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    Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice
    Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice
    Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice
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    Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice

    By Inbal Kashtan

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    The tenets of Nonviolent Communication are applied to a variety of settings, including the classroom and the home, in these booklets on how to resolve conflict peacefully. Illustrative exercises, sample stories, and role-playing activities offer the opportunity for self-evaluation, discovery, and application.Helping parents to connect compassionately with their children, show them love, and offer guidance even in difficult moments, this practical booklet describes how the Nonviolent Communication (NVC) process can transform parenting to promote peace for generations to come. NVC-based parenting tips and ten practical exercises to foster trust, improve cooperation, and inspire open dialogue are included.
    LanguageEnglish
    PublisherPuddledancer Press
    Release dateSep 1, 2004
    ISBN9781892005946
    Parenting From Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection, and Choice

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      Parenting From Your Heart - Inbal Kashtan

      For additional information:

      Center for Nonviolent Communication

      5600 San Francisco Rd. NE Suite A, Albuquerque, NM 87109

      Ph: 505-244-4041 • Fax: 505-247-0414 • Email: cnvc@cnvc.org • Website: www.cnvc.org

      ISBN: 978-1-892005-08-3

      © Copyright 2005 PuddleDancer Press

      Published by arrangement with the Center for Nonviolent Communication. All rights reserved.

      No part of this booklet may be reproduced by any means, nor may it be stored,

      transmitted or otherwise copied without permission of the publisher.

      Contents

      Introduction

      "Power-Over" versus "Power-With"

      Exercise 1: Basic Translations

      Exercise 2: Translating into NVC

      Beyond Power Struggles

      Exercise 3: Transforming Habitual Responses

      Exercise 4: Timing Conversations

      Hearing the Yes in the No

      Exercise 5: Working with No

      Protective Use of Force

      Exercise 6: Considering Use of Force

      NVC and Language

      Exercise 7: Beyond Language

      Mediating Between Children

      Exercise 8: Mediating Between Children

      Praise

      Exercise 9: Gratitude and Appreciation

      Starting Out with NVC

      Exercise 10: Next Steps

      Parenting for Peace

      About Inbal Kashtan

      How You Can Use the NVC Process

      Parenting From

      Your Heart

      Introduction

      How can we deal with our two-year-old when she grabs her friend’s toys? What might we say to a four-year-old who refuses to let other children slide on the playground? How can we talk with a teenager about the chores he has left undone—again? How do we protect our children when their choices endanger their safety? What resources will help us work with our own anger, frustration, or pain when communication with our children seems strained or non-existent?

      As parents, we are constantly faced with situations like these. Multiply the children and the challenges mount. Add the pressures of work (or unemployment), money (or lack thereof), time, relationships, and other commitments, and the pot threatens to boil over. Then, for some, there are the stresses of raising children alone, without a partner, extended family, or community. And there are myriad additional challenges many parents face. It is no wonder parents yearn for support, guidance, and relief. Yet when we turn to parenting books or experts, the advice we find is often contradictory and may not align with our own values and hopes for our children and families. Even when we do find an idea we want to try, changing habits and patterns in relationships can be enormously challenging in itself.

      In this booklet, I present to parents and others who are connected with children a brief introduction to how Nonviolent Communication™ (NVC) may support their parenting in practical, immediate ways. I particularly hope to address parents’ yearning for deeper connection with themselves, their partners, and their children, and their desire to contribute, through parenting, to fostering peace in the world. The approach I describe, as you will see, goes beyond immediate solutions and into the realm of personal and social transformation.

      This booklet explores a variety of topics and situations and offers ten exercises to help you put into practice what you are learning as you shift or adapt your parenting approaches. However, it is by no means a comprehensive exploration of NVC and parenting. I have not touched upon many topics that have come up in my workshops and classes, on the NVC-parenting email list, and in my own life. I hope, nonetheless, that what I have covered here will be practical enough to offer you some concrete tools for deepening connection with your children, and exciting enough to encourage you to consider learning even more. If you choose to put these ideas into practice and they make a difference in your family life, I would love to hear from you.

      For a review of the basic steps of NVC and additional information on NVC, see the back of the booklet.

      Power-Over versus Power-With

      When parents want children to do something their children don’t want to do, it’s often tempting to force the children’s compliance by using the enormous physical, emotional, and practical power adults have over them (by practical, I mean that adults have much greater access to society’s resources and control over the course of their own—and their children’s—lives). Yet I am convinced that attempting to coerce a child to do something she or he doesn’t want to do neither works effectively in the short term nor supports families’ long-term needs. (The only exception comes when there is threat to health or safety, in which case NVC suggests that we use non-punitive, protective force.) In NVC, we refer to using power to enforce what we want as "Power-Over," in contrast with using power to meet everyone needs, which we refer to as "Power-With."

      Maria, a parent

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