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    Change Pain to Gain: The Secrets of Turning Conflict Into Opportunity
    Change Pain to Gain: The Secrets of Turning Conflict Into Opportunity
    Change Pain to Gain: The Secrets of Turning Conflict Into Opportunity
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    Change Pain to Gain: The Secrets of Turning Conflict Into Opportunity

    By Patricia McGinnis

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    Do you fear or avoid conflict? You don't need to. Everyone can "Change Pain to Gain" through understanding and by applying a set of “secrets” that help us turn conflict into opportunity. The secrets are specific skills we may recognize, but far too often do not fully understand or apply in conflict situations.

    Using her extensive work as a trainer, teacher, mediator, and group facilitator, Patricia McGinnis discusses the practical secrets within a comprehensive philosophy of conflict and conflict resolution. In clear language and through the use of easily understood and attractive graphics, readers are empowered to become more effective in understanding and dealing with all types of conflicts.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateAug 23, 2015
    ISBN9781941870433
    Change Pain to Gain: The Secrets of Turning Conflict Into Opportunity

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      Change Pain to Gain - Patricia McGinnis

      Copyright © 2015 by J.P. McGinnis, Inc.

      All rights reserved.

      Printed in the United States of America.

      No part of this publication may be reproduced or distributed in any forms or any means,

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      Vista Way, Suite 316, Oceanside, CA 92054.

      Neither the publisher nor the author is engaged in rendering legal or other professional services

      through this book. If expert assistance is required, the services of an appropriate professional

      should be sought. The publisher and the author shall have neither liability nor responsibility

      to any person or entity with respect to any loss or damage caused directly or indirectly by the

      information in this publication.

      ISBN-10: 1-941870-40-6

      ISBN-13: 978-1-941870-40-2

      ISBN: 978-1-941870-43-3

      LOC: 2015947902

      Illustrations by Jon Steining

      Edited by Sharron Stockhausen, stockink.com

      Designed by Joni McPherson, mcphersongraphics.com

      INDIE BOOKS INTERNATIONAL, LLC

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      TABLE OF CONTENTS

      Foreword

      Acknowledgements

      SECRET 1: Conflict Does Not Need to Be Feared

      SECRET 2: Conflict Can Turn into Opportunity

      SECRET 3: Burning Anger Just Burns You

      SECRET 4: My Way or the Highway is the Wrong Way

      SECRET 5: Let Your Values Be Your Compass

      SECRET 6: Stop Assuming and Start Asking Questions

      SECRET 7: Conflict Masqueraders Could Derail You

      SECRET 8: Embrace Conflict to Find Peace

      APPENDIX A: Conflict Quotes

      APPENDIX B: Seven Norms of Collaborative Work

      APPENDIX C: Organize Thoughts for a Difficult Conversation, or Jump on the Merry-Go-Round

      APPENDIX D: Examine Use of Power

      APPENDIX E: Conflict Cycle Reflection

      APPENDIX F: Questions to Open the Gift

      APPENDIX G: Self-Test on Conflict Management Styles

      APPENDIX H: Define Opportunities to Give Conflict a Second Chance

      Additional Resources

      About the Author

      FOREWORD

      Conflict is one of the possible outcomes of diversity and differences.

      We have the capacity to deal with conflicts effectively, rather than fearing them or trying to avoid them. As the title of Patricia McGinnis’ excellent book expresses it, we can Change Pain to Gain through understanding and applying a set of secrets that help us turn conflict into opportunity. The secrets are specific skills we may recognize, but far too often do not fully understand or apply in conflict situations.

      Using her extensive work as a trainer, teacher, mediator, and group facilitator, Ms. McGinnis discusses the practical secrets within a comprehensive philosophy of conflict and conflict resolution. In clear language and through the use of easily understood and attractive graphics, readers are empowered to become more effective in understanding and dealing with all types of conflicts. Change Pain to Gain presents inspiring stories and real-life examples that enrich the secrets in ways readers can identify with and begin using immediately. Quotes from a diverse array of creative thinkers add further insight as well as humor.

      Among many features of the book that impress me, two deserve special mention. One is the genuine and powerful way the author relates personal examples from her own life. It’s as though she is having a comfortable, respectful, and enlightening conversation with each reader. The second feature is the creative and resource-rich Appendix. The Appendix in many books is often ignored by readers. Not in this book.

      Readers will want to devour all of it.

      Dudley Weeks, PhD

      Author of the best-selling The Eight Essential Steps to Conflict Resolution

      ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

      In my dispute resolution world, I see husbands and wives turn against each other, educators and parents spending tax dollars on adversarial conflict instead of on the education of children, and work teams feeling devalued by each other. There are ways to engage in conflict respectfully by intently listening, clearly communicating, and creatively solving problems. Please have an open mind as you read Change Pain to Gain. It may seem like the ideas in Change Pain to Gain are not secrets, but widely known ideas to many. However, this cannot be so. If the secrets disclosed were known already, there would not be so much conflict in our world that damages friends, families, colleagues, communities, and countries. I

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