When I was in High School I used to write letters of hate to myself to try and motivate myself to eat less and be skinnier. In a sense it did "work" because I lost weight. But if we look at the big picture it did more damage than good. I lost weight in a really unhealthy way, I gained the weight back quickly, and developed an unhealthy relationship with food. If you are working towards a goal you will have to face two things: rejection and mistakes. Self-love and compassion allows you to recover much more quickly from setbacks and self-hate kicks you when you are already down. Self hate makes you afraid to give it another shot. Self-love gives you to courage to make a fool of yourself as you try to build a new skill or reach an impossible goal. Get the free guide Copy And Paste Texts For When He Is Pulling Away Or Acting Flaky:https://www.ambergrubenmann.com/copy-and-paste-texts-for-when-he-is-pulling-away-or-acting-flakyInterested in sharing your dating question on the show? You can schedule a free call if you allow me to record it and possibly share it with the Women's Dating And Confidence Podcast audience. Message me on Instagram if you are interested! @ambergrubenmannTHANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for being here and showing up boldly. Please let me know how to improve your listening experience and serve you. Have a great day!