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    Taking Charge: How to Assert Positive Control Over Your Own Emotions
    Taking Charge: How to Assert Positive Control Over Your Own Emotions
    Taking Charge: How to Assert Positive Control Over Your Own Emotions
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    Taking Charge: How to Assert Positive Control Over Your Own Emotions

    By Rod Martin, Jr

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    Everyone wants to take charge of their own destiny. And we can do this, easily, if we have the secret. Though this secret involves just one word, implementing this approach, without extra help, proves too difficult for most people. Why? Because we have been trained by circumstances and our culture to view the world as a problem instead of an opportunity. That’s why the book is far more than one word.

    The body of this small volume contains all of the ways we complicate the simplicity of being happy. With each chapter, we learn not only what trips us up, but also what we can do, step-by-step, to strengthen our foundation of happiness. Most chapters contain one or more exercises for expanding our awareness and power.

    The book starts with a simple set of 5 steps to achieve instant happiness. When done with the book, we will no longer 5 steps and can achieve happiness with only one step. After a brief introduction to the brain, mind, ego and true self, the book takes on one barrier to happiness after another—negative attitude, laziness, self-imposed blindness, reasonableness, shyness, a weak-willed attitude, resentment, annoyance, blame, and irresponsibility. With each chapter, we are empowered to take charge of these barriers and to blast right through them.

    Beyond these barriers, we look at “walking the walk” of taking charge. We look at several concepts about which society-at-large has grown increasingly confused. The chapters of part 3 clear up those confusions, tackling,
    - Responsibility vs. Blame,
    - Love vs. Importance,
    - Humility vs. Failure,
    - Compassion vs. Sympathy, and
    - Humble Confidence vs. Arrogance.

    In the final chapter, we look at “ultimate happiness” and giving up all self-concern.

    Mastering your own emotions becomes easy, once we unlearn all of the crazy things our culture has taught us. Instant happiness can be yours, and it can be both profound and lasting.

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTharsis Highlands
    Release dateSep 13, 2018
    ISBN9780463538524
    Taking Charge: How to Assert Positive Control Over Your Own Emotions
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    Rod Martin, Jr

    Rod Martin, Jr. was born in West Texas, United States. He has been a Hollywood artist, a software engineer with a degree summa cum laude, a writer, web designer and a college professor.Rod Martin's interests have ranged from astronomy to ancient history, physics to geology, and graphics arts to motion pictures.He has studied comparative religion, worked as a lay minister and spiritual counselor, and taught ethics in college.While doing graphic arts in Hollywood, he also studied electronic engineering. In 1983, as Carl Martin, he published his first novel, "Touch the Stars: Emergence," co-authored by John Dalmas (Tor Books, NY). He continues to write science fiction under that pen name.Later, switching careers to computers and information technology, Mr. Martin worked for Control Data, Ceridian Payroll, Bank of America, Global Database Marketing and IPRO Tech. He also created "Stars in the NeighborHood" 3D astronomy space software.He currently resides in the Philippines with his wife, Juvy. He has taught information technology, mathematics and professional ethics at Benedicto College, in Cebu. He continues to teach online and to write books and blogs.

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      Taking Charge - Rod Martin, Jr

      Taking Charge

      How to assert positive control over your own emotions

      Rod Martin, Jr.

      Alternate Title: Instant Happiness

      "Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be"—Abraham Lincoln (How to Get What You Want, 1917, by Orison Marden, 74).

      Smashwords Edition

      September 2018

      Published by Tharsis Highlands Publishing

      https://tharsishighlands.wordpress.com/books/

      Copyright 2018 Rod Martin, Jr.

      All rights reserved, including the right to reproduce this book, or portions thereof in any form.

      Acknowledgements

      Cover photos via Pixabay.com (CC0): Bald eagle-341898 Christoph, Fist through glass-1148029 WenPhotos, Lion-1209289 Free-Photos, and Elephants on Parched Earth-590020 Sponchia. Cover design by Rod Martin, Jr.

      Smashwords Edition, License Notes

      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

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      Contents

      PART 1—Mastering Your Own Emotions

      Introduction—The secret to creating your own feelings

      Chapter 1—5 Steps to Taking Charge

      Chapter 2—How it All Works

      PART 2—Barriers to Overcome

      Chapter 3—Barrier to Taking Charge: Negative Attitude

      Chapter 4—Barrier to Taking Charge: Laziness

      Chapter 5—Barrier to Taking Charge: Blindness

      Chapter 6—Barrier to Taking Charge: Reasonableness

      Chapter 7—Barrier to Taking Charge: Shyness

      Chapter 8—Barrier to Taking Charge: Weak-willed

      Chapter 9—Barrier to Taking Charge: Resentment, Annoyance and Blame

      Chapter 10—Barrier to Taking Charge: Irresponsibility

      PART 3—What to Expect

      Chapter 11—Walk the Walk

      Chapter 12—Responsibility vs. Blame

      Chapter 13—Love vs. Importance

      Chapter 14—Humility vs. Failure

      Chapter 15—Compassion vs. Sympathy

      Chapter 16—Humble Confidence vs. Arrogance

      Chapter 17—Ultimate Happiness—Giving Up Self-Concern

      Appendix

      References

      About Rod Martin, Jr.

      Other Books by Rod Martin, Jr.

      Connect with Rod Martin, Jr.

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      Part 1—Mastering Your Own Emotions

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      Introduction—The secret to creating your own feelings

      "Human happiness and human satisfaction must ultimately come from within oneself"—Dalai Lama (The Path to Tranquility: Daily Wisdom, 1998, edited by Renuka Singh).

      Every emotion we feel is either a reaction to circumstances or a conscious decision. And if we inspect our every reaction more closely, we find at the heart of each an unconscious decision to give up our own authority—to let circumstances rule our emotions.

      Every emotion therefore depends on a decision.

      Being happy is as easy as deciding to be happy.

      That’s it. Yes, it’s that simple.

      So, why do we need an entire book on the subject?

      The remainder of this book is all about the ways we make this subject complicated, and how to cure those complications. Once we’ve made deciding to be happy easy, any amount of complications will disappear without effort. Getting there is not simple or easy, but it remains a valuable goal, nonetheless.

      A discovery which changed my life

      I’ve made several discoveries which changed my life. Two of the big ones happened to occur in traffic of all places. One of them I discuss in detail in my book, The Art of Forgiveness.

      The other involved a moment in my life when all hope had seemed lost. I was out of work. My previous employer had not been able to make their payroll for several weeks, after several years as a thriving business. My bills had stacked up. My first wife had left without warning. I had not slept well in days and my health had declined sharply.

      There I was, sitting in stop-and-go traffic on Laurel Canyon, winding through the Hollywood Hills of Los Angeles. I was returning home from a job interview which had not gone well. My stress was at an all-time high. I felt as though I carried a world of troubles on my shoulders. My prospects looked dismal. And I felt miserable.

      In a little while, I would be going to another job interview. As I sat there in traffic, I realized that, if given the choice, I would never hire me in my current state.

      I had two options—either continue with my current attitude and die, or take full responsibility for my feelings and live. That kind of stark simplicity seemed to wake me up in a place that’s not easy to locate without help.

      A lesson I had learned years earlier came back to me: We are each responsible for our condition in life.

      I realized, peering into my car’s rear view mirror, that I looked grim. I needed a job and a smile might prove crucial in acquiring one. But I didn’t feel like smiling.

      We are each responsible for our

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