Marriage Course Guest Manual
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Marriage Course, developed by Nicky and Sila Lee, is a seven-session study for couples to obtain the tools to build a strong and healthy relationship that lasts a lifetime.The manual highlights the key points from the talks and contains all of the exercises with plenty of room for making notes.
The course covers:
- An Introduction to Marriage Course
- Building Strong Foundations
- The Art of Communication
- Resolving Conflict
- Forgiveness
- The Impact of Family - past and present
- Good Sex
- Love in Action
- Marriage Course Party
- Coping with Times of Separation (optional session)
Marriage Course serves as a bridge between the church and local community by recognizing the need to go beyond the social, as well as physical, walls of the church to help couples with their relationships. The courses are easy to run, and the talks are also available on DVD (sold separately). If you enjoy hosting people and have a passion for strengthening family life, you could run a course!
Nicky Lee
Nicky and Sila Lee are authors of The Marriage Course, The Pre-Marriage Course, and The Parenting Courses. They have four wonderful children and eight gorgeous grandchildren. They developed these courses while on the staff at Holy Trinity Brompton, London, UK. Over the last 35 years, they have spoken to thousands on the subject of marriage and family life.
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Marriage Course Guest Manual - Nicky Lee
Acknowledgments
We are very grateful indeed to the following people and organizations for their help and inspiration in the creation of The Marriage Course:
David and Teresa Ferguson, of Intimate Life Ministries, whose expertise and encouragement have helped us enormously, especially with Sessions 1 and 4. For more information about their work, contact: Intimate Life Ministries, 2511 S. Lakeline Blvd, Austin, Texas, TX 78759; or visit greatcommandment.net
Rob Parsons, for his inspiration, stories and illustrations that we have used throughout. For more information about his work, please visit careforthefamily.org.uk
Gary Chapman, for his book The Five Love Languages (Northfield, 1992), on which the concept and manual notes for Session 7 are based.
Peter and Barbie Reynolds, for their demonstration of effective listening, the inspiration for the model example in Session 2.
Acorn Christian Foundation, for their Just Listen! course, on which much of the material on listening in Session 2 is based. For more information about their work, please visit acornchristian.org
Michael and Gillie Warren, for the first marriage weekend that they led, where we learnt many of the basic principles for building a healthy marriage.
Nicky and Sila Lee
This manual is designed to be used on The Marriage Course with the DVDs or live talks. See page 127 for more information on how to join or run a course.
1 Building Strong Foundations
EXERCISE 1
The First Time You Met
Tell each other your strongest memory of the first time you met and what first attracted you to one another.
What is marriage?
• Marriage involves a man and a woman being joined together and becoming one
• A relationship of increasing intimacy and growing interdependence
‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.’
Genesis 2:24
The four seasons of marriage
(Not every marriage will go through each stage, but the principles apply to all marriages)
1. Spring
• Early years of marriage
• Season of discovery and excitement
• Initial infatuation will wear off at some stage
• The greatest need is to accept each other
2. Summer
• Season of increased activity and demands
• May become parents during this season
• May face pressures of infertility
• Careers can be more demanding
• The greatest need is to give time to the marriage relationship
3. Autumn
• Season of richness and maturity – reaping the benefits of what has gone before
• Marriage more established having weathered tough times
• May be teenagers in the house – emotionally the most exhausting stage of parenting
• The greatest need is to support and encourage each other
4. Winter
• Empty-nest stage for many
• Probably fewer demands with an opportunity for more time together
• Can be the most exciting stage of marriage
• The greatest needs are shared interests and good communication
Why do some marriages break down?
• A process of growing apart
• A lack of communication
• Consumerism – the failure to work at a relationship
Marriage:
The closest possible human relationship of growing interdependence.
Notes
[Your Response Here]
EXERCISE 2
Working Through Pressures
Reflect on what you’ve heard so far. Talk together about the pressures you’ve worked through until now in your relationship, and the pressures you’re currently facing.
The aim of The Marriage Course
To help couples grow closer through:
• Choosing commitment to each other and to their marriage
• Spending time looking at relevant issues together
• Increasing their understanding of each other
• Developing good habits
The marriage wheelThe marriage wheel
‘Love and faithfulness meet together...’
Psalm 85:10
EXERCISE 3
Taking Stock of Your Marriage
Read through the list of statements and, using the scale below, write in the box the number that you feel corresponds to your viewpoint. Please do the exercise on your own. When you have finished, turn over and follow the instructions overleaf.
Results of Taking Stock of Your Marriage
1. Add up your scores from the previous page as follows:
2. Now look at each other’s scores and discuss them, especially any differences (the idea is to be understood by and to understand each other better).
3. Take it in turns to tell each other something in each area that you would like to see changed in yourself.
For example:
Friendship:
‘I see that I haven’t recognized the need for us to spend time together on our own. What could I do to change that?’
Communication:
‘I don’t seem to be very good at listening.
I obviously need to show you that I am interested in what you say.’
Physical relationship:
‘I would like to be more sensitive towards your sexual desires. What could I do?’
The future:
‘We haven’t had a conversation for a long time about our plans for the future. When would be a good time for that?’
Building the foundations for a strong marriage
1. Make time for each other
If a relationship is to thrive and keep growing, we must have regular time together.
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