It's Not About Me: Rescue From the Life We Thought Would Make Us Happy
By Max Lucado
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There really is more to this life than you've been told.
We've been demanding our way since day one ...
"I want a spouse that makes me happy and coworkers that always ask my opinion."
"I want weather that suits me and traffic that helps me and government that serves me."
Self-promotion. Self-preservation. Self-centeredness ...
"It's all about me."
They all told us it was, didn't they? And we took them up on it. We thought self-celebration would make us happy ...
But believing that has created chaos -- noisy homes, stress-filled businesses, cutthroat relationships. We've chased so many skinny rabbits, says Max Lucado, that we've missed the fat one: the God-centered life.
If you want to shift into high gear with purpose, this is it: life makes sense when we accept our place! Our pleasures, our problems, our gifts and talents ... when they're all for the One who created us, we suddenly gain what we've been missing and find what we've been seeking.
Let Max Lucado show you how to make the shift of a lifetime. How to bump your life off self-center. How to be changed and experience the meaning-charged life you were meant to have. Your discovery starts here.
Max Lucado
Since entering the ministry in 1978, Max Lucado has served churches in Miami, Florida; Rio de Janeiro, Brazil; and San Antonio, Texas. He currently serves as the teaching minister of Oak Hills Church in San Antonio. He is the recipient of the 2021 ECPA Pinnacle Award for his outstanding contribution to the publishing industry and society at large. He is America's bestselling inspirational author with more than 150 million products in print. Visit his website at MaxLucado.com Facebook.com/MaxLucado Instagram.com/MaxLucado Twitter.com/MaxLucado Youtube.com/MaxLucadoOfficial The Max Lucado Encouraging Word Podcast
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5One of the amazing book I have read I believe, not so long but the message is indeed guaranteed to last longer with an open heart. Definitely recommend it.
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5This book is seriously the best book that I have read in a long time. The title says it all: It is not about us, it is about God. This book really humbled me and made me realize what the true purpose of being a Christian is: to Honor God and show His glory. It is not about us; it is all about Him. Lucado provides biblical advice about change and shares about God's love. He provides real life and fictional stories as examples to illustrate his points and always uses scripture to bring the point home. This book really changed my way of thinking. The writing style is perfect and the book cover is just gorgeous! This is a must read for anyone aged 16 and up (it provides advice about some adult situations).
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It's Not About Me - Max Lucado
IT’S
NOT
ABOUT ME
Rescue from the Life
We Thought Would
Make Us Happy
MAX LUCADO
ItsNotAboutMe_0001_001© 2004 Max Lucado
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Unless otherwise indicated, Scripture quotations used in this book are from the New American Standard Bible®, © 1960, 1977, 1995 by the Lockman Foundation. Other Scripture references are from the following sources:The Contemporary English Version (CEV) © 1991 by the American Bible Society. Used by permission. The Holy Bible, English Standard Version (ESV), © 2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers. Used by permission. All rights reserved. The Jerusalem Bible (JB), © 1966, 1967 and 1968 by Darton, Longman & Todd Ltd and Doubleday, a division of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. The King James Version of the Bible (KJV). The Living Bible (TLB), © 1971 by Tyndale House Publishers, Wheaton, Ill. Used by permission. The Message (MSG), © 1993. Used by permission of NavPress Publishing Group. The New Century Version® (NCV), © 2005 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved. The Holy Bible, New International Version® (NIV). © 1973, 1978, 1983, International Bible Society. Used by permission of Zondervan Bible Publishers. The New King James Version® (NKJV), © 1982 by Thomas Nelson, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved. The Holy Bible, New Living Translation (NLT), © 1996. Used by permission of Tyndale House Publishers, Inc. , Wheaton, Illinois 60189. All rights reserved. J. B. Phillips: The New Testament in Modern English, Revised Edition (PHILLIPS). © J. B. Phillips 1958, 1960, 1972. Used by permission of Macmillan Publishing Co., Inc. The Revised Standard Version of the Bible (RSV), © 1946, 1952, and 1971 by the Division of Christian Education of the National Council of the Churches of Christ in the USA. Used by permission.
ISBN: 978-0-8499-4644-6 (SE)
Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Lucado, Max.
It's not about me : rescue from the life we thought would make us happy / Max Lucado.
p. cm.
ISBN: 978-1-5914-5042-9
ISBN: 978-1-5914-5169-3 (IE)
1. Man (Christian theology) I. Title.
BT701. 3. L83 2004
248. 4—dc22
2003021164
Printed in the United States of America
10 11 12 13 WOR 6 5 4 3 2 1
TO KENNY AND SHARON WILSON
THERE MAY BE A FINER COUPLE ON THIS EARTH,
BUT I HAVEN’T MET THEM.
FOR YOUR FRIENDSHIP, FAITH, AND
FAR TOO FEW HAMBURGERS,
DENALYN AND I SAY THANK YOU.
WE GLADLY DEDICATE THIS BOOK TO YOU:
TWO PEOPLE WHO, BECAUSE YOU ALREADY LIVE IT,
DON’T NEED TO READ IT.
CONTENTS
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
FOREWORD
1. BUMPING LIFE OFF SELF-CENTER
PART ONE
God-Pondering
2. SHOW ME YOUR GLORY
3. DIVINE SELF-PROMOTION
4. HOLY DIFFERENT
5. JUST A MOMENT
6. HIS UNCHANGING HAND
7. GOD’S GREAT LOVE
PART TWO
God-Promoting
8. GOD’S MIRRORS
9. MY MESSAGE IS ABOUT HIM
10. MY SALVATION IS ABOUT HIM
11. MY BODY IS ABOUT HIM
12. MY STRUGGLES ARE ABOUT HIM
13. MY SUCCESS IS ABOUT HIM
14. UPWARD THINKING
NOTES
STUDY GUIDE
BONUS MATERIAL FROM MAX LUCADO’S NEXT BOOK, Outlive Your Life
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
On a summer day in the late nineties I ran into a friend in a hotel lobby. Our last visit had occurred a year earlier. He had a few minutes. I had an empty stomach. So we bought deli sandwiches, found a table, and took a seat. What has God been teaching you this year?
My question was expectation-free. But his answer gave me more than a sandwich to chew on.
What has he been teaching me this year?
he reflected. He’s been teaching me that: It’s not about me.
The phrase stirred enough reflections to become a series of messages and, eventually, this book. So it’s only right for me to pause and salute Sealy Yates. Thanks for sharing the line. More important, thanks for modeling it.
Sealy is not the only one who made this work possible. Here are some others:
Liz Heaney and Karen Hill—You so skillfully and gently recraft, clarify. Thanks to you, this book, and the one who wrote it, are in better shape.
Steve and Cheryl Green—Thanks for superintending my life and being our friends. Your comradeship means more to me than I can say.
Byron Williamson, Joey Paul, and the entire Integrity team—Congratulations on the launch. Honored to be aboard.
My Peak of the Week family—You let me guinea pig this material on you. How kind you were to stay awake.
Carol Bartley—No one does it better. Your penchant for grammatical precision astounds us all.
Dwight Edwards—Revolution Within connected the dots for me.
John Piper—Reading The Supremacy of God in Preaching was like seeing a map of the solar system for the first time. Thanks for reminding me of my place.
Dean Merrill—Thanks for graciously squaring the facts.
Rick Atchley—Thanks for the great messages, for being a great friend.
Charles Prince—Thanks for untangling theological knots and sharing a lifetime of knowledge.
Jenna, Andrea, and Sara—my daughters, my treasures.
Denalyn, my wife—Vienna had Mozart. I have you. What music you bring into my life.
And most of all to you, Author of life. What a great God you are. It’s all about you. Period.
But all of us who are Christians . . .
reflect like mirrors the glory of the Lord.
2 Corinthians 3:18 PHILLIPS
FOREWORD
NBA championship teams have something in common: they play with one goal in mind. Each player contributes his own gifts and efforts so that the greater goal—winning—can be reached. But players who seek their own glory at the sacrifice of the team’s glory drive the team away from success. So it is with life. The goal is not our own glory. In fact, trying to make life all about us
pushes happiness further out of reach.
Our society is not wired for this kind of thinking. It’s a me-centric
world out there, which destroys much of what should be good. Marriages are ruined because one or both partners are focused on their own happiness. Successful men and women are ruined by their own success, believing they don’t need anyone else’s input. And for some, life’s troubles are magnified because they believe life is all about them.
The Bible is full of men and women who struggled with me-centric
thinking, so our generation is not alone. If we would learn from them, we could live in freedom. We would be able to enjoy our successes without taking the credit, like King David. We could bear up under troubles with confidence in God, like Job. By letting go of our own agendas and timetables, as Moses finally did, we would discover that God’s plans are mind-blowing. In the end, a God-centric
lifestyle would free us to live life to the fullest!
My friend Max Lucado has years of experience in following God, which is why I am happy to recommend this book. If you want a great meal, I’ll send you to a great chef. But if you want to learn about God’s ways, I'll send you to someone who has walked with him for a long while.
Max is such a man; the Lord has prepared him for just this purpose. I encourage you to read with an open heart as Max shares the joy of a God-centered life.
May God free us all from me-centric
living. All the glory is His!
—David Robinson
Former NBA Player
CHAPTER ONE
BUMPING LIFE
OFF SELF-CENTER
ItsNotAboutMe_0013_0011
Blame the bump on Copernicus.
Until Copernicus came along in 1543, we earthlings enjoyed center stage. Fathers could place an arm around their children, point to the night sky, and proclaim, The universe revolves around us.
Ah, the hub of the planetary wheel, the navel of the heavenly body, the 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue of the cosmos. Ptolemy’s second-century finding convinced us. Stick a pin in the center of the stellar map,