BASIC

COUNSELING
SKILLS
SEMINAR
Ma. Eleanor R. Painaga, MAEd, RGC
September 27, 2014
Barangay Parada, Valenzuela City

Why
are
we
here
?

What is Counseling?

Assumptions
Counselors listen to peoples
problems
and then give them sound
advice.
The more questions we ask,
the more
information we will obtain.

Assumptions
Agreement and sympathy are
the
same as empathy.
Positive thinking is the same
as
rational thinking-you need to
believe in yourself

Assumptions
Advice-giving
Psychotherapy
Treatment of severe mental
illness
Solving clients lifes
problems
Remedy for all problems at a

What is
Counseling?
It is a means by which one
person
helps another through
PURPOSEFUL
conversation.
- Identify the PROBLEM
- Set GOAL/S

 It is a method of identifying
PRACTICAL SOLUTION to an
identified problem.
- Provide OPTIONS
- Client will decide NOT the
Counselor.

 Helping people solve their own

problems
through providing
ENCOURAGEMENT,
ENCOURAGEMENT
SUPPORT,
SUPPORT and CHALLENGE.
CHALLENGE
PHENOMENOLOGICAL-rather
PHENOMENOLOGICAL
than
assuming we know clients
feeling and

 Helping people UNDERSTAND the

ROOT CAUSE/S of the problem
and assist
people to develop understanding
about
themselves and to make
CHANGES in
their lives.
Needs special TRAINING in
psychological

What is Mentoring?
Personal
developmental
relationship in which a
more experienced or
more
knowledgeable person
helps to guide a less
experienced or less
knowledgeable

Common Concerns
1. Personality concerns

Family conflicts
Behavioral concerns
Difficulty to adjust with others
Relationship with others

2. Educational concerns
Lack of motivation
Reading difficulties

Common Concerns
3. Vocational problems
- Difference between interests &
aptitude

4. Financial problems
- Need for self- support at school or
college

5. Health problems
- Psycho- somatic disorders

Elements of Counseling
1.The
2.The
3.The
4.The

Counselor
Client
Process
Environment

Counseling Process

Counseling Process

10
Basic Counseling Skills

1.LISTENING
Being physically available to
the
mentee is an indication that
you are
aware of the mentee and
his/her
concern/s and that youre
giving
him/her your FULL, UNDIVIDED
ATTENTION.

TIP!
Maintain eye contact

Listen attentively and nod

Avoid interrupting the mentee
during
concern sharing.
Use minimal encouragers to
encourage
mentee to share details of
his/her

2. EMPATHY
Ability to perceive mentees
experience and communicate
clarifications back to
him/her.

TIP!
Be watchful of both verbal &
nonverbal information
Listen & recall
Paraphrase & clarify

3. GENUINENESS
Being your self is the best
way to show genuineness.

TIP!
Refer topics that you are
uncomfortable
dealing with.
Do not pretend.
Its okay NOT to know
everything.

4. UNCONDITIONAL
POSITIVE REGARD
Expression of care, acceptance,
warmth, and respect towards
clients WITHOUT ANY BIAS.

TIP!
Accept the child for who he/she
is.
Do not let co-workers opinions
cloud
your judgment.
Base your impression on your
own
experience.

5. CONCRETENESS
Keeping communications
specific and
focused on facts and feelings
of
relevant concerns.

TIP!
Assist in identifying the problem
presented.
Use a here and now focus to
emphasize problem-solving
process.

6. OPEN QUESTIONS
Facilitate exploration and
clarification
of mentees thoughts and
feelings.

TIP!
Do not overdo questions.
Paraphrase to clarify response.
Use questions like:
-How would you describe
-What happened when
Use statements like:
-Explain more about
-Tell me what you mean
by

7. SELF-DISCLOSURE
Sharing of personal
experiences that
should include ONLY relevant
content intended to help the
mentee.

TIP!
Disclose ONLY when theres a
NEED.
Stay focused when sharing. It is
all
about your MENTEE NOT YOU.

8. INTERPRETATION
Providing new meaning,
reason
or explanation for
behaviors,
thoughts, or feelings so
the
mentee can see the
problem in a
new way.

TIP!
Keep it short.
Deliver it with
empathy.
Use SPARINGLY.

9. INFORMATION
Supplying data, opinions,
facts,
resources or answers to
QUESTIONS.

TIP!
Provide answers that are
beneficial
to the mentee.
If unsure, DO NOT give any
data,
opinion, or information.

10. ATTENDING
BEHAVIOR
Help facilitate a feeling of
caring &
respect that translate into
rapport &
trust.

TIP!
Appropriate eye contact.
Open & relaxed posture.
Follow through story.