Engage with Honor: Building a Culture of Courageous Accountability
By Lee Ellis
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Honor and accountability are linked together as a formula for great leadership, and a healthy mindset of accountability can inspire every team and organization to achieve a higher level of performance. The key is engaging with courage, commitment, and caring concern as opposed to motivation by fear, intimidation, and self-preservation.
From his early experiences as an Air Force jet fighter pilot and POW in the prison camps of Vietnam to an award-winning author, presenter, and leadership consultant, Lee Ellis shares his concerns about the lack of accountability in our culture and how you can apply a positive, proven accountability model to get better results as a leader.
Engage with Honor: Building a Culture of Courageous Accountability will unify your team so that you can focus on celebration rather than confrontation by sharing –
• Why a lack of accountability leads to confusion and chaos.
• Gripping personal leadership experiences from the Vietnam POW camps.
• A proven model for creating a positive accountability culture.
• Tips and practical tools to apply what you’ve learned.
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Lee Ellis
Lee Ellis earned his PhD from Florida State University in 1982. For most of his teaching career, he was professor of sociology at Minot State University in North Dakota. After retiring from MSU in 2008, Dr. Ellis accepted a two-year visiting professorship at the University of Malaya in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia, where he conducted research. Now semi-retired, he continues conducting research and authoring articles and books including Handbook of Crime Correlates and Handbook of Social Status Correlates.
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Engage with Honor - Lee Ellis
Praise for
Engage with Honor:
Building a Culture of Courageous Accountability
...Ellis demonstrates that this difference comes from having the character and courage to do the right thing. A must read for all leaders.
Dr. J. Phillip London,
Executive Chairman and Chairman of the Board – CACI International Inc.
I believe our country is at one of the most crucial periods in our entire history. Lee’s book represents an important ‘instruction manual’ for righting the ship.
Bob Littell,
Chief NetWeaver – NetWeaving International & The Enrichment Co.
The latest book by Lee Ellis titled Engage With Honor tackles one of the most important challenges that we face in life and business— accountability. This book can change your life and your leadership at home and in the marketplace.
Arlin Sorensen,
CEO and Founder of Heartland Companies
Lee Ellis provides you with the most robust how-to framework and skills required for keeping yourself and others on track to perform at the highest level.
Hugh Massie,
President and Founder – DNA Behavior
International
"In his book Engage with Honor, Lee provides valuable lessons in leadership learned from the world’s toughest ‘leadership lab,’ The Hanoi Hilton. Another great read by my old friend. "
Gene Smith,
Former Vietnam POW; Past National President and Chairman of the Board, Air Force Association
Once again, Lee has integrated his very personal life experiences as a Vietnam POW to provide very pertinent and valuable leadership lessons applicable for any leader!! The lessons shared served as not only a refresher but a graduate level course in leadership as well.
Carol H. Burrell,
President and CEO, Northeast Georgia Health System
In this book you will find stories that engage you, insights that transform you, and practical advice you can put in your pocket (or purse) for everyday living. Read it, and find new depth in your own levels of growth.
Laurie Beth Jones,
Author of Jesus, CEO; The Path; and
Jesus, Life Coach
Lee Ellis has a powerful story, is a outstanding author, and drives home the message of courageous accountability in a compelling way. You will want to give this book to your leadership team to positively impact your organization!
Dan Busby,
President – ECFA
"Engage with Honor is a winner all around! Lee Ellis has surpassed his last book, Leading with Honor, which I thoroughly treasured and quoted often in my own writings."
Archie B. Carroll, PhD,
Professor of Management Emeritus –
Terry College of Business, University of Georgia
Lee artfully tackles the difficult and often misunderstood role of accountability in effective leadership. Courageous Accountability…a must in every leader’s tool kit.
Lt. Gen. Doug Owens, USAF (Ret),
National Commander, Order of Daedalians
"Highly relevant, clear, and practical, Engage with Honor provides leaders with models that enable critical thinking and inspire intentional action. If you desire to lead from heart with courage and accountability, then this is the book to guide you!"
Tami Heim,
President & CEO of Christian Leadership Alliance
I can’t think of a better person to write about engaging with honor than Lee Ellis. Every leader on every level needs to read this book to engage a culture where honor is lacking and needed more than ever before.
Dick Bruso,
Founder of Heard Above The Noise
"[In Engage with Honor], you have taken a challenging time in your life [as a POW] and extracted the very best lessons from it that continue to build layers upon layers to offer greater perspective on our life’s full journey."
Janine Sijan Rozina,
Sister of Vietnam POW Lance Sijan (MOH) and
Founder of Team Sijan
His Courageous Accountability Model holds true whether you raising a family, managing a 5-person working group or leading a Fortune 500 company. Engage with honor is precision engagement at its best.
Brig. Gen. Guy Walsh, USAF (Ret),
Former commander of the 451st Air
Expeditionary Wing, Afghanistan
"Engage with Honor is fascinating to read. The leadership lessons from his years as a POW are compelling, and it’s clear that the elements of his Courageous Accountability model—Character, Courage, and Commitment—are very real in his own life."
Bob and Lyn Turknett,
Founders, Turknett Leadership Group
"Colonel Ellis’s latest book, Engage with Honor: Building a Culture of Courageous Accountability, is a useful book that offers practical—not just theoretical—advice on how to authentically link honor and accountability."
Taylor Baldwin Kiland,
Co-author of Lessons from the Hanoi Hilton: Six Characteristics of High-Performance Teams, and Open Doors: Vietnam POWs Thirty Years Later
There are books that I have read and store on the shelf, and then there are books that I read and keep close so I can refer back time and time again...this is one of those books.
Dan Olson,
Vice President and General Manager, Armament Systems Division – Orbital ATK
His courageous accountability model is an excellent guide to learning our way through uncertainty and complexity. It is a must read for generations of leaders to come.
LTG James L. Terry,
Retired Commanding General,
United States Army Central
I’m honored to endorse Lee’s book. He is an inspiration to us all. Lee relates his own experiences to prepare you to become a better leader.
Bruce N. Whitman,
Immediate Past Co-Chairman, Congressional Medal of Honor Foundation; Chairman, President & CEO, FlightSafety International
I believe anyone who reads this book and strives to live it’s very clear recommendations and explanations will experience runaway success in motivational, practical leadership.
Capt. Guy D. Gruters, USAF (Ret),
Vietnam POW 1967-1973
If there is anyone anywhere who combines both practice and scholarship on the subject equal to Lee, I am certainly not aware of it. All practitioners of the art can learn from this extraordinary man.
Gen. Charles G. Boyd, USAF (Ret),
Former Deputy Commander in Chief,
U.S. European Command
Vietnam POW 1966-1973
I am honored to know Lee Ellis and I am proud to endorse his latest literary accomplishment. I would encourage any aspiring leader to take his words to heart and live as Lee does, by a code of honor!
Gen. Michael Hostage, III, USAF (Ret),
Former commander Air Combat Command
"[Engage with Honor] is a powerful, poignant read that is an absolute must for today’s current and future leaders, both in military and civilian environments."
CDR Mary Kelly, USN (Ret),
Author of Why Leaders Fail and
The 7 Prescriptions for Success
Lee Ellis has written a must-read book full of important information for those of us who want to lead and live with character, commitment and honor.…Read this book—and learn from a man who lives and practices its message.
Kathy S. Schwaig PhD,
Dean, Coles College of Business,
Kennesaw State University
Once again Lee Ellis has created an outstanding book on Leadership, Honor and Accountability. A must read for anyone serious about leading in our world today where honor and accountability are the keys to success!
Gen. William R. Looney, III, USAF (Ret),
Former Commander Air Education and Training Command
Lee’s philosophy of respect for the individual and integrity (two of Swagelok’s core values) are on display for the reader. His experiences should serve as an inspiration to anyone who wants to take their organization to the next level of performance.
Arthur F. Anton,
Chairman, President and CEO,
Swagelok Company
"[Engage with Honor] appropriately takes the focus from the leader to those being lead. This book is a must read if you want to lead your team to new levels of performance and create a place where people want to be accountable."
Sam Silverstein, CSP,
Author: Non-Negotiable and No More Excuses,
Past President, National Speakers Association
"Engage with Honor inspires us to consider how accountability can be a strong thread in shaping corporate culture. Keep the passion Lee, for the ideas of honor, character, courage and commitment to shape the fabric of our culture."
Terence Chatmon,
President and CEO, FCCI
Lee Ellis, with insights through his experiences and survival as a Vietnam POW, gives us a glide path to successful leadership. This is a book that leaders in all walks of life should have on their desk.
Larry E. Favreau, CPA, CLU, FLMI,
Retired CEO, Southern Farm Bureau
Life Insurance Co.
Lee Ellis has done it again! His focus on honor and accountability are spot-on…His real life examples provide tremendous lessons in human nature and the importance of character, courage, and commitment in the daily lives of leaders.
RADM Tilghman D. Payne, USN (Ret)
I have been searching for a clear way to link servant leadership and accountability. Lee provides a clear path with The Courageous Accountability Model...Thank you Lee for your lessons, life experience, and service.
Pat Falotico, CEO,
Greenleaf Center for Servant Leadership
"Lee Ellis has done it again with his latest work, Engage with Honor. At a time when honor and accountability seemed to be sorely lacking in our country, he has leveraged his military experience and business insights in this concise, clear work."
COL Leon E Moores, MD, Army,
Inova Healthcare System
"Lee builds on his success in Leading with Honor to give us a framework not only for professional success but lessons for success in life. The impact of applying Lee’s methods is punctuated with Lee’s inspiring stories of how his experiences in captivity can give us all the courage to Engage with Honor."
Michael Bowling,
Senior Vice President, AT&T/DirecTV LATAM
Table of Contents
Foreword
Introduction
Section One The Struggle for Honor
Chapter One Critical Failures in Honor
Chapter Two Battling for Honor and Accountability
Chapter Three Building a Culture of Accountability
Section Two The Courageous Accountability Model
Chapter Four The Core of Leadership:
Character, Courage, Commitment
Chapter Five Clarity Begins with the Leader
Chapter Six Connect: Know Yourself—Know Your People
Chapter Seven Connect with the Heart
Chapter Eight Develop a Mindset for Collaboration
Chapter Nine Collaborate—Learn to Engage
Chapter Ten Closeout: Celebrate (or Confront) and Critique
Chapter Eleven Troubleshooting Accountability—Tips and FAQs
Epilogue
Foot Stompers
Appendices
Acknowledgments
Index
About the Author
Copyright © 2016 Lee Ellis
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Title: Engage with honor : building a culture of courageous accountability / Lee Ellis.
Description: Includes bibliographical references and index. | Cumming, Georgia: FreedomStar Media, 2016.
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Foreword
I can’t think of many individuals who can write more authentically about honor as it relates to leadership and engagement than Lee Ellis. As an American POW he survived 1,955 days of captivity in North Vietnam, where he saw fellow POW leaders—including Sen. John McCain—courageously uphold their honor and integrity in the toughest conditions.
I’ve had the pleasure of working with Lee in his civilian life as a leadership consultant and have admired the way he uses those experiences to help executives develop their own leadership models. He and I share a passion for doing business the honorable way and for developing leaders who will embody the character and the values that will help lead their organizations with the highest integrity.
Lee shared the foundation of his leadership philosophy in his first book, Leading with Honor. In this new book Lee expands the concept of honor in leadership and introduces the model to build a culture of Courageous Accountability, drawing on some of his POW experiences as examples.
In today’s fast-changing environment, marked by technological changes happening at warp speed, global competition and fluid business models, leaders are challenged with making difficult choices, often in uncharted territory. Leaders at all levels of experience will benefit from Lee’s leadership compass and Courageous Accountability Model as they navigate their organizations and teams on the right path to success.
Ralph de la Vega,
Vice Chairman of AT&T Inc. and CEO of AT&T Business Solutions and AT&T International, Author of Obstacles Welcome: Turn Adversity to Advantage in Business and Life
Introduction
Have you thought about the word honor and reflected on what it means? How can one word be so powerful and yet so abstract? It’s both a noun and a verb. Think about it. We give VIPs a place of honor to sit, and then they might stand to speak and say, It’s an honor to have the opportunity to address you.
We like to honor our veterans, and honorable people work hard to honor their commitments.
Though there are many nuances of this word, they all seem to connote something elevated, special, and right. It brings to mind truth, fidelity, and many aspects of what we hold high—some essence that we all can aspire to attain and give. In addition for our purposes here, we are looking at honor as an essential ingredient of trust and the binding agent in any long-lasting recipe for success. Fortunately, it has been a consistent thread throughout my entire life.
From the earliest days of my childhood, the charge to honor God, parents and our community set the standard for the way we were expected to live. Honor was firmly imbedded in the Alma Mater of my high school and college and modeled throughout my four years of military training in Air Force ROTC. We wanted to honor our country, our flag, those appointed over us, and the uniform we wore.
Three days after graduating from the University of Georgia, I was commissioned and entered flight school. Less than two years later I began flying combat missions in Southeast Asia, mainly over North Vietnam. On my 53rd mission I was shot down and captured. During the next five and a half years as a POW, there were many days when my commitment to honor my country and my fellowmen in the camps was the primary motivator that enabled me to live up to the Military Code of Conduct¹ and fulfill our mission, vision, and values, all summarized in three words—Return with Honor.
After the war I returned to flying and had a wonderful military career. It was an honor to serve. For the last eighteen years I’ve been a leadership consultant, coach, author, and speaker. What an honor and a joy it has been to help leaders gain freedom to lead higher.
In the last four years I’ve turned much of my focus to the idea of honor. This word that has been a gentle and constant refrain from the beginning has become the core of my message. The previous book was to help people lead with honor; here the intent is to go deeper and to share ideas on how to engage with honor by focusing on its guardian companion—accountability. Let’s take a quick overview of the book.
The Struggle for Honor
It seems that citizens of the entire civilized world are crying out, Where is the honor?
Why are so many unwilling to keep their commitments? Why do we see so many shamelessly put their own self-interests above their constituents, their customers, their organizations, their teammates? Where are those who are willing to make sacrifices to keep their word and honor their commitments?
I am reminded of