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What I’ve Learned About Being a Mom in 2020

What I've Learned About Being a Mom in 2020 by Holly Schaeffer. Photograph of mother and daughter by Caroline Hernandez
Photograph by Caroline Hernandez

This difficult year has taught me that every challenge has a solution — and also helped me kick the habit of wanting to be perfect

It’s strange how quickly things can change. One minute you’re debating whether 2020 is the start of a new decade. The next you’re going through what feels like level 95 of JUMANJI, staring in shock as people hoard toilet paper and nonperishable goods.

In all seriousness, though, I’m sure that I’m not exaggerating when I say that this year has been life-altering.

But, in addition to all the stress, uncertainty, and unwelcome surprises, it also happened to give me a lot.

Not only did it allow me to stand

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