None of us are prepared to be caregivers — the role is thrust upon us. More than 40 million Americans are caring for an elderly parent or loved one. Here are six tips to make the caregiving burden more sustainable: - Accept help, and don't be afraid to ask for it. - Break down caregiving tasks into bite-sized solutions. - Don't tell your loved one what to do. Ask about the quality of life they want and how you can get them there. - Be an empowered medical advocate for your loved one. - Get your legal ducks in order so you can focus on your relationship. - Make sure to take care of yourself, too.