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SUGGESTED DIFFERENCES
Can be positive when: helps open up discussion results in problem solving increases the level of individual involvement improves communication between people releases stored up emotions helps people to develop their abilities Can be negative when: diverts from dealing with important issues creates feelings of dissatisfaction leads to individuals/groups becoming insular reduces future cooperation
What is Assertiveness?
Behaviour which helps us to communicate clearly and confidently our : * NEEDS * * WANTS * & * FEELINGS * to other people without abusing their human rights in any way. rights
Being Assertive
C Compromise Open O Negotiate N Fair F I Innovate D Direct E Expressive N Non-verbal Chance C Empower E
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- only if its reasonable to do so - and be honest - firmly and wisely - to yourself as well as others! - dont wait for others or fate - and clear in your speech - show your feelings when appropriate - use your body & beware of hidden messages - take risks - everyone!
Passive/Aggressive
Aggressive
Passive
Assertive
PERSONAL RIGHTS
AGGRESSION Always violates the other persons rights. Allows others to violate our rights. Expresses ourselves in a way which does not violate other peoples rights.
NON-ASSERTION ASSERTION -
Non-verbal behaviours
Aggressive
Direct eye contact battle Body closed off Pounding fists Pointing fingers Hands on hips Sarcastic tone Loud or deathly soft voice Often stands too close
Assertive
Comfortable direct eye contact Open body Body still and relaxed Posture upright Hand gestures to emphasise words Voice appropriately firm/warm Appropriate distance from other person
Non-assertive
Looks away Shoulders slumped Fiddling with distractions Wringing hands Shuffling feet Voice soft & difficult to hear Whining voice
The I message.
Non assertive
(disowning)
(blame)
(behaviour judgement)
Assertive
(owning) (feelings) (description of behaviour) I feel angry when you arrive late.
Negative Assertion (accepting your errors and faults without apologising) Statement: This desk is a complete mess - youre hopelessly disorganised!
Fogging (agreeing with the truth, odds, principle) Statement: I see you are dressed in your usual sloppy manner Assertive Reply: Thats right, my dress is the same as usual.
Negative Enquiry (prompting of criticism - for factual dialogue) Statement: Youll find that difficult because youre shy. Assertive Reply: In what way do you think Im shy?
Transactional Analysis
Nurturing Parent protecting and caring SUPPORTIVE Adult rational, problem solving thoughts and behaviours LOGICAL Adapted Child compliance with authority, CONFORMING Natural Child free expression of feelings & emotion SPONTANEOUS Critical Parent criticising - many shoulds & musts JUDGEMENTAL
Transactional Analysis
Transactional Analysis
also complimentary
also complimentary
Transactional Analysis
Leads to conflict
Transactional Analysis
ULTERIOR TRANSACTION