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    Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice
    Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice
    Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice
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    Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice

    By Mary Stormont

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    Are you or someone you love facing the reality of moving to an extended care nursing home? This thought strikes terror into the hearts of most as, let's face it, nursing homes don't generally have the best reputations. But nursing homes aren't necessarily bad-they are just different. Let me help you choose the facility that best meets your needs, and then give you lots of ways to make the experience the best it can be. As a Registered Nurse I spent years in various facilities, working as a nursing assistant (aide), floor nurse, charge nurse, and Director of Nursing. Outlined in this booklet are lots of tips for enhancing nursing home life on a daily basis, with practical ideas based on real life experiences. Topics include choosing the right facility for you, cleanliness, medications, laundry, bath tubs, family interaction, etc. Let me help you make this next chapter of life the best it can be!

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherMary Stormont
    Release dateJun 20, 2014
    ISBN9781310936944
    Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice
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    Mary Stormont

    Mary Stormont holds a Bachelor of Science Degree from Montana State University, and an Associate Degree from Rock Valley College in Rockford, IL. When her marriage of twelve years ended, she began a search for happiness in this life, and the true road to heaven, which culminated in the booklet, "Are You Sure? Are You REALLY Going to Heaven?"As a Registered Nurse she worked in numerous medical facilities in several states, and her experience covers all areas of nursing, but her primary interest lies in geriatric care. She has acted as county Home Health Coordinator, charge nurse, and as Director of Nursing in various facilities, but Nursing Homes have always been her primary interest. "Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice" is a compilation of observations and ideas that have been gathered over the years as she worked in these various nursing settings.For printed copies of her books, contact her at: mstormont8@gmail.com

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      Choosing a Nursing Home and Living With Your Choice - Mary Stormont

      Mary Stormont holds a BS degree from Montana State University, as well as an Associate Degree in Nursing from Rock Valley College in Rockford, IL. She has worked over the years in numerous medical facilities in several states, and her experience covers all areas of nursing, but her primary interest lies in geriatric care.

      She has acted as county Home Health Coordinator, charge nurse, and as Director of Nursing in various facilities, but Nursing Homes have always been her primary interest. This is a compilation of observations and ideas that have been gathered over the years as she worked in these various nursing settings.

      The information presented here should be very useful for the resident as well as the family member facing the nursing home situation in their lives. The nursing home is not a warehouse, or the end – it is simply another environment, another aspect of our lives. While not all of us will ultimately enter a nursing home, for those of us who will, there are numerous ways to make the experience more positive and rewarding.

      Mary presents thoughts, ideas, and recommendations to enhance this environment and to make the nursing home experience all that it can be for yourself and/or your loved ones, and presents them here in a quick and easy to read style. You may cry, you may smile, but you will certainly gain some valuable knowledge from this book. Enjoy!

      Myrna Mink, MSN, LE

      Former Nursing Professor, Seattle Pacific University

      Choosing A Nursing Home And Living With Your Choice

      by Mary Stormont BS, RN

      Copyright 1999 by Mary Stormont BS, RN

      Smashwords Edition

      All Rights Reserved

      This ebook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This ebook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this ebook with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this ebook and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of this author.

      All names have been changed to protect privacy except for that of my son, Sean, and my good friend, Myrna.

      Table of Contents

      1. Introduction

      2. Staying Home

      3. Assisted Living Facilities

      4. Nursing Homes

      5. Cleanliness

      6. Appearances

      7. Christian Facilities

      8. Bathtubs?

      9. Laundry

      10. Clothing - What to Bring

      11. Jewelry

      12. Safety and Restraints

      13. Incontinence

      14. Resuscitate/DNR/Living Will/Etc.

      15. Power of Attorney

      16. Job Descriptions: Who Does What?

      17. The Little Things?

      18. Mind Tapes

      19. Family

      20. Alzheimer’s

      21. Nurse Consultants

      22. Abuse

      23. Angels

      A note from the author

      1. Introduction

      I saw a bumper sticker one day that read Be good to your children for they will pick your nursing home! At first I laughed, as I supposed it was designed to make me do, but later I began to reflect on just what it had really said, and it wasn’t so funny anymore. In a way, it is a true saying, but as the significance of the saying struck home, I began to reflect on the conception most people have of nursing homes in general, especially the elderly. And then it came to me that most people haven’t the foggiest idea what nursing homes are all about, how they operate, or even how to go about choosing one, should the need arise.

      Now, while I don’t consider myself an expert, I do have what I feel are the necessary qualifications to at least present an intelligent and realistic view on the subject, having spent the majority of my nursing years in nursing homes - and loving them, I might add. Dealing with the elderly has been one of the most positive experiences in my life - they are wonderful! Ah! The stories they can tell - but that is another subject altogether.

      I would simply like to present what I feel are the best ways to pick a nursing home - and then live with your decision, making life in that environment the most rewarding and positive that it can be. And trust me, life in a nursing home CAN be rewarding and enjoyable. But this experience, like most others in life that are positive, require a little work by the participants to ensure the outcome is as we would desire it to be. Let me show you how to chose, and then live with your choice of a nursing home.

      2. Staying Home

      If you are reading this, you probably are facing somewhat of a dilemma. Mom has been at home, either living with you, or living in her own home, but you don’t feel you can keep her there any longer. You don’t want to put her in a nursing home, but you just don’t know what else to do. You have a life to lead, maybe you have children still at home, and a husband or wife who needs you also. So what can you do?

      I want to put a few suggestions out here, just in case Mom really CAN still stay at home, wherever home may be.

      First of all, family is always the best help there is, if they have time. In larger families, it is easier to do. You just take turns. I know of families that simply said no way, Mom will stay at home if it kills us. (In some instances, it almost did, by the way.) Anyway, there were lots of older children in these families, and they took turns staying with Mom for one to two weeks at a time. It was hard, and their families had to adjust to their being away for a period of time, but since they all took turns at it, it wasn’t a particularly difficult burden for any one individual. And they were able to keep their loved one at home until they died.

      Check into home health agencies. Ask your doctor, or look in the phone book in the Yellow Pages. Home health agencies are everywhere, and you will be amazed at what services can be provided in the home, and Medicare and Medicaid often will pay the entire cost. So don’t despair until you have checked this aspect out.

      Sometimes you can hire help privately to stay with Mom full time, depending on how much help Mom needs. This can get expensive, but then you have to weigh the cost against Mom’s desire to stay at home, and what you can afford. Factor everything in to arrive at what you can and can’t do.

      I have seen families simply refuse to put Mom in a nursing home. There were only one or two family members willing and able to take care of her at home, and they literally almost killed themselves doing it. Sometimes it is simply too much for one or two people to handle, and you have to face that if it applies to you. I know it is hard, especially when your loved one says I won't go to a nursing home. I want to stay in my own home. I can take care of myself. (You KNOW she/he can’t!) You just don’t want me around anymore. You are being selfish, and after all I did for you ... The elderly can be very manipulative if they want to be at times. And they are sincere! They DON’T want to leave their homes. None of us do. But

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