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PERSON OF
INFLUENCE
JOHN C. MAXWELL
JIM DORNAN
THE
THEMEANING
MEANINGOF
OF MENTORING
MENTORING
• Cast a Vision for Their Future. “Nurture great thoughts for you will
never go higher than your thoughts.” help people have great thoughts
about themselves, and they will begin to live like the people they can
become.
• Tap into Their Passion. Once you discover their passion, tap into it.
Show them how it can activate their potential to the point that they will
be able to realize their vision for their lives. Passion is the fuel that helps
people nourish and protect their dreams.
MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO TAKE THEM THROUGH THE ENLLARGING
PROCESS
• Address Character Flaws. “character is like a tree and reputation like its
shadow. The shadow is we think of it; the tree is the real thing.” take time
to really get to know the people you are enlarging. If you get to know
people well enough to know how they react in most situations, you’ll
have an idea of where any character shortcomings might be. Help others
learn to conduct themselves with integrity in every situation, and they will
be ready to grow and reach their potential.
• Focus on their strengths. Instead of focusing on weaknesses, pay
attention to people’s strengths. Sharpen skills that already exist.
Compliment positive qualities. Bring out the gifts inherent in them.
MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO TAKE THEM THROUGH THE
ENLLARGING PROCESS
• Enlarge Them One Step at a Time. “ Unless you try to do something beyond what you have
already mastered, you will never grow.” to enlarge others, help them take growth steps that stretch
them regularly without overwhelming or discouraging them.
There are four areas in the development process:
1. Attitude. It impacts not only every area of their own lives, but it also influences others.
2. Relationships. If people can get along, they can get ahead in just about any area of life
3. Leadership. Everything rises and fall on leadership. If the people you’re developing plan to
work with others, they have to learn to lead them.
4. Personal and Professional skills. As you help people grow, work from the inside and out.
MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO TAKE THEM THROUGH THE ENLLARGING
PROCESS
• Put Resources in Their Hands. To help people grow, no matter what area you are
addressing, put resources in their hands. Take an active hand in the process. Clip articles
written on one of their areas of interest. Give them copies of book that impacted your
life. Or put into their hands tapes that will teach and inspire them.
• Expose Them to Enlarging Experiences. Inspire people to make important
decisions that can change the direction of their lives. The growth itself comes from
what people do daily after they have made a decisions.
• Teach Them to Be Self-Enlargers. As you work with others and help them to enlarge
themselves, give them what they need so that they learn to take care of themselves.
Teach them to find resources, encourage them to get out of their comfort zone on their
own.
A NAVIGATOR PLOTS THE COURSE
When you consider people’s passions, potential, and a vision, you are
better able to see where they really want to go because you view them
with more depth and discernment. Once you as the navigator assist
others in identifying a vision for their lives, you need to help them find
a way to make it a reality.
To help people plot their course, give attention to these areas:
Where They Need To Go
You would be amazed by how far off track some people can get when trying to
reach their goals
The truth is that it’s a hundred times easier to criticize others than to
find solutions to problems. But criticism gets you nowhere. Alfred Montapert
summed it up this way: “The majority see the obstacles; the few see the
objectives; history records the successes of the latter, while oblivion is the
reward of the former.” help the people within your influence to ignore the
critics and keep their eyes on the big picture. Show them that the best way to
silence critics is to solve the problem and move on.
COACH THEM NOT TO BE
OVERWHELMED BY CHALLENGES
When faced with tough problems, just about anybody is likely to get
discouraged. That’s why it’s good idea to coach people through their
problems, especially early on the mentoring process while you’re first
helping them to navigate. Encourage them to maintain a positive
attitude, and give them strategies for problem solving.
There are no impossible problems. Time, thought, and a positive
attitude can solve just about anything.
Encourage them to seek simple solutions
There are couple of keys to the most effective method of problem solving.
First is recognizing that the simple way to solve a problem is better than the
most clever one
Second element is the ability to make decisions.
Help others to realize when they need to make course adjustments fund simple
solutions that they think will work, and then execute them without delay. Don’t
let them continue traveling off course for any length of time
Instill confidence in them
One pitfall of helping others with their problems and mistakes is that they can
doubt themselves.
“ What you think means more than anything else in your life. More than what
you earn, more than where you live, more than your social position, and more
than what anyone else ma think about you.”
A NAVIGATOR STAYS WITH THE
PEOPLE
A Good navigator takes the trip with the people he is guiding. He
doesn’t give directions and then walk away. He travels alongside his
people as a friend.
You will be able to use your influence to help them move up to the
next level in their lives, and if you assist them during their darkest
hours, you will make friend of them for life.
Connects
with People
CONNECTING ENABLES OTHERS TO
TRAVEL TO A HIGHER LEVEL
Connection is a very important part of the process of mentoring
others.
A similar thing must happen before you can get people to go with you
on a journey. You have to find out where they are, move toward them
to make contract, and connect with them. If you can do that
successfully, you can take them to new heights in your relationship and
in their development. Remember, the road to the next level is always
uphill, and people need help to make it to that higher level.
9 steps for
Connecting with
People
1. Don’t take
people for granted You can connect with people and lead them
only if you value them. But you can’t take
ddd people for granted for any length of time
before your leadership begins to fall apart.
And you won’t be able to connect with
them.
2. Possess a Make-a- • BELIEVE YOU CAN MAKE A
DIFFERENCE
difference Mind-set
• BELIEVE WHAT YOU SHARE CAN
MAKE A DIFFERENCE
• BELIEVE THE PERSON YOU
SHARE WITH CAN MAKE A
DIFFERENCE
• BELIEVE THAT TOGETHER YOU
CAN MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE
3. Initiate Many leaders believe that it is the
movement toward follower’s responsibility to initiate
them contact with them. But the opposite is
s
true. To be effective, leaders must be
initiators. If they don’t go to their
people, meet them where they are,
and initiate the connection, then 80%
of the time no connection will be
made.
4. Look for Anytime you want to connect with another
common ground person, start where both of you agree. And
that means finding common ground if you
have developed good listening skills.
Once you make it a regular practice to look
for common ground with others, you’ll find
that you can talk to just about anybody and
meet them where they are. And when you
can do that, you can make a connection
5. Recognize and respect We need to acknowledge that we’re all
differences in personality. different .
In PERSONALITY PLUS she describes
four basic personality types:
• SANGUINE- desires fun
• MELANCHOLY- desires perfection
• PHELMATIC- desires peace
• CHOLERIC- desires power or control
6. Find the key to
To understand a person’s mind, examine
others’ lives
what he has already achieved. To understand
his heart, look at he aspires to do. That will
help you find the key, and once you do find
it, use it with integrity. Turn the key only
when you have the person’s permission, and
even then use that key only for his benefit,
not your own-----to help, not to hurt.
Once you’ve initiated a connection with
7. Communicate others, found common ground, and
from the heart discovered what really matters to them,
communicate to them what really matters to
you. And that requires you to speak to them
from your heart.