Introduction

Assertiveness is a way of making sure your needs are

met while still considering the needs of others. If you suffer from social anxiety disorder (SAD), communicating assertively may seem uncomfortable at first. Chances are that you have adopted a passive communication style that enables you to avoid conflict but leaves you feeling anxious, depressed and helpless, and causes frustration and discomfort to those around you. Learning to communicate assertively is not selfish, but rather an effective way of negotiating social encounters.

how to help build, and develop self-confidence and assertiveness

Building self-confidence and assertiveness is probably

a lot easier than you think. 'Non-assertive' people (in other words 'normal people') do not generally want to transform into being excessively dominant people. When most people talk about wanting to be more assertive, what they usually really mean is: 'How can I become more able to resist the pressure and dominance of excessively dominant people?' And also, 'How can I exert a little more control in situations that are important to me?'

assertiveness and self-confidence methods and techniques

Know the facts relating to the situation and have the

details to hand. Be ready for - anticipate - other people's behaviour and prepare your responses. Prepare and use good open questions. Re-condition and practice your own new reactions to aggression.

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Have faith that your own abilities and style will

ultimately work if you let them. Feel sympathy for bullies - they actually need it. Read inspirational things that reinforce your faith in proper values and all the good things in your own natural style and self

Assertiveness on the job

Many people find being assertive difficult and assume

it's a natural quality that can't be taught. That's not true, and this course provides simple, effective and proven techniques that anyone can use to be more assertive.

Tips To Being Assertive and Skillful In Your Relationships

There are various strategies to getting your needs met

in your personal and professional life. For example, you can either be aggressive, actively passive, passive aggressive or assertive; however, aggressiveness is about intimidation, active passivity is about learned helplessness and passive aggressiveness is an indirect strategy that uses hints or manipulation tactics to make a statement or a request

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1. State the Facts- Leave judgments and perceptions

behind and simply state the facts by specifically describing the issue you are wanting to address. Next express your feelings and opinions about the situation in a clear and concise manner. Use phrases like: I want, I dont want, instead of You should, You are.. 2. Assert Yourself- Ask for what you want or say no clearly. Remember the other person is not a mind reader, so dont assume they are going to figure it out without you clearly specifying what you want. Then you may want to communicate both the positive effects of getting what you want and the negative effects of not getting what you want, so he/she can understand the consequences.

 3. Stay Focused- Remember maintain your position

and stay focused on your objective. Dont get distracted or sidetracked. A way to stay focused is by practicing mindfulness skills where you are presently aware of the moment while leaving all judgments behind. Another way of staying on track is by repeatedly asking for what you want, continually saying no or expressing your opinion over and over again. If the person begins to use intimidation tactics (i.e. attacks,

 . Look The Part- Keep in mind if you want to be

assertive you have to look assertive. To be competent and confident use a tone of voice and physical manner than exudes confidence. Make good eye contact. Avoid being overly apologetic or making statements that make you appear uncertain or selfdoubting like I dont know, or Im not sure.

Conclusion
Assertiveness is described as being the ability to

stand up for your rights in a way that does not infringe the rights of others. Being assertive is the ability to communicate your opinions, needs and ideas in a confident and direct manner. The video also offers some ideas on how to cultivate the right type of thinking that will support the development of assertive behaviour.