ROLES OF HUSBAND

AND WIFE
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 Marriage is an alliance entered
into by a man who can’t sleep
with the window shut, and a
woman who can’t sleep with the
window open.
- George Bernard Shaw
 GOD HAS
ASSIGNED ROLES
FOR EVERY
MEMBER OF THE
FAMILY.
ROLE - a function or part
performed especially in a
particular operation or
process
• SYNONYMS:
business, capacity, function, job,
part, place, position, purpose, task, work
 WHY ROLES ARE IMPORTANT?

a. Roles are important

for the proper
functioning of the
family.
Roles DO NOT imply
superiority, inferiority,
or inequality.
Men and women are
equal.
 Galatians 3:28
"There is neither Jew nor
Gentile, neither slave nor free,
nor is there male and female,
for you are all one in Christ
Jesus."
 ROLES are
determined by
GOD not by society
or by ability
ROLES are necessary
for effectiveness in
accomplishing
GOD’S PURPOSE
 ROLES are
needed for
harmony in the
family.
 ROLES are
needed for role
modelling
 WHY ROLES ARE IMPORTANT?

b.When a husband and a

wife do not fulfill their
God-given roles, there is a
long term negative
impact on the family
1.Conflict, chaos, disharmony in the
family.
2.Gender confusion – children
become more prone to
homosexuality and lesbianism.
3.Bad examples
4.God is not glorified.
 ROLE OF THE HUSBAND
Ephesians 5:23

"For the husband is the head of the

wife as Christ is the head of the
church, his body, of which he is the
Savior."
 ROLE OF THE HUSBAND
1. LEADER
a. The husband is to be a servant
leader
b. The husband is responsible to God
for how he leads his wife and
children.
c. The husband is accountable for the
welfare of his wife and children
 1 Timothy 3:2-4
2 Now the overseer is to be above
reproach, faithful to his
wife, temperate, self-controlled,
respectable, hospitable, able to teach, 3 not
given to drunkenness, not violent but
gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of
money. 4 He must manage his own family
well and see that his children obey him,
and he must do so in a manner worthy of
full[a] respect.
d. The husband is to understand
his wife.
1 Peter 3:7
7 Husbands, in the same way be
considerate as you live with your
wives, and treat them with respect as
the weaker partner and as heirs with
you of the gracious gift of life, so that
nothing will hinder your prayers.
e. The husband is to provide.
1Timothy 5:8
"Anyone who does not provide
for their relatives, and especially
for their own household, has
denied the faith and is worse
than an unbeliever."
f. The husband is to PROTECT his wife.

Ephesians 5:27-29
27 and to present her to himself as a radiant
church, without stain or wrinkle or any other
blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this
same way, husbands ought to love their
wives as their own bodies. He who loves his
wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever
hated their own body, but they feed and care
for their body, just as Christ does the church
 ROLE OF THE HUSBAND
2. LOVER
A. loves unconditionally
B. loves proactively
C. loves continuously
D. This love nourishes and cherishes
 THE NEEDS OF A WIFE
AFFECTION
AFFIRMATION
ATTENTION
LEADERSHIP
SECURITY
FAMILY COMMITMENT
 ROLE OF THE WIFE
1.The wife must be a
HELPMATE.
Gen 2:18
Proverbs 31:10-12
a. to help, assist, aid, support, and
encourage her husband.
b. to prioritize her husband
c. to do her husband good all the
days of her life
d. to be the home manager under
the authority of her husband
2. The wife must SUBMIT.
1 Peter 3:1-4
Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your
own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe
the word, they may be won over without words by
the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity
and reverence of your lives. 3 Your beauty should not
come from outward adornment, such as elaborate
hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine
clothes. 4 Rather, it should be that of your inner
self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,
which is of great worth in God’s sight.
 SUBMISSION is
ULTIMATELY between God
and the wife.
Submission makes the
husband easier to lead.
3. The wife RESPECTS her husband.

Ephesians 5:33
33 However, each one of you
also must love his wife as he
loves himself, and the wife
must respect her husband.
RESPECT is not earned or
based on behavior.
Respect his God-given
position of authority.
Respect him as you would a
boss.
.
Respect means making him your
priority.
Respect means talking with him in
a respectful manner, watching
your body language, tone of voice
and words.
Respect means knowing and
meeting his needs.
 BASIC NEEDS OF MOST HUSBANDS
AUTHORITY: Serve, Lead, Analyze, and
Counsel
CONQUEST: Work, Achieve, Protect,
Provide
RESPECT: Honor
RELATIONSHIP: Close Friendship
SUPPORT: Domestic
SEXUALITY: Sex, Attractive Wife
 “THE HIGHEST HAPPINESS ON
EARTH IS ON MARRIAGE. EVERY
MAN WHO IS HAPPILY MARRIED
IS A SUCCESSFUL MAN EVEN IF HE
HAS FAILED IN EVERYTHING ELSE.”
-WILLIAM LYON PHELPS