Developing a Proactive & Positive Attitude to Work

adinoyi haruna June 2009

The 7 Habits for Effectiveness



    

Habit 1:  Be proactive, the test of aliveness Habit 2:  Begin with the end in mind, the test of meaning Habit 3:  Put first thing first, test of integrity Habit 4: Think win-win in relation with others Habit 5: Effective communication based on trust Habit 6:  Creating something together, synergize Habit 7  Continuous renewal, sharpen the saw

Definitions:

Attitude, Habits & Character

    

The attitude is the underlying feeling that defines the state of the mind Character is a set of related habits Sow a thought, reap an action Sow an action, reap a habit Sow a habit, reap a character Sow a character, reap a destiny

Determinisms Genetic Psychic Environment

ATTITUDE

HABIT

Habits are our pattern of behaviour that shape our character, this makes us effective or ineffective Habits can be learned and unlearned No quick-fix, it involves process and commitment Above all there is a lot of inertia to overcome A strong motivation is thus required

Knowledge
(What to, why to)

Skill
(how to)

Desire
(want to)

BEHAVIOUR MODEL

STIMULUS

RESPONSE

For humans, between stimulus and response there is freedom to choose

UNIQUE NATURE OF HUMANS

Stimulus

Freedom to choose

Response

Conscience Self-Awareness Imagination Independent Will

FUNDAMENTAL NATURE OF HUMANS

  

Self-awareness - ability to think about your thought process Imagination ability to go beyond our present condition in our mind Conscience a deep inner awareness of right and wrong, governs our behaviour Independent will ability to act based on self-awareness free from all other influences

To Change an Attitude or Habit requires a Paradigm-shift

Paradigm


    

The word paradigm comes from Greek and commonly used to mean: Model Theory Perception Assumption Or frame of reference

Paradigm


  

It is the way we see the world not in terms of our sense of sight but rather our perception, understanding and interpretations. It is not the real thing but an interpretation of it. The map of a city is not the real city With the wrong paradigm, nothing else can go right

Paradigm-shift
Looking at the same thing but seeing differently

adinoyi haruna June 2009

Developing a Proactive Attitude

PROACTIVE
  

Means more than taking initiative It means being responsible for our lives That our behaviour is a function of our decision not our condition That feelings can be subordinated to values Possession of both initiative and responsibility to make things happen

RESPONSIBILITY


Response-ability: ability to choose response Proactive people recognizes that responsibility They dont blame circumstance, condition or conditioning for their behaviour. Their behaviour is a conscious choice based on values rather than conditions and feelings

REACTIVE VERSUS PROACTIVE



Conditioning and conditions control us if we empower them to Reactive people are affected easily be their environment Proactive people carry their weather with them Proactive people are able to subordinate impulse to value

It is in the Language
Reactive Language Proactive Language
There is nothing I can do That is just the way I am He makes me so mad They wont allow that I have to do that I cant I must If only Lets look at our alternatives I can choose a different approach I control my own feelings I can create an effective presentation I will choose an appropriate response I choose I prefer I will

Circle of Concern versus Circle of Influence



Our list of concern includes: health, children, work, debt, economy, war etc Some of these things are outside our influence while others are The gap between our circles of concern and that of influence is a measure of our proactivity

Circle of concern

Circle of Influence

Circle of concern

Circle of Influence

Negative energy reduces the circle of Influence

Circle of concern

Circle of Influence

Positive energy enlarges the circle of Influence

REACTIVE PEOPLE
   

Focus on circle of concern Focus on the weakness of other people Focus on the problems of the environment Their wrong focus result in blaming and accusing attitudes, reactive language and feeling less than them self Their circle of influence shrink from negative energy and their neglect of circle of their influence

REACTIVE PEOPLE

INFLUENCE

PROACTIVE PEOPLE


   

Focus their effort in the circle of influence Work on things they can change Their energy is positive Enlarging and magnifying Increasing their circle of influence

PROACTIVE PEOPLE

INFLUENCE

Finding the Centre of Your Circle of Influence

Basic paradigms Principles and reality Vision & Values Self-awareness Conscience Talents Imagination Expand the circle

THE FOUR LIFE SUPPORT FACTORS

SECURITY

GUIDANCE

CENTRE
POWER WISDOM

The interdependent of the 4 factors

Security and clear guidance brings wisdom which become a source of real power When the 4 factors are harmonized, they create the great force of noble personality, balanced character and well integrated individual

The Alternative Centres

The Alternate Centers

Center
Spouse Centered
(emotional dependence, responsibilities causes stress, love-hate over reactions

Security
Feeling of security based on how your spouse treats you Vulnerable to the moods and feelings of your spouse A treat to the relationship is a treat to your security Disappointments, conflicts, withdrawal result from disagreements over expectations Security is founded on family acceptance and expectations Sense of personal security is as volatile as that of the family Feeling of self-worth is hinged on family reputation

Guidance
Your direction comes from your own needs and the wants of your spouse Decision is limited to the dictates of what is best for the relationship Fight or flight, Bitterness Aggression, resentment, Cold competetion Family doctrines is your source of correct attitudes and behaviour Decision is based on what is good for the family or what a family member wants Love for the child may be conditional Profit is your decision making criteria

Wisdom
Your life perspective is focused on things that may affect your relationship

Power
Your power to act is limited by not only your weakness but that of your spouse

Family Centered

Life is interpreted in terms of the family traditions, beliefs, customs, history and understanding

Actions and ability to act is limited by family models and traditions

Money Centered

Self worth is determined by net worth Vulnerable to treats to economic security You are dead without money

Life is seen and understood through the lens of money making activities Imbalanced judgment

You are limited to what you can accomplish with money Your only power to act is money

Center

Security
Defines yourself by your occupational role You are only comfortable when working Your job security is your personal security You are worthless without your job Security is based on; Reputation Glory Social status The tangible things you have Compares what you have to others Life is under constant treats or jeopardy Sense of self-worth constantly fluctuate You feel secured only when everything is pleasant Security is short-lived, and dependent on environment

Guidance
You make your decisions based on the needs and expectations of your work

Wisdom
Your thinking is limited by your work role You see your work as your life

Power
Your actions and abilities are limited by Occupational opportunities Organizational constraints Bosss perception In ability to do the particular work Possessions, social prominence and purchasing power are the driving forces behind your actions and what you can achieve

Work Centered
(workaholics, lacks work-life balance)

Possession Centered
(Can vanish rapidly, influence by too many forces)

You make your decisions based on what will protect, increase or display your possessions like Assets Properties Position or Reputation

You see the world in terms of comparative economic and social relationships

Pleasure Centered
(Too much please, course of least resistance, no challenges, wasteful life, unfulfilled)

Your decision is based on pleasure, avoids challenge, lacks self discipline, too much TV, movies & holidays,

You see the world in terms of what is in it for you or what you can enjoy

Your power is almost negligible, driven by fun and pleasure Capacity stay dormant Talent undeveloped