It's Your Move: Choices for Senior Living: Will you age in Your Home or at a Retirement Home?
By Gail Lawley
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It's Your Move - Gail Lawley
It's Your Move: Choices for Senior Living
Gail Lawley
Gail Lawley Publisher
Tucson, AZ
All Rights Reserved Copyright 2013 © Gail Lawley
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Dedication
This book is dedicated to my children Kirsten and Brian
with the hope that it will help them help me
when I must make my decision.
Contents
Dedication
Disclaimer
Acknowledgement
Lists
Preface
Introduction
1. Early Planning
Why You Choose
2. Types of Housing
Whose Home? CCRC? or?
3. Other Considerations
Present vs Future Costs
4. Making the Move
Costs, Visits, Comparisons
References
Computer Terms
Disclaimer
It’s Your Move: Choices for Senior Living by Gail Lawley
All Rights Reserved
v4.0
ISBN: 978-0-9898343-0-8
Website:
http://MoveChoices.com
Cover Design: Kelly Lawley
Published in the United States
The opinions Expressed in this manuscript are solely the opinions of the author . The author has represented and warranted full ownership and/or legal right to publish all the materials in this book.
Electronic version created using Pressbooks.com
Acknowledgement
I want to thank Margaret and Hu Bath, Joyce Hardin, Ernie Schwam, Ann and Lou Roscoe, Dorothy Jackson, Suzanne Kavanaugh, Anne Bonn—and other residents, friends and workers at various facilities for their time and input.
In addition, I am very grateful to the administrators who took time out of their busy schedules to answer my interview questions: Cydney Turner at Handmaker; Gale Morgan and Kathryn L Brod of Mather Lifeways; Tim Carmichael with La Posada, and many others who answered e-mail questions and phone calls.
A special thanks to Elizabeth Ohm for her advice on content organization, grammar and reference formatting, Curt and Betsy Blanchard and the others who made title suggestions. A special thanks to Craig Smith for encouraging me to publish these lists.
Lists
Chapter 2 Types of Housing
List #1 What things are most important to me?
List #2 Adult Congregate Housing
List #3 Independent Living
List #4 CCRC Continuing Care Retirement Communities
List #5 Personal-Care Home
List #6 Assisted Living
List #7 Family Help
List #8 Adult Daycare Facilities
List #9 Adult Daycare
List #10 Hiring Help
List #11 Nursing Facility
Chapter 3 Other Considerations
List #12 Pre-screening Facility Costs
List #13 Cost Comparisons: Present and Projected
List #14 Projected Costs: Home-care
List #15 Geriatric Care Manager
List #16 Hiring Home Care Helpers
Chapter 4 Making the Move
List #17 Availability, Finances, Complaints
List #18 Facility Costs
List #19 Initial Cost
List #20 Conveniences
List #21 Company Info, Rankings, and Legal
List #22 Visits
List #23 Ask the Residents
List #24 Observe the Staff
List #25 Exterior Aesthetics
List #26 Interior Aesthetics
List #27 Unit Info
List #28 Special Needs
List #29 Medical and Social Services
List #30 Dining
List #31 Amenities and Guests
List #32 Activities
List #33 Before Admission to a Nursing Home
Preface
Please check my website frequently as I will add information, places and articles frequently – http://MoveChoices.com.
The purpose of this book is to provide you with a guide to resources that will help you decide how, why, and where you want to live as you age. I hope it will help you decide whether to stay at home or help you to find a place that fits your lifestyle, desires, and budget.
Please take the time to look at the resources I have listed in the appendices, and/or to call them and get their literature.
As you know, where you’ll live for the rest of your life is not a decision to be made lightly. It’s well worth giving up a few golf games, tennis sessions or lunches with your friends to have the rest of your life planned—as well as you can plan at this point in your life.
My experiences and research made me realize how much easier this process is if it’s done while you’re still healthy.
According to Home Instead, we have a Senior Care Information Gap[1]:
The Home Instead study found seniors and their adult children:
• Know little about the care options that are available
• Are badly misguided about the costs of those options
• Are inadequately informed about what financial resources are needed to cover the cost of care.
The research I did for this book included reading all the books listed in the references. I especially recommend:
Long-Term Care: How to Plan and Pay for It, by Joseph L. Matthews[2].
Where Should I Live When I Retire? A Guide to Continuing-Care Communities, by Bernice Kohn Hunt[3].
I know it’s weird for an author to recommend another book, but these have a different focus from my book. My focus is decision-making and comparing facilities; their focus is planning and paying for what you choose.
There is so much good information in these books, that I urge you to buy a copy or find a copy at your