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    From Ouch! To Ahhh...: The New Mom's Guide To Sex After Baby
    From Ouch! To Ahhh...: The New Mom's Guide To Sex After Baby
    From Ouch! To Ahhh...: The New Mom's Guide To Sex After Baby
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    From Ouch! To Ahhh...: The New Mom's Guide To Sex After Baby

    By Sarah J Swofford, MPH

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    Are you wondering why sex is difficult since you became a mother? You are not alone. The truth is having a baby can change everything you thought you knew about sexual intimacy and desire. From Ouch! To Ahhh…The New Mom’s Guide To Sex After Baby addresses what most new moms wonder but few know who to ask: Why is sex so different after baby? Why do I feel so disconnected from my partner? What happened to my libido? Is something wrong with me? Drawing on interviews with moms, sexual health and relationship research, and her own experiences as a mom of two, Swofford uncovers the answers to common new mom sexual challenges and provides practical solutions to empower and reassure any woman.

    From Ouch! To Ahhh… will help you:
    -Understand that sexual challenges are normal for new moms.
    -Troubleshoot sexual intimacy problems.
    -Explore creative avenues to sexual arousal.
    -Find ways to take care of yourself emotionally, physically, as well as sexually.
    -Improve sexual communication with your partner.

    A valuable addition to any parent’s bookshelf, this book will guide you through the sexual ups and downs of early motherhood while showing you that what you learn about yourself and your relationship in the process will ultimately enhance and deepen your sexuality.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherBookBaby
    Release dateJun 19, 2014
    ISBN9780990464204
    From Ouch! To Ahhh...: The New Mom's Guide To Sex After Baby

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      From Ouch! To Ahhh... - Sarah J Swofford, MPH

      Swofford

      Dedication

      This book is dedicated to every woman who shared her truth about sex after babies.

      And to the women who inspired me to write about this topic and who reminded me how important sexual empowerment is for moms. You know who you are; I am honored to call you my friends.

      Finally, to every woman who has felt despair about her sex life, this book is for you. You are not alone. You are beautiful, sensual, and powerful just as you are.

      Introduction

      You probably never imagined you would read a book about sex for new moms. To be honest, I never thought I would write one, either. That is, until my first child was born, and my sexual desire disappeared right along with full nights of sleep and a clean house.

      I thought I would never want to have sex again.

      I looked in vain for a book I could read that would tell me if this was normal or if something was wrong with me. After talking with other moms who felt the same way about sex after having a baby, I realized the book moms needed didn’t exist. As an experienced sex educator, I decided to write it myself.

      Maybe you are thinking, I am not sure I want to read a book that is going to make me try to have sex that I do not feel like having in the first place.

      I get it. Here is what you should know: this book is not going to tell you to do things that do not feel good or right to you. This book explains why sex is so challenging after having a baby and helps you find strategies and approaches to sex that honor your feelings and needs.

      New motherhood is full of contradictions. It is a hard, challenging, and wonderful time that is also ripe with opportunity. New moms stress about their babies, about getting motherhood right, and about doing everything else (and I mean everything) right. Moms, experienced and new alike, can feel haunted by trying to achieve perfection. But guess what? We never will be perfect. In fact, we are at our most perfect when we honor ourselves and learn to accept and appreciate ourselves just as we are in this moment. New motherhood gives you an opportunity to embrace the chaos and know that you are doing the best you can—including in your sex life.

      Becoming a mom changes your identity. You are connected to your child and your partner in ways that alter how you see yourself. You are now responsible for another human being. Who you are will continue to evolve as your child gets older.

      This book will help you become acquainted with these new aspects of yourself and teach you to embrace them. This is the beginning of your journey to discover the sensual woman you are as a mother.

      Throughout this book you are going to learn how to cope with the physical and emotional difficulties of new motherhood. You will also identify what makes you feel sexy, sensual, and aroused, and learn to deepen sexual arousal and pleasure. Finally, the strategies in this book will help you deepen your intimacy with your partner.

      As we begin, keep in mind that feeling happy and confident about your sex life is not about how much sex you have. It is about understanding that you get to decide what is right for you.

      About This Book

      This book is your guide back to enjoyable and fulfilling sex as a new mom. You are going to learn about common troubles new moms have that make sex difficult. You will understand why you feel the way you do about sex and why these feelings are normal.

      I am mom to two young children and I understand how challenging it can be to feel sexual again after having a baby. As a sex educator with a master’s degree in public health, I have talked with and taught hundreds of people about sex, including moms like you. For this book I interviewed dozens of moms who shared with me what sex after babies was like for them, and what helped them reclaim a new sex life.

      As one mom told me, We share our best gardening tips, so why don’t we share our best sexual tips? Moms sure could learn a lot from each other.

      This book is full of inspiration, advice, and personal experiences from the moms I interviewed.

      There is one message, however, that I hope will stay with you after you have finished reading. It is this: you are normal. You are normal if sex hurts. You are normal if you are never in the mood for sex. You are normal if you resent having to think about sex. And you are normal if you are looking for a new lease on your sexual life. I imagine that is why you are reading this book. You are looking for

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