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You have probably already heard you shouldn’t cross your arms
as it might make you seem defensive or guarded.
This goes for your legs too. Keep your arms and legs open.
If there are several people you are talking to, give them all
some eye contact to create a better connection and see if
they are listening.
Keeping too much eye-contact might creep people out.
Giving no eye-contact might make you seem insecure. If
you are not used to keeping eye-contact it might feel a little
hard or scary in the beginning but keep working on it and
you’ll get used to it.
Taking up space by for example sitting or standing with
your legs apart a bit signals self-confidence and that you are
comfortable in your own skin.
When you feel tense it’s easily winds up as tension in your
shoulders.
They might move up and forward a bit. Try to relax. Try to
loosen up by shaking the shoulders a bit and move them
back slightly.
Nod once in a while to signal that you are listening. But
don’t overdo it and peck like Woody Woodpecker.
But i n a r elaxed wa y, no t in a to o t ens e m anne r.
If you wa nt to sh ow tha t you are inte rest ed in
wha t some on e is saying, lean towa rd the pe rson
ta lking.
If you wa nt to sh ow tha t you’ re co nfide nt in
your se lf and re la xed le an ba ck a bi t. But do n’ t
le an in too much or you mig ht seem ne edy and
des pe rate for som e appr oval. Or lea n ba ck too
much o r you m ig ht see m a rroga nt a nd d ist ant .
lig hten up, d on’ t t ake you rself t oo seri ousl y.
Relax a bi t, sm ile and laug h when som eone says
som et hin g funny . Peopl e will be a lot more incli ned to
list en t o you i f you seem t o be a p osit ive perso n.
But don ’t be the first to laug h at yo ur own jok es, it
mak es you seem ne rvou s and nee dy. Smil e when you
are int roduced to som eo ne but don’ t keep a sm ile
plast ere d on yo ur fac e, yo u’ ll seem in sincere.
It mi ght ma ke you see m nervous and ca n be
dis tra cti ng for the li ste ne rs or the pe ople in the
co nv er sation
Do n’t ke ep your eyes on th e gr ound , it mi gh t
ma ke you se em inse cure and a bi t los t. Ke ep your
he ad up stra ig ht and your eyes to wa rds the
ho rizo n.
Th is goe s for ma ny th ing s. Wa lk ing slowe r no t
onl y ma ke s you se em mo re calm and co nf iden t, it
wi ll a ls o ma ke y ou f ee l less s tre ssed .
If someo ne addr esse s you, don’t sna p you’r e nec k
in the ir dir ect ion, tur n it a bit mor e slo wly
inst ead.
Tr y to avoid , pha se out or tr ansfor m fidg et y
mo vem ent and ner vous ticks such as sha king your
le g or ta ppi ng your fing ers aga ins t the ta ble
rapi dly .