Sue discuss this powerful tool directly with the original researcher, Dr. James Pennebaker. While expressive writing is not a simple "elixir" to cure mental or physical illness, Dr. Pennebaker has dedicated years of research and found ... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
70 min listen
How Good Boundaries Actually Bring Us Closer, with Juliane Taylor Shore – REPLAY (224): Interpersonal co-regulation requires boundary-setting. Therapist Uncensored co-hosts Ann Kelley and Sue Marriott join the founder of IPNB Psychotherapy of Austin, Dr. Juliane Taylor Shore, in a discussion on interpersonal neurobiology and regulation. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
54 min listen
Living with Long Covid: A Discussion on Secure Relating & Chronic Illness (223): 25.6% of adults who have had COVID-19 report having experienced long Covid (source). While there are a variety of symptoms and severities that come with the illness, it doesn't erase the physical and mental toll it can take on one's life. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
46 min listen
Trailblazers in Love: Understanding & Advocating for the LGBTQ+ Community with Jeff Lutes (222): We are kicking off the new year with a special conversation between co-host Sue Marriott and special guest Jeff Lutes. Both members of the LGBTQ+ community, this discussion dives into raising families, the evolution of the community, allyship, gender, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
82 min listen
TU 2023 Year in Review: Building Internalized Secure Voices (221): We explored many ideas this year and despite the variety of topics we found a consistent theme - nurturing secure relating in an insecure world. From interviews with our oldest son on the climate crisis to the power of awe in everyday life, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
47 min listen
Healing Body-Focused Repetitive Behavioral Disorders with Stacy Nakell – Replay – (220): Hair-pulling, skin picking, and cheek, lip, & cuticle biting are self-soothing strategies that depending on the degree can become body-focused repetitive behavioral disorders. Learn about a new attachment-informed psychodynamic model for treating these... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
60 min listen
Ditching Invulnerability: Embracing Our Most Authentic Selves (219): While just the word vulnerability can trigger our defenses, it can also be a great gateway to secure relating and deepening the connection with our authentic selves. In a society heavily influenced by social media, unhealthy gender roles, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
50 min listen
Cultivating Secure Relating – TU Updates & Book Sneak Peeks with Ann & Sue (218): Secure relating isn't just an attachment category, it's a cultivated choice that everyone can achieve! by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
48 min listen
The Amygdala Unpacked with Dr. Joseph LeDoux – Replay (217): Tune in as we follow up on last week's episode, and sit down with amygdala expert, Dr. Joseph LeDoux. We discuss the non-conscious versus unconscious, protein synthesis, the differences between fear and threat, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
48 min listen
Attachment-Focused EMDR – Tools & Techniques to Heal Trauma with Dr. Laurel Parnell – Replay (216): A theory around trauma is that when it occurs it "gets locked in the nervous system" and the way in which the body stores the trauma - in the form of thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations - can be left fragmented, therefore delaying true healing. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
68 min listen
Attachment, Stress & Bootstraps – The Intersection of Poverty & Mental Health with Dr. Sharon Lambert – Replay (215): Attachment 'insecurity" is partly a manifestation of unresolved stress patterns in the child and, by extension, the family. Therapists usually think of stress as interpersonal and dyadic, but you can't isolate individuals from context. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
69 min listen
Internal Family Systems (IFS), Neuroplasticity and Attachment with Dr. Frank Anderson – REPLAY (214): We aren't one thing and getting to know our different parts is an effective technique to deepen healing. These "parts" are metaphorical "little beings" that live in our minds and manifest into physical or emotional reactions from traumatic events. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
68 min listen
Clarity, Healing & Purpose is Less Than a Minute Away, the Power of Awe with Jake Eagle (213): The idea of adding 30 minutes of extra meditation to our already busy schedules can feel overwhelming - but Jake Eagle has dedicated years to his research and found the mindfulness loophole. Awe is an incredibly powerful tool that can over time help us... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
53 min listen
In Each Other’s Care: Building & Sustaining Healthy Relationships with Stan Tatkin (212): Applying the relational sciences to real life is what this podcast is all about - and today's guest is an expert in this area. We've invited Stan Tatkin to return for a discussion on secure relating and healthy interdependence. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
52 min listen
You Are Kenough: Liz Plank joins to unpack the Barbie Movie, Secure Relating, Gender Roles & Patriarchy (211) Bonus Episode: The Barbie movie has sparked great controversy so we invited journalist Liz Plank to discuss. Some are burning their Barbie's and calling it "anti-man" while others view it as a strategic call out to the challenges both men and women face on a regular ... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
58 min listen
Working with Attachment Trauma Using Lessons from the AAP, Failed Mourning, Disorganized/Dysregulated Attachment with Dr. Carol George (210): Sue Marriott and Dr. George explore her inspiration for writing her new book, tips for applying the information in a clinical setting, as well as deeper dives into concepts like failed mourning and the relationship with dysregulated attachment. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
73 min listen

Related podcast episodes

Skip carousel

TU25: Ping-Pong vs Catch: Turning Communication from Competition to Connection: The art of listening seems so easy on the surface but often proves challenging in our lives. Listening can create feelings of powerlessness and subordination that makes us act out in ways that we often don’t even recognize. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
31 min listen
TU26: Live Conversation With Austin In Connection About Interpersonal Neurobiology: Listen to our conversation with therapists from Austin In Connection - recorded live! We joined Austin In Connection for their Year of Conversations meeting to explore the foundations of relational sciences and interpersonal neurobiology. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
37 min listen
TU12: If It’s Not Good For You, It’s Not Good for Us: Interview With Relationship Expert Stan Tatkin: Healthy relating to your family, partner and friends isn’t always easy. Learn why and what you can do to make it go smoother. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
55 min listen
TU06: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships (continued) Part 2: Attachment 102 Part 2: This isn’t parent-blaming, it’s compassionate truth-telling so we can do it right this go round. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
26 min listen
TU09: Minding Your Relationship: Three Mindfulness Exercises to Practice With Your Partner: Learn specific tips on engaging with your partner that can immediately increase relationship satisfaction for both of you. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
24 min listen
TU08: Understanding Emotional Triggers: Why Your Buttons Get Pushed and What To Do About It: Therapists explain the neuroscience behind emotional over-reactivity. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
28 min listen
TU05: How Attachment Impacts Adult Relationships: Attachment 101 Part 1: It’s been a long time since I was a kid so how could it possibly matter how I was raised? by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
33 min listen
TU90: Attachment Avoidance and the Difficulty Opening Up, with Robert T. Muller: Fighting avoidance in our attachments due to trauma, neglect or early challenging experiences. It is freakin' hard to open up, no doubt. Why share when that just gives the other ammunition. If you relate to that, you should listen to this podcast. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
44 min listen
The Amygdala Unpacked with Dr. Joseph LeDoux – Replay (217): Tune in as we follow up on last week's episode, and sit down with amygdala expert, Dr. Joseph LeDoux. We discuss the non-conscious versus unconscious, protein synthesis, the differences between fear and threat, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
48 min listen
Mistaken Assumptions to Re-Examine for Relational Connection w Ann and Sue (188): Assumptions block our view of seeing the whole perspective and equip us with a bias that can make our relationships difficult to navigate. Not asking people personal questions or receiving feedback might be underlined unexamined bias. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
29 min listen
TU10: The 7 Circuits of Emotion: What Animals Can Teach Us about Human Relating: Get your squeak on! The rat tickler's research on human emotions. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
32 min listen
TU28: Minding Anxiety: How To Reduce Noise In The System: We explore a three step process for finding relief from continuous worry and anxiety. Don't let your primitive brain hijack your emotions - this episode goes into more detail about the process of managing worry and anxiety. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
35 min listen
TU37: Organizing The Disorganized: Understanding The Elusive Attachment Category: How do we make sense of ourselves when we no longer make sense? by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
26 min listen
TU40: Meditation And Neuroplasticity Provide a Path To Healing: An Interview With Sarah Peyton: Learn how we can develop a compassionate inner voice to help us move toward self-love, emotional regulation and healing. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
38 min listen
William J. Doherty, "The Ethical Lives of Clients: Transcending Self-Interest in Psychotherapy" (APA, 2021): An interview with William J. Doherty by New Books in Psychoanalysis
71 min listen
TU 84: Why Do We Over (or Under) React? The Neurobiological Underpinnings of Attachment Categories: Neurobiological differences can be detected between secure and insecure relating, and even between the two organized insecure patterns of attachment (Dismissing and Preoccupied)! This is cool because we can understand it and begin to gain mastery ove... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
55 min listen
How to Break a Disagreement Deadlock & A New Habit That Can Change Your Life by Something You Should Know
52 min listen
Trauma in the Transference—Repairing the therapeutic relationship by Back from the Abyss: Psychiatry in Stories
72 min listen
TU16: Inside The Mind Of Dr Dan Siegel: An Interview: Join us as we talk with the founder of Interpersonal Neurobiology and listen to him explain how the mind doesn't just exist inside your skull. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
59 min listen
TU02: Brain Science 101: How Understanding Your Brain Can Improve Your Relationship: Learn how to outsmart your brain and steer towards security. We will unpack the three specific brain structures that affect our sense of well-being and our relationships. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
28 min listen
Negative Behaviors, Child Support, & More, Marriage Helper Live 07/08/19: On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions: “Is asking for child support a PUSH behavior?”“How can my children help get my husband to the workshop?”“How do I respond to a husband hesitant about... by Relationship Radio: Marriage, Sex, Limerence & Avoiding Divorce
67 min listen
86: Mentalization and Regression, Responding to Listener's Questions with Sue Marriott: Excellent questions to deepen the conversation about the attachment spectrum, mentalization and how it goes wrong in real life. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
33 min listen
TU39: Getting What You Want From Therapy: The Essentials Of A Therapeutic Relationship: The single best predictor of therapy success-across different therapy models- lies in the relationship between therapist and client. Learn what this means and peek behind the note pad as three psychotherapists talk about love and hate in the therapeut... by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
39 min listen
TU56: How We Come to Define Ourselves, Attachment Research Over Decades with Guest Alan Sroufe: What we've learned about how we develop an unconscious lens on how we see ourselves and the world over a lifespan. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
60 min listen
Episode 075 - Negative Mother Complex: When Our Painful Childhood Owns Us: Healing a Negative Mother Complex As the mother is the generator of life and usual primary attachment figure, the mother complex is universal. As the image of a “personified affect” fueled by an archetypal core, the mother complex is especially... by This Jungian Life Podcast
64 min listen
Ditching Invulnerability: Embracing Our Most Authentic Selves (219): While just the word vulnerability can trigger our defenses, it can also be a great gateway to secure relating and deepening the connection with our authentic selves. In a society heavily influenced by social media, unhealthy gender roles, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
50 min listen
TU34: Treating Attachment Disruptions in Adults With David Elliott: Learn the 3 pillars of attachment security and how to heal from the inside-out. We cover quite a lot in this podcast, especially about treatment, but if that still isn’t enough, these show notes are PACKED with PDF’s of great material offered by Dr. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
50 min listen
Killing Kittens - Elite Casual Sex by London Real
48 min listen
TU61: It's Not Crazy, It's a Solution to an Unsolvable Problem - Disorganized Attachment: Dropping into overwhelm and disorganization happens to everyone at times, & some more than others. When we have been exposed to serious danger, unresolved fright or major loss in such a way that it interferes with healthy coping patterns, by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
36 min listen
TU03: Different Sex Drives: Are We Screwed?: Most couples don't match up perfectly when it comes to their sexual desires. What happens next? Understanding sexuality, emotions and sexual desire in long-term relationships can help keep the fires burning and help keep conflict, or drift, at bay. by Therapist Uncensored Podcast
43 min listen

Discover this podcast and so much more

TU11: Gain Influence and Balance Power in Important Relationships

TU11: Gain Influence and Balance Power in Important Relationships

Description

Titles in the series (100)

More Episodes from Therapist Uncensored Podcast

Related podcast episodes