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    Heart: Mind - Warmth and Light in Your Relationships
    Heart: Mind - Warmth and Light in Your Relationships
    Heart: Mind - Warmth and Light in Your Relationships
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    Heart: Mind - Warmth and Light in Your Relationships

    By Robert Broenen PsyD

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    WE HUMANS are social animals. We spend most of our time relating to other people.

    Relationships are one of the most important things in our lives. And yet we rarely take the time to examine our relationships objectively and determine what they add to our lives. Do they enhance or detract? What makes the good relationships work? How can we ensure they continue to do so? Why do others detract? And, what can we do about it?

    Dr. Robert Broenen, a psychologist, and his daughter, Dr. Mari Broenen, a university professor, explored the dynamics of interpersonal relating and created the Heart : Mind model--a simple and effective system for identifying, evaluating, understanding and optimizing your interactions with others. Additional free articles by Drs. Broenen are available at www.RealPsychSolutions.com.

    Heart : Mind—Warmth and Light in Your Relationships is a practical guidebook for making the most of all your relationships--from the casual to the intimate.

    This concise and easy-to-use book takes you through all the steps you need to create rewarding relationships throughout your life.

    This eBook provides:

    * Guided exercises in which you identify about a dozen of your most important relationships and then rank each for their importance and satisfaction.
    * An analysis of how relationships are formed by engaging your heart and mind.
    * An explanation of the authors’ unique Heart : Mind model, which identifies four fundamentally different kinds of sustainable, and potentially rewarding relationship types ranging from the casual to the intimate.
    * An outline of five uniquely different approaches which you can apply in artfully and skillfully managing your relationships while maximizing effectiveness and satisfaction.
    * A summary of the rewards which you can derive from the Heart : Mind approach throughout your life.

    Table of Contents

    PART ONE: YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

    With Whom Do You Have Relationships?
    Who Gets on Your List?

    PART TWO: THE Heart : Mind WAY

    How Relationships Start and Grow
    How Heart and Mind Team Up to Create Engaging
    How Heart : Mind Blends Give You Options For Engaging
    The Heart : Mind Model

    PART THREE: YOUR WAYS OF RELATING

    What Types Are Your Relationships?
    How Are Your Relationships Doing?

    PART FOUR: YOUR APPROACHES

    What Ways Work
    How You Can Refresh A Healthy Relationship Using Heart : Mind
    How You Can Relocate A Healthy Relationship Using Heart : Mind
    How You Can Revive An Ailing Relationship Using Heart : Mind
    When You Choose to Reframe Your Relating, Heart : Mind Can Help
    How You Can Retire a Failed Relationship Using Heart : Mind
    Your “Portfolio” of Relationship Approaches

    PART FIVE: YOUR REWARDS

    How Heart : Mind Relating Can Enrich Your Life
    Why You Should Try Heart : Mind Relating

    Reader's Comments

    "Your book was a godsend for me. I was troubled by a couple of relationships for some time this year. Your tools for examination of these friendships were very helpful. The work you have done is worthwhile, practical and accessible...You presented the contact process so well with transact vs engage. I had become somewhat wary about engaging in the past but am becoming more open to it. Also on making my own choices rather than being 'chosen'." Judith Strupp Green, Anthropologist

    "A terrific book. It’s action-oriented, short enough that people will read it and has a light tone. I... am beginning to think maybe I’m not really too old for another self-help book... I’ve thought of several relationships that could use a tune-up and have acted on one so far." Warren Gibson, Professor

    "The book addresses many important issues in the process of establishing relationships in a hands-on, approachable way." Dale Novina, Executive Coach

    "I liked it...I think it’s easy to read, well written and infinitely applicable." Linda Haines, Consul

    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherReal Psych Solutions
    Release dateJan 5, 2012
    ISBN9781466052932
    Heart: Mind - Warmth and Light in Your Relationships
    Author

    Robert Broenen PsyD

    Robert Broenen, Psy. D. , is a psychologist who holds a master’s degree in philosophy from the University of Toronto and a doctorate in psychology from Pepperdine University. He makes his home in southern California. His website is: www.findingmypath.com. Mari Broenen, PhD, is University Professor and Department Chair at Brown Mackie College,Tucson. She holds master’s and doctoral degrees in mythological studies and depth psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. She resides in Arizona. Her website is: www.maribroenen.com. Robert and Mari are father and daughter.

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      Heart - Robert Broenen PsyD

      Comments On The Book

      • Your book was a godsend for me. I was troubled by a couple of relationships for some time this year. Your tools for examination of these friendships were very helpful. The work you have done is worthwhile, practical and accessible…You presented the contact process so well with transact vs. engage. I had become somewhat wary about engaging in the past but am becoming more open to it. Also on making my own choices rather than being chosen. JG, Anthropologist

      • A terrific book. It’s action-oriented, short enough that people will read it and has a light tone. I… am beginning to think maybe I’m not really too old for another self-help book… I’ve thought of several relationships that could use a tune-up and have acted on one so far. WG, Professor

      • The book addresses many important issues in the process of establishing relationships in a hands-on, approachable way. DN, Educator

      • I liked it…I think it’s easy to read, well written and infinitely applicable. LH, Executive Coach

      HEART : MIND

      Warmth and Light in Your Relationships

      A Personal Guidebook for Creating Great Relationships by Engaging Heart and Mind

      By

      Robert Broenen, PsyD and Mari Broenen, PhD

      Copyright 2011 by Robert Broenen and Mari Broenen. All Rights Reserved.

      Published by Real Psych Solutions at Smashwords.

      Editing, Layout, Design and Cover by Stefan Unger, Real Psych Solutions Marketing Services

      Contact: marketing-services@RealPsychSolutions.com

      Smashwords Version: 1/2012

      This eBook is licensed for your personal enjoyment only. This eBook may not be re-sold or given away to other people. If you would like to share this book with another person, please purchase an additional copy for each recipient. If you’re reading this book and did not purchase it, or it was not purchased for your use only, then please return to Smashwords.com and purchase your own copy. Thank you for respecting the hard work of these authors.

      Table of Contents

      Foreword

      PART ONE: YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

      PART TWO: THE HEART : MIND WAY

      PART THREE: YOUR WAYS OF RELATING

      PART FOUR: YOUR APPROACHES

      PART FIVE: YOUR REWARDS

      In Closing

      ***:***

      Foreword

      You want to live a happy life. Most of what you do every day involves relating with other people. So it follows that to live in a satisfying and fulfilling way, you need to relate to others in an effective manner.

      Healthy, happy and successful relating doesn’t just happen. To do it right, you need knowledge about relating and skill in applying what you know.

      This book shows you a special method for developing that capability within yourself and using that method in all your relationships.

      In order to have successful relationships, you need to pay attention to how you invest both your heart and your mind in each individual relationship.

      • Your Heart represents your caring about the other person.

      • Your Mind represents your thinking about the other person.

      Hence, we call special attention to this as Heart : Mind, the ratio of emotion (warmth) and thought (light) that you personally bring to your relationships.

      Heart : Mind relating is based on a model created by the authors which encompasses four distinctly different kinds of relationships. Each kind is appropriate for a different part of your relating life, from the most casual to the most intimate. Because you are in control of how much Heart and Mind you devote to engaging with another person, you can create different kinds of relationships by varying the blend, or mix of your Heart and your Mind.

      This personal guidebook will help you:

      1) Identify the kinds of relationships you have.

      2) Enhance your relating skills by clarifying your understanding of how relating works.

      3) Cultivate the right kind of relationship to suit your needs and those of the other person.

      4) Apply these skills artfully in your various relationships throughout your life.

      The book will provide you with guided opportunities to thoughtfully examine each of your important relationships in order to enhance the better ones, figure out what to do with the others and anticipate what kinds of relationships you want to create in the future.

      Rich rewards can come your way if you use this book as a personal guide.

      It’s up to you!

      ***:***

      The Heart : Mind Model of Interpersonal Relationships by Robert Broenen and Mari Broenen.

      ***:***

      PART ONE: YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

      With Whom Do You Have Relationships?

      Because we’re all social animals, we all have relationships. We just take this for granted. We don’t usually ask ourselves:

      • How many relationships do I have?

      • What kinds of relationships are these?

      • Which are the ones that are critical to my quality of life and which are expendable?

      • What do I need to do to do a good job of managing my portfolio of relationships?

      This guidebook shows you how to enhance your relationships using a new approach that we develop here. A good place to start this process is for you to identify the relatively small number of relationships that form the core of your relating life.For just about everyone, most of our relating time is spent with a relatively small number of people—perhaps a dozen maximum.¹ This chapter helps you make a considered list of your most important relationships, as the first step in the process.

      Who Gets on Your List?

      To get on your list, each person must be someone who is in some way important in your life.

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