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Abdel Jawad Shodiq Diploma II

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HOW TO GET SUCCESS ?

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What is the success?


A dictionary can give you a definition of success, but real success is only determined by you. Hitler succeeded in storming across Europe, Napoleon succeeded too, Al Capone, Sam Giancanna, John Gotti, and others succeeded in becoming crime king pins. Stalin succeeded in murdering millions of his own people, Jeffery Dahmer succeeded in being a warped, psychopathic serial killer. Imelda Marcos succeeded in owning the worlds largest shoe collection. Are any of these people a success? Jesus Christ and Martin Luther King succeeded in getting themselves killed. Mahatma Gandhi and Mother Theresa were dirt poor. Dr. Frederick Banting and Dr. Alexander Flemming saved millions of people with their medical breakthroughs. Are any of these people a success? Did they hold success secrets? The dictionary definition gives a very basic definition that provides a good place to work from but a dictionary definition is inadequate to provide a platform to base a life on. The dictionary simply states that success is achieving a goal and usually a goal of finance or power. But be careful is financial success real success? Howard Hughes was one of the richest men alive, yet the latter part of his life was spent as a paranoid recluse. More recently, Yasser Arafat - a man who had political power and close to a billion dollars at his disposal -- at the end of his life his achievements were nothing more than being the master mind of countless murders and possibly dying of AIDS. Your definition of Success Success is, without question, achieving a goal. But your goal must be a worthy one. Some of the people listed above are true successes in spite of their ignoble ends. What will your definition of success be? It could be a career goal, maintaining good health, spiritual attainment, emotional, use of time, or finance. The list is much longer than this and can include just about anything. You are going to have to dig very deep inside yourself and do some serious soul searching to discover what success means to you. Discovering what success means to you might take a while, it might be a long process. The answer might not come to you immediately. That's ok, the result of your search will be more than worth it. The process of defining success Everyone has several roles that they fill in their lives. For instance you have a role as a family member, a role as an employer / employee, you have a role as a neighbour, a role as a citizen. You may have a role as a member of a club, or a team the list can be quite long. Your definition of success will have to encompass all of your various roles. It will also have to include balance. Consider this -- if you really think that success is reaching the top of the corporate ladder, are you willing to sacrifice the time away from your family? You might succeed in corporate life but your family life will suffer. What about your social life? If you succeed in becoming the president of the local Rotary club but the energy you invest there means that you might not be performing well at your job, you will be a success at the Rotary but maybe not at work. Remember to keep balance in all things.

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What is the failure?


Failure is one of those life experiences most of us would rather not encounter. Generally we tend to connect failure with intense self- judgement and inner criticism. The fear of failure is so strong, we often become hesitant to focus on inner dreams because of past failures. We would rather not fail again. Its easier to say, Oh well, I tried. then to view failure as what it really is: an expected component in the process of change. Failures are so difficult because they trigger and initially reinforce limiting beliefs that we already hold about ourselves. Beliefs which may include: Im not good enough to have what I want. (unlovable, undeserving, unworthy) Related life issue of love. Im cant have what I want (different, an outsider, alone, nothing, should not be on earth at all). Related life issue of belonging and acceptance. Im not good enough. I am basically a bad person and this is the reason for my failure. (defective, flawed, imperfect, bad, fat, guilty, imperfect, failure) Related life issue of esteem. Im powerless to effect change. (hopeless, useless, defeated) Related life issue of survival, self, empowerment, perseverance. My needs and desires will not ever be met. (vulnerable, helpless, afraid) Related life issue of security. Failure in itself isnt so bad, its the belief that gets triggered along with the associated uncomfortable emotions that we wish to avoid. Its often painful to face a belief rising to the surface that suggests we are unworthy or unacceptable. Somewhere in our lifetimes, the word failure became synonymous with the word loser. Theres often great embarrassment and even shame for grownups to have this experience of failure. Yet as children we repeatedly allowed ourselves to fail. Without failure none of us would have learned how to walk, talk, write, or even ride a bicycle. As adults, we shy away from new experiences to avoid risking failure. Truth about Failure Knowledge rests not upon truth alone, but upon error also. Carl Jung (1875-1961 Swiss Psychiatrist) Failure is not bad. Actually, its probably the only way to become successful. The obstacles, setbacks, and stumbling blocks are an anticipated aspect of any journey. Failure is really just feedback telling us to adjust the plan or to try a new approach. It is essential to success. While its certainly a giant leap to welcome failure with open arms, perhaps we can begin with acceptance that failure is a natural aspect of every ultimately successful journey. The only true failure is when we concede defeat and absolutely give up. Failure is when we beat ourselves up and learn nothing from our setbacks. Confucius is quoted as saying, Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall. If we embrace our failures along with our successes, learning from each, we will grow and achieve. The only people who do not fail are those who fail to try. A little known formula for success is that success happens because of failure. Legend has it that Thomas Edison attempted 10,000 different filaments before successfully creating the electric light bulb. When asked if he ever felt discouraged with so many failures, he answered none of his attempts were failures. They were each successful experiments in finding what didn't work!
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Henry Ford went bankrupt 3 times before he created a car that worked. Colonel Sanders was 65 years old when he tried to sell his chicken recipe. He took this recipe to over 1000 restaurants before he found a buyer. Walt Disney spoke with over 297 banks before he was able to attain a loan for his successful dream. The National Weight Control Registry is a research study established in 1994 that seeks to gather information from people who have successfully lost at least 30 pounds and kept it off for at least one year. They investigate long-term successful body weight-loss maintenance. They report that everyone who successfully loses and maintains this loss has tried to achieve success before. Part of their success was what they had learned from past failures. The Lesson of Failure Whats the lesson in this? Successful people fail more often than unsuccessful people. In fact, they fail over and over and over again. Its the failures themselves that provide learning experiences. Wisdom and enlightenment to succeed come from failure. Successful people dont give up because theyve failed. Instead they sit back and view these experiences as learning opportunities. As we go about the process of achieving a goal or dream, we will run into all sorts of obstacles, limitations and setbacks. Why? Because we dont know how to do whatever it is we are trying to do. On top of that, we dont believe we can actually have what is wanted. Encountering obstacles, even a seemingly insurmountable obstacle, doesnt prove we cant have what is wanted. Weve simply reached the edge of a boundary. Not knowing how to do something can threaten self-esteem and confidence. This is where expansion of the spirit is possible. What do we tell ourselves when find ourselves facing a failure? This is the point where we teach ourselves new leadership skills of converting threats into opportunities. We can learn how to allow support from above and below. Admitting we dont know the next step (but well know soon) demonstrates faith in ourselves and faith in being supported. To be successful, we need to design an alternative paradigm for failure. In other words, redefine failure in a manner allowing ourselves to see whatever happens not as failure, but as information. From there, it becomes possible to gather and access this new information and include it in a revised plan. During the momentary failure, we must be able to recall the excitement of the long-term big picture vision while intentionally choosing to listen to the supportive inner voices. Then we can stand strong once again in our original desire and dream, while determining how to best adjust the plan and the next action step. Failure can be used as another tool on the continuous journey to a deeper appreciation of self and love for self. We have choices: Failure can be utilized either as a way to close our heart down even more to ourselves and others, or the experience can be a stepping stone to opening our heart even further. We can view failure as evidence of our inherent internal flaws as a human being. Or we can look to find the emotional and spiritual lessons embedded within the failure. To be human is to experience failure. Nothing is, or ever was, wrong with who we are. Failure can guide us toward a leap of faith. We are capable, ultimately, of overcoming any obstacle, any problem or any situation connected with our dream. Why else would we have a particular dream unless it was ours to manifest? From within we can find the courage to walk toward what we really want in life. We can learn to encourage and support ourselves through the good times and especially the bad times. Love that you are overcoming fear and attempting something new -- no matter what the outcome. Of course there will be failures along the way. An entire new set of skills is being learned. When an occasional failure is experienced get up, dust yourself off, access the new information, believe in yourself, and begin again.

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What is the difference between success people and unsuccessful people?


Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, 'What's in it for me?' Being successful is not necessarily the result of your education, experience, family background or luck. . .but neither is being unsuccessful the result of those same things. Here are twelve differences between successful and unsuccessful people. Successful people make plans. . .unsuccessful people make excuses. Successful people live disciplined lives. . .unsuccessful people do what feels good at the moment. Successful people associate with people who have dreams and goals . . . unsuccessful people associate with wishers. They wish they had a better life but never do anything about it. Successful people are never thrown by obstacles to their success. . . unsuccessful people whine about how unfair things are. Successful people manage their time and their lives. . .unsuccessful people wonder what happened to their time. Successful people are willing to make tough decisions. . .unsuccessful people always look for the easy way out. Successful people realize success is a journey not a destination. . . unsuccessful people become road kill on the financial highway of life. Successful people are focused on their future. . .unsuccessful people are focused on what theyre doing today and this weekend. Successful people are closers and finishers. . .unsuccessful people rarely complete a goal or a project.10. Successful people understand that success is about more than money. . . unsuccessful people think success is only what they see on television. Successful people are willing to overlook C.R.A.P. (condemnation, rejection, anxiety and prejudice). . .unsuccessful people let obstacles or people stand in the way of pursuing their dreams. Successful people pay attention to details. . .unsuccessful people are bored by the ordinary.

Youre the one who will determine whether or not your life is successful. Its you. Nobody else but you.

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What ways to be successful


Success does not belong to a select few; success belongs to you, if youre willing to go after it. Success is never handed out, you must take it, but you dont take it by force. You take success by becoming a successful person internally. When you succeed on the inside, by taking on the thoughts of a successful person, the results will show on the outside. Now, I want to talk about the ways to be successful; these concepts will change your life if you implement them. 1. Eliminate the habit of delaying 2. Have the initiative 3. Be positive in all condition 4. Appreciate the time 5. Learn from mistakes and experience 6. Take the advantages from every chance which come in our live 7. Never give up

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What steps to get success


Do you want to get success in life? Many people desire to live a successful life; unfortunately, most of them are not doing anything to achieve it. For most people, they just talk about success, dream about it and never really take action to achieve it. Some people even dont know what they want in their life and they never talk about success in life at all. In fact, there is a proven formula to achieve the great success that you always wanted. If you follow through this formula, you will be able to get success in your life. Below is the proven success formula which can be summarizing into 5 steps 1. The first step is to identify what you want to achieve in your life. This is a very crucial step as it will determine every decision and action that you are going to take in the future. If you dont know what you want in your life, you will be just like a lost sheep, you dont have a clear direction of where you are heading. So find out what you really want in your life before you move on. 2. To get success in life, you need to believe that it is possible for you to achieve it. If you dont believe in it, you will never achieve it. When your beliefs are strong enough, you will do whatever it takes to achieve it because for you, it is something true and you will do it to make it come true. 3. Set clear goals to achieve what you want. Do not underestimate what goal setting can do for you. Take out a piece of paper and write down your goals, and then paste it somewhere you can see it often. Remember, your goals must be measurable, specific and have deadlines. 4. Create an action plan on how you can achieve your goals. This is going to be your to-do list and you need to take action according to this plan everyday. The key to get success in life is to do what you should in order to get closer toward your goals each and everyday. If the action is not moving you toward your goals, change your strategies and go all out again. 5. The final step is to take consistent action so that you will eventually reach your destination someday. Once you have identified your destination, all you need to do is to take action to move towards it. Correct your course and you will reach there in the end. Do not procrastinate and do not delay your action. Stick to your action plan and do what you supposed to do. This is the proven success formula. If you follow through these 6 steps above, you will definite get success in life. So put in 100% commitment and take the first step to make your dreams come true now.

BEFORE SUCCESS COMES IN MAN'S LIFE HE IS SURE TO MEET TEMPORARY DEFEAT AND PERHAPS SOME FAILURE

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