Seven Habits of Highly Effective People

1.What is a Habit? 2.Seven Habits Paradigm 3.The Seven Habits

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Desire (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Skills (how to)

Desire (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Knowledge (what to, why to)

Habits

Skills (how to)

Desire (want to)

Habits
Internalized principles & patterns of behavior

Seven Habits
1 Be Proactive 2 Begin with the End in Mind 3 Put First Things First 4. Think Win/Win 5.Seek First to Understand... Then to Be Understood 6 Synergize 7.Shapen the saw

SEVEN HABITS ARE BASED

The Seven Habits center on timeless and universal principles of personal, interpersonal, managerial, and organizational effectiveness.

THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM

Interdependence
Seek First to Understand Then to be Understood Synergize

PUBLIC VICTORY

Independence

PRIVATE VICTORY
Be Proactive Begin with the End in Mind

Dependence

FOUR DIMENSIONS OF RENEWAL

Exercise, Nutrition, Stress Management

PHYSICAL

Reading, Visualizing, Planning, Writing

MENTAL

SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL
Service, Empathy, Synergy, Intrinsic Security

Value Clarification & Commitment, Study & Meditation

SPIRITUAL

Habit #1 Be Proactive
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

THE UPWARD SPIRAL

Commit Learn

Do

Commit
Do
Do Commit

Learn

Learn Do Commit Learn

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PROACTIVE MODEL
Stimulus

Freedom to Choose

Response

SelfAwareness

Independent Will

Imagination

Conscience

What happens to a bottle of soda when you shake it up?

It EXPLODES!

When you are PROACTIVE, you make a choice about how you react to the things that happen in your life. You act like a water bottle. You might get shaken up or mad, but you stay calm and dont explode!

What steps could you take to be more PROACTIVE and calm when things arent going well?

HOW PROACTIVE AM I?

. . . the degree to which I take initiative to improve my current circumstances or create new ones.

Proactive vs. Reactive

When you are PROACTIVE, you make good choices about how you respond to something happening. You are always ready with a calm attitude. You do things to make sure that the right things will happen. You are prepared for anything that might happen. When things dont go your way, you arent happy, BUT you stay calm. When you are REACTIVE, you could explode at any minute. Things happen and they catch you off guard. You arent ready for things that might happen. You deal with things when they happen instead of being prepared.

Where do you fall?

Very Reactive

Very

Proactive

How could you be more proactive?

Circle of Influence
Things you cant control
circle of circle of influence

concern

Things you can control or change

Focus on things you can change or influence

CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

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CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE

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Circle of Influence
Things you CANT control or change:
Other people The weather

Things you CAN control or change:

Your attitude Your mood

Things you did wrong in the past

How other people treat me

Your reaction to good and bad things that happen

How I treat other people

Homework

Can you think of other examples from your life?

Habit #2
Begin with the End in Mind
Based on the work Stephen Covey

I plan ahead and set goals. I do things that have meaning and make a difference. I am an important part of my classroom. I look for ways to be a good citizen.

What is the end for you? What do you hope to be doing ten years from now? Twenty? Make a list of things you want to do in your life.

Before you figure out the end, you have to take a look at who YOU are! Draw a picture of something that represents you. It could be an animal, plant, machine, a food, etc. Explain why you chose what you did.

Write your name in a circle. Out from the circle, write words that describe you.

Mission Statement, Part 1:

artistic

athletic

Ben

reader

kind

Now think about what kind of person you WANT to be. Make a list.

Mission Statement, Part 2:

I want to be a:
1.Hard worker

2.Good student
3.Kind person

4.Talented artist

Use the two lists to write a mission statement. This is a sentence or paragraph about the person you want to be. Here are some example:

Mission Statement, Part 3:

My mission is to: Laugh a lot Learn as much I can Work hard at home, school and in my sports Be kind to others Take good care of myself. To get better at my art.

How good are you at beginning with the end in mind?

I always keep the end in mind.

I only think about today. Why did you rate yourself this way?

How does saying no sometimes help you with beginning with the end in mind? What things do you have to say no to?

Finish these sentences:

~If I my future had no limits, I would choose to be.. ~I want to be a person who

Habit #3
Put First Things First
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

I spend my time on things that are most important. This means I say no to things I should not do. I set priorities, make a schedule, and follow my plan. I am organized.

Going for Your Goals

At Home Goals At School Goals

Set two or three goals for at home and for at school.

Sometimes not being brave gets in the way of doing things that are important to you. Putting first things first might means putting aside your fears to reach your goal. Has fear ever kept you from doing something great or important? Explain.

Big Things and Little Things:

Putting first things first means planning your time around the most important, BIG things in your life. Then, you can get to the little things that take your time.

Big, Important Things That Take Your Time

Small Things, Less Important Things That Take Your Time

Organizing Your Days

Write out your regular schedule for a full day, from start to finish. Is it organized? Do you waste time, or put first things first?

Now choose one goal for home, and one goal for school. Write your goals in a circle. Out from the circle, write things that you can do to help you achieve those goals.

Making it Happen

Play x games on the computer.

Make flash cards.

Memorize my multiplication facts.

Practice in the car on the way to school.

Have somebody quiz me daily.

Where do you fall?

I always put first things first!

I never to set goals or put first things first.

How could you be better at putting first things first?

Habit #4
Think Win-Win
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

Is this picture a good one for Think Win-Win? Why or why not? If so, defend your answer. If not, design a better one and explain your thinking.

I want everyone to be a success. I dont have to put others down to get what I want. It makes me happy to see other people happy. I like to do nice things for others. When a conflict arrives, I help brainstorm a solution. We all can win!

High

CONSIDERATION

Lose/Win

Win/Win

Lose/Lose

Win/Lose

Low Low

COURAGE

High

LEVELS OF COMMUNICATION
High Synergistic (Win/Win)

TRUST

Respectful (Compromise)

Defensive (Win/Lose or Lose/Win)

Low Low

COOPERATION

High

Think Win-Win Road Blocks

Ill step on you to get ahead.

I am a loser. I cant do anything.

At least I am better than her/him.

Ill let someone else win again.

Have you ever stepped on somebody else to win? Have you pushed someone aside so you could get something good? How does this feel? Think an example.

Human Doormat:
Do you always let other people win? Do you not raise your hand to answer a question because you know somebody will answer? Do you let people jump in front of you? Do you let people treat you poorly? (If so, you are not practicing Think Win-Win.)

Describe a time when you let people step on you to win.

How To Think Win-Win

In order to Think Win-Win, you need to be confident in you. You must not care what others think of you. You will be happy to see others be successful.

Make a word & picture splash to show what makes you unique.

Where do you fall?

Very Good! I want everyone to do well.

Very Bad! I dont like to see other people win. How could you be better at Think Win-Win?

Habit #5 Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

Based on the work Stephen Covey.

Listening Road Blocks

Spacing Out:
Your mind wanders when others talk.

Pretend Listening:
You dont really pay attention to the other person, but you pretend to. You say yeah,, uh-huh, and cool.

Selective Listening:
You listen only to the parts that interest you.

Selfish Listening:
You always bring the conversation back to you and your life. You say things like I had that happen too and I know how you feel.

We all have times when we are poor listeners. Which Listening Road Block do you most often use? Explain why this happens.

Im All Ears
Everybody wants to be listened to. When people feel like you listen, they are more likely to like you. So, be a good listener, and youll have lots of friends. What are some ways that you can show people that you ARE listening? Who is a good listener? Create a list of people that you know that listen well.

Listen With Your Eyes:

Sometimes you have to listen with your eyes as much as you listen with your ears. People say a lot with their body language and facial expressions.

Emotion Charades:
Find a partner. Practice listening with your eyes. Choose an emotion to try to express just with your face and body. You can not use words.

Angry
Sad Embarrassed Tired Happy Thinking Bored

Impatient
Scared Worried Relaxed Frustrated Surprised Stressed

Confused
Flattered Nervous Annoyed Interested

Mirror, Mirror
To be a good listener, mirror back what someone says. Repeat back in your own words what the person is saying. Use statements like You seem to be feeling and So what you are saying is

Have you ever had a time with your family or friends when you knew that you needed to zip it and just listen? Why is it important to do this sometimes? How does this help the person you are listening to?

Are you a good listener?

Very Good Listener

Not Such a Great Listener How could you be a better listener?

Habit #6
Synergize

Based on the work of Stephen Covey.

I value other peoples strengths and learn from them. I get along well with others, even people who are different from me. I work well in groups. I seek out other peoples ideas to solve problems. I know that two heads are better than one. I am a better person when I let other people into my life and work.

They say that, Two heads are better than one. Do you agree or disagree? Why?

Make a list of times when you have to work with other people at home, school, or church, or in your clubs/ sports.

Everybody is different, or unique. In what ways is this a good thing? How does this help you when you are working with a group on a project?

How does everyone being different make things harder? How can you overcome these challenges? Would it be easier if everyone had the same personality, looks, talents and interests?

Pair up with someone you dont usually work/play with. Come up with at least five differences and five things you have in common.

Celebrate Differences:

Differences: Student 2

Ways You Are Alike

Differences: Student 1

What does this quote mean? Is it true? Is it a good thing or a bad thing?

Everyone is in love with his own ideas.

How can having someone disagree with you help you learn? Explain your thoughts.

Dream Team
You have been asked to put together a team to create a new invention. If you could choose anyone in the world, who would be on your team. You must explain your reason. You may have 5 teammates.

Person

Reason

Synergy Action Plan

Define the Problem Their Way
Make sure you understand the problem or task. Try to understand everyones ideas. Listen carefully. Seek to be understood. Share your ideas. Be creative. Everyone create new ideas. Find best solution.

My Way
Brainstorm High Way

Where do you fall?

I work well with others.

Id rather work by myself. How could you be better at working with others?

Habit #7
Sharpen the Saw
Based on the work of Stephen Covey

A man has been working hard to saw through a tree for over three hours. He still hasnt cut through the tree trunk. What might be wrong with the mans saw? What should he do?

I take care of my body by eating right, exercising, and getting sleep. I spend time with family and friends. I learn in lots of ways and lots of places.

Exercise, Be Healthy, Sleep, Relax

Body:

Learn, Read, Write

Brain:

Soul:
Journal, Think, Pray

Heart:
Serve, Laugh, Be a Friend

What do you do to take care of your body? What do you NOT do? Could you make any improvements?

How you are working to improve your brain? What could you stop doing? What could you start doing? Can you think of someone who really works on this area of their life?

Brain Food
What are your plans for feeding your brain? Make a list of things you want to learn or things that you want to do that will teach you.

How you are working to improve your soul? What things do you do that make you the most happy?

Feeding Your Soul

What feeds your soul? What inspires you and gives you peace? What are some songs, books or movies that make you want to be a better person? Is there a person that makes YOU want to be better?

Does the heart matter? Are you serving/helping anyone? What things do you do to make friends and/or to make other people happy? Can you think of someone that really is good at this?

Your Saw is Your Life

What makes your saw sharp? What makes your saw dull?

How good are you at sharpening the saw?

My saw is very sharp!

My saw is very dull! What steps could you take to sharpen your saw?

The Time Management Matrix

Urgent Urgent Not Urgent

Important

I The ____________

II The _____________

Not Important

III The Yes-man

IV The ___________

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 1
Be Proactive. Proactive people take responsibility for their own lives. They determine the agendas they will follow and choose their response to what happens around them. Be Reactive. Reactive people dont take responsibility for their own lives. They feel victimized, a product of circumstances, their past, and other people. They do not see as the creative force of their lives.

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Begin with the End in Mind. These people use personal vision, correct principles, and their deep sense of personal meaning to accomplish tasks in a positive and effective way. They live life based on self-chosen values and are guided by their personal mission statement.

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Begin with No End in Mind. These people lack personal vision and have not developed a deep sense of personal meaning and purpose. They have not paid the price to develop a mission statement and thus live life based on societys values instead of self-chosen values.

HABIT 2

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Put First Things First. These people exercise discipline, and they plan and execute according to priorities. They also walk their talk and spend significant time in Quadrant II.

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Put Second Things First. These people are crisis managers who are unable to stay focused on highleverage tasks because of their preoccupation with circumstances, their past, or other people. They are caught up in the thick of thin things and are driven by the urgent.

HABIT 3

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Think Win-Win. These people have an abundance mentality and the spirit of cooperation. They achieve effective communication and high trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, resulting in rewarding relationships and greater power to influence.

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Think Win-Lose or Lose-Win. These people have a scarcity mentality and see life as a zero-sum game. They have ineffective communication skills and low trust levels in their Emotional Bank Accounts with others, result-ing in a defensive mentality and adversarial feelings.

HABIT 4

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood. Through perceptive observation and empathic listening, these non-judgmental people are intent on learning the needs, interests, and concerns of others. They are then able to courageously state their own needs and wants.

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Seek First to Be Understood. These people put forth their point of view based solely
on their auto-biography and motives, without attempting to understand others first. They blindly prescribe without first diagnosing the problem.

HABIT 5

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Synergize. Effective people know that the whole is greater than the sum of the parts. They value and benefit from differences in others, which results in creative cooperation and team-work.

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE

HABIT 6

Compromise, Fight, or Flight. Ineffective people believe the whole is less than the sum of the parts. They try to clone other people in their own image. Differences in others are looked upon as threats.

SEVEN HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE

EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Sharpen the Saw. Effective people are involved in self-renewal and self-improvement in the physical, mental, spiritual, and social-emotional areas, which enhance all areas off their life and nurture the other six habits.

INEFFECTIVE PEOPLE
Wear Out the Saw. Ineffective people fall back, lose their interest, and get disordered. They lack a program of self-renewal and selfimprovement and eventually lose the cutting edge they once had.

HABIT 7

PARADIGM SHIFTS
A BREAK FROM TRADITIONAL WISDOM

TOWARD 7 HABITS
We are a product of our choices to our environment and upbringing. Values are self-chosen and provide foundation for decision making. Values flow out of principles. Actions flow from that which is important. Win-win. Mutual benefit. Communication solves problems. Differences are values and are opportunities for synergy.

Habit 1 Habit 2 Habit 3

We are a product of our environment and upbringing. Society is the source of our values. Reactive to the tyranny of the urgent. Acted upon by the environment. Win-lose. One-sided benefit. Fight, flight, or compromise when faced with conflict. Differences are threats. Independence is the highest value. Unity means sameness.

Habit 4
Habit 5

Habit 6
Habit 7

Entropy. Continuous self-renewal and self93 Burnout on one track - typically work. improvement.