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Who Am I?
I am your constant companion? I am your greatest
helper or heaviest burden. I will push you onward
or drag you down to failure. I am completely at
your command. Half the things you do you might
just as well turn over to me and I will be able to
do them quickly and correctly. I am easily
managed-you must merely be firm with me. Show
me exactly how you want something done and
after a few lessons I will do it automatically. I am
the servant of all great individuals and also, of all
failures, as well. Those who are great, I have
made great. Those who are failures, I have made
failures. I am not a machine, though I work with
all the precision of a machine plus the intelligence
of a human. You can run me for a profit or run me
for ruin-it makes no difference to me. Take me,
train me, be firm with me, and I will place the
world at your feet. Be easy with me and I will
destroy you. Who am I?

The teenage years are a

very stressful time.

Problems arise daily. We

cannot totally cure the
problems of life; we can only
manage them.
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Seven Habits of Highly

Unsuccessful Teens:
Habit #1
React
Blame all of your problems on
someone else. Be the victim. Take
no responsibility for your life. If
someone yells, yell back.
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Habit #2
Begin With no
End in Mind
Dont have a
plan Avoid goals
at all costs.
Never think
about tomorrow.
Only live for the
moment. Dont
think about the
consequences of
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your actions.

Put First Things Last

Whatever is most important in
your life dont do it until you
have spent sufficient time
talking on the phone, lounging
around, watching TV and
surfing the net. Always put off
homework until the day its
due. Make sure the things that
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Habit #4
Think Win-Lose
See life as a vicious competition. Your
classmate is out to get you so you should
get them first. Dont let anyone else
succeed at anything because if they do that
means you lose. If it looks like youre going
to lose, make sure you drag that sucker
down with you.
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Habit #5
Seek First to Talk, Then Pretend to
Listen
You were born with a mouth, so use
it. Make sure you talk a lot. Always
express your side of the story first.
Once you are sure everyone
understands your views, then
pretend to listen by nodding your
head and saying uh-huh.

Habit #6
Dont Cooperate
Lets face it. Other
people are weird because
they are different from
you. So why try to get
along with them?
Teamwork is for the dogs,
Since you always have
the best ideas, you are
better off doing
everything by yourself.

Wear Yourself Out

Be so busy with life that you never take time to renew or
improve yourself. Never study. Dont learn anything new.
Avoid exercise like the plague, and for heaven sakes stay
away from good books, nature or anything else that may
inspire you.
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Our habits will either make

us or break us. We become
what we repeatedly do. As
writer Samuel Smiles put it:
Sow a thought, and you reap
an act;
Sow an act and you reap a
habit;
Sow a habit and you reap a
character;
Sow a character and you
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reap a destiny.

7 Habits of Highly Effective

Teens
Habit #1-Be Proactive- Take responsibility for your life.
Habit #2 -Begin with the End in Mind- Define your
mission and goals in life.
Habit #3-Put First Things First- Prioritize and do the
most important things first.
Habit #4-Think Win-Win- Have an everyone-can-win
attitude.
Habit #5-Seek First to Understand, Then to Be
Understood- Listen to people sincerely.
Habit #6-Synergize- Work together to achieve more.
Habit #7-Sharpen the Saw- Renew yourself regularly.

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THE PRIVATE VICTORY HABITS 1,2,&3 deal with SELFMASTERY

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Habit #1
Be Proactive
It pays to be proactive. Proactive people:
-Are not easily offended.
-Take responsibility for their choices.
-Think before they act.
-Bounce back when something bad happens.
-Always find a way to make it happen.
-Focus on things they can do something about and dont
worry about things they cant.

We can control only one thing-how we

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respond to what happens to us.

Habit #2

Begin with the end in mind- Control your own

destiny or someone else will.
The paths you choose now
can affect you forever.
If you dont decide your
own future, someone else
will do it for you.

A personal mission statement.

A personal mission statement is like a personal motto that
states what your life is about. It is like the blueprint to your
life.
Go for the Goal.
Once you have your mission in place, you should set goals. Goals
are more specific than a mission statement, and can help you
break down your mission statement into bite size pieces.

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 Put First Things First Manage your time wisely.

Overcome the fear and
pressure that keeps you from
dealing with your top
priorities.
Never let your fears make
your decisions.
Edmund Hillary, the first
person to climb Mt. Everest,
said, Its not the mountain
we conquer, but ourselves.

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The Time Quadrants

The Procrastinator
Exam tomorrow
Late for work
Project due today

The Yes-Man
Unimportant calls
Interruptions
Peer pressure

The Prioritizer
Planning, goal setting
Essay due in a week
Exercise
Relaxation

The Slacker
Too much TV
Or video games
Endless phone calls
Time wasters

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 THE PUBLIC VICTORY- HABITS 4,5,& 6

The concepts dealing with habits 4, 5, and 6 revolve
around relationships and making them work.
Remember, the key to mastering relationships is to first
master yourself. What is the most important ingredient
in a relationship?
Writer Ralph Waldo Emerson said, Who you are speaks
so loudly I cant hear what you are saying. If you are
struggling in your relationships with friends, parents,
teachers, take a strong look at yourself.
The private victory helped you to take responsibility for
yourself and helped you to understand that you create
your own destiny. The public victory helps you realize
that you are a team player and that cooperation is
essential for success. Your ability to get along with others
will largely determine how successful you are in your
career and your level of personal happiness.

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the more that comes

back to you.
Win-Win is an
attitude toward life,
a mental frame of
mind that says I can
win, and so can you.
Its not me or you; it
is both of us. It is
the foundation for
getting along well
with other people. It
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Life Attitudes
Win-Lose These people achieve what they want at the expense of
others. C.S. Lewis wrote Pride gets no pleasure out of having
something, only out of having more of it than the next man.
Lose-Win-People with a lose-win mindset are easily intimidated and
readily give in or go along with others: they fail to assert their own
thoughts and feelings.
Lose-Lose- People with this model, approach differences with fear.
They avoid conflicts, which therefore cannot be resolved, and
everybody loses. If Im going down, you are going down with me.
Examples: War, possessive relationships.
Win-Win- These people believe that everyone can win; there is more
than enough to go around for everyone, when each persons needs and
interests are understood and respected. Its possible to find a solution
that benefits and considers everyone.

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Habit #5
Seek First to Understand, Then To Be
Understood- Try to understand someone
elses point of view before sharing your
own and a whole new world will be open
up to you. Take the time to listen
without judging or giving advice.

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Please Listen
When I ask you to listen to me and you start
giving me advice, you have not done what I
have asked. When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why I shouldnt feel
that way, you are trampling on my feelings.
When I ask you to listen to me and you feel
you have to do something to solve my
problem, you have failed me, strange as that
may seem. Listen! All I ask is that you
listen. Dont talk or do-just hear me.
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These are five poor listening styles:

Spacing out- acting out of it-ignoring
Pretend listening- saying yeah, uh-huh, cool but not
really being genuine
Selective listening -paying attention to only part of the
conversation
Word listening- listening to only words and not the
meaning or the body language associated with it.
Self-centered listening -listening to see things from our
own point of view- I know just how you feel. Oh,
thats nothing, listen to this one. Judging, probing,
and advising are three methods of self-centered
listening.
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Habit #6
Synergize
When two or more people work together to create a better solution
than either one could alone.

Examples: A good band;

a bird eating bugs off the back of a cow
We must recognize that people view the world from their own point of
view. We have different styles, traits, and characteristics.

Synergy Action Plan

Define the problem or opportunityTheir Way-Seek first to understand the ideas of others
My Way-Seek to be understood by sharing your ideas
Brainstorm-Create new options and ideas
High Way-Find the best solution

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Habit #7
Sharpen the Saw-Its ME time
This is the time when you renew the four
key dimensions of your life-your body,
brain, heart, and soul.

The four dimensions

Physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual

We must stay in a healthy balance

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Get control of your life.

Improve your
relationships with your
friends.
Make smarter decisions.
Get along with your
parents.
Define your values and
what matters most to
you.
Get more done in less
time.