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Dear Therapist: I Can’t Stand My Fiancée’s Ex-Husband

He wants to take pictures with her and their daughter like they’re still one happy family—and I want him to stop.
Source: Bianca Bagnarelli

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Dear Therapist,

I am engaged to be married to a wonderful woman who has a 6-year-old daughter with her ex-husband. They share joint custody. A major contributing factor in her decision to end their marriage was her ex’s controlling nature. Even now, after being divorced for more than two years, he tries to control her life.

One of the ways he tries to do this is by insisting on taking pictures of the three of them at every function where they are all present. First day of school, graduations, etc.—he has to have pictures taken of himself

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