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Dr. Pam's Sex and Love Academy

Improve your love life ... with Dr. Pam's Sex and Love Academy Last Updated: 13 Apr 2012

ARE you a sexpert - or does your nookie knowledge fizzle?

If it's the latter, never fear. We are here to turn each and every one of you into clued-up cupids.

Every fortnight, sex and relationship expert Dr Pam Spurr throws open the doors to her online Academy. Learning to be a good lover has never been so easy!

Friday April 13, 2012

Sex Lessons
The baby arrives and the sex disappears You two couldn't wait for your baby's arrival - the excitement, feeling like a little family, becoming complete. But then it was Huh? Where'd we hide the sexiness? I can't find it - can you? Everything baby takes over 24/7 and this is completely normal for a time. When ready use these hot tips to get the sizzle back. And if you're not new parents you can use most of these too. Sizzle Back Tip No.1: It's never a turn-on to chat about bills/credit-card debt when sex might be on the agenda. The same is true with baby talk - ban discussing anything about your baby when you've got adult-time together. Sizzle Back Tip No.2: All couples should carve out date nights - probably even more important once youre parents. Put it in the diary, drop the baby at grans or your best friends, and even if full sex is off your radar enjoy cuddling up. Sizzle Back Tip No.3: Keep a pleasure chest stocked with everything that'll make sex easy - a luscious lubricant, sex-toys, candles, your favourite mood music CD, blindfold, etc. You're more likely to jump in the sack for sex - rather than sleep - when not faffing about looking for these. Sizzle Back Tip No.4: Definitely use tried-and-tested techniques that used to turn each other on but remember desires can change. Ask if you want some of your good old-fashioned pre-baby sexy fun - but add youre happy to try new things. Sizzle Back Tip No.5: Fantasy sex-chat takes you straight out of daily stresses. It's okay to switch off once babys asleep and have fun with fantasy scenarios.

He might fantasise she's a sexy vixen he picks up in a caf and she might fantasise he's a hot traffic cop who pulled her over for speeding. She suggests exchanging sex for not getting ticketed! Whatever - give each other permission to reveal secret fantasies. Sizzle Back Tip No.6: Let her take control and blindfold him. She gets to tease him with her fingertips swirling them up and down his body. And if she's fretting over her post-baby body this is great for her with him blindfolded. Academy Rule No.20: Don't make assumptions about what's going to happen to your sex drive and your partners after having a baby - everyone feels differently. Here's a checklist every good student can memorise: *Keep talking and sharing how you feel *Give her loads of help and she's more likely to want sex *Mums can feel cuddled-out after holding a baby all day so find out if she's in the mood for cuddles *Don't listen to what other parents are saying - your sex life should work for you *If in doubt check with your GP or health visitor about restarting your sex life Your Hot Homework Plan a surprise for her by arranging a trusted babysitter. If budgets are tight make it a weekend afternoon and take her out for a picnic at a beauty spot. Describe how you want to spoil her with sensual massage all over her body when you next have time together. Whisper how and where you'd like to touch her - describing these things builds desire. The equation: A loving vibe + sexy banter = sex is more likely!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: What percentage increase is there in men buying sex-toys to spice things up with their partner - is it: A) 100% B) 200% C) 400%

Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is C) Sh! Womens Erotic Emporium found men are far braver about buying the sex-toys with a massive 400% increase over the last two decades.

Loved-up Celebs
Max George from The Wanted and Michelle Keegan It's that old chestnut - love or career - which comes first? As Max George and Michelle Keegan break off their engagement due to work commitments it's obvious they weren't ready to commit to each other. They're both young with plenty of time to find someone theyre so head-over-heels in love with work suddenly seems less important. And who wants to settle down with someone who always puts work first? Sadly this is an issue women must take more seriously with their biological clocks liable to ring loudly at some point. Aim for the best you can do in your career but remember it won't give you love and laughter on a lonely Sunday evening.

Dr Pams Position
This fortnight: Stand and Deliver Although a standing position it doesn't require that much effort so tired parents should try it. She stands with her back resting against the wall. Leaning on the wall for support, he faces her and enters. Hell need to bend his knees and angle his hips forward to do so. This is the perfect opportunity for her to wear sexy high heels while hes barefoot. This leaves his pelvis a little lower then hers making penetration easier. Slow and gentle movements make this a hot position!

Sex Lessons
This fortnight's lecture: It's time to talk...with a difference BBC hit programme The Voice shows how you can take away looks but the human voice is still so powerful. That power extends to phone sex with a whopping 59 per cent of the under 35s experimenting with it to spice things up. Unfortunately it's easy to get wrong and embarrass yourself. Thankfully some boffins in their science labs have done lots of new research on the human voice.

Little did they know I can help you apply their findings to spare your blushes when you get on the blower. Here are my top tips for teasing talk on the telephone * Sex talk is equally about what you say and how you say it so soften and lower your voice research shows you immediately sound more attractive. * Slow your pace too - gabbling on is a turnoff. * Use a confident tone - research shows you boost each other's sexual confidence this way. * Avoid telephonus-interruptus - ensure you won't be disturbed. * Set the scene - you'll feel sexier chatting relaxing on the bed with the lights dimmed, etc. * Practice makes perfect - before chatting imagine what you might say to them. Say it aloud to your self - seems daft but it works! * Go easy now - start gently saying something like how much you loved the last time you were in bed together...but no more detail. * Gauge their response - see if they start chatting details. * Next flirt enthusiastically - compliment them, tease them, etc. * See how hot the banter gets especially with a new partner. Be playful hinting, e.g., "I'd like to try something involving my dressing gown sash and being tied up." Academy Rule No.19: Successful phone sex is as much about listening as it is about talking. Study checklist for turning up the heat * You're now equipped to step up the dirty talk. Tread carefully with a new partner so you don't offend them. * Remember you might want to whisper into the phone, "I wish you could lick me all over," but don't begin with something triple X-rated. * Give each other sexy nicknames - sharing secret nicknames strengthens your bond. * Throw in an occasional raunchy comment when they're phone-flirting. * Now begin giving lots more detail about what you're doing to yourself plus what you want to do to each other! * Keep in mind how far you can go - they might be happy to talk about being tied up or spanked but be turned off if you use rude words.

Your Hot Homework: Make the best use of what your partner has revealed to you about their secret fantasies, e.g., maybe they've mentioned being rescued by a hunky fireman or looked after by a sexy nurse. Use this info to heighten your phone sex session. If you've got lots of trust you can try sexting - sending hot pictures and messages to each other. Big Academy warning: if you don't have trust, don't do it! They could end up being forwarded to others.

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many sex toys are sold in the UK each year - is it: A) 40,000 B) 400,000 C) 4 million Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is C) a staggering 4 million - get a stockbroker its time to buy shares in batteries!

Loved-up Celebs: Simon Cowell and his type

It's rumoured Simon Cowells been hanging out with stunning makeup girl Francesca Neill. Mind you this is all completely innocent. And undoubtedly Simon Cowell is faithful to fianc Mezhgan Hussainy. But he certainly likes to surround himself with his "type" - without fail gorgeous, immaculately groomed and glamorous brunettes. Beware though there can be big problems with having a romantic type. They can scupper your relationships and that's true for both men and women. When you keep trying to re-create a past relationship by seeking out a particular type, you never give the new person a chance. You try and force them into a mould. And this isn't fair on them or you in the long term.

Dr Pams Position
This fortnight: The Starfish

She needs to be flexible and he needs some strength to control this hot position as she doesn't move much. A good position for the couple where they like him to take control. She lies on her back with him between her legs raised up on his hands. She brings both knees towards her chest. Depending on her flexibility she rest her feet either side his chest or on top of his shoulders. He controls the action carefully and varies sensations by doing sensual circular moves with his hips, speeding up or slowing down. By varying the style of his moves he can give her amazing sensations. If he moves slowly the Starfish builds their intimacy with good eye-contact.

This fortnight's lecture

Put the science of sexual attraction to work for you BBC news presenter Susannah Reids cleavage has taken on a life of its own - as reported in your Sun people are obsessed with it. That interest boils down to the science of attraction those signals [in this case a shapely cleavage] that draw our attention. Sometimes you haven't a clue why your eyes spring out of your head cartoon-style when you clock someone. But most of that first attraction is down to body language and other key signals we give. Those love-boffins found four specific brain regions light up when attracted to someone. This brain activation gives us butterflies in the stomach, feelings of euphoria, etc. -what we label Love Sickness. You don't want to have to ring a doc but to stimulate a little Love Sickness in that special person here are his and hers guides.

For her:
*New research shows a lower + slower tone of voice attracts his interest. You might have a complete laugh with your girlfriends but when you meet Mr. Potential slow it down, chill it out. *Give yourself as slim a waistline as possible with fashion tricks - belts, body cons, darker colours at the mid-line, etc. Subconsciously men are attracted to a slim waistline that signals youth and fertility. *Science shows large doe eyes set high in the cheeks will attract him at a subconscious level [he can't quite put a finger on what makes you so alluring]. It's worth investing in fabulous false eyelashes.

*Stand so your body forms a natural S shape known to naturally attract his attention. Have one leg slightly further out making that hip dip slightly. The other hip naturally rises slightly higher = very feminine curve. *Most men get annoyed when you repeatedly flick your hair but it's the opposite with an occasional slow stroke down the side of your head - seen as sensual. *Use the age-old trick of attracting his eye-line to your cleavage with a pendant or with your fingertips as you chat. This gives him a subconscious signal a your attraction - you want him to notice your femininity. *If things are heating up and you really fancy him slide your fingers up and down your drink glass slowly. This signals definite attraction. *If hes unsure whether you're interested give a simple touch to his forearm when chatting to him - subtly signals your interest.

For him:
*Be a doer - women are attracted to action so don't sit back being shy and quiet. When you make a move, go over, say hello, etc., you immediately score lots of points even if at first you're not her physical type. *Chat her up at the gym as research shows fresh sweat attracts women - note the key word is fresh. So straight after a class say hello don't hang around while your sweat gets stale. *The female eye notices the classic V-shape of a mans shoulders - usually broader than the hips. So if you're not muscled up top, use the right clothing to bulk out your shoulders. *As with vocal tone for women [above] you signal confidence with a slower deeper tone. Even if your stomach is somersaulting with nerves keep that voice calm and controlled. * If you haven't met yet and you're standing, e.g., at a bar where she can notice you, either casually rest your hand on your hip or loop a finger through your belt loop. At a subconscious level this is a display to her of your masculinity - or your man-package. It's very primal! *If youre crossing a room to make contact slow your pace and try and add a little bit of swagger - don't go over the top with a big alpha male display. Subconsciously women notice the masculinity of a man's walk. *Women often worry [sometimes rightly] a man's only after one thing. At a subtle level she'll notice if you start mirroring her body language as you chat. This signals genuine interest rather than a shallow one - heaven forbid you'd have to shallow intentions! (Smile)

Academy Rule No.18

Students should always maximise their potential - if you're looking for love you want to look your best. And if you have love you want to keep their interest.

Test Your Knowledge:

Q: What's the average length of call to a phone-sex chat-line - is it: A/ 10 minutes B/ 1 minute C/ 100 minutes Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A/ 10 minutes. And judging by Channel 4s My Phone Sex Secrets all types ring them.

Loved-up Celebs
Jessica Simpson and fianc Eric Johnson Pregnant women look away now as Jessicas hot bedroom antics might just annoy you. Where most women as far gone as she is are content with a cuddle and a foot massage, she claims things have never been more exciting. Jessica says she's unstoppable when it comes to sex with fianc Eric. And she's having the biggest big Os ever. I think most pregnant women will agree it's simply TMI (too much information) and please don't give their partners any ideas!

Dr Pams Position
The Ploughman We're not talking about cheese-based lunches here! This position requires some flexibility but is worth having a go at. She's lying comfortably on her back and he's kneeling between her legs. She draws both her legs up so her knees are bent and her heels rest towards her bottom at the sides of his hips. Because he's kneeling he can pull her hips slightly higher up his thighs for good access. He controls the gentle movements to keep things steady. Couples love the sensations from this position but if he gets tired they can easily slip into classic missionary. Follow Dr Pam on twitter @drpamspurr

Dr Pam's NEW sex-and-love guide is available to PRE-ORDER BY CLICKING HERE For more advice visit drpam.co.uk

Sex Lesson: When men lose their sex drive

There's this big fat sex-myth that men are always in the mood for sex. Footie team wins? Celebratory sex is on the menu. Footie team loses? It's consolatory sex to cheer him up. Best mates birthday? Wey-hey, carry on the party at home and so on. Because of this pressure men can feel completely useless when they lose sexual interest. Hey, where did it go? they wonder as they search high and low...um, nothing's happening in my boxers, nothings happening when I wake up, or when she wears her special knickers, etc. Of course we women decide it must be us - we're not attractive enough anymore. He feels useless, she feels unattractive = not very good for the sex life. Men lose their va-va-va-voom for as many different reasons as women do - stress at work, not looking after themselves, rows between you two. But it can also be down to TDS testosterone deficiency syndrome. Academy Rule No.17: Students must let each other know when they're worried about not having sex. Stewing in silence is a no-no. Although TDS usually strikes the over-50s it also hits many younger men especially from age 35 onwards. Not only do they lose interest in sex and find their erections aren't as powerful but they might feel theyre less energetic generally and be more forgetful. Here's a checklist every good student can memorise: * Begin by getting up the courage to speak to each other. You'll both feel so much better and mightily relieved you care enough to discuss things. * Check with your GP whether TDS or some other medical issue might be responsible for lack of sexual desire. * Keep the affection and cuddles going between you. * Definitely have loads of fun sex-play - it doesn't have to go all the way. * For more TDS info visit www.sortEDin10.co.uk Your Hot Homework Whether he's in the mood - or experiencing low sex drive nothings stopping you two from fun foreplay. Create a seductive "love zone" in your sitting room - keep one corner stuffed with cushions, candles at the ready, and your fave music in the player.

Keep a crafty bottle of massage oil handy and give each other the Erotic 8 technique. Take turns lying on your backs and doing this - it gives sensual stimulation of many erogenous zones. Start with your hands together at the breastbone and swirl outwards and under their breasts or side of his ribcage. Then bring your hands together at the point just above their navel. Then swirl back outwards along their hips bringing your hands back together at their pubic bone. You can see how this makes a figure 8 shape. Repeat swirling your hands back up their body coming in just above their navel, then outwards and back up to the top of their breastbone. Repeat varying the pressure and speed of swirling in-and-out over their body. For extra pleasure: feels heavenly done on the back and bum if you lie on your stomach.

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many women said they'd propose any time and not only leap year day - is it: A) 64% B) 24% C) 14% Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is B) - 24% of women say theyd happily propose any time. Guys, there you thought you could breathe a sigh of relief with leap year now past!

Loved-up Celebs
Tulisa and The Dream Tulisa's doing just what every girl should do after a serious break-up - find an alpha male to take you around and show you a good time. She's been doing this with big-time producer The Dream in Miami. Mind you, you shouldn't hang out with someone who can wine-and-dine you straight after a break-up - too easy for them to sweep you off your feet, into bed, and maybe break your heart for a second time. But Tulisa's timing is right and a couple of months down the line is the perfect time to go out and have fun.

Dr Pams Position
Split the Whisker This is a super hot position that'll give couples more sexual confidence. The man crouches on his knees as the woman lies on her back, one of her legs resting on his shoulder. Split the Whisker gives him good control because he holds her thighs, hips, or knees, in order to keep control and not slip out. You can be in bed or on the floor as long as his knees are comfortable while he's crouching. Men love this position as it gives them a great view of her that can be a big turn on. It's also exciting for the sexually confident woman who wants to show off her body. For women to have G-spot sensitivity this zone can be pleasured if he pulls her hips slightly up his thighs. Follow Dr Pam on twitter @drpamspurr Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lesson: Taking sex outside the bedroom

Forget estate agents when you think of location, location, location... unless youre chatting about an estate agent fantasy. And, yes, some people might have fantasies about estate agents! Instead think of location as easy way to keep sex exciting. Were SO influenced by surroundings - no surprise the bedroom gets a bit ho-hum and boring. Getting creative with locations As long as you're not breaking any laws - or are very careful not to get caught - here are location suggestions. Academy Locations - Level 1: * In the bath/shower with warm cascades of water rushing over you. * On the floor - any floor - but either one that's carpeted or put down a soft blanket.

* Get carried away in the kitchen but you'll definitely need something to cushion kitchen floor tiles/countertops. * Working hard at your desk and want a break? Maybe you're in a hot new relationship - lean against your desk or workstation for a quickie. * Just in from an evening out? Why not have a quickie against the doorframe in your front hall. Academy Locations - Level 2: * Everyone's gone home so you have the offices to yourselves. Make sure you don't get caught out by the late-night cleaner. * Get sex-perimental in a swimming pool - the buoyancy of the water makes things fun. Why not let the water lap around you as you go for it on a swimming pool lilo. * You're at a boring party - nip into the bathroom for a quickie without others knowing. * Gazing at the stars from a deck chair at your holiday hotel? Then try alfresco sex under the stars. Mind no one can see what you're doing - unless of course you're dogging - in which case that's a different story. Academy Locations - Level 3: * Time for some nail-biting adventure and get sneaky in your office during office hours. A good place is in the stationery cupboard, staff bathroom or behind your locked office door if you have the nerves for it. * Let's see if you can be so quiet while having sex in your garden shed while your neighbours sitting next door in their garden haven't a clue. * Go for some sporting moments and do a Boris Becker in the broom cupboard of a restaurant. Academy warning: Dubai is a popular holiday destination but never ever break indecency laws in a country like that. Academy Rule No.16: Students should remember variety is the spice of life - that includes location. Here's a checklist every good student can memorise: * Always have something to hand you can throw over yourselves to cover-up if someone comes by. * Always have a picnic blanket or at least a thick jacket to put under them for their comfort. Or to pad out any tender body part pressing against, e.g., a stone wall/tree-trunk. Naughty you if you haven't thought of your partner's comfort!

* Pleasure each other with your hands or through oral sex when outdoors. It heightens your sense of risk. * Simply start your foreplay when out and about - save finishing each other off at home can lead to exhilarating sex. * Once spring is here use sun cream for any under-exposed body area that may see the light of day like your bum! Your Hot Homework: Take 10 to think about your local area and dream up a new location to suggest. When cuddling up tell describe how that beauty spot you go for walks in would be the perfect place to grab some sneaky sex - or at least some fun foreplay. The equation: Always having sex in bed = using the same position time-after-time. Take things out of the bedroom and you're likely to try new positions too.

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How much will the rich and famous spend on a platinum covered, diamond encrusted vibrator? A) 2,000 B) 200 C) 20,000 Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A) - talk about more money than sense - you can get this dazzling number courtesy of Jimmyjane.com. Not convinced diamond encrusted would give such a smooth vibe!

Loved-up Celebs:
Adele and Simon Konecki Who wouldn't take five years off to look after their love-life if they had a few mill stashed in the bank? Oh for the luxurious holidays indulging each other's every whim both in-and-out of your king-sized suite. Loved-up megastar Adele has announced plans to do just that with her man Simon Konecki. Her legion of fans will be disappointed but good on her learning from previous unhappy relationships. They need time, love and attention or they don't survive.

Down the line expect an album of happy, fulfilled love songs... may not be what connected to her fans to her in the first place!

Dr Pams Position of the Fortnight

The Monkey This position is for the experienced couple - requires fitness and flexibility but there is double benefit as it works for both vaginal and anal penetration. He lies on his back at the edge of the bed and bends his knees to his chest. She gently sits back on to his erection. She rests her arms slightly behind her so that he can hold them. His feet press into her upper back for support. Very erotic for those who enjoy something different. Follow Dr Pam on twitter @drpamspurr. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: More than two ways to look at a threesome, foursome or moresome Sometimes two just isn't enough... two chocolates from a big box, two cocktails on a night out and even two in a bed with nearly a fifth of people saying theyre keen to try a threesome or moresome. That's fine-and-dandy if both partners feel the same. But if either goes queasy at the thought, there's plenty to discuss before slipping into a sex club armed with little more than a nervous grin and condoms. Academy Rule: Must I tell you no one should be pressured into a three- or moresome if they're not into it? Exactly! Discussion is one thing, pressure is a no-no. Couples who discuss fantasies to spice-up sex usually delve into the arena of three-ways. But fantasies are SO different to reality. It's hard enough grappling with two sets of sexual needs plus the more embarrassing side of sex like sweaty bodies and surprising sounds. Factor in a third set of these things and suddenly keeping it only to fantasy-chat is appealing. Here's a checklist every good student should memorise if determined to go for it: * You both must really, really want to try it.

* Agree how to go about it, e.g., do you want to look through contact mags or go to a local swinging party or fetish club to find a third-party. * Sex clubs all have their own rules so check these out. * Agreeing ground rules is a must. Some couples put certain sexual behaviour off limits like giving or receiving oral sex. * Accept either - or both - might experience jealousy if feeling threatened in any way by the third party. That includes thinking the third party is more attractive, better in bed, etc. * Excellent communication between you is crucial to avoid jealousy/insecurity. * Discuss whether you'll have the same third party involved in regular sex sessions or always look for new partners. Some couples prefer seeing the same third party. Others worry some sort of love triangle might form threatening their relationship. * Be prepared that after trying this one of you might go off the idea. * Get all MI6 about it and "debrief" after each experience to see how you're both feeling. * Crucial to abide by ground rules like NO outside contact - like phone calls - with any new sex partners. Your Hot Homework Spend time discussing each other's motives for wanting a threesome. Some are positive you're both sexually confident and experimental. Others negative - you need a confidence boost or to combat bedroom boredom. Negative things need serious consideration because adding a third person is likely to complicate these. It's time to apply your new knowledge Before going for it, get in bed and try to fully imagine having a third person in there with you. Spelling out the details to each other might make you more cautious. The equation: Desire to try it + complete confidence between you = worth a shot!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How much cool cash did Michelle Obama reportedly spend this week in Agent Provocateurs New York emporium? A) 320 B) 32,000

C) 3,200 Test Your Knowledge Answer: The correct answer is B) - that's a heckuva lot of oh-oh-heaven for President Obama.

Loved-up Celebs
Heidi Klum and Seal Yep, this super-gorgeous couple are separated but Seal said in an interview this week he still loves Heidi. Where theres love, theres a way to sort things out. With three children between them plus a fourth from another relationship of Heidi's they shouldn't give up on love too soon. Rumours have been rife about why a couple that always looked love-struck on the red carpet would split. None of these alleged reasons are insurmountable, even the ones about Seal having a bad temper. Anger management, couples counselling, both sticking in there, whatever it takes is worth it before these kids lives are torn apart for good.

Dr Pams Position
The Spinner He lies flat on the bed/floor and she sits astride him facing him. She then spins carefully around so she ends up facing his feet. This position allows her to vary the pressure of penetration by varying the way she sits. Leaning forward, her hands on his ankles, decreases pressure. Leaning back, resting her hands at the side of his stomach, increases pressure. He can hold her hips to maintain penetration so she doesn't slip off. Slipping her feet underneath her (with knees bent), while supporting herself with her hands, she can then raise and lower herself. This variation is known as offering the moon because of the way her bottom moves up and down (mooning) in full view of him. Perfect if he's a 'bum man'! Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice follow Pam on Twitter @DrPamSpurr or visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Different sex drives

Research varies but a recent study has found as many as 50 per cent of couples experience mismatched sex drives. So if he or she is always pestering you for sex - and you just don't have the interest - you've got a lot of company. It's not really surprising - after all when you got together he preferred pizza and she preferred Chinese. He loved an action holiday and she loved lying on the beach. So why wouldn't your sex drives be different too? But theres double-trouble when this happens. The partner who has a higher drive feels neglected. And the partner who has a lower drive feels pestered or inadequate. These issues have a way of creeping into the rest of your relationship even when you know you love your partner. Time to tackle the differences between your drives. The first step is to stop any finger-pointing. Playing the blame game will get you nowhere. Being honest, loving and tactful is the only way to go. Academy Rule No.14: Students should remember there is no right or wrong to how high or low your sex drive is as long as you're both working towards a compromise. Here's a checklist every good student can memorise: Here are some [not all, mind you] of the main culprits affecting sex drive - see how many might apply to you or your partner. * lifestyle issues like out-of-control stress and long working hours * personal choices like excessive drinking, and recreational drug use * being overweight leading to less sexual energy * experiencing depression and anxiety * relationship difficulties or breakdown, rows, etc. * certain physical problems like having a bad back are draining * fatigue after childbirth can kill sexual desire * surprising things affect sex drive including medications like the birth control pill, antidepressants and blood pressure medications * hormonal changes later in life for both men and women

* other passion killers include worries over financial problems * and to be brutally honest... plain old boredom in the bedroom can lead to lack of sex drive Your Hot Homework: Put aside 10 minutes this weekend to study this list and work out if these - or any other things - are affecting your sex drive or your partners. If you identify a culprit or two what can you do about these? The first step is to share this info with your partner - a positive "we can fix this together attitude has been proven to help. It's time to apply your new knowledge Let's say you're overly stressed at work its killed your sex drive leaving your partner high and dry. Obviously deal with the stresses - take on fewer responsibilities, talk to your manager about streamlining your work load, etc. But when you feel up to a fun solution play a sex-game where you pretend to be someone completely different - someone without a care in the world. Give yourself permission to let go and have fun. Tell your partner you're shutting out worries and focusing on some sexy pleasure. Spin this into a hot fantasy where you're the boss in your dream job - and you're interviewing them to work for you. The main interview test? You have your way with them! The equation: being honest about issues + actually sorting them = increased sex drive!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many people admit to dumping a lover by text - is it: A) 30 per cent B) 10 per cent C) 70 per cent Test Your Knowledge answer: A survey out this week reveals the correct answer is B) - 10 per cent say they've dumped a lover by text - how cowardly!

Loved-up Celebs
Peaches Geldof and Thomas Cohen Peaches has always lived life in the fast lane and it's revving up to full throttle now she's expecting her first baby and planning her second marriage at 22 to musician Thomas. I can only hope this marriage gives her the stability she needs because she'll need to provide her baby with stability. It doesn't happen in reverse - babies arent there to make you feel better about yourself or to give your life meaning. Thankfully theres the optimism-of-youth on her side that she can conquer all the hurdles coming her way. Let's hope life ends up a peach for her.

Dr Pams Position
The Pillar For the couple that likes to experiment he kneels on the ground - for extra comfort put a pillow under his knees. She then slips onto him, facing him [imagine she's in a kneeling position over his thighs and hips]. To steady herself she wraps her arms around his shoulders and neck while he wraps his arms around her lower back. Together they can control the gentle thrusting. Only small movements are possible in this position but it gives a real sense of intimacy. For extra hot action he can squeeze and caress her bum while moving together. This position gets its name because their upright bodies form a pillar shape. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Rev-up your sex life for 2012

There's nothing like a new year to make a fresh start - including pumping-up the pleasure in the bedroom. Try my tips, tricks and techniques to sexy satisfaction: Sexy Step No. 1: How To Find Out What They Desire

Many are too shy to say what they like. If your partners shy take their finger and gently suck and kiss it - then ask if those sensations feel good. Put that info to good use for kissing and sucking their different erogenous zones. Also say something like, "Do you prefer it when I stroke or squeeze you here?" It gives them the confidence to be honest. Defo tell them it's exciting when they tell you what to do to them. Make it playful where they must "command" you by saying Yes or No if youre touching the right spot - and in the right way. Sexy Step No. 2: Any Activity Can Be Sexy Turn practically any activity together into sexy fun and give each other little sensual pleasures. Offer to wash their hair - gently and sensually caress their scalp as the warm water rushes over it...heaven! Or do something surprising like paint her fingernails. Take each of her fingers gently and show just how sensual your touch can be as you paint each nail. Never miss a trick when sharing supper to get a little bit rude with food. It's incredibly hot to hand feed each other. Sexy Step No. 3: Quickie Tricks Devise your favourite 'quickie tricks' that press both of your buttons. For instance he might have one perfect way of touching her that turns her right on. She should let him know what it is because thats the technique to use when you've only got a little time. Why doesn't he try twirling the pearl for a quick turn-on? Using his thumb and index finger he gently twirls back and forth around her clitoral region. Sexy Step No. 4: Have a laugh Too many couples take sex too seriously - they forget to laugh with (not at!) each other even when things go wrong. Try fun things like spontaneously deciding to jump into a shower together. Enjoy the water rushing over you, lather each other up, and even invest in a waterproof sex toy. When you've got ice cubes in a drink have a giggle and slip one down each other's tops - then roll around in bed trying to get it off your skin - and back onto theirs. Sexy Step No. 5: Kinky-lite Try 'Kinky-lite' techniques like playing a little game of At Your Mercy - one of you is blindfolded while the other is allowed to touch, kiss, and lick all over. You don't know which areas going to be touched next!

Or agree to have your wrists tied together with something soft and silky like a dressing gown sash - have some fantasy chat about being at your partner's mercy. Take turns being tied up! Be up for a little romp outdoors when you have the opportunity - it can be super-hot knowing you might get caught or seen. Academy Rule No.13: Students should ALWAYS be prepared! Stock up a "pleasure chest next to the bed. So when the mood strikes youre ready for sizzling sex-play. No mood-killing searching for these things. Your pleasure chest includes your fave lubricant, condoms, a sex toy or two, erotica you can read to each other, a blind fold for a kinky sex game, sexy stockings and silky knickers, tissues, massage oil, etc. Your Hot Homework It's time to apply your new knowledge.Try one new, sexy thing, e.g., serve some yummy chocolate mousse to your partner. Slowly spoon it into each other's mouths...oops, he dropped a bit on her cleavage that desperately needs licking off. The equation: Fun attitude + New tricks = Revved-up sex life!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many women say they cheated on a partner to get back at him for cheating? A) 2 per cent B) 20 per cent C) 62 per cent Test Your Knowledge answer: According to an MSN UK survey it's B) - 20 per cent of women say they only cheated to pay him back.

Loved-up Celebs
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt I've got to hand it to this superstar couple for maintaining their relationship along with having six children. One of the main reasons for breaking up is disagreements over children. Yep, they've got an army of helpers but many other celebs have crumbled despite having their children to consider.

I often feel like knocking their heads together - when the disagreements started why didn't they jet in a top marriage guidance counsellor rather than throwing in the towel too easily.

Dr Pams Position
The Reverse Cowgirl This sexy position is perfect if he's a 'bum man'. He's lying flat on his back and she sits astride him - facing his feet. An excellent position for the woman who likes to be in control because she gently moves up and down to her own rhythm. He holds her hips/bum to help guide her gentle movements. Yeehaw - ride em cowgirl! Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Sex toys

Sales figures show the recession hasn't hit bedroom toys with sales of vibrators positively buzzing. But many get freaked out about suggesting them to a partner. Or they get stuck just moving a vibrator back and forth - a bit snooze-inducing. Sex Toy Etiquette: Never introduce a sex toy by whipping a big, shiny, pulsating one out, waving it around and expecting your partner to be instantly aroused. Instead try these ploys *If unsure of their reaction be subtle - suggest popping into your local adult shop and gently steer them to the vibrators. *Start toying with said toys and look quizzical - as if you're wondering whether theyd be fun or not. *Ask if they've ever thought about what playing with a vibrator would be like. *Keep it light and flirty to give them confidence to take a good look at the toys. *Never grab the biggest vibrator (and crikey there are some huge ones on the market) particularly if he's on the smaller side. *Keep sex toys as an added extra to your sex-play so your partner doesn't feel redundant.

Good Vibrations: Always use lashings of lubricant for a lovely smooth glide across any erogenous zone. Remember he might be just as keen as she is to feel a vibrator running up and down his chest, abdomen, between the thighs, over the perineum and anal area. Problem is many men don't want to appear anything but straight - so she should suggest it. Or after he's used a vibrator on her erogenous zones she can tease him with it. Sometimes it takes her confidence that it's okay for him to enjoy vibrating pleasure for him to relax and enjoy it. For added pleasure during penetrative sex slip the vibrator between you two. They come in all sorts of shapes/sizes so invest in a range for different uses - a slimmer one will slip between the two of you easier. Just in case it's got a powerful vibration, first run it across their abdomen so they can get used to the feel of it. Then you can ask if she's ready for it to be run across her breasts or he's ready to have it run between his thighs. When she's turned on, gently run it back and forth across her pubic mound. Rather than using the end of the vibrator to touch her skin, lay it flat along her pubic bone and move it back and forth covering a bigger area with the vibrations. Guaranteed to drive her crazy! It's definitely worth investing in a fingertip vibrator. Slip onto your forefinger and reach all sorts of tiny and exciting places that a normal-sized vibrator cant. Academy Rule No.12: Students shouldn't use a vibrator for more than 20 minutes on one area as you can over-stimulate that area. Here's a checklist every good student can memorise: * Hygiene is crucial so, e.g., if you use an anal vibrator it shouldnt then be used on her vagina. * Keep separate sex toys for each other. * Clean your sex toys as per the instructions. * Before you use a new sex toy get used to the way it works - some are complicated. * Never ever use everyday items as makeshift sex toys! * As well as pleasuring each other use for self-pleasure. * When using lubricants choose water-based ones that wont break down the surface of your plastic-based toys. Your Hot Homework:

If you've never tried a tongue joy vibrator get one for oral pleasure! It's time to apply your new knowledge This neat little vibrator slips onto your tongue so that during oral sex not only does your partner feel the warmth and moistness of your lips and tongue but also the fabulous little vibrations from this sex toy. So practice putting it on your tongue when you're alone and imagine gently flicking it around their most sensitive areas. The equation: a little vibrator + tongue-action = super hot climaxes! Test Your Knowledge: Q: With so much talk about cougars(older women) - what about older men? What age group did women report finding the sexiest? A) Men in their 40s B) Men in their 20s C) Men in their 50s Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A) - men in their 40s were voted the most attractive in the Debenhams survey.

Loved-up Celebs:
Katie Price and Peter Andre Hazchem alert: Clearly there's still chemistry between Katie and Peter and they haven't coped well without each other. But will a possible reunion as reported in your Sun be hazardous for them - and heartbreaking for their children it all falls apart? As with any couple going for a second round they need to prove the issues that split them up have been sorted out once and for all. Both must take responsibility for their part in previous problems. And both need to discuss how they've changed and what they'd do differently this time. Only then does it have a chance of working and not ending up a sloppy business!

Dr Pams Position
The Sleeping Doggy For all of you peeps exhausted by Christmas heres a position requiring minimum effort.

A variation on traditional Doggy style she lies on her stomach on the bed. He gently slips on top of her and she raises her hips enough for sex to start. A pillow strategically placed under her hips should raise them enough. She lies there (a much deserved rest!) and he only has to move slowly and gently. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

The 12 days of Blissmas

I don't want Academy students to join the sad statistics of couples that break up over Christmas due to seasonal stresses. So Ive devised a little love and lust to see you through to Christmas bliss. Make this your sexiest Blissmas ever with my 12 simple steps: Blissmas Day 1: Being time-short is the biggest problem so book one or two red hot dates in your diaries between now and Christmas. Don't let anything come between you and these dates. Blissmas Day 2: Time to tempt each other - so turn up the flirt factor. All your messaging should be loving and sexy. And when you've got each other on Skype or the phone talk up your forthcoming dates. Delve into delicious detail about what you're planning. Those sexologist boffins show that your phone voice can be a massive turn on - slightly lower it and speak a bit slower. Blissmas Day 3: Both men and women like being told what turns their partner on. So send each other a sexy seasonal card describing five things you'd like to do when together. You can have fun deciding which techniques to try. Blissmas Day 4: Sort out your sexy gear. Plan an outfit you feel confident in - confidence is sexy. If you've got new sky-high heels break them in so they're comfortable on the big night. He might want you to keep them on in bed! What's underneath counts even more - he'll love the fact stockings and suspenders have made a comeback. And the guys should definitely sort out some sexy pants to turn her on. Blissmas Day 5: Do a daring deed! Why not tease and touch each other under the table at a bar or restaurant. No one will guess why you two have such big smiles.

Blissmas Day 6: Turn your desire up a notch by agreeing you can't have full sex for a few days. When together enjoy some hot foreplay, touching and massage - but nothing further. Give each other a Thai Body Massage - strip off to the waist and with lashings of massage oil glide your bodies back and forth across each other. Blissmas Day 7: Do some sizzling seasonal shopping - there are many fantastic toys at high street sex shops. Investing in one fun and sexy toy will give hours of sex-tra pleasure. He may never have tried one but men love good vibrations up and down, and in-between their thighs. Get to know how it works before sharing the sexy vibes with each other. Blissmas Day 8: Dream up a festive fantasy to share. Get cosy and enjoy fantasy chat where you take turns saying what happens next in the fantasy scenario. For instance, describe a fantasy where you're the boss and theyre the assistant and youre the last two at the Christmas office party. You slip into the board room, lock the door and have your evil way with each other. Blissmas Day 9: Get cracking and plan a new technique to try on them. Maybe you're a sensational snogger - why not think of some luscious lip-action for all over their body. Try the swirl and poke kissing technique - alternate swirling your tongue around one of their erogenous zones with gently poking with it. Feels fabulous! Blissmas Day 10: Buy some seasonal treats and prepare a candlelit picnic - maybe in the bedroom! Get their favourite finger foods as well as mini mince pies and chocolate Santas. Savour little mouthfuls before turning each other into a Christmas feast. Trickle some fizz down her cleavage for him to lick off. And sprinkle morsels of mince pies across his chest for her to nibble. Blissmas Day 11: Get steamed up in a sensual shower to super-tease each other. You might have been out dancing at a Christmas do and can get fresh and clean together. Have big, warm, fluffy towels ready to wrap each other up in. Enjoy some gorgeous, loving cuddles together. Blissmas Day 12: You've come to the end of your 12 days of Blissmas and tonight is the night. Send flirty messages during the day then slip into those sexy new things for a steamy seasonal night together. Definitely try the new position below. Academy Rule: If you've managed to get frazzled in the run-up to the festivities then talk to each other about it. Honesty and lots of hugs will see you through.

Test Your Knowledge:

Q: How many women have tried a sex toy? A) 44 per cent B) 14 per cent C) 84 per cent Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A) - research suggests 44 per cent of women have enjoyed sex toy pleasure.

Loved-up Celebs: Caroline Flack and Harry Styles

Usually I live up to my nickname of the Love Doctor and champion romance even in the quirkiest couples - but not in this case. Yep, it's a legal relationship but that doesn't mean it is right. Neurologist boffins [they study the brain] have found that between the ages of 14 and 17 brains are rapidly changing leading too chaotic and confused feelings. It's hard enough for a 17-year-old to have a relationship with someone of the same age - let alone someone 15 years older. Add to this the intense national scrutiny and I can only see it ending in tears. There's nothing wrong with an age gap relationship on the whole - but they work far better if both people have at least reached their 20s. Otherwise theres a risk the older partner takes over and controls everything.

Dr Pams Position:
The Sexy Santa [normally called The Staging Post] I specially renamed this red hot position The Sexy Santa for Christmas. She kneels with one leg bent onto the end of the bed and one leg planted on the floor. She can hold on to the bed frame for support. Her back is towards him as he stands on the floor and enters her from behind. He can definitely be her sexy Santa - while he moves gently he can wrap his arms around her waist and caress her breasts for extra pleasure. This position also allows him to nuzzle the back of her neck - a sensitive erogenous zone. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: When your partner has a fetish

The minute a new partner [or even a long-term partner] utters the phrase, "Honey, I've got a bit of a fetish," many could be forgiven for heading out the door sharpish. Don't panic, though, as many fetishes are completely harmless so let's begin with a simple definition: A fetish is any object, item of clothing, or body area that someone finds sexually arousing. With a true fetish the person always needs to have the fetish object present [or at least is able to easily fantasise about it] to enjoy sexual pleasure. But for many people it's something they simply prefer but don't have to have to still enjoy sex. So a man might say he has a fetish for large breasts but lo-and-behold his partner has small ones. And a woman might say she has a fetish for men in gym gear but she doesn't turn into a raving nympho the minute a man strolls into her aerobics class. Where do fetishes come from? Sometimes the development of a fetish is very complex but other fetishes are easily understood. Take the teenage boy pleasuring himself as he stands at his bedroom window. He catches sight of the neighbour doing some gardening in her Wellington boots and hey, presto, Wellington boots forever hold a special meaning. Here's a fetish checklist every good student should consider: Always ask your partner to describe exactly what they mean by fetish. Check out if they can only be turned on with their fetish or if it's simply a preference. Have fun considering compromises. For instance, if he has a fetish for women in PVC it might work for her to slip into a PVC basque OR miniskirt. She doesn't have to dress headto-toe in it yet he'll love the fact she's wearing one PVC piece. See if fantasy chat about the fetish will satisfy that partner's desire. You could potentially chat up a storm about him worshiping your feet - instead of him actually licking and sucking your toes if that turns you right off [think Fergie all those years ago]. Some fetishes might seem downright comical - like a fetish for pink, fluffy slippers or footie strips. But resist having a laugh at your partner if they're willing to trust you and open up. If either of you are troubled by their fetish consider sex therapy. Academy Rule: Be honest if a fetish turns you off. If a fetish like splodging [having a good time hurling cream cakes, etc., or rolling around in puds] makes you laugh it can spoil the moment for the partner that takes their splodging seriously. Ditto if your partner has what you think is a disgusting fetish involving something like scat play [let's not even go there!] put your foot down fast.

Your Hot Homework: Think through how you can enjoy your partner's fetish. Let's say theyve a fetish for gloves. Buy a pair and surprise them during foreplay by whisking them on. For their added pleasure select the texture your partner prefers - soft and velvety, smooth and silky, firm and leathery. Academy sex trick: as you'll be left- or right-handed - and probably use that hand in foreplay - try swapping over. Use the hand you don't normally use to caress them giving a new sensation. The equation: A fun attitude + fun fetishes = fun in bed!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: What percentage of people have a foot fetish according to fetish research - is it: A) 1.1% B) 11% C) 21% Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A) - just over 1% of people reportedly have a foot fetish.

Loved-up Celebs
Jennifer Lopez and Casper Smart J-Lo, 42, has revealed her credentials as a top-class cougar by getting with tattooed toyboy dancer Casper Smart, 24. The chemistry between them sizzles and right now they seem inseparable. But I hope Jennifer's as savvy as Madonna when it comes to cougar love. Madonna plays by a simple rule: these are fun, sexy relationships that both parties can enjoy... but they're not permanent! Demi Moore on the other hand has found out the tough way most younger men don't stick around for a happy-ever-after. There's far too much temptation out there and most aren't in the mental place yet for a committed, lifelong relationship.

Dr Pams Position
The Lovers Embrace

Try moving into this sensual position from classic Missionary (where he's on top). All he needs to do is gently slide off of her while gently pulling her towards him - so they end up on their sides facing each other. Once in position she simply lifts her upper thigh to allow him to slide into her. To vary the sexy sensations she can move her leg further up his hip - or close it down more tightly around his knees. By wrapping her leg around his knees and pulling his legs more into hers it adds lots of good friction between them - great if he's on the smaller side. Sextra Academy tip: Allow your hands to wander over each others backs and bums. You can cradle each others bottoms so that the pressure of your movements don't push you two apart. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Friends with Benefits

We told you this week of a new survey suggesting pals are providing more than a friendly shoulder to their best mates. Evidently a whopping 33% of single girls sleep with their male friends. Such friendship fringe benefits put a smile on many faces. But handled badly friends can fallout over their best mate booty-calls. Here are definite dos and don'ts for your friendship that strays into full-sex territory: Friends often flirt with each other - which is why many question whether men and women can really just be friends. So take it cautiously if there's been flirting between you and secretly you'd like things to end up in bed. They may not feel the same! It's likely the first time you two slept together it was under the influence of too many drinks...the classic starting point for so many friends with fringe benefits. So have a chat the morning after to make sure you're both feeling okay about it. Never humiliate your friend by telling your other pals what you two got up to. Keeping it between your selves avoids loads of gossip or other friends sticking their oar in. Even if you two have occasionally gone all-the-way no friend should feel pressured to always say Yes to a booty call. Don't be surprised when your friendly fringe benefits end because one of you finds a proper boyfriend or girlfriend. No room for jealousy - after all you were only friends that took it further. Academy Rule No.9: Always be honest with a friend you're sleeping with. If you know theyre falling in love with you - and you don't feel the same - set them straight. Your Hot Homework:

Since you've already got trust between you why not get up to some hot sex-perimentation you wouldn't normally try? Go on, they're a friend so don't be slow in coming forward. Ask if there's something they've always wanted to do. This is the perfect time to share something like a steamy shower where you sensually lather each other up. Then you can take turns satisfying each other with oral pleasure. Academy Tip: Take a cushion into the shower to kneel on when you're giving oral sex (mind you, a cushion you don't mind getting soaked). As the water cascades down you'll both love the sensations of having oral fun under a shower. Have two big warm towels ready to dry each other off with. It's time to apply your new knowledge Now you know loads more about each others likes and dislikes having got playful in the shower. Take that knowledge into the bedroom for more sex-ploration. Why not ask them to keep still while you gently run a sex toy up and down their body to give them lovely sensations. The equation: friends + fringe benefits = having fun (if you both know where you stand)!

Test Your Knowledge:

Q: How many people who have flings-with-friends are hoping for a relationship too? A) 8% B) 38% C) 68% Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A) - 8% of people who sleep with a friend say they're also hoping for romance.

Loved-up Celebs:
Sarah Harding and Tom Crane

Stunning Girls Aloud singer Sarah Harding looks like she's sorting out her personal problems as well as her broken engagement with DJ Tom Crane. Crisis talks have seen them move forward to fix what went wrong in their four-year relationship. Wishing them the best of luck after the rollercoaster they've been on! If you're thinking of getting back with your ex, face honestly the problems that broke you up in the first place. You only stand one chance of fixing your love - you both must put your hands up to the part you played in what went wrong. Then like Sarah and Tom come up with solutions ensuring you don't slip back to your old ways.

Dr Pams Position:
The Sling Try this hot standing position for a quickie or something longer lasting. Stand facing each other - he leans back against a wall for support. And she should keep her high heels on to make this position work. As you two kiss and caress - and move in for full sex - he slings an arm underneath one of her legs behind her knee. If she's super-flexible she can wrap that leg around his hips or waist. Otherwise she can just relax as he supports her leg. He holds her tight and moves gently. This position gives him amazing access but if you're not very fit only stay in it for a little while before moving onto the bed. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: A question of size

This fortnights lesson covers the tricky territory of men on the smaller side. Most women arent size queens when it comes to penis size. They care more about a guy's personality - plus his sex-techniques thatll satisfy every time.

But try telling that to a smaller man - it takes loads of encouragement for them to believe it. The Size Statistics: Crossing the Channel there are size stats from French research out this week. The beret-clad boffins found the average erect penis is between 12.8 - 14.5 cm [5 - 5.7 inches]. If he's smaller than this it doesn't mean he can't live it large in the bedroom with many top tips below. First a quick question: Are you a "grower" or "shower"? Many smaller men when flaccid [non-erect] actually grow 100 per cent when erect. Many larger men when flaccid are likely to grow by only 75 per cent when erect. Academy Rule No.8: No Academy student should ever ridicule a man's size - such remarks can scar him for life. If a woman ridicules your size she's not worth your time. Here's a checklist every good student can memorise: * The Americans have a saying a diamond's better than a brick" - so a smaller man should always be confident about giving pleasure in other ways. * Remember that some [not all] well-endowed men have no sexual finesse in bed. * It's crucial a man sees himself as a complete man - not just a man with a certain-sized penis. He's far more than his penis size! * Confidence is highly attractive. So the smaller man that's confident generally - and about his sex techniques - will satisfy his partner. * The average length of a woman's vagina when aroused is about 10 cm [4 inches]. So it doesn't take as much length to satisfy her as men think. * So-called Small Penis Syndrome - or locker room syndrome - is more common in men of average size. * Despite the averages there's huge variation amongst men. The famous Masters and Johnson's research team measured hundreds of penises - the longest non-erect one was 5.5 inches long. The shortest was just over 2 inches long. * A smaller man should aim to be the "King of foreplay" to thrill his partner. Your Hot Homework [and this applies to any couple not just a man on the smaller side!]: Become the King of Foreplay by confidently asking her what she'd like you to do. As you kiss ask what kind of touch shed like on her breasts, etc. Learn to use your fingertips wisely vary between gentle strokes, circular movements, swishing back and forth, and gentle pinches. Keep asking what feels best.

Ditto your tongue and lips - try licking, flicking, sucking and circular movements with your tongue. Completely spoil her by kissing, licking and touching all over her body. She can encourage him to become the King of foreplay: if you feel shy asking for what you want when cuddling take his hands and move them to your fave erogenous zones. Keeping your hand on top of his, gently move it back and forth over these showing the type of touch you like. Take his finger between your lips and suck it the way you'd like him to apply pressure to your fave zones like your nipples. You'll really turn him on if you get the courage up to whisper detailed instructions of what feels best as you get nearer to climax. The equation: Foreplay techniques + confidence = a great lover!

Test Your Knowledge:

Q: What percentage of women report being happy/satisfied with their partner's penis size A) 5% B) 85% C) 25% Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is B) - 85 per cent of women are perfectly satisfied by their partner's size.

Loved-up Celebs:
George Clooney and Stacy Keibler The big question on Tinseltown's lips is whether gorgeous George Clooney has met his match in stunning wrestler Stacy Keibler.

The statuesque blonde would be wise to treat it like a wrestling match - going in with a game plan if she wants to beat his reputed phobia of commitment. If you're with a man thats shy of committing let your confident independent side shine through. Men like that are far more attracted to confidence then clingy-ness. And we should all be at our confident best for healthy relationships anyway.

Dr Pams Position:
The Cradled CAT Previously I've described the CAT [coital alignment technique] and for smaller men this variation is perfect. He lies flat on his back - she's on top with her legs inside of his. She should shimmy up to where her clitoral region gets friction from his pubic bone. This variation puts a nice squeeze on him. They both move gently, slowly and sensually till they reach climax. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons Week 7

Stop being bored with the same position Sexologists boffins continue to delve into the most private areas of our lives - their research shows most couples settle into the same old one or two positions. This sends the "Yawn Factor" in the bedroom sky high. Why do couples do this? Like most things in their relationship their sex position simply becomes a habit. For instance, it's Friday night and he's on his way home - he thinks to himself, "Ah, it's sex night, that means a couple brews and Spoons position before bedtime." Mind you, she's probably thinking the same. Nothing wrong with comfortable sex in a long-term relationship - but without occasional changes it's a passion killer.

Here's a checklist every good student memorise: *Inwardly many partners feel shy about suggesting a new position. *Or they don't want to upset their partner by suggesting a new one. *Couples don't realise it's fairly easy to move into another position from their tried-and-tested one. *If they don't like a new position they can go back to the old one. *It's okay to take time after being in one position to pause for more foreplay - it might lead into trying a second position. Academy Rule No. 7: You don't have to stay in one position from the start of a sex-session to the finish.

Your Hot Homework:

Try one of the following suggestions: 1/ Let's begin with a simple sex-periment - begin in classic Missionary position he lies on top of her. Then he shifts his weight off of her, moving onto his side and facing her. This frees her to move onto her side but with her back to him. As easy as that you're now in Spoons position. 2/ Try The Cradle position shes on top, lying chest-against-chest with him. She draws her legs up underneath her so her knees are bent. It's called the Cradle because it's as if she's now cradling him with her body. This is perfect for slow and sensual moving and allows you two lots of touching and kissing. Some women may need to reach under and cradle his bottom to steady them if his thrusting intensifies. 3/ Or experiment with the Lovers Embrace position. You can easily move into this from The Cradle [above] - you both gently ease sideways. Or from Spoons - she simply turns around to face him. Or move into it from Missionary. All you do is lie on your sides facing each other, embracing. She lifts her upper thigh to allow him to slide into her. Academy spice-it-up tip: To vary sensations she moves her leg further up or closes it back down more tightly on his leg. This varies the pressure you both feel. Time to apply your new knowledge

First reassure your partner you enjoy what you do together - but that you want to tempt them into one of these new positions. Be confident that it's going to be fun. The equation: A positive attitude + A new position = Fun sex!

Test Your Knowledge:

Q: In one survey how many women said they could find their elusive G-spot - was it: A/ 56% B/ 16% C/ 6% Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A/ - 56% said they have a sensitive area on the front wall of the vagina popularly known as the G-spot. But don't worry if you don't have a sensitive spot there enjoy the pleasurable sensations you get in any area.

Loved-up Celebs:
Kate Winslet and Ned Rocknroll There wasn't any acting going on when divorced Oscar-winning actress Kate Winslet and Ned Rocknroll were spotted in a London restaurant eating... each other's faces off. As reported in the Bizarre column this week they only had eyes - and lips - for each other. Time to get a room! Kate and Ned are smack in that hot honeymoon phase usually lasting around 6 - 9 months. This

is when that new partner can do no wrong. If you're in this phase don't make any big plans until your lust-hormones settle down and you can see each other with clearer eyes.

Dr Pams Position:
This fortnight: The Reverse Cowgirl You've tried the Cowgirl - him lying on his back, her on top, straddling him. Now reverse it with her still on top but she straddles him facing his feet. This gives entirely new sensations for you both. And if he's a bit of a "bum man" he'll love having a full view. She should take her time moving gently up and down. He can help by holding her hips from behind to guide and steady her movements. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk

Sex Lessons Week 6

How to cope when your partner wants to try something kinky When faced with a partner who springs that question - do you want to try something a bit kinky, there are two main reactions - either, "crikey, is my partner a perve? Swiftly followed by, "gosh, or am I a prude? The truth doesn't usually lie with either of those extremes. Most people have a few quirks or kinks they secretly wonder about. Often these aren't mentioned until they build trust with their partner. Obviously they don't want to be laughed at or to shock their partner. As far as I'm concerned - as long it is legal - what you as consenting adults discuss trying is your business. The most common kinky things partners ask to try include: Being blindfolded, a bit of spanking, tying up, and dressing in role-play outfits. Academy Rule No. 6: Students should never feel pressured to go beyond the kink-level they feel happy with!

Here's a checklist every good student should memorise: If your partner raises kinky sex-play (or you want to raise it with them) try these: *Be clear exactly what's meant. The word "bondage" might be mentioned and all they mean is getting fur-lined handcuffs from the high street adult shop. They don't mean sticking you in a dungeon! *Because some partners will panic at words like "bondage think carefully how you describe the thing you want to try... so take the fright-factor out. * It'll boost your confidence if you stick to some fantasy-chat first. It's fun and sexy and you can sound out how far you two might want to go. * It'll make you both feel secure reassuring each other this is "special occasion sex". You're not going to have to swing from chandeliers every time you have sex. *If you do anything like handcuffing each other remember it's no joke to leave someone handcuffed (or tied up). Just don't do it! Your Hot Homework It's time to apply your new knowledge Let's take the handcuffs scenario - invest in some from an adult shop. Or spare your blushes and order them online. Then experiment on each other. You can tease the person who's handcuffed by kissing them all over and even "tormenting" them with an ice cube held between your lips. Trace a cold line over their erogenous zones only to be warmed up with a trail of lovely warm kisses afterwards. Or while they're captive turn it into a hot fantasy where you're taking them away to be kept as your sexy prisoner. Have fun with banter along these lines - or any other scenario that you two conjure up. Heighten the teasing by using their favourite sex toy on them while they're handcuffed. It's so going to be payback time when it's your turn to be cuffed. The equation: handcuffs + sensitive handling = fun experimentation!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: What percentage of people admit to getting turned on by spanking - is it: A) 75% B) 15% C) 5%

Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is B) - 15% of people enjoy a bit of a spank - either giving or receiving!

Loved-up Celebs
Alex Turner + mystery brunette It's only been a couple months since Arctic Monkeys Alex Turner split with long-term love Alexa Chung. Pictured out with a mystery brunette in LA I hope she's wary he might be on the rebound. Men on the rebound are notorious for ignoring the fact they're carrying around emotional baggage. It's only the next girlfriend that finds out... when he acts a bit crazy, can't commit, breaks her heart, etc. Women tend to know theyre packing an extra suitcase of emotional stuff and hopefully deal with it. Make sure choices you make in your new relationship arent dictated by painful feelings from your last relationship.

Dr Pams Position
The Kneeling Dog A fab variation on classic Doggy-style but here she kneels on the floor resting her hands - or her arms - on the edge of a sofa or bed. A perfect position if suddenly a bit of cuddling has heated up. For extra comfort she can slip a pillow under her knees. He kneels behind her and takes her in Doggy style. As she supports herself on the sofa/bed edge he can reach around with one of his arms to play with her breasts, or stroke her stomach or clitoral region. He can also do this armed with a vibrator for more pleasure for her. Sextra Academy Tip: If youre like 15 oer cent of couples who want to try gentle spanking, in this position he can easily deliver a couple spanks on her bottom before starting full sex. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons Week 5:

How to carry off wearing sexy gear

There are all sorts of adult shops in the High Street plus web-sites selling a vast array of kinky things. But people still lack confidence about getting dressed up in sexy gear particularly some of the fetish gear. It's understandable, no one wants to look foolish, but you shouldn't underestimate the visual impact of wearing sexy things. Here are top tips for sizzling in sexy gear: * When you're with someone new don't slip into something super-kinky - they might feel a bit intimidated. * Add in sexy gear one step at a time. * Suggest shopping together to get the balance right - choose anything from sexy-lite to fullon-fetish. * If you're going to surprise your partner with a hot new outfit think about the things they mention in their fantasies. Do they talk about thigh-high, black patent lace-up boots or little floral dresses? Let those things guide your choices. * Beware of overdoing it. Sexy stilettos and a short skirt might look amazing. But if you also wear a lace-up basque it might be OTT - you can have too much of a good thing! * You can get lots of cheap n cheerful gear or one investment piece, e.g., a gorgeous handmade basque. Is your partner going to want to have fun ripping it off - like in a bodiceripping fantasy? Maybe go for the cheap n cheerful stuff! * Once you've bought something sexy to wear - practice flaunting yourself in it on your own. That helps banish feelings that you look silly. Gradually youll think, Hmmm, I look pretty hot! Academy Rule No. 5: Students should never embarrass a partner who's attempted to dressup for them. You could scar them permanently by telling them they look ridiculous. Here's a checklist every good student memorise: * Nearly 10% of people say it'd turn them on if their partner dressed up in a uniform. Playing doctors and nurses has never been so much fun now you can pick up these outfits from adult shops. * Once you've bought an outfit have some fun with a little bit of role-play. * If you both enjoy sexy dressing-up occasionally go to costume hire shops for some adventurous ideas. * There is loads of fun gear for men - he might end up strutting around the bedroom in a black leather, studded man's thong.

* If, as a woman, you're not happy about your legs stilettos and high-heeled boots lengthen them - and make you feel super sexy. Your Hot Homework The next time you two are in the mood let your partner know you'd like to try a bit of dressing up. Start gently saying something like "Ive fantasised about you wearing oldfashioned stockings and suspenders." This doesn't feel threatening to them and can plant the beginning of some great ideas. Have fun with it and ask her/him what they think of this - and if they've ever wanted to wear kinky gear. It's time to apply your new knowledge Get creative with things you already have that could work well as sexy gear. Pair some very high heels with little frilly knickers - strut around in front of him with you both pretending he's caught you out getting dressed. The equation: imagination + sexy gear = red hot love!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: What percent of people say they get turned on by spanking - is it: A/ 15% B/ 75% C/ 5% Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A/ - 15% of people say they like to include spanking in their sex play. That's potentially a lot of sore bottoms!

Loved-up Celebs
It's not surprising Amanda Holden always looks radiant after announcing recently she and husband Chris Hughes are expecting a baby. After the devastation of losing their baby son earlier this year they now face a brighter future. The fallout from a tragedy breaks up some couples. But those who keep talking and supporting each other - as Amanda and Chris obviously did - can come out the other side fighting and with a stronger relationship. If you two are facing a crisis, face it together and support each other.

Dr Pams Position

The Courtesan This is a sophisticated position that she can pair-up with some new sexy gear she's bought like a short miniskirt minus her knickers. She sits on a lowish chair or at the end of the bed. He kneels in front of her - on the floor facing her. Their hips need to be at the same height for full sex. As they kiss and cuddle she lifts her legs carefully and wraps them around his lower back. She pulls him in towards her and edges on to the end of the bed or chair. He studies her by holding her around her waist. Once they're in position and comfortable he can begin gentle thrusting. They may not last long in this position - as she needs quite a bit of strength to keep her legs wrapped around him - but it's an excellent one for them to continue kissing and caressing. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons Week 4:

Body-image issues that stop you enjoying sex In extensive body-image research I found staggering numbers of women insist on lights-off during sex with their fella - over 40 per cent. Heaven knows how many single women - who don't have the trust of a long-term relationship - turn out the lights too! When it came to weight issues the stats were worse - a massive 75 per cent felt overweight. Sadly women think men will heads for the hills at the glimpse of a bulge. But it doesn't stop there as now the fellas have body-image issues too. So the Academy aims to banish body hang-ups mens and womens - from the bedroom. Here are top tips to boost body confidence * Daily remind yourself you're more than what your body looks like - focus on your top personality traits - e.g. youre funny, kind, caring, etc. * Take charge of negative thoughts about your body. Tell yourself nobody's perfect, no one cares about lumps and bumps, etc. * Face reality: do you want to waste time wishing you had a smaller bum or bigger breasts OR get smart and put your energies into enjoying life - including your sex life?

* Choose your sexiest attribute - maybe your naughty smile or cheeky glint in your eye etc. Value these special lovely little things - and flash that smile. * Buy things that accentuate your good attributes. Be proud to flaunt those - whether its your breasts, bottom, legs, shoulders etc. * If you genuinely have excess weight do something FUN to get fit, e.g., take some sensual Latin American dance classes. Academy Rule No. 4: Each day students should close their eyes for a few moments and visualise themselves as a Sex Goddess or Sex God. Hang onto this hot and sexy image for the rest of the day! Here's a checklist every good student should memorise: * Most people simply don't notice what you think are your bad points. * Research shows sexiness comes from confidence - walk tall, with good posture, pretending to be confident - you'll soon believe it. * You're not the only one with body issues - that person in bed with you probably feels the same inside. Your Hot Homework: Devise your own super-hot signature sex technique - take a sexy thing you already do well and make it even hotter. This helps you lose inhibitions - and worries about your body - since youll feel confident doing your signature technique. Let's say youre fab at kissing and also pretty good at giving oral sex. Why not devise your very own oral technique that uses your snogging skills? For instance if you're great at French kissing apply those techniques down below. You'll have your partner gasping for more - all they'll notice is how great you make them feel. The equation: your technique + extra effort = your signature sex technique!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many people feel too embarrassed to talk about sex - is it: A) 91% B) 31% C) 1%

Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is B) - a large survey found 31% of people are too embarrassed to talk about sex even with a partner. If you don't talk to each other you won't get what you want!

Loved-up Celebs
Hollywood hunk Will Smith and wife Jade Pinkett Smith have denied break-up rumours. A couple who always present a united front the splitting-up stories were surprising. The strong theme of their love? Definitely the way they keep their family unit tight - forming Team-Smith with children Jaden and Willow. This is the perfect way to handle their stratospheric celebrity status with all its temptations. Couples should take a page out of their book and protect their love by creating some team spirit between them.

Dr Pams Position
The Spoons This is a great position for anyone overcoming body confidence issues because neither of you gets a good look at each other's bodies. Both of you lie on your sides, the man behind, the curve of her back and bottom snuggled into the curve of his stomach and chest. She parts her legs for full sex. By alternating how high she lifts her top leg it varies the friction they feel. He can carry on with foreplay with his arms wrapped around her - easy to run his hands over her erogenous zones. The Spoons is versatile and ideal for a slow, sensual or more vigorous sex. Plus it also hits the spot - the g-spot. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Week 3

The Great Climax Guide - how to bring her to oh-oh-heaven! At any given time somewhere in the region of 70 per cent of women having sex aren't reaching climax. And only about 15 per cent climax regularly. Those statistics equal a whole load of disappointment! But we can change this today.

Here are some pointers every good student should learn - the first section is for the girls (but the guys should take a peak): * Reject thoughts that you'll "never climax" - it's easy to slip into a negative mindset when you've never climaxed with a man. *Even if youre with a partner where it's never happened, tell yourself "I'm going to start afresh and be positive - it can happen if I relax about it!" *Women should know how their body works. The best way forward is letting your fingers do the walking through self-pleasure. Men are masters of this - high time women became the mistresses of their bodies too. *Self-pleasure arms you with knowledge you then share with a partner. *Relax in a warm bath, the shower, or in bed with the lights down low. Maybe light a candle, put on some mood music and explore your body. *Share the sensations you discover with him the next time you're together. And for the guys: *Sorry guys, you may think youre Mr. Lover-man but what you think works may not work for her! * Help her relax and tell her to take her time. *Ask her what you can do to help bring her along. *She might feel embarrassed because it takes time to climax but reassurance will go a long way. *Really listen to her suggestions - hopefully she knows what works for her - she just needs to share it. *Don't get stressed-out if it takes some time getting to know what works for her. Treat it as sex-perimentation! Academy Rule No. 3: Students shouldn't fake orgasms - it seems okay when you don't want to "hurt his feelings" because you're tired and it's just not going to happen. But in the long run honesty's best. There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex-play knowing you're too tired for it to end in a climax. Your Hot Homework: It's time to apply your new knowledge Get started with lashings of foreplay for her. Take your time showering her with kisses. Definitely kiss around the back of her neck and ears - unless she's supersensitive this is ohoh-heavenly.

Stroke her lightly with your fingers - you build more sexual tension swirling them gently all over her body. Build to a firmer touch checking that she wants it. Pretend you're her "sex doctor discovering what makes her "feel better". Turning exploring her body into foreplay. Keep asking her what feels good and where. When you're both ready for full sex let her select the position - all students should check out my recommendation below. Give her "permission" to take charge of the action. Remember you can always have your pleasure once she has hers! The must-know equation: understanding your body + sharing that knowledge = climax guaranteed!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: By the time a couple's been together two years how much less sex do they have then when they first met? Is it: A) 10% less sex B) 90% less sex C) 50% less sex Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is C) - they have half as much sex as when they were in the hot honeymoon phase!

Loved-up Celebs
Sometimes a girl's got to do what a girl's got to do in the name of love! The Hoff's girlfriend Hayden Roberts quit her job behind Debenham's makeup counter because bosses wouldn't give her enough time off to spend with David. It must've been makeup brushes at dawn as she stood up for her love. In this case she's got her priorities right because sometimes love has to come first. I hear from too many women with bitter regrets having put their careers first. You've got to look at the circumstances and sometimes they're so unique you need to make tough decisions. How many Hollywood hunks - even the ageing ones - is Haley going to meet? And heck the Hoff looks like fun now he's cleaned up his act! If things ever go pear-shaped and Haley doesn't get her happy-ever-after with the Hoff she's smart enough to know that there are other make-up counters and department stores - and men - out there. Food for thought if you find yourself weighing up the pros and cons of whether someone's worth making sacrifices for.

Dr Pams Position
The CAT The Coital Alignment Technique (or Clitoral Alignment Technique as some call it) is the perfect choice this week its simple yet almost guaranteed to give her a climax. She can either be on top or the bottom - but if she has difficulty climaxing I recommend she goes on top. He lies flat on the bed, her on top - sort of a "reversed" missionary position. She can have her legs inside his or outside of his. Having them inside his legs squeezes his penis [edit, manhood?] fairly tightly so she should be careful how much pressure she uses. She then shimmies a couple centimetres up his pelvis so that her pubic bone rubs against his pubic bone. He can reach around her hips and hold her in place - for a little added pleasure he can squeeze her buttocks gently. She controls the action using small circular or rocking movements. The CAT allows her full control of the sensations she gets. It also slows him down so he doesn't climax too quickly allowing her to get the right stimulation to climax. If he's a bit lazy he can have a rest while she goes on top and takes over! Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Week 2

How to Share Your Hot Fantasies Sexologist boffins go where no one else dares tread - they've researched how many of us have hot sexual fantasies. A whopping 94 per cent of men and 90 per cent of women confess to them... the rest are fibbing saying they don't have them. So today's lesson is all about fantasy-chat to spice things up. Timing's crucial - if your partner's just confessed undying love it's not the best time to mention your kinky bondage fantasy. But in the middle of fun foreplay? Definitely ask if they have "naughty thoughts about secret desires. Using words like naughty thoughts is gentler than diving-in asking about fantasies. Use what you're already doing to kickstart fantasy-chat. If you're gently rubbing massage oil on them describe lying on a tropical beach and theyre a sexy stranger who comes over to flirt. They begin rubbing suntan oil into you - you end up slipping off for amazing sex. Hopefully such chat will get your partner in the mood for sharing their fantasies.

Varietys the spice of life - don't always describe the same scenario as that can get boring. The whole point of fantasy-sharing is roaming into fresh territory. Academy Rule No. 2: Students shouldn't upset a partner by describing fantasies of sex with their fave celeb or a hot fantasy about your neighbour! No, no, a 1000 times no - it's very bad bedroom manners. Your partner should feature prominently in your fantasies - at least the ones you share with them. Here's a checklist every good student should memorise. A healthy fantasy life has benefits: * It helps you escape sexual boredom * You get double the pleasure - you share your secret fantasies and they share theirs * When your partner's away fantasy-chat makes phone-sex more fun * In your private fantasies you can be with anyone - even people you'll never meet like your favourite celeb * Sharing fantasies gives you two fresh ideas to try - like some role-play * It's free! Your Hot Homework: Time to apply your new knowledge when feeling confident to share your fantasy, describe one that boosts your partner's sexual confidence. Todays homework is to dream one up ahead of time - then when you're next in bed together whisper, e.g., "You're so gorgeous I fantasise I'm a photographer and you're a model. I chat you up and start undressing you." This type of fantasy makes them feel fab - and that's the point. One of you is probably more confident so by all means "go first" describing your fantasy. But emphasise you really want to hear theirs. Turn it into a game where you have to guess their fantasy. This can reveal all sorts of juicy stuff to chat about. Another great game is taking turns deciding the next twist in a fantasy scenario. E.g. you start by describing how you get lost and go into a bar to ask directions. No prize for guessing theres a really sexy stranger (who looks like your partner - remember your manners!) sitting at the bar who starts chatting you up. Now your partner says what happens next, and so on. The equation: your fantasies + their fantasies = endless fun in bed!

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many under-30s have had sex with a friend - in other words "friends with fringe benefits- is it: A) 66 % B) 6 % C) 36 % Test Your Knowledge answer: The correct answer is A) - one study found a whopping two thirds of under-30s has been more-than-friendly with a friend! The 50+ generations at it too, with nine per cent confessing to sex with a friend recently.

Loved-up Celebs
Kate Moss has joined new hubby Jamie Hince on tour Down Under. Like most newlyweds smack in the middle of the honeymoon phase they can't bear to be apart. But it's the transition from hot honeymoon phase to long-term love - with all its ups and downs, thats tricky. When you feel the fizz and fun fading that's when you should show a little extra love, attention and affection. Don't neglect each other but be realistic about finding a balance between what you once had complete hot-ness. And something lasting - a loving warmth where you occasionally turn up the heat!

Dr Pams Position
The Strip Search Perfect to try after the fantasy lesson above. Pretend he's a detective and she's a sexy suspect who needs searching. She leans against a wall, in a standing position, her back to him. He enters from behind - leaning a hand against the wall for support or wrapping his arms around her waist to hold her tight. She should keep her high heels on - it's sexy and it makes it easier for him to start the action. Double her sensations by nuzzling the back of her neck as he gently moves. Plus he can search her with his free hand roaming her body. Dr Pam's latest sex guide is available HERE. For more advice visit www.drpam.co.uk.

Sex Lessons: Week 1

My Partner Isn't Interested in Sex It's NOT a nice feeling when your partner turns down sex. Inside you get a bit paranoid thinking: "Am I a sex maniac, wanting too much?" Or "Don't they fancy me anymore?" Women are particularly bad about blaming themselves when he loses interest. Whereas the fellas are less worried about blame - they just want to sort out more sex! Academy rule No. 1: Don't point the finger of blame for lack of sex at yourself or your partner. You're in this together, you'll sort it together. Here's a checklist of passion-killing culprits every good student should consider: * Problems in your relationship (at each other's throats and you won't be at it!) * Trouble at work/financial worries * Not enough sleep or time together (a good chance the Beckham's are experiencing this one) * Too many late nights including too much booze and cigs * Boredom with the same old sex and/or feeling shy about trying new things * Medical problems and/or side-effects of prescription medication * Stress, anxiety and/or depression (face it, when youre down you don't feel sexy) * Erectile difficulties for the man meaning he avoids sex Most of these affect the way you feel and think i.e. your brain action. Research shows how powerfully our brains affect sexual desire. Put a hot, naked woman in front of a depressed man and his brain won't switch on his arousal centre. What hope has his wife of five, ten, or more, years got?

Hot & Helpful Homework:

It's time for applying your new knowledge - thoroughly examine the checklist and get stuck in with the main culprit. If a number of these are affecting your sex life, focus on changing one at a time. Study example: Let's say you're having lots of arguments plus partying too much at weekends - ending up hungover. When calm, agree with each other that the arguing must stop. Then look at what starts arguments (Household chores? Money?) and work out solutions together.

Be the first to be affectionate and loving to your partner despite the rows. Making these efforts will have big payoffs. Thinking of our example - arguments and partying next knock excess drinking on the head. A hangover on a Sunday morning doesn't lead to Sunday afternoon delight! Agree a drinks limit and help each other stick to it. When things are better, recharge the spark. Make regular time for each other, get cosy on the settee, and whisper in their ear how much you miss that "thing" they do best in bed. Tease them a little, let your fingertips gently run over their erogenous zones, and keep up the sexy banter. Full sex should be back on the agenda soon. But consult your GP about ongoing health issues that might affect desire.

Test Your Knowledge

Q: How many couples now regularly use oral sex to guarantee the woman's satisfaction - is it: A) 45% B) 20% C) 69% A: The correct answer is B. Twenty per cent of men in a relationship now use oral sex to make sure their partner has a good time between the sheets - just what the doctor ordered!

Loved-up Celebs
So Brad and Angelina are getting hitched six years and six children into their relationship. Is it a case of better late than never? Sadly it's not great news for the two most gorgeous celebrities to grace our good earth. Relationship research shows couples that leave getting married longer than 3 1/2 years are pretty much doomed. Any why? Because leaving it that long suggests one of thems dragged their feet about fully committing whether it's her Jimmy Choo-clad feet daintily dodging the aisle we may never know. Just beware the partner who keeps putting off full commitment.

Dr Pams Position
This fortnight: The Cow Girl

Have loads of fun with this position where the girl's on top. He lies flat on his back and she straddles him, facing him. A perfect position for a boob-man as he has great access to his partners and can caress her during sex. She gently glides up and down as passion builds. He steadies the action by holding her hips. This is a perfect position for her to control the pace of things. Plus if she has low-body confidence a dimmer switch or candles will provide subtle lighting. Riding off into the sunset takes on a new meaning!