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    Free at Last

    By Brian Hope

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    This is a book about the sufferings of an Iranian-Canadian gay human who has been through a lot and because his psychological needs he started to self educate himself by reading psychological books and every single book taught him great life lessons and those books helped him feel much better and to survive besides having medications.

    This book is about a gay human whose parents could not accept him as a gay person because of their culture and religious backgrounds and advised him wrongly to get married to a girl and the result of this marriage is a great son of his whom he loves and cares for a lot until the very last day he lives.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisheriUniverse
    Release dateApr 19, 2011
    ISBN9781450297097
    Free at Last
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    Brian Hope

    I am an educated Iranian-Canadian gay person who has been educated in UK and received my B.Sc. in Mathematics and Computer and my CNA certificate from Vancouver, Canada. I can not reveal my real identity due to the terrible situation in Iran since I do not want my close relatives there to face any threats or danger.

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      Free at Last - Brian Hope

      Contents

      Foreword:

      About myself:

      My childhood and teen days:

      College and university days in the UK:

      Coming out to my close family:

      My first trip to USA:

      Going back to Iran from US:

      Receiving bad news about the gay cousin of mine:

      Getting to know and date my ex-wife:

      Living in the beautiful Vancouver:

      Going back to Iran again from Vancouver:

      Going to London, UK two times before coming to Toronto again:

      My ex-wife and my son left our home country heading to Toronto:

      Living in Toronto:

      Conclusion:

      Foreword:

      I am an Iranian gay guy who has lost so many good years of his life because of the wrong advice given by his parents and especially by his mom whom he used to love so dearly that he wished to be taken by god first before god takes his mom and who always listened to his mom and cared for her so much in order to be accepted by her and his father and the family. To be the good boy of his family and also being a good boy meant that he had to sacrifice half of his life in order to please his parents and their wishes. So because of being gay and also being in the closet and also due to the culture and religious background he was coming from, he experienced many deep and bad depressions and because of these states of mind he started educating himself by reading many books about psychology and those books helped him a lot and still do very much. Those books also helped him to know himself better and finally made him to come out of the closet with the help of psychotherapists to start a new life and also to lead a happy and joyful life. He realized even then his loved ones can be very unloving and can destroy their loved ones life because of wrong beliefs or lack of knowledge or even thinking that they are doing good to their loved ones and not knowing that they are destroying their loved ones life which happened in my case.

      But I am out of the closet about more than a year now although as I tell all my friends I am financially down the hill but I am mentally up the hill and must be careful not to fall off the hill.

      The only good lessons he learned from his parents were not to lie to anyone, always greet the elderly, to be polite and considerate of others, to be tolerant of others (their characteristics and thoughts), never use drugs and never have too much of anything because too much of anything (including alcohol) would destroy one’s life. To stay healthy by eating healthy food and doing any kind of sport one’s like in order to be fit and strong and stay healthy and the last but not the least never smoke cigarette (this one I did not listen and suffered a lot from it by having a lot of problems with my tooth and started having pain in the heart. And now it has been fifteen years I do not smoke and my energy has been tripled that I do not believe it myself.) So from the experience I would recommend all these as well, to anyone who wants to have a good and healthy life.

      Sometimes that person used to ask god? Why is he suffering this much? What has he done wrong? Did he lie to anyone? Did he hurt anyone emotionally or physically? Did he abuse anyone? Did he cheat anyone? So when the answers to all the above questions are No, why should he suffer so much? Maybe he was born in this world by mistake! Maybe he should not be living with the people who hurt him so much emotionally! But after all those bad days and times he finally found and accepted his real self and now he is happy. He is happy as a free human being with gay sexual orientation. And he is free at last because after so many years god responded to all his prays and requests for help and survival.

      The main reason which made me write this book is when I heard so many people here and elsewhere committed or commit suicide, these kinds of news make me very sad and I sometimes cry for them that why did they do that? Because life is beautiful and very precious if we open our eyes and look at it with a bright sight not a dark sight. So we should not waste it, it is a gift given to us by god. You have to go to some other countries (and I mean not developed, under developed or semi developed countries) and then you will realize and see for yourself that you are living in heaven (I mean Toronto, Canada) and the number of opportunities which are available to you here. Then you appreciate who and what you are and what you have and then you will be optimistic and will look at your life with a bright sight. Because as we have a saying in Persian (Farsi) language which is very rich language regarding the literature and poetry After a dark night there is going to be a bright day for sure.

      No matter what gender, what skin colour, what race, what sexual orientation, what religion, and culture we have? The main thing is we are all humans so we should respect, and care for each other as one and be considerate of each other and also help each other in any way we can no matter what as long as

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