Living Your Big Juicy Life

Welcome and congratulations! Congratulations? But you might say you haven’t done anything yet. Yes you did, you bought this book, and that must mean you are looking for more from your life. That must mean you are ready to make some changes in your life so you can be happier. I think that deserves a quick pat on the back. You are awesome. Way to go!

So you might be wondering what a Big Juicy Life is anyway. How can your life be juicy? Well, the dictionary defines juicy as something that is lucrative, succulent, rich in interest, sensational, colorful, titillating, seductive, and satisfying. Doesn’t that sound delicious? Soon you will be using those words to describe your life!

In simpler terms, living a Big Juicy Life means your life is filled with love, joy and success. When that happens, your life will be all that you ever dreamed of and nothing will be unattainable. You will see and experience the world around you like never before. You will feel energized and be unstoppable. Are you ready to start living the life of your dreams?

In this book, I am going to give you the secrets that will change your life forever. It does not matter where you are in your life right now; these principles will help you find more love, joy and success. They will work for everyone, and you can start using them today!

Let’s take a look at some of the secrets you will learn in this book:

You will learnhow to love yourself and know that you are enough

You willdiscover what the life of your dreamsactuallylooks like

You will stop procrastinating andlearn to get things done

You will be able to look within and find answers to all your questions

You will know howto quickly and easily bringmore happiness into your life

You will not fear changeanymoreand you will take control of your life

You will believe that you can do and be anything you desire

You will learn to have better romantic relationships by looking within

You will learn to get what you want by just asking for it

You will learn that moneyis best spenton experiences

You will learn to incorporate laughter into your daily life

But wait, there’s more! You will learn a lot more secrets in this book. This book will also show you how to take advantage of the endless opportunities for you to have more love, joy and success.

That Sounds Great, How Do I Make It Happen

Acquiring knowledge is vital to making changes in your life, but it is just one aspect of personal growth. You must put this new knowledge into action. It is a necessary step that many other self-help, motivational type books do not teach. It’s a good thing that this book is special. In this book, I will show you how to put these new concepts to use in your daily life. At the end of each chapter, I will offer you an action plan to help you get the most out of that chapter’s lesson.

The more action plans you incorporate into your life, the more energized you will become. Once you see the success and positive effect of using the action plans, you will look forward to each new principle. Each new principle will allow you to build on the previous one. Soon you will be taking different actions and you will be getting different results than in the past. And that my friend is where all the magic happens.

Incorporating these action plans into your life is important for you to fully benefit from this book. Don’t be like some people I know and just read the book and never do the exercises. I am just kidding of course. Do only what you feel comfortable with.

This Is Your Personal Journal

* I encourage you to write in this book and use it as a guidepost for your personal growth. It is important for you to be as honest and open as you can when doing the exercises. Do not feel like you have to impress anybody or look for the right answers. As a matter of fact, there are no right or wrong answers. Just allow yourself the freedom to be able to express yourself fully and from your heart. The more you are able to do that, the more you will gain from this book.

Learn From My Experiences

We are going to have a great time together on your journey to living your Big Juicy Life. Along the way, I will make you laugh, make you smile, and make you see your life like never before. One of the ways I am going to do that is by sharing my personal stories with you. They are examples of some of my greatest successes and also some of my biggest challenges and failures. It is through the combination and contrast of my varied life experiences that I gained the knowledge I am going to share with you. They will help you understand the main points of each chapter and see how they relate to real life.

Many Aha Moments In This Book

Now let me forewarn you. While reading this book, you are going to experience a lot of Aha moments. An Aha moment is when you suddenly come across something that makes you happy. I am not talking about discovering a twenty-dollar bill in your old jeans pocket, but more like a sudden awakening of something profound. It could be a realization that the answers to your biggest questions were right in front of you the entire time. It could be a new way of looking at things that you never considered before. It could be a new way of doing something that will give you more opportunities for love, joy and success. Good things are in store for you!

Feel Free To Jump Around

One of the great things about this book is that you do not need to read the chapters in order. Each one can stand on its own without having to read the previous or subsequent chapter. Feel free to be a rebel and jump around to the chapters that resonate with you the most. Just promise me you will read the entire book, I trust you.

You Can Have The Life Of Your Dreams

Congratulations on beginning this journey to have more love, joy and success in your life. You are an amazing being and you deserve it. Even though we have never met, I do know this; it is possible for you to live a happier and more fulfilled life. This book will show you how to change your thinking, change your actions, and change your life.

We are all in this experience together, and it is my privilege to offer you a helping hand. I look forward to your journey and I know that you will succeed. I hope to meet you sometime in the future and hear how this book has made a difference in your life. Now let’s get juicy.

* Since you cannot write in this electronic version of the book, I encourage you to print out and complete the action plans included at the end of each chapter. They are powerful exercises that can help change your life.

Introduction

I am happy and honored that you are going to let me help you have more love, joy and success in your life. Since we are going to be spending some time together and I am going to be sharing my deepest and darkest secrets with you, I think we should get to know each other a little better, I’ll go first.

I was born and raised in central New Jersey, and no, I don’t sound like Rocky Balboa. In 1998, I moved to Las Vegas and have been living here ever since. I have had a great life so far. It has been filled with excitement, romance and success. My life is an amazing example of someone living the life of their dreams, or so it seemed.

Let me tell you about some of the fun and exciting jobs I’ve had. I was a police officer for 14 years. I have felt the adrenaline rush of being in high speed car chases, being on the SWAT team and knocking down doors in drug raids. I was also an actor and a model. I appeared in several commercials and worked as a performer on the world famous Las Vegas strip. I was a flair bartender, and flipped bottles at one of the best bars in the world. I am currently a professional speaker and recently received a standing ovation from an international audience of over 240 people.

In many areas of my life, I have been an overachiever. I have been quite successful in school. I have a bachelor’s degree in Criminal Justice and am also board certified in Radiography. I graduated with a 4.0 GPA and received several scholarships and awards. I was the class president in college and also in the fourth grade. They were only slightly different.

In my personal life, I was good looking, funny and charismatic. I had lots of girlfriends and didn’t have any trouble getting dates. I was fun to be around and was usually the life of the party. I had many good times traveling all around the world with my friends. I lived my life in the fast lane and was always going somewhere or doing something.

Now if I just stopped right here, you might think I would be the perfect person to teach you how to live the life of your dreams. It would seem like I had the life that many would envy. The truth is there was another side to my life that nobody ever saw. My life was not as glamorous and shiny as it appeared. I struggled with low self-esteem, I was lousy in relationships, and I could never seem to find a sense of happiness that would last. My life seemed to be like two opposite sides of the same coin.

It is the contrast of living a full and happy life in some areas and struggling in others that has allowed me to gain the knowledge I am going to share with you. In this book, I will not only share some of my biggest successes with you, I will also share my struggles and mistakes. And believe me, I have made plenty of mistakes. If you ever feel like beating yourself up, you can take comfort in knowing I probably have made more blunders than you.

The good news is I am still alive and I am in the best spot in my life that I have ever been. I am the happiest, the most self-loving, and the most open I have ever been. It has taken me longer than I would have liked to finally get here and I wish I did not experience so much pain along the way, but the truth is it probably couldn’t have happened any other way.

Everything in your life has led you to where you are currently in your life also, and wherever you are in your life right now, I want you to know you can be happier and more fulfilled. It is a beautiful thing that we can always choose where we want to go from here. I invite you to learn from my experiences, my mistakes and my life so that you may begin living the life of your dreams.

Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.

- Marcus Aurelius

Chapter 1: You Can Have It All

Many of us feel it is not possible to live a life filled with as much love, joy and success as we would like. We think it must not be our destiny. We look at others’ lives all around us and everyone else seems to be so happy. It seems like their lives are perfect. They come into work bragging about their new car, their new promotion, or how their partner made them heart shaped pancakes for breakfast. It can stir up a lot of conflicting emotions in us. We feel torn between wanting to congratulate them or wanting to spill a little coffee on their shoe when they are not looking.

The good news is we all can have the life of our dreams, and yes that definitely includes you! This isn’t just wishful thinking or some type of Jedi mind trick, it is reality. It is time to stop thinking that others have everything they want because they possess qualities that you do not have. Nothing could be further from the truth.

You have all you need to have a great relationship, feel successful and be happy. You might be asking yourself if that is true, then why hasn’t it happened yet, it’s not like you haven’t been trying. What are you missing? Let’s start by clarifying a few things.

The roads to finding love, joy and success are winding. The paths to being happy and fulfilled do not follow a straight line. There are many twists, detours and a couple dead ends along the way. It seems like no matter how well you plan your life, there are unexpected situations that occur. Our lives are purposefully designed so that there are many surprises along the way. Life is like a box of chocol- never mind, you get the idea. But all of that is great because that is one of the reasons why life is so much fun.

It is through the magic of the unknown that makes life so interesting. The ever-changing ways your life unfolds guarantees that you will see new places, meet new people and have new experiences. It is through all those new interactions that give you unlimited opportunities for love, joy and success. The problem is you probably haven’t been seeing the opportunities that have been right in front of you. It is time to open your eyes and see things in a new way.

You Are Not Stuck

Many times in life, we can feel like we are stuck. We feel like life is beyond our control and the odds are not forever in our favor. This feeling of being stuck can bring on a sense of frustration, lethargy and sadness. I am here to tell you a little secret, whisper this as you read it, it makes the secret seem even more profound. You are not stuck, you have never been stuck and you never will be stuck.

The feeling of being stuck is just an illusion. It is purely a mind control trick. It is a game that your mind has been playing with you. Many times we feel stuck because of something that has happened in our past. We incorrectly believe that the past equals the future. Let me give you an example of how your mind can trick you into believing that you are stuck.

The Elephant And The Rope

Have you ever seen pictures or video of elephants standing outside of the tents at the circus? They usually have a rope tied around one of their legs and the other end is attached to a stake in the ground. The ropes are quite thin and flimsy. I always wondered why the elephant just doesn’t break the rope and walk over to the concession stand. I think he would enjoy a bag of roasted peanuts in between shows.

It would be an easy task for the elephant to use its massive strength to either break the rope or pull the stake out of the ground. I wondered why the elephant doesn’t realize it has all the power in the world to set itself free. What has happened to these amazing animals that they have forgotten how much power they have and allow themselves to be stuck?

Here is where it gets tricky. The way they train the elephant to stay in one place is by teaching it from a young age to give up. The way they do this is when the elephant is young, they put a chain around the elephant’s leg and attach it to a stake in the ground. Even though the elephant tugs and pulls on the chain as hard as it can, it is not strong enough to break free.

After a while, the elephant stops trying to break free. It accepts its fate of being stuck anytime the chain is placed around its leg. Eventually the trainers do not even need to use a chain anymore, they can use a flimsy rope and that will have the same effect. What a dirty trick that is, huh. No wonder elephants get pissed off and storm through the town when they figure out they can break free from the flimsy rope and could have broken free much sooner.

Now here is the important part of the story. Even as the elephant grows from being a child into an adult, it never stops believing that whenever something is attached to one of its legs, it is powerless to overcome it and has to stay where it is. The elephant has been conditioned to keep reliving past experiences and does not realize things are different now. It does not realize it is much stronger than when