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    Arising by People: The Artistic Science of Dealing with Others
    Arising by People: The Artistic Science of Dealing with Others
    Arising by People: The Artistic Science of Dealing with Others
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    Arising by People: The Artistic Science of Dealing with Others

    By Advent AM Monyatsiwa

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    If you want to master the art of arising by people and making your dealings with people smooth, pleasant, and beneficial; or if you are looking for an exact science or an artistic way in which to solve the dilemma in relationships, heal your current problems, prevent probable future misunderstandings but also have the power to grow any relation, partnership, friendship, liaison, romance, and love affairs to maximum heights of love, joy, peace, harmony, and contentment, then look no further. This book presents the artistic science to you.

    Your sincere desire to make people feel important is the engine that supplies power to all your communication skills. The artistic skills of communication are the lightbulbs or outlets in which when your eagerness to communicate is supported by your genuine desire to make people feel important, then enough light will be produced to make your relationship with people a delightful experience!

    Without the understanding of this esoteric science, your efforts to deal with others will be powerless and your relationships will continue to be no more than shots in the dark. Yet with it, you will possess the power to arise by and with people effectively, efficiently, efficaciously, and effectually!
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherTrafford Publishing
    Release dateDec 12, 2013
    ISBN9781490721163
    Arising by People: The Artistic Science of Dealing with Others
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    Advent AM Monyatsiwa

    Advent AM Monyatsiwa is a twenty-seven-year-old author and self-made entrepreneur from Botswana. He considers himself an artist of life by the way of the stars, an altruist by purpose, but a martial artist by choice. Everything else he does is as a result of these three things.

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      Arising by People - Advent AM Monyatsiwa

      © Copyright 2013 Advent AM Monyatsiwa.

      All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the written prior permission of the author.

      ISBN: 978-1-4907-2114-9 (sc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4907-2115-6 (hc)

      ISBN: 978-1-4907-2116-3 (e)

      Library of Congress Control Number: 2013922495

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      Contents

      Dedication

      Acknowledgement

      Introduction

      PART 1: FALLING BY PEOPLE

      Falling By People

      The Futile Artifice Of Falling By People

      PART 2: ARISING BY PEOPLE

      The Artistic Science Of Arising By People

      The Engine

      The Control-Switch

      The Lightbulbs

      The Light

      Summary

      PART 3: THE MONKEY-WRENCHERS

      Introduction: A Monkey Wrench In The Works

      The Bottlenecked Monkey-Wrenchers

      Summary: An Ariser Or A Monkey-Wrencher

      PART 4: ARISING BY THE PERSON INSIDE

      Introducing A Sacred Truth

      The Sacred Truth Of The Millennium

      Summarizing The Truth

      Concluding The Book:

      Dedication

      I dedicate this book to the total well being of my mother Africa; particularly to my country, Botswana and to all the Third World or Developing Countries around the world, where the wisdom of the things I write about is scarce. It is substantially dedicated to all human relationships, more especially to those who find it hard to deal or relate mutually with others but are willing to learn to ARISE by The Artistic Science of Dealing With People in Their Everyday Life.

      Acknowledgement

      I am deeply indebted to my respectable nation of Botswana, hoping to add to its solemn rule of democracy and its freedom from civil wars; to my beloved and admired mother, whom without her persistent love, guidance, support and encouragement I would have given up on life and my dreams many times over. The inspiration to write and publish this excerpt from ARISINGS came from my personal rising and falling in my past negative and positive circumstances, especially those of dealing with people. Therefore, I must not forget to acknowledge all my relatives and friends around the world; my acquaintances, my past situations and things; places and countries like America, Algeria and Japan which have contributed to my wisdom and growth in my arising in the art of dealing with people. My greatest acknowledgement and gratitude, however, goes to God; It is through learning and studying the ways of God that I learn to deal, relate and arise by and with people effectively.

      INTRODUCTION

      Arising By People is a book series under the four ways or parts of arisings as described in my first book ARISINGS:

      1. Arising By Falling

      2. Arising By People

      3. Arising By Oneself, and

      4. Arising By God;

      Hence the name of the book ARISINGS. The way I have coined to use the word arising in all of these four parts simply mean that one is getting up after he or she has been tripped by some of life’s stumbling blocks such as problems, failures and adversities. So then one is emerging from problems to solutions; from failures to victories; from adversities to opportunities; from poverty to riches; from sorrows to rejoicing; from distress to peace; from dearth to abundance; from disappointments to fortunate appointments; and most importantly from dissatisfaction to contentment and from delusions to enlightenment.

      However, in this book, Arising By People, I distinctively talk about The Art of Dealing With People:

      As in many walks of life where there is an art to everything, there is an art in all people relations. That is, a way in which people can deal, associate or interlink with each other. Ergo, it is evident that success gravitates to the men and women who not only know and master the skills necessary in their chosen line of work, but most importantly to those who also have mastered the art of dealing with people. For instance; whatever profession you may be in, if you do not possess the artistic skills of dealing and coping with people, you will neither go far nor reach your full potential in that profession.

      In other words, if you are a good and educated lawyer but have bad people skills, then that makes you a bad lawyer in the eyes of the people you deal with and your educational skills will be of little value to them. The same goes with all other professions be it a doctor, farmer, professor, politician or a skilled mechanic. If you are unskilled in people skills, your skills will only have an ephemeral end.

      These people skills are not limited to spoken communication alone. For example, if you are an excellent clerk of some sort but you do not know how to make people happy by such gestures as smiling to customers when they walk in through the door, then you are considered bad in that occupation. Whatever product your company may be selling loses its value regardless of whether it is the best product in the world or not, all simply because your people skills through body language were displeasing! In fact those people you did not smile to may never come back to your office again and when that happens, they will most likely take along with them a lot of your current and potential customers.

      You see, people skills are essential to all people in all walks of life. To me it is a shame that there is no class in the school syllabus dedicated to this artistic skill alone. In my destined school, Advent University of Sports and Agriculture, The Art of Dealing with People will be a mandatory class for all students, especially graduating students. Of what use would the diplomas and degrees in their hands be if there is nothing in their heads that would cause their dealings with people to be of reciprocal benefit?

      Nobody deals with people without expecting anything in return, so in the same way, YOU too when you deal with people, must expect that people are anticipating to benefit from your dealings with them! Does this make sense? In order for you to understand this book series on Arising By People, you must first understand and absorb the above statement.

      In any formal or informal dealings, relations or bargains, there is always a contemplated and envisaged end. However, since nobody can predict the future, no matter how meticulously it has been planned, that end can either be positive or negative; beneficial or detrimental, joyful or disastrous, full of hope or pessimistic. Hence, I have intentionally separated this part of ARISINGS, in its own book as my emphatic way of expressing to you the climacteric importance of dealing with people effectively, efficaciously, effectually and efficiently in our current way of life.

      Hopefully by the time you have finished reading and studying the book, you will be able to apply this consequential Art of Dealing With People in your lifestyle, especially in your own quotidian way of making a living.

      FALLING BY PEOPLE

      Preparatory to talking about the art of dealing with people effectively, productively, and successfully, let us first look at the futile artifice of dealing with people which produce ineffectual, unproductive and unsuccessful ends…

      For the sake of time and simplicity I will not get into the details of these futile principles. Time is existence so we should not waste it and simplicity is the key to efficiency so we must keep things as simple as possible. I want YOU to use your imagination and seek your own answers, personal examples and wisdom to the statements, questions and ideas I will give.

      Also the mind responds better to what we inform it to do rather than what we inform it not to be; We cannot expose the mind to negativity and hope that it will veer away from it. In simpler words, thinking about the negative things we do not like, will not cause us to eliminate them. On the contrary, the more we think about what we do not like or want the closer we attract it to ourselves. This is why you will hear people say, I do not like this but I find myself doing the very thing that I do not like?

      Yes, knowing the history and root cause of a problem gives us the awareness of dealing with it in the future. But the secret to tackling the problem and not falling back into it does not lie in talking more about it and thus indulging in it. Instead, it is in the resolution to talk about the ideas and plans about the solutions that will produce a much desirable future in the end.

      This is an important tactic in solving problems—Think about it! It is the reason why I would rather touch a little on the things that cause futile dealings between people but talk in detail about the art that creates successful relationships in people.

      In the book ARISINGS, I talked about arising and falling; about how to arise by falling and yet there are those who believe themselves to be arising when actually they are falling. Those kind of people have false knowledge for they misconceive wrong as right and deem ignorance to be enlightenment. Mindlessly they see bliss in misery and derive their happiness from indulging in sense gratification.

      Thus the happiness they experience is transitory for the reason that it first tastes sweet like honey but ends up tasting like poison. To them sadism is their nourishment, ignorance their bliss, foolishness their highest wisdom and physical pain and torture their analgesic drug for eliminating suffering because they feel that life is incomprehensible, meaningless, pointless and purposeless.

      In much the same way, when it comes to Arising by People there are those who ignorantly think and believe that their dealings with people causes them to arise by them when in actuality they are falling by them. In the end these people are like:

      The Maudlin Man:

      A maudlin man is a foolishly sentimental man.

      A foolishly sentimental man is a man with many mistakes,

      His stupidity tripped him down and added to his disgrace,

      And now he regrets the last just like he enjoyed the past.

      He keeps on hoping after hope that he had not been ignorant,

      since he now knows that ignorance is not a way of the brilliant.

      He is now aware that fame and glory is not the only path to freedom,

      Because he remembers the days when he poured scorn on wisdom.

      His words and promises used to be

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