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Can Inuit Moms Help Me Tame My 3-Year-Old's Anger?

After learning how parents in the Canadian Arctic address a child's misbehavior, I changed my tactics when my toddler would slap my face in anger.
The author's daughter, Rosy.

Six months ago, I found myself preparing for battle.

I was lying in bed at 5:30 a.m., going over in my head how to handle the next encounter with my 3-year-old daughter, Rosy.

Goodness knows, I love her so much. But there's a fire in that little belly. And to be honest, I have no idea how to handle all the anger — the tantrums, the screaming and, most of all, the hitting.

When she's angry and I pick her up, she has a habit of slapping me across the face. Sometimes it really hurts. I've even started ducking like a boxer when I lift her up.

At first, I reacted as my parents did, with bluster and sternness. That only backfired. All she did was arch her back and fall on the ground.

Then I consulted Dr. Google and decided calm and firm was the "correct way." But this approach was like putting lipstick on a pig. Rosy could tell I was still upset and trying to control her.

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