Love is not the basis for marriage; marriage is the basis for love, being loved is the second-best

thing in the world; loving someone is the best.

Type of marriage

This is my home. If you dont respect me, I will send you back to your home.

I will respect you

Old Style Marriage

Many men believe that an old-style marriage is best for the man, even if it is not very good for the woman.
But, the fact is: An old-style marriage does not bring much happiness even to the man. Why? For two reasons:

A) In an old-style marriage, the wife seems to respect her husband, but her respect is not deep. For example, in the Bible we find that Isaac and Rebecca had an old-style marriage. Rebecca respected Isaac, but not deeply and so she deceived him in order to get a blessing for her favorite son (genesis 27:5) B) In an old-style marriage, the wife does what she is expected to do, but nothing more. She cooks for him, but does not try to prepare his favorite meals. She allows him to have relationship with her, but she doesnt try to make it really exciting for him. She gives him nothing more because he is thinking mostly of himself, and (down deep) she is thinking mostly of herself.

I am still the man. You must respect me!

We are Equal!

Modern Marriage

Modern Marriage

Today many wives refuse to have an old-style marriage. They say, I must think of my rights. Why should I respect my husband? He is no greater than I.
But many husbands are still saying, MY wife should think of me and try to make me happy. I must not be too friendly with her. Then she will respect me.

This leads to a new kind of marriage, we call it modern marriage

In a modern marriage, both the husband and wife want to receive respect. They both want to be boss,. So their marriage becomes a daily competition filled with endless quarrels. They are not friend. They are like two athletes from different schools. Each trying to win.

In a modern marriage, the husband usually makes the mistake of thinking, Its not my fault that our marriage is full of quarrelling, the problem is: Modern women no longer respect their husband. I should have married a girl from a rural area instead of this city girl.

In other words, husbands often wish for an oldstyle marriage instead of a modern marriage.
However. God has a plan that is far better than either the old style or Modern marriage.

Selfish - Male
All my money belongs to me. The money that you earn also belongs to me. Heres a coin

Thank you so much

In the selfish male way, often the man does not tell his wife how much he earns. He keeps it a secret because he plans to spend most of it on himself not on his wife and children.
Today many women are tired of the Selfish Male way. They say, Instead of begging my husband for money, Ill get a job and all that I earn is mine!

This seems fair. But the problem is: it does not make the home very happy. Why? Because it is still selfish.

Both Selfish
Use your money to buy a stove. I used my money to buy the car and the No, you must buy the stove. I bought all the furniture with y money.

When a wife decides to be as selfish as her husband, they have endless quarrels.
God has a better way! He commands both the husband and the wife to be unselfish. Submit to one another. Wife, submit to your husband. Husband, love your wife. (From Eph. 5; 21-25) God knows how difficult it is for us humans to be unselfish, and He understands that it is especially difficult for us to be unselfish with money. But God has all power. He can give us strength so that our marriages will be full of unselfish love, even in the difficult area of money.

I want to be close to you, and be your best friend.

I want to be close to you, and be your best friend.

Gods Plan for Marriage

When a husband and wife follow Gods plan, the husband has the attitude: I want to think of my wifes happiness more than my own. I want to be her friend, and I want be unselfish like Christ.
And the wife has the attitude. My husband satisfies my need for a close friend who cares about me. I want to do all I can to make him happy. I want to respect him deeply. Every country on earth has its own customs and rules for how a husband and wife should treat each other. But God knows best. And in the Bible, He tells husbands and wives exactly what to do:

Verses to Husbands

Verses to Wife

Every wife must respect her Every husband must love his wife husband. as he loves himself. (Eph 5:33) (Eph 5:33a) Love your wife, just as Christ loved Submit to your husband, just as you submit to the Lord. the church and gave his life for it. (Eph 5:25) For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ is the head Think of your wifes needs. Treat her as carefully as you would treat of the church a weaker vase. She is your partner A wife must submit to her in receiving the grace of life. Do this so that nothing will hinder your husband in every thinks, just as the church submits to Christ. prayers. (Eph 5:22-24) (1 Peter 3:7)

Truly Christian Marriage Here, take some of our money and buy some new clothes for yourself.
Thank you. But you need new clothes more than I do. Please buy some for yourself. I will wait until next month.

Of course, there are some homes where the husband wastes all his money on beer. In that case, we must tell the wife, Keep your money separate. But to you, Evelyn, we say: Since both you and your husband love the Lord, it should not be necessary to keep your money separate, Pray together daily saying, Lord, please help us to be unselfish with money, and help us to use a lot of our money to spread your kingdom.

Purpose of the marriage

1. Marriage is Gods idea - Genesis 2:18-24 2. Commitment is essential to a successful marriageGenesis 24: 58-60

3. Romance is important-Songs of Songs Genesis 4: 9,10 4. Marriage holds time of great joy- Jeremiah 33:10,11
5. Marriage creates the best environment for raising children - Malachi 2:14, 15

6. Unfaithfulness breaks the bond of trust, the foundation of all relationships-Matthew 5: 32

7. Marriage is permanent - Matthew19: 6

8. Ideally, only death should dissolve marriage Romans 7:2,3 9. Marriage is based on the principled practice of love, not on feelings - Ephesians 5:21-33 10. Marriage is a living symbol of Christ and the Church Ephesians 5:23,32 11. Marriage is good and honorable Hebrews 13:4

It is far more important to be the right kind of person than it is to marry the right kind of person.