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HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
PEOPLE
By
Stephen.R.Covey
Habit 5
SEEK FIRST TO
UNDERSTAND, THEN
BE UNDERSTOOD
Listen First,Talk
Second
Evaluate: do not immediately let the other know whether you agree
or disagree.
Probe: do not keep asking questions and investigating.
Advise: do not counsel purely based on your personal experiences.
Interpret: do not try to define the motives of the behavior based on
your personal experience.
STEPS FOR EMPATHIC LISTENING
buildstrustand respect,
enables the disputants to release their emotions,
reduces tensions,
encourages the surfacing of information, and
creates a safe environment that is conducive to collaborative
problem solving.
Points to Remember
We evaluate
These responses come naturally to us. We are deeply
scripted in them; we live around models of them all the
time. But how do they affect our ability to really
understand?
UNDERSTANDING AND PERCEPTION
Pathos
logos
ETHOS
This has to do with the persons credibility and
accountability
Example:
The Circle of Influence is the area The Circle of Concern is the area
that we have control over. that we have no control over.
Our Circle of Influence is most often smaller than the Circle of Concern. As
we react, we tend to focus on the Circle of Concern, which depletes our
energy, because we have no control over it. The energy focused on the
Circle of Concern is negative. If you focus on the Circle of Concern and
neglect the Circle of Influence, eventually the Circle of Influence will get
smaller. This will add to feelings of stress and helplessness, because you
cannot change anything in the Circle of Concern.
Proactive people focus on the Circle of Influence, which is the
area we have control over and we can act upon. When we do
this, the Circle of Influence gets bigger. When you act on your
Circle of Influence you are able to reduce stress levels and
increase happiness, because you can initiate and influence
change.
Listening Road Blocks
Spacing Out: Pretend Listening:
Your mind wanders when others talk. You dont really pay attention to the other
person, but you pretend to. You say
yeah,, uh-huh, and cool.