Comfort for Grieving Hearts: Hope and Encouragement for Times of Loss
By Gary Roe
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"Compassionate. Comforting. Readers will see themselves on every page." - Paul Casale, Licensed Professional Counselor, Marriage & Family Therapist
Loss is painful. Separation hurts. We need comfort.
Oblivious to our suffering, the world around us speeds on as if nothing happened. Stunned, shocked, sad, confused, and angry, we blink in disbelief. The pain can be immense.
We look for comfort. We long for it. Grieving hearts need it to survive.
Multiple award-winning author, hospice chaplain, and grief counselor Gary Roe has become a trusted voice to many hurting, grieving hearts. Written with heartfelt compassion, this easy-to-read, warm, and practical book reads like a caring conversation with a friend and is destined to become a classic for those looking for hope and encouragement in times of loss.
Whether you've lost a spouse, child, parent, sibling, relative, or friend, Gary's desire is to meet you in your grief and walk with you there. Composed of brief chapters, Comfort for Grieving Hearts is designed to be read one chapter per day, giving you bite-sized bits of comfort, encouragement, and healing over a period of time. You do not have to read it this way, of course. We all grieve differently. Read in the way that is most natural for you.
In Comfort for Grieving Hearts, you will find peace and comfort in...
- Processing complicated grief emotions (sadness, anger, guilt, confusion, guilt, anxiety, depression, feeling overwhelmed, etc).
- Navigating feeling alone, misunderstood, and even rejected by those around you.
- Handling the increased stress and uncertainty that heavy loss can bring.
- Dealing with physical and mental health issues, illnesses, and new symptoms that often arise.
- Taking care of yourself through diet, hydration, fitness, and rest.
- Thinking through the challenging spiritual and faith questions that frequently surface.
- Relating well to the people around you - those who are helpful and those who aren't.
- Overcoming the tendency to run from emotional pain with unhealthy habits or compulsive behaviors.
- Finding the support you need for survival, recovery, and healing (safe people, fellow grievers, counseling, etc.).
- Developing a simple, realistic plan for birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays.
- Using your grief for good - for yourself, your family, and others.
- Allowing this loss to give you greater perspective and motivate you to live more effectively than ever before.
- Making your life count, one day, one moment at a time.
Please don't grieve alone. Let Comfort for Grieving Hearts join you on this arduous, tasking journey. Be kind to yourself. Take your heart seriously.
Death has invaded, but it doesn't have to win. Read on. Comfort awaits you in these pages of this book.
Gary Roe
Kevin Carey, founder of thegriefguide.org and Diamond Grief Groups, is a grief management specialist and hospice chaplain who has been a trusted voice in grief recovery with a message of hope and healing to wounded hearts for the past three decades. In addition to being a former mental health therapist and minister, Kevin brings a pastoral approach to bereaved individuals through the difficult seasons of life.
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"Gary Roe is no stranger to grief. In Comfort for Grieving Hearts, he captures the silent anguish of the grieving and provides practical understanding and insight for how to deal with grief. I found myself saying, ‘YES, YES, YES!’ with every page. If you find yourself in the midst of grief, this is a must read to help make sense of it all."
– Dr. Troy Allen, Pastor
The author’s ability to connect with grieving hearts is so evident in this book. Readers will see themselves on almost every page and find the comfort they need in Gary’s compassionate empathy and counsel. I highly recommend this book to anyone experiencing loss.
– Paul Casale, Licensed Professional Counselor / Marriage and Family Therapist
"Healing from the loss of a loved one is hard work. To do it well, we need to engage the bereavement challenge every day. In Comfort for Grieving Hearts, Gary guides the reader through the healing process with a daily dose of honesty, courage, compassion and love."
– Dr. Craig Borchardt, President / CEO, Hospice Brazos Valley
I give this book the highest praise I can – it rings true. While reading it, I relived the range of emotions I felt through my grief journey. At the end I felt hopeful and light again, just like in real life. I know it will be a treasured resource for others.
– Kelli Levey Reynolds, Mays Business School, Texas A & M University
"If you’re struggling with the loss of a loved one, be encouraged. Gary’s new book, Comfort for Grieving Hearts, walks you through the process of emotional healing. You’ll find hope, healing, and help filtering your feelings."
– Dr. Charles W. Page, MD
"Comfort for Grieving Hearts is the book for anyone who loses a loved one. In its chapters you’ll recognize how you’re feeling that day, gain insight into why you’re feeling that way, and learn strategies to cope and grow. You’ll return to it again and again."
– Debra Johnson, M.Div., Hospice Bereavement Coordinator
"In his new book, Comfort for Grieving Hearts, Gary Roe masterfully describes the journey of grief. But he doesn’t stop there. He guides the reader to a deeper understanding of what they may face on their journey. Then he provides helpful insights and affirmations to assist them along the way. There are no simple or correct paths on the grief journey. That is why Comfort for Grieving Hearts is a must read. It will assist the reader in maneuvering the potholes, detours and dead ends they may face along this road."
– Brian Kenney, Pastor
"From the first words on the first pages, I knew that this book was going to be different. This isn’t just a book about grieving. It’s about me. How am I going to heal? Where is my hope? Gary is speaking directly into my soul. Every page tells me that it’s somehow going to be okay."
– Scott Marlow, Journey Church
"In Comfort for Grieving Hearts, Gary masterfully describes the tapestry of emotion experienced by persons affected by loss. His connection to the reader is demonstrated through sharing his own journey of loss and healing. I share his books with clients and friends with great confidence."
– Carrie Andree, Licensed Professional Counselor
Gary Roe seems to have the ability to put into words exactly what my heart felt after the loss of my spouse. His writings are full of truth and healing. Thank you, Gary, for using your personal pain to help others on their grief journey.
– Page Bratcher, Grief and Divorce Recovery Coach
An easy to read book with short, daily chapters. The format offers a unique way to deal with grief. I especially like the affirmations at the end of each chapter. Be sure to read the Summary of Grief Affirmations at the end of the book.
– Cindy Fanning, Licensed Medical Social Worker,
Hospice Bereavement Coordinator
Thank you for purchasing Comfort for Grieving Hearts.
These pages are designed to be a companion for you in your grief journey.
Please don’t read this book just once.
Pick it up again in 6 months or a year later. Come to it again and again.
Each time you will be at a different place.
You’ll see your progress. You’ll be encouraged. And you’ll find your hope has grown.
As a thanks, please accept this gift – an exclusive, free, printable PDF for readers of this book. Download yours today:
Healing Affirmations for Grieving Hearts
Comfort for Grieving Hearts
Copyright © 2018 by Gary Roe All rights reserved.
First Edition: April 2018
Formatting: Streetlight Graphics
Published by: Healing Resources Publishing
All Bible references are from THE HOLY BIBLE, NEW INTERNATIONAL VERSION®, NIV® Copyright © 1973, 1978, 1984, 2011 by Biblica, Inc.® Used by permission. All rights reserved worldwide.
The author is not engaged in rendering medical or psychological services, and this book is not intended as a guide to diagnose or treat medical or psychological problems. If you require medical, psychological, or other expert assistance, please seek the services of your own physician or mental health professional.
No part of this book may be reproduced, scanned, or distributed in any printed or electronic form without permission. Please do not participate in or encourage piracy of copyrighted materials in violation of the author’s rights. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.
Other Books by
Gary Roe
Teen Grief: Caring for the Grieving Teenage Heart
(Winner, 2018 Book Excellence Award)
Shattered: Surviving the Loss of a Child
(2017 Best Book Awards Finalist)
Please Be Patient, I’m Grieving: How to Care for and Support the Grieving Heart
(2016 USA Best Book Awards Finalist)
Heartbroken: Healing from the Loss of a Spouse
(2015 Best Book Awards Finalist, National Indie Excellence Book Awards Finalist)
Surviving the Holidays Without You: Navigating Grief During Special Seasons
(2016 Book Excellence Awards Finalist)
(co-authored with Cecil Murphey)
Saying Goodbye: Facing the Loss of a Loved One
Not Quite Healed: 40 Truths for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse
(2013 Lime Award Finalist for Excellence in Non-Fiction)
Dedication
To Jen. You bring my wounded heart such comfort. You inspire me more than you know. I love you.
Acknowledgements
Special thanks to Kathy Trim, Anni Welborne, Brian Kenney, and Kelli Levey Reynolds for their keen proofreading eyes and editorial assistance. I appreciate you more than you know.
Thanks to Dr. Craig Borchardt of Hospice Brazos Valley for his continued support in producing quality resources for grieving hearts. It’s an honor to work under your supervision.
Thanks to Glendon Haddix of Streetlight Graphics for his artistic skill and expertise in design and formatting. Your artistry continues to bring healing and hope to many.
What This Book is All About
Comfort.
We need it. Badly.
Loss is painful. Separation hurts. Oblivious to our suffering, the world around us speeds on as if nothing happened. Stunned, shocked, sad, confused, and angry, we blink in disbelief. The pain can be immense.
We long for comfort. We look for it. Grieving hearts need it to survive.
In my own grief, I have been comforted by the compassion and kindness of others. Over the decades as a missionary and pastor, and now as a hospice chaplain and grief counselor, I’ve had the honor of walking with thousands of grieving souls through the valley of loss, offering what comfort I can along the way. This is how comfort works. We comfort others with the comfort we ourselves have received.
How to read this book
This book is about comfort. My desire is to meet you where you are in your pain and walk with you there. Comfort for Grieving Hearts is designed to be read one chapter each day, giving you bite-sized bits of comfort over a period of time. You do not have to read it this way, of course. You may find yourself wanting to read the same chapter several days in a row, or perhaps go back and reread a chapter here and there. We all grieve differently. Read in the way that is most natural for you.
The grieving process does not follow a formula of ordered steps. Instead, grief often comes in waves from multiple directions. We can experience various emotions and seemingly conflicting thoughts all at once. As result, I have not numbered these chapters because I don’t want to give the impression that grief is an orderly and predictable process. It is more like a meandering path strewn with unforeseen obstacles.
Chapters are purposefully brief and easy-to-read. Each chapter begins with the Grieving Heart speaking, followed by some thoughts about that day’s subject (shock, sadness, confusion, anger, anxiety, etc.). Every reading ends with an affirmation. I have compiled these affirmations for you at the end of the book.
We’re in this together
Loss can be complicated and confusing. I do not have all this figured out. I am a fellow struggler with you. We’re in this together. Though grief can be terribly lonely, no one should have to walk through the valley of loss alone.
Be kind to yourself. Take your heart seriously. Read on. May you find comfort in the pages ahead.
My Heart is Shaking
From the Grieving Heart:
I don’t know where to start.
Someone I love is gone.
I don’t know what to think or how to feel. It’s like I’ve been hit by a brick. I’m stunned. Dazed.
How did this happen? How could it? Why?
My mind is spinning. I want to scream. I open my mouth, but nothing comes.
No, this cannot be.
Where are you? Where did you go?
My heart is shaking. The world has changed.
Love is powerful. We’re wired for connection and relationship. We’re designed to love and be loved. No wonder loss is difficult to understand, let alone experience.
When someone we love leaves, dies, or is taken from us, our minds alternately spin and then freeze. Our hearts tremble. Our bodies can be immobilized by the shock.
We’re stunned. We blink and wonder what happened, how, and why.
It feels as though the world has changed because it has. Our world has been altered forever. Someone we love is missing.