FRIENDSHIP IS BASED ON

MUTUAL REPECT, NOT ON

SHARED AMUSEMENT James
Stenson
PEER PRESSURE
PEER
Your peers are the people with whom you
identify and spend time.
In children and teens, they are usually, but
not always, of the same age group.
Peer pressure is an influence that a peer group,
observers or an individual exerts that encourages others to
change their attitudes, values, or behaviors to conform the
group norm.
Peer pressure occurs when an individual experiences
implied or expressed persuasion to adopt similar values,
beliefs, and goals, or to participate in the same activities as
those in the peer group.
1. Peer pressure exists for all ages. No one is immune from
peer pressure.
2. The level of peer influence generally increases as
children grow, and resistance to peer influence often
declines as children gain independence from the family
or caregivers, and before they fully form an adult
identity
3. The more social interactions outside the home and
more awareness of others, the influence of peers
increases..

group.
KINDS OF PEER
PRESSURE
POSITIVE PEER PRESSURE
1. Works towards developing ones recognition of
right and wrong.
2. It is an extension of the family. Family values
are shared and therefore reinforced among
friends.
3. Peer groups are source of affection, sympathy
and understanding.
4. Peer group is also a conducive and supportive
setting for identifying and creating who one is
and developing personal autonomy-discovering
the self as separate and independent from
parents.
PERCIEVED NEGATIVE PEER
PRESSURE
When mentioned, adults instantly think of
dangerous, destructive ideas that immediately discards all
parental, and family personal values that was instilled in
our minds and hearts. The adult see it as an erroneous
influence that easily moves us to participate in group
initiated acts that are in themselves wrong. Because of the
needed acceptance, attention and approval gained from
the group, one is easily swayed to CONFORM to their
conduct and beliefs even it opposes its own.
WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO CONFORM?
The word CONFORMITY refers to the desire to be just like every one else-
to do what they do and say what they say, to think what they think and
wear what they wear.

CONFORMIST- is someone who is afraid to be different from majority; he
feels a great need to be like everybody else.

TO CONFORM- means to accept ideas, the fashion, the way of walking, and
the way of talking that is popular all the time.

THE PRESSURE TO CONFORM IS SO STRONG IN SOME PEOPLE THAT THEY
FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE IF THEY ARE DIFFERENT IN ANY WAY AT ALL( Dobson
1997).
Characteristics of people who conform to
peer pressure
1.When discovering and creating a self of their own ,
they depend on their friends to dictate what kind of
person they should be.
2. What hey value and believe is exactly the same as
their friends vales and belief.
3. Thoughts, acts and decision are according to their
friends.
4. No genuine sense of identity.
5.Just go with the flow and do what others are doing.
Why others give to peer pressure?
1.It is with these friends you are most accepted.
2. With their friends they feel at home.
3. The threat to ridicule or rejection by their friends
frightens them that they make the groups ideas their
own.
4. To save the friendship and to still be part of barkada
Personality traits that make you more prone to give in to
pressure. The traits that put you at higher risk for falling in to
the peer pressure trap include:

1. low self esteem
2. lack of confidence
3. uncertainty about ones place within a given peer group
4. no personal interests exclusive of one's peer group
5. feeling isolated from peers and/or family
6. poor academic abilities or performance
7. fear of one's peers
8. lack of strong ties to friends
9. feeling that friends could turn on you
10. close bond with a bully

RISK FACTOR FOR
PEER PRESSURE
HANDLING PEER PRESSURE
BE ONES OWN PERSON-having ones own set
of values, beliefs, and principles and using them as basis
of ones actions and decisions.

Being ones own person means one knows the
values he spouses and is capable of upholding them
amidts peer pressure even if it is the unpopular
decision.
We can say NO with a smile when we have a higher
burning YES inside of us-Stephen Covey.


THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE
TEENS by Sean Covey
1. Remove yourself entirely from the environment you
are in.
2. Dont be overly concerned about being popular or
being liked by the in crowd.
3. Be optimistic-see life as a generally positive
experience.
4. Build self-confidence and self respect.
5. Rediscover self.
6. Care more about what YOU think of you than what
your PEERS think of you.

TECHNIQUES TO TO HELP MANAGE WHEN PRESSURED
TO DO SOMETHING AGAINTS ONES PERSONAL VALUES
AND PRINCIPLES.
1. Do not be judgmental.
2. Express to your peers that you respect their decision
for choosing to do what they are doing.
3. Express your decision with conviction and cite your
reasons why.
4. Say NO with a smile.
5. Reaffirm your desire to continue the friendship
despite this differences.

Some of the techniques of resisting peer pressure include:

1. Observe people and the groups with whom they socialize. Observe what they do and
the consequences of their actions. When someone tries to argue "everyone's doing
it," you can prove otherwise. Make positive choices about who you spend time with,
instead of joining a group just because it is there.
2. Avoid situations that present problems - parties where no adults will be
present, being alone with a boyfriend or girlfriend who might pressure you
to become sexually involved, situations where you will have to "prove
yourself" to be accepted as part of the group.

3. Evaluate the risk. Are you being ask to do something that is trivial, like
wearing a piece of clothing you wouldn't normally choose, or are you being
asked to do something that might have permanent health or legal
consequences like using drugs or drinking and driving?

4. Communicate: Say "No" forcefully and with eye contact. If you do not
believe yourself, no one else will either. You do not need to apologize for
your individuality. Find an ally, someone who feels the same way you do,
who will support your decision to say no.




Some of the techniques of resisting peer pressure include:
5.
5. Anticipate what your friends will say or do and decide beforehand how you will
react. If you know that when you go to the mall your friends will shoplift, decide
how you will handle the situationbefore you go or make an excuse to stay home.

6. If you are in a situation where there is conflict, walk away. No one can make you
do something you do not want to. If you find yourself anticipating conflict too
often, seriously think about finding a new friend or set of friends. Start off
gradually, spending less and less time with the people who are pressuring you.

7. Know yourself. Know what moods might make you more susceptible to negative
peerinfluence. Know what activities make you feel good about yourself. Know why
you are doing whatever you do everyday. Be aware of your actions. Make active
choices rather than floating along with the crowd.

8. Get involved in positive activities such as sports, volunteering, peer tutoring, or youth
clubs. Look for people who share your interests outside of your immediate school friends.
Having several different groups of people who accept you gives you choices and social
outlets rather than making you dependent on one group of friends.

THANK YOU VERY MUCH
FOR LISTENING!!!!