Why Am I Single?

Copyright © 2010 by Florence Kaetu-Smith.

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Contents

Foreword

Acknowledgements

Introduction

1. Education, Idleness, and Antichrist-Like Behaviour

2. Generational Curses

3. The Church Leaders

4. Close Associates and Role Models

5. Money, Status, Stature, and Poverty

6. Prayer, Giving, Fasting, and Faith

7. Age, Spoken Words, and the Past

8. Impatience, Attitude, and Dependency Spirit

9. Personal Presentation and Physic

10. Sex Related Issues

11. Cultures, Traditions, and Law

12. Other Factors

Conclusion

References

Personal Profile

Foreword

I have known sister Florence over a long period of time, both as a family friend and a devoted Christian worker, who strongly believes in Christian values. She has worked tirelessly towards helping the poor in spirit, reconcile with God, by transforming their lives to ‘faithful soldiers of Christ’. From my experience of her, she has invested a lot of resources to the work of God, by making provision for the poor, bringing broken homes together and helping those who are spiritually weak to be strong in God.

BY MR HUDSON JACKSON

Acknowledgements

I like to deeply acknowledge God Almighty for divine favour and the inspiration to write this book. My profound gratitude goes to my late father, Prince Claudius Kaetu-Smith (May his gentle soul rest in perfect peace till we meet at Jesus feet to part no more.). The smile on his face will remain evergreen in my memory. He urged me to complete this book, but is not around to share in this joy of a dream come true. The saying that by any successful woman there is a man, goes to my dear husband Pastor Augustine Enaboifo (aka Pastor Austin), the Shepherd of Rock of Salvation Ministry, who stood by me during the period of writing this book. My appreciation also goes to my brother-in-law Alex Enaboifo who kept pushing me to complete this book. The members of the Rock of Salvation Ministry also gave me their unalloyed support, this I am most grateful. To members of my family especially Daniel and Regina Moore I say many thanks and kind regards for encouraging me to get this book published. To all my wonderful friends, I thank you for the spiritual and emotional support you gave me while writing this book. You were always there for me. I like to appreciate Prophet Roland Harding whom God used to remind me to complete the abandoned project (this book). I also want to thank most sincerely Mr. Nathaniel Iyakwo who initially edited and proofread this book. My colleagues in wards 3 and 4 of Queen Elisabeth’s Hospital, Woolwich, who gave me tremendous support in one way or the other. I very much appreciate all of you.

Introduction

The purpose of writing this book is for the reader to locate the causes of these challenges and to proffer solutions using Biblical teachings. I have come to realise that the Antichrist culture is gaining grounds in our homes today, as a result, disintegrating the institution of marriage. Many Holy Spirit-filled Christians desire a Christ-like marital home, but as they have one way or the other partaken the worldly culture subconsciously, they are left to deal with this ugly situation of singleness. It may be your sin or action that has stood on your way of this blessing. But I am here to tell you that there is a way out. This book is going to help you identify your individual issues and will also ignite something in you that will enable you to have strength to destroy this yoke, using the Bible as the weapon.

I have had the opportunity to visit many countries; as a result, I was able to know some of the cultural beliefs and Antichrist-like behaviours of these people. I could see why singleness has become an epidemic and why people have become very lonely and sad. It is for such issues and for these groups of people that this book was written.

This book is very controversial in the sense that it may give you peace of mind or few days of serous thinking; however, in the end you will regain peace, joy, and everlasting happiness in your life, as you are in the process of entering your own matrimonial home. Brethren, these issues discussed in this book are real; they happen all the time. Sometimes, we ignore them; at other times, people are too scared to talk about them.

Many people today do not believe in generational curses; as you read on, you will believe it is real and maybe the source of grief in your life. Our blood lineage has a lot to do with us, and unless we find out, we will be ignorant of the truth. Therefore, my advice to you is to act on the information given in this book. We are all aware that the love for money is the root of all evil, and some of us are so carried away with material things that you cannot differentiate right from wrong. There are numerous reasons written in this book that you may not have been aware of and that may be the barrier to marital bliss. This book is the key to unlock your destiny, grab it, and find peace and joy in the Lord.

Have you asked yourself why you are single, why are you praying so much, yet no result? Brethren, my belief is that a problem not located is problem unsolved; therefore any issue highlighted in this book that has been affecting you should ignite a hunger in you to pray fervently, and spiritual guidance may be needed too.

I have asked God to open your understanding and spiritual eyes while reading this book so that you may not stay ignorant forever. I want you to understand that we are spiritual beings, and at the moment, some of you are being attacked by negative forces which can manifest in many ways in our lives, including singleness. This is why I believe God has given me the key to locate the problem, thus leading you to a quicker solution.

The author would like to adopt a functional definition of singleness to mean, the quality or state of being single, physically, spiritually, and emotionally. It is purity of mind, purpose, and singleness of heart.

Chapter One

Education, Idleness, and Antichrist-Like Behaviour

Education is very good, and Christ has delight in it too. In Psalm 19: 1-3, it states that The heavens declares the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands. Day by day they pour forth speech; night after night they declare knowledge. There is no speech or language where their voice is not heard. This scripture shows that there is no harm in educating yourself, but please apply wisdom. King Solomon was knowledgeable in all fields of endeavour and people came to learn from him. But never forgot family life. In the world today, many educated people are single, not because they wish to be single, but because they have wasted all their time studying, forgetting that there are other aspect of their life that needs attention as well. By the time they realize their mistake, it may be too late to rectify, and they may have become old, grey, and single.

Because of your education, your words become law, you cannot be challenged. You belittle your husband in public; even though you’re expected to submit, you do not adhere to correction. You use very big grammar on people, therefore, they find it difficult to relate with you. Communication becomes an issue. Your husband gets bored with you. Mrs Grammar, you may be enjoying this, but your home is in shambles. Your education cannot mend your marriage; your husband may find someone he feels comfortable with, leaving you single.

Single educated people are the best fornication promoters. They are often very proud to say they have a partner. In other words, they are single fornicators, irrespective of their wealth and education. Brethren, education without godliness is uselessness. We all know that most educated people are eloquent and are looked at with admiration, but that is where the admiration stops. Do you know such people shed tears when they get home, because they want companionship or soul mate like you, yet they don’t seem to find one. Some others become drunkards, mad, etc. This is all due to the emptiness they have experienced in life, and this brings them to the realization that education doesn’t sort all aspect of ones life. Presently, some of you are lost, trapped in this problem, and do not know what to do. I have good news for you; it is said in Isaiah 53: 5—that by his strips we are healed; Jesus can heal your broken heart and get rid of your impossible situation.

Some other educated people get rid of their friends who are not as educated as they are, simply because they believe that they are no longer in the same class. Brethren, your friend might not be in your class, but he/she might have something you need badly, that is God. With Jesus by your friend’s side, he/she is far better than you. He/she will get a God-fearing spouse, blessed children in marriage, and their entire life will prosper even with little or no education. But take a good look at your own life; with your education, class, and influential friends, you are still single. Brethren, in Christ, do not beckon to your own understanding; always keep a God-fearing friend who may help you to uphold the statutes of God so that God will get rid of this burden of singleness and lead you to marital bliss.

It is not wrong for you to have friends from your educational circle, but remember these friends should also be able to educate you in the things of God, if not flee from them. If you are truly desperate to get married, take a good look at your close friends; if they live dangerously, like living with a married man or living with partners, you will definitely know they are not what you need in your situation. My Christian friend, go in search of a friend in the house of the Lord; they are desperately waiting to welcome you and groom you for your forth coming wedding.

Some educated people die single, simply because they have been brainwashed by science, and when science fails, they feel embarrassed to return to God. Others start looking for partners on the Internet, who might turn out to be a murderer. Moreover, some use their hard-earned cash to seek help from clairvoyants, tarot card readers, witchcraft, etc. and by the time they realize what is happening to them, they might be fighting some form of sickness added to their existing problem. My Christian friend, seek ye first the kingdom of God and all other things shall be added on to you.

Others would have liked to marry a particular person after their course, but by the time they are ready for marriage, this person has moved on and is happily married. But your life comes to a standstill as frustration sink in. In your confusion, you tend to believe that there is no one else for you, and you therefore embank on becoming a concubine in your fancy man’s marriage, even though he has a wife. This is fatal attraction, and it is dangerous. These type of people can become one of the strongest obstacles in ones marriage, simply because they have the money, education, influence, and are held in high esteem in society. Therefore, it would be very difficult for people to believe you when you accuse such a person for trying to break your marriage. At other times, people do believe, but because of that person’s stand in society, no one is bold enough to talk to him/her about this messy situation. However, with such notion in this person’s head, all parties involved will be single. To the victim in this marriage, I want to assure you that it is not over till the Lord says so, and that the broken bridge can be mended. Therefore, you do not need man to help you sort this problem; you only need to open your mouth and speak to your father in heaven who gave you that marriage, he will rectify the problem.

Some educated women are so proud that submissiveness is not part of their likes, as they believe their education puts them in a pedestal, high above the man. These type of women turn out to be control freaks, and not many people would like to marry such woman, singleness then takes precedence.

Some other educated people build up the courage to marry someone believed to be inferior to them. Most of the time he/she gets so much pressure from family and friend, which finally breaks the relationship, rendering them single. In such relationship, there is so much embarrassment, as the uneducated partner tends to talk a lot of rubbish in public or is too embarrassed to say anything in public in order not to be laughed at. All these problems will eventually cause a break up of relationship, and you will be single again.

There is a proverb, which says if you listen to the voices of the market you will not buy. Brethren, as long as your spouse is God fearing and treats you well, do not listen to what people have to say about his/her education. No one is perfect; therefore, it is left with you to work together to achieve your goal, and in doing this, let God be the