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HOW TO SAY NO!

IF you’ve always had trouble saying no to people, chances are you’re in a world of pain right now. This pandemic is leading to all sorts of tricky situations where things quickly become awkward.

Take social occasions, for instance.

You’re invited to a braai with a small group of family and friends but you’re really not ready to mix socially, preferring to stay safe at home in your cocoon. You want to say no but there’s just so much pressure.

“It will break Mom’s heart if you don’t show up,” you’re told. “Seeing you will go a long way towards lifting everyone’s spirits,” they say.

And if you’re a people-pleaser, you’ll be full of guilt and torment.

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