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Ditching the Toxic "Marriage Maths" Mentality
By Tosin Ojumu
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A short ebook from my relationship series and blog: "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie" that is all about building an outstanding foundation for an outstanding Christian marriage. This ebook explains the "marriage maths" mentality, and why that might be toxic for choosing a spouse:
"...The “marriage maths" mentality is simply the understanding/belief that there are not enough good marital partners to go around. So when you come across someone who is maybe OK at best in terms of character, but maybe only OK, the temptation is to cling tightly onto them right unto marriage for fear that you will not find anyone else that is of a truly excellent standard..."
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Tosin Ojumu
Hello, my name is Tosin and for many years I have sat down and thought through questions about how to have an outstandingly successful marriage, and what I need to do before I get married to best ensure that successful marriage. Over the next few weeks and months I aim to publish a new ebook everyday from my blog and relationship series "Finding Mr Huggie-Wuggie." Visit my blog address listed here to see the full list of ebooks as well as video excerpts for each ebook :)
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