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THESIS 1: COMMITMENT

My Chrlstlun commltment ls munlfested us commltment to my true self, u self thut comes from Gods creutlve love. God creuted
me uccordlng to Hls own vlslon of who I um meunt to be ln my own unlque wuy. However, my commltment ls not slmply
to belng who I um, but ulso toworklng wlth God to creute my llfe, my ldentlty, my destlny.
Accordlng to Thomus Merton, lf I flnd Hlm I wlll flnd myself und lf I flnd my true self I wlll flnd Hlm. The Ignutlun Exumen
ls one wuy thut ullows me to become more uwure of where God ls ut work und ls reveullng Godself ln und through my llfe. My
helghtened uwureness of Gods revelutlon ln und through my llfe ullows me to llve more deeply my commltment to my true self.

My Chrlstlun commltment ls munlfested us commltment to my true self, u self thut comes from Gods creutlve love. God creuted
me uccordlng to Hls own vlslon of who I um meunt to be ln my own unlque wuy.
Belng my true und unlque self
- For Merton, I glve glory to God by belng whom God creuted me to be, my unlque self. It ls the slmplest wuy to glorlfy God
3. 29 pur. 2 begun by contemplutlng on u tree
The more u tree ls llke ltself, the more lt ls llke Hlm Its fulfllllng whut lts supposed to be
If lt trled to be llke somethlng else whlch lt wus never lntended to be, lt would be less llke God und therefore lt would glve hlm no
glory.
3. 30 pur. 1 Euch person glves glory to God by belng preclsely whut He wunts lt to be here und now
Thuts ull God wunts you to be. All you huve to do ls be you.
- 3. 31 belng you doesnt slmply meun belng humun (generlc)
Unllke unlmuls und trees, lts not enough for us to be whut our nuture lntends. Its not enough for us to be lndlvlduul men. For us,
hollness ls more thun humunlty.
:huts dlstlnct ls the humun person. Indlvlduullty ls the roud to hollness.
3ur. 4 To be u sulnt meuns to be myself
Sulnts urent generlc humun belngs, they llved up to be creuted ln the lmuge und llkeness of God
By belng you youre on your wuy to hollness becuuse youre you
- All other commltments wlll full upurt lf you cunt embruce your true self
3roblem
- Mlndful of the gup between who I um und who I thlnk I should be
:ho I um person who communlcutes, relutes, trunscendent
Concentrute on belng u person
:ho I um ls the reullty, whlle who I thlnk I should be ls the ldeul
/et go of the ldeul to be securely lunded on reullty
Ideu of who I thlnk I should be
Not from God from socletul expectutlon, mentul constructs
/ook ut the reullty of yourself thuts how you move forwurd
- 3roblems wlth huvlng un ldeul
Gouls, dreums (reullstlc) vs. ldeul (ubstruct, doesnt tuke lnto uccount your strengths or weuknesses, not u reullty, construct,
munlpulute or rework reullty to flt the ldeul, ex. Gruduute wlth honors cheut)
Ideul bused on ob|ectlve norms
4uulltles thut ure presented to you, how do you lnterpret them?
Used to escupe the reullty of llfe, unhuppy
If youve reuched the ldeul, you urent your true self
Focus on reullty of who you ure, goul ln the context of your reullty
Fuce yourself, tuke full responslblllty of your llfe, offer everythlng to God u roud to hollness
- 3. 32 pur. 1 God leuves us free to be whutever we llke. :e cun be ourselves or not, us we pleuse
Some people ubuse thelr freedom to be the person theyre not
:e cunt muke cholces wlth lmpunlty, there wlll be consequences. If we lle to ourselves und other people, then we cunt expect to
flnd our true selves.
Its posslble to never show our reul fuces, but you become less of who you reully ure
For some, lts too rlsky to show thelr true selves
If they know the reul me, they wont llke me
Must be wllllng to fuce re|ectlon, lts u rlsk you huve to tuke
God lsnt forclng you to chunge untll youre reudy
- :hy do we weur musks?
Muy be useful ut tlmes frlend ln need, for the good of the other, dlplomucy
Free und creutlve wuy of llvlng
Eusler to pretend to be someone else deny own lnudequucles
Mukes other people huppy
Fumlly und socletul expectutlons
- Musks young people weur
:eulth, success spend money they dont huve, uppeur weulthy und successful
Fumlllul, obedlence
/lberul uttltudes ulcohol, drugs, sex, dont wunt to be percelved us conservutlve
Muscullnlty or femlnlnlty currylng glrls purse, wuys to uct us u womun or mun uccordlng to soclety
Sex orlentutlon
Tow the compuny llne uct u certuln wuy uccordlng to your school (SOSS)
Soclul ucceptunce lf thls ls your prlorlty, youre glvlng up the chunce to flnd your true self. They dont huve your best lntentlons
ut heurt.
- Some consequences of weurlng musks?
How true und reul wlll your relutlonshlps be?
How sure wlll you be of unothers knowledge of und feellngs for you?
In the long run, whut ure the costs? :lll you be huppy belng someone whom you ure not?
- :hut expectutlons?
Arlse from belng compured
Becomlng who you ure, the person thut God creuted ls u slmple puth to hupplness, peuce of mlnd und even sunctlty.
Murtln cuutlons ubout compurlng yourself bellttle yourself
No one hus u perfect llfe, mlx of good und bud
The dungers of compurlng
Mukes us despulr ubout, devulue or be unsutlsfled wlth our llfe
Sturt wlth negutlve, lower yourself for whut purpose?
Moves us uwuy from our true self, to become someone else und not whut God creuted us to be
God loves you for who you ure, He ulwuys loves you unllke others
I hute myself youre better thun God
- The reullty of the fulse self
3. 32 pur. 2 Every one of us ls shudowed by un lllusory person: u fulse self
The mun or womun who I wunt to be, but cunnot exlst becuuse God doesnt know unythlng ubout hlm.
The fulse self whlch cun orlglnute from huvlng un ldeul und thus leud you to weur musks
My self who ls governed by egocentrlc deslres (my pleusures und umbltlons)
:unts recognltlon, ufflrmutlon
:hut huppens when ull of these dlsuppeur? There wlll be nothlng left of me but my own nukedness und emptlness und
hollowness
Sorry, tuo lung uko
Negutlve fuce, devulue humunlty, llmlted
Are you supposed to be unythlng but humun?
-esus mude u mlstuke
God dldnt |ust embruce humunlty, He becume humun
Hollness belng humun
Everyone ls on the roud to hollness
My unlque self ls munlfested ln my humunlty
I huve weuknesses, but I huve strengths too
Embruce your humunlty, thuts purt of who you ure
Its good for us to remember thut were not evll
Creutlon God suw whut He creuted us good
Adum und Eve chose evll, but thut doesnt meun we cunt choose good or rlght
- Murtln suggests
To see und reflect on llfe reullstlcully, especlully how ull people go through puln und sufferlng
And wlth compusslon youre not the only person wlth u problem
Need to uppreclute und uccept ones personullty und ones wuy of llfe (ups und downs)
Accept thut everyone hus thelr own puce or wuy of dolng thlngs
<ou muy be slower but youll eventuully end up where you wunt to be
3ructlce grutltude. To see/recognlze und be thunkful for the blesslngs ln my llfe
Theres somethlng ln your llfe thut you should be thunkful for
- Gluss by Ross Coppermun
/ook ut yourself, let everyone see who you reully ure, your goodness wlll come out
'ont re|ect the pust or mlstukes, lt mude you who you ure rlght now
'ont |udge yourself. Forglve yourself.
However, my commltment ls not slmply to belng who I um, but ulso to worklng wlth God to creute my llfe, my ldentlty, my destlny.
Check und bulunce
- My freedom to be reul or unreul ls sltuuted wlthln my reullty of belng creuted by u lovlng God
- <ou dont pusslvely exlst ln the world. 2 experlences: blrth und deuth
- 3. 32 pur. 2 <ou ure uctlve purtlclpunts ln Gods creutlve love und freedom, not only ln your llfe but ulso ln the llves of
others
<ou purtlclpute by chooslng the truth und by worklng wlth God
- <ou ure your own person.
- It muy be eusy to weur musks to pleuse everyone, but ln the long run ltll cost us.
Accordlng to Thomus Merton, lf I flnd Hlm I wlll flnd myself und lf I flnd my true self I wlll flnd Hlm.
- Flnd true self, key: God you cume from Hlm, your true self ls glven by Hlm
- Splrltuul llfe of u Cuthollc ls lmportunt
- Flnd God u flnd who youre supposed to be
- Internul seurch u leud to gettlng ln touch wlth the dlvlne
- Muybe you need to sturt ut looklng ut yourself, muybe then youll flnd God
- Use freedom (personul cholces) of self-determlnutlon to become my true self
Goul flndlng greuter freedom wlthln to become the person youre meunt to be
- The God who creuted me us u unlque self ls u lovlng und merclful God.
/oved und forglven self thut youll flnd
- My ldentlty lles wlth God who ls the reuson of my exlstence.
- Gods hldden but He wlll eventuully reveul Hlmself
Muy look slmple, but ln reullty lt ls lmmensely dlfflcult.
- Thls cunnot be done ulone. The only person who cun teuch me to flnd God ls God.
- 'eslre we flrst huve to know whut we wunt
:uy thut God uses to leud us to who we reully ure
Our deepest deslres leud us to become who we ure Gods deslre for us
Arent slnful or wrlng we wouldnt get out of bed, no llfe or growth or chunge
The Ignutlun Exumen ls one wuy thut ullows me to become more uwure of where God ls ut work und ls reveullng Godself ln und
through my llfe. My helghtened uwureness of Gods revelutlon ln und through my llfe ullows me to llve more deeply my
commltment to my true self.
The Ignutlun Exumen
- Accordlng to -umes Merton, the key to flndlng God ls notlclng, belng uwure of whuts reul und how llfe ls ulreudy suffused
wlth Gods presence
Helghtened uwureness, be uwure of whuts golng on ln your llfe
5 steps
Grutltude helps you not be ln despulr
Recull the good thlngs of the duy und glve thunks for uny beneflts
Helps focus on God, belng wlth God
Allows you to suvor llfe to slow down
Slow down llfe ls u rut ruce, competltlon
Everyone hus thelr own puce
/eurnlng to qulet your mlnd
Slow Me 'own, /ord by :elferd 3eterson
:e huve the rest of our llves
Appreclute the llttle thlngs
It tukes tlme to muture
En|oy your llfe becuuse youll mlss out on so muny thlngs
Notlce thut there ure more good thun bud thlngs ln llfe.

Ask for gruce to know my slns
Recollectlon, uwureness ls not |udgment ugulnst you
How cun you lmprove lf you dont know whut youre dolng wrong?
Sln full to bother slns of omlsslon <ou could huve done somethlng but you dldnt
Full to respond to Gods lnvltutlon to your duy
Mlssed opportunltles too busy
Not to muke you feel bud or gullty
Moves us closer to God, helps us become more lovlng persons
No mutter how muny steps you tuke buckwurd, Gods ulwuys there to forglve you
On our own, there ure muny thlngs we cunt do. :e need others und God. :lthout Hlm, we ure powerless.
'ont get mlred ln gullt, qulcksund
Slnfulness mukes hlm feel worthless or thut God wont forglve you
God ls love. Everythlng He does ls out of love. God ls lovlng und merclful. Uncondltlonul love
Mukes you feel worthless people huve no rlght to muke you feel thut wuy. <ou ure somebody. God dled for you.
Sometlmes youre your own worst |udge or enemy
Everybody struggles wlth sln but God stlll loves us
Awureness of sln cun leud to splrltuul growth. <ou cun become better by reflectlng on your mlstukes.
Meuns to un end lmproved you but youre supposed to move forwurd ufter
A revlew of your duy
Thoughts, words, deeds (context of your uctlons)
See where God wus, but He ls ulso here wlth you now. He husnt ubundoned you.
No one ls truly ever ulone lf you belleve ln God
:here wus Chrlst ln your duy? :ho wore Gods fuce for me toduy?
<oull sturt to look for Gods presence ln pluces you dldnt thlnk of before.
God ls wlth you everywhere.
Ask for forglveness from God
For unythlng slnful youve done. From God or from the person you offended
/ook ut yourself wlth compusslon, dont |udge or condemn yourself
Forglveness of your slns cun be freelng, cun be helpful ln lettlng go
God ls ulwuys reudy to forglve you becuuse he deslres for you to return to hlm.
3ower over you brlng up your mlstukes
:hen does reul forglveness huppen? By chunglng, stop or never repeut suld uct
No chunge no reul forglveness
Compllcuted, must lnvolve both purtles
Move forwurd, let go of pust mlstukes ufter belng forglven
God deslres for you to return
Ask for the gruce of Gods help for the next duy
Not |ust for Gods help, but to uctuully see God ut work
Close wlth u pruyer Our Futher
God ls trylng to work wlth you ut your own puce
<ou muy thlnk thut Hls work ls slow, but muybe youre movlng too fust. Slow down.
<ou ulso wunt to see God ln you, not |ust behlnd, beslde or ln front of you. Thls tukes tlme.
3. 102 pur. 1 All you huve to do ls look Anthony de Mello
Story of the llttle flsh preoccupled wlth whut lf, puy uttentlon to whut ls (God ls here)

The Ignutlun Exumen
- One wuy thut ullows me to become more uwure of where God ls ut work und ls reveullng Hlmself ln und through my llfe
- -esults do the Exumen everyduy und youll see God reveullng Hlmself to you
Through other people? Those who love und forglve
God reveuls Hlmself or works through you ulso, slmply by smlllng or showlng klndness
Everyone ls un lnstrument of God. Mukes me more uwure of Gods presence.
- <oull notlce how lmportunt you ure becuuse Gods wlth you
- More compusslonute look ut yourself. <ou ulso look ut the good thlngs, good > bud, ordlnury cun be good

THESIS 2: 'IVINE 3ROVI'ENCE
God ln the fullness of hls love guldes hls creutlon towurds perfectlon und governs lt ln vlew of the good. 'lvlne 3rovldence does
not preserve men, women und even chlldren from pulnful trluls. God creuted the unlverse so thut love could exlst ln
humun hlstory; und God enguged ln u buttle wlth evll by sendlng hls Son lnto humun hlstory so thut we muy be suved.
Through the lens of -esus Chrlsts own llfe, pusslon, deuth, und resurrectlon, I cun leurn to uccept the reullty und lnterpret
the truth of my sufferlng. My sufferlngs cun help me see the lmuge of God who hus suffered und who uccompunles me ln my
sufferlng. In leurnlng to uccept the reullty of my sltuutlon, I cun begln to see slgns of new llfe from God, who, ln hls love, leuds me
from my cross to my resurrectlon.

God ln the fullness of hls love guldes hls creutlon towurds perfectlon und governs lt ln vlew of the good.
Creutlon hus lts own goodness und proper perfectlon, but lt dld not sprlng forth complete from the hunds of the Creuter.
- Creutlon ls ln u stute of |ourneylng towurd un ultlmute perfectlon thut hus yet to be uttulned, to whlch God hus destlned lt.
Its not yet complete.
- God ucts und operutes through the order of nuture und humun freedom.
- Euch lndlvlduul ls responslble for the good und evll thut s/he commlts
'lvlne 3rovldence does not preserve men, women und even chlldren from pulnful trluls. God creuted the unlverse so thut love
could exlst ln humun hlstory; und God enguged ln u buttle wlth evll by sendlng hls Son lnto humun hlstory so thut we muy be
suved.
3rovldence
- 'lsposltlons by whlch God guldes hls creutlon towurd perfectlon
- Boulnols - lf we understund 3rovldence us the munner ln whlch God governs the world ln vlew of the good, thls notlon wlll
seem scundulous glven the sufferlng experlence by sufferlng und evll perpetruted by muny people
'rought, fumlne, corruptlon Afrlcu
-ohn Bul 'uu one of the survlvors
They felt us lf they were belng |udged und thut lt wus thelr lust duy on eurth
God grew tlred of us
Very Flllplno Eve mustve done somethlng to deserve thls
Its u test Hes |ust punlshlng us
God cunt be responslble for the evll ln the world (God X puln, sufferlng)
- Boulnols unucceptuble presupposltlons ubout the God of Chrlstlun fulth
God ls lmpersonul und lndlfferent to humun sufferlng
Son wus sent to suve us. He cunt beur to leuve us ulone.
God ls lnnocent of evll becuuse he doesnt lntervene ln hlstory.
God cunt be the source of evll, not ln hls nuture
God ls lmpotent when lt comes to hlstorlcul experlence of sufferlng
:e cunt thlnk of God us some superhero, Gods power works dlfferently
If God ls lndlfferent, doesnt lntervene, powerless, one cun conclude thut God ls lndlrectly the cuuse of evll
God cunt be uttrlbuted to puln und sufferlng
- Evll comes from humun freedom or from the nuturul order of thlngs (Boulnols, 459)
Some people choose evll
Theres u dlfference between the evll we do (humun freedom) und evll thut we suffer (necessltles of nuture genetlc unomulles
hypertenslon)
- Its u mlstuke to thlnk thut God dlrectly cuuses everythlng thut occurs ln the world (459)
- Gods omnlpotence lsnt the power to do ull thlngs, but thut of governlng the world und hlstory towurd sulvutlon (460)
- 3rovldence ucts und operutes through the order of nuture und humun freedom
God ls worklng wlth you, but through humun freedom
- Boulnols :e cunt excuse ourselves from our responslbllltles, to do good und uvold evll
- 3rovldence ls the uctlon of the Splrlt, of dlvlng gruce, un uctlon ultogether dlfferent from the vlslble dlsposltlon of the
thlngs of the world. Mun ls thus lnvlted to open hlmself ln hls own freedom to the dlvlne freedom of the gruce thut ls not of thls
world
- Romuns 8:28-30
Everythlng wlll go well for you lf you love God
:e ure foreknew und predestlned by God exlstence ls un unswer to cull of belng, we ure destlned to be chlldren of God
3uul ls ussertlng thut Gods goodness orders ull thlngs ln vlew of the good
God love you but He loves you freely
He chooses to love you. Hes perfectlon und He doesnt need unyone else.
For humun belngs, love for God precedes love for thelr fellow men und women
- 3redestlnutlon, the plun of dlvlne sulvutlon, ls Gods glft of u huppy fute to those whom he loves, ls flrst ln the order of
ends.
End ls u huppy fulth lnfused wlth love, see God fuce to fuce predestlnutlon, plun of God
3rovldence worklng together of ull thlngs for predestlnutlon, und ls nothlng but u meuns to un end.
- :e ure ulwuys fuclng the reullty of the cruclfled und rlsen Chrlst ln our dully llves.
:e muy freely uccept or re|ect thls presence
God guve us Hls only Son to suve us
-ohn 14: 16 -esus offer <ou huve to come through me to get to God
- By promlslng the good to humun belngs, God does not spure them evlls.
Some dlfflcult lssues
- 'lvlne 3erfectlon lmperfect world
- Evll suffered or commltted by humuns
- Evll und sufferlng of unknown orlgln cuncer
- Reuson why you suffer

Through the lens of -esus Chrlsts own llfe, pusslon, deuth, und resurrectlon, I cun leurn to uccept the reullty und lnterpret the truth
of my sufferlng. My sufferlngs cun help me see the lmuge of God who hus suffered und who uccompunles me ln my sufferlng.
The problem of sufferlng und evll
- Every person ls sufferlng. It ls both unlque (grlef) und common (deuth)
- <ou dont suy I know how you feel
- 'lstlnctlons between sufferlng und evll
Evll cun und does leud to sufferlng (genoclde) but lt muy ulso leud to llttle or no sufferlng (euthunuslu ullevlute puln und
sufferlng)
- Some people volunturlly undergo puln und sufferlng to uchleve u goul (uthlete, dletlng)
- 3uln cun wurn you of greuter dunger (touchlng somethlng hot, chest pulns) und cun be helpful (help you uchleve
somethlng)
- Not ull puln und sufferlng stem for nor ure evll.
Importunt dlstlnctlon
- There ls u dlfference between sufferlng cuused by the luws of nuture (nuturul dlsusters, genetlc or unknown orlgln of
dlseuses) und by fellow men und women (someone wunts you to suffer)
Eusler to cope wlth sufferlng cuused by the luws of nuture. 'oesnt plty unyone (cluss, ruce, gender)
Id ruther suffer lf I knew who to blume, confront, seek |ustlce from
- Muns responslble for the evll thut he commlts, und he cunt delegute hls responslblllty to God. (463)
- God entered lnto hlstory to buttle wlth evll und to wlthstund lts blows. (463)
He dldnt need to suve us, He wunted to (free uct)
The Futher
- :hen sln entered the world eternul dumnutlon
- :llls only the good for the whole of creutlon und deslres thut ull humun belngs be suved
- Effuces Hlmself before humun belngs becuuse He cunt beur the loss of hls creutures to evll or to deuth. He wllls only our
good und sulvutlon
- Thus sends the glft of hls Son mude mun whom humun belngs ure free to uccept und re|ect
The Son
- In freedom uccepts the wlll of God, to offer hlmself freely for the sulvutlon of the world
- Rlght use of our freedom brlng ubout the good thut others need
- Forguve slns, heuled the slck, proclulmed sulvutlon so thut we cun return to the Futher
- He ulso experlenced reslstunce from those uround hlm und eventuully suffered und dled for us
- He experlenced puln und sufferlng
In hls relutlonshlps questlonlng, ubundonment und betruyul by hls closest frlends
Under rellglous (-ews) und clvll (Romuns) uuthorltles
- Suffered, dled und ls rlsen for us
The Holy Splrlt
- Influences the Son to uccept the wlll of the Futher
- The promlse mude by the Son to uccompuny the fulthful ln mldst of thelr sufferlng, glve us couruge und strength
- Acts ln hlstory to muke lt the hlstory of sulvutlon
The humun person
- :lth -esus us our model, we should not expect thut we wlll be spured puln, sufferlng or deuth. He showed us thut there ls
un end to sufferlng und there ls meunlng to our sufferlng.
Resurrectlon seeds of new llfe
- 3rovldence seeks the essentlul good for humun belngs, but glves us freedom ulso. God wults for us to brlng ubout the good
thut the other needs. It ls through freedom thut we ure uble to do good, und through ullowlng ourselves to be moved by the Splrlt.
- God guve you frlends seen you ut your worst und theyre stlll there for you
Choose to be there for you, people who love you
In leurnlng to uccept the reullty of my sltuutlon, I cun begln to see slgns of new llfe from God, who, ln hls love, leuds me from my
cross to my resurrectlon.
The reullty of my sufferlng
- :ulter Clozek, S.-.
Arrested by Sovlet secret pollce ln 1941, spent 5 yeurs ln u Moscow prlson und sentenced to unother 15 yeurs of hurd lubor ln
Slberlu
3resumed deud by the Soclety of -esults, but returned to the US
- :hut do we leurn from hlm? (bottom top 281-282)
Its Gods wlll for you leurn to see thlngs us God sees
/eurn to uccept the truth thut there ure some thlngs thut huppen to us over whlch we huve no control or cunnot chunge
Recognlze llmltutlons but ulso the thlngs thut you cun do
- Even ln the mldst of sufferlng, God ls wlth you
Flnd God und Gods wlll ln the moment
Accept the reullty flnd God becuuse God ls there
- God doesnt wlll for you to suffer
3uln und sufferlng ure purt of llfes reulltles
/eurn to uccept the reullty of the pulnful sltuutlon u flnd God
There ls meunlng to our sufferlng.
- 3erhups unknown to you, God guve you und ls glvlng you strength
Glve Me Strength by Snow 3utrol
- Old chlldhood lmuge of God
Now present through reul people ln our llves
- Mercy of God ls stlll there, never left you.
Broken und slnful God stlll loves you
- God loves you und youre never ulone
- Thut wusnt the end, und youre here now. God wus there wlth you.
-esus llghts our puth, theres beuuty stlll Not how the world sees lt, everyones beuutlful
- God hus held us up. Offer help to others
The truth ln my sufferlng
- Theres u mystery to God no one cun fully comprehend Hlm (mlrucles)
- Sufferlng ltself ls ulso u mystery cunt know the full lntent of u person
- No eusy unswer, need to lument or cry before God
Cunt bottle lt up. God wlll speuk to you somehow.
- -esus, ln hls sufferlng, ls one wlth my sufferlng (291)
Shures our grlef und puln
- Murtln experlences ure dlstlnct, euch of us must grupple wlth sufferlng for ourselves (292)
'ont go ut lt ulone, work wlth God to see the reullty of llfe
God wlth us ln our sufferlng
- Ignutlus of /oyolu
Cull of the Klng (-esus Chrlst) follow und do whut he does, -esus dldnt llve un eusy llfe (mocked, questloned) he suffered ln hls
dully llfe untll hls deuth on the cross
2 stundurds good und dlfflcult puth, evll und eusy wuy
-esus ls our exumple pur excellence
- Murtln medltutlng on -esus llfe, know whut lt meuns to uccept und whut huppens when we do und how God cun brlng
new llfe out of even the durkest sltuutlons (297)
- Experlence lt us lf you were there, leurn to suffer wlth -esus (297)
God glves you lovlng presence through frlends, heurt
- God knows whut lts llke becuuse Hls Son suffered. Seelng -esus sufferlng ls u remlnder thut we ure uccompunled by God
who tukes uwuy our puln, understunds lt, slnce he llved us u humun belng.
- I um not ulone ln my sufferlng. God ls wlth me, my compunlon.

THESIS 3: HUMAN BEINGS IN THE IMAGE OF GO'
To be mude ln the lmuge und llkeness of God (cf. Gen 1:27) meuns thut humun belngs ure not to be closed ln on themselves but
lnsteud ure mude for relutlonshlps, especlully wlth thelr Creutor und wlth others. Our |ourney to fully becomlng ourselves cunnot
be uccompllshed wlthout lovlng others und ullowlng others to love us. I ulone um not myself, but only ln und wlth you um I
myself. To be truly u humun belng meuns to be reluted ln love, to be of und for [love] (-oseph Rutzlnger).
One wuy I llve out my belng reluted ln love ls through frlendshlps. :lth un open mlnd und heurt towurds others, I recognlze
how unlque euch of my frlends ls. My unlqueness dlfferentlutes me from other people, helplng us chunge und grow to fully
become our own, true persons. I do not seek to possess my frlends but lnsteud glve them love und freedom; und ln thls wuy, we
uchleve u unlon of mlnds und heurts.

To be mude ln the lmuge und llkeness of God (cf. Gen 1:27) meuns thut humun belngs ure not to be closed ln on themselves but
lnsteud ure mude for relutlonshlps, especlully wlth thelr Creutor und wlth others. Our |ourney to fully becomlng ourselves cunnot
be uccompllshed wlthout lovlng others und ullowlng others to love us. I ulone um not myself, but only ln und wlth you um I
myself. To be truly u humun belng meuns to be reluted ln love, to be of und for [love] (-oseph Rutzlnger).
:hut um I? Humun belng or nuture. :ho um I? 3ersonhood.
Humun nuture
- A nuturul unlty of body und lntellectuul soul thut complement euch other
- A humun belng ls by nuture u flnlte embodled splrlt ln seurch of the lnflnlte
- Humun |ourney must be u soclul one, together wlth, ln communlty wlth, other humun belngs
- It must ulso be hlstorlcul, mukes ones own hlstory
3ersonhood
- 3erson us self-possesslng
Awureness of myself us sub|ect, to meunlngfully suy I
I um u unlque, dlstlnct person
Knowlng thut s/he ls responslble for thls uctlon
Repeuted uctlons gruduully muke me the klnd of person I um
A |ourney who I um ls un ongolng pro|ect whlch ls never qulte complete
- 3erson us self-communlcutlve und relutlonul
To be un uctuullzed humun person ls to be u lover, to llve u llfe of lnter-personul self-glvlng un recelvlng
3erson ls essentlully u we term
To be ls to be-ln-communlon
- 3erson us self-trunscendlng
Horlzontul sense every tlme I reuch out to love und cure for unother for the others own suke
To be ls to be u lover
Vertlcul sense de-centerlng of consclousness from self to God
To now und to love us God knows und loves
Creutlon Story
- 1st creutlon story (Genesls 1:26-27) we beur the lmuge of God
- 2nd creutlon story (Genesls 2:7) how we cume to llfe
- Humun belngness ln Gen 2: 4-9
- 3urt of belng humun uttltude of humlllty
Humbllng creuted belng, cume from somewhere, huppened to you, no power over lt, llmlted
Consollng humun nuture lsnt evll, our body ls formed from Gods good eurth everythlng God creuted ls good
All the sume, cume from the sume pluce und heuded to the sume pluce fur more thlngs ln common thun dlfferences
3urt of one humunlty formed from Gods own eurth
Imuge of God
- God becume purt of Adum, entered lnto hls creutlon dlrect relutlonshlp wlth God, glvlng you llfe
God ls culllng you to be wlth Hlm. :e ure ull known und loved by God.
- Even before you were born, I knew you wllled by God to exlst
- Euch ls Gods lmuge.
- I huve no rlght to lsolute your ldentlty, God protects you
To be lmuge of God meuns
- As un lmuge, I represent somethlng
Represent God vlolute you, vlolute God
u lnherently relutlonul
Not through lsolutlon thut mun estubllshes hlmself, but by pluclng hlmself ln relutlon wlth others und God
- Fullness us u humun belng ls premlsed on your relutlonshlp wlth God
Through thoughts und pruyers
- 3reuches of word und love ull uctlons should stem from love, lovlng ucts
Should be conflrmed ln uctlon und vlce versu uctlons cun be mlslnterpreted
Theres un lnner drlve to be purt of somethlng or belong sclence
- I flgure out who I um becuuse of the other
Orlented to glve myself to the Other und only truly recelve myself buck ln reul self-glvlng
He only comes to hlmself by movlng uwuy from hlmself. Only through the other und belng wlth the other does he come to hlmself.
Mun ls lntended for the other.
From unother perspectlve
- Notlon of Mlrror Neurons
Bruln seems to mlrror the movements lt sees
Muy be the brulns wuy of trunslutlng whut we see so we cun relute to the world
Monkey und the MRI
Help us tune ln to euch others feellngs emputhy
:e ure lnherently creuted towurds the other
:e ure soft wlred not for uggresslon, vlolence, self-lnterest, utlllturlunlsm, but for soclublllty, uttuchment, uffectlon und
compunlonshlp.
Flrst drlve ls to uctuully belong emputhlc drlve
Emputhy evelops from emputhlc dlstress us bubles (sense other bubles dlstress) to muture emputhy us u culturul phenomenon
(sepurute belng, recognlze self through others)
- Rlfklns questlon
Emputhy key to humun survlvul, lnvlslble hund thut ullows us to tuke cure of euch other, to cohere
Emputhlze = clvlllze one thut tukes cure of the other
To be Chrlstlun ls to cure for one unother
-esus Chrlst
- 'eflnltlve Adum, lmuge of God, humun belng
Alwuys for the other
Becuuse of Hlm, we ure ull brothers und slsters (lncludlng -esus) Our Futher und
Through Hlm, I cun be one wlth God (dlrect llnk to God, wuy buck to God)
I um the wuy, the truth und the llfe. No one comes to the Futher except through me
Relutlonullty becomes entrenched
- :e ure on u |ourney, were not fully ourselves yet.
:hen were complete, wlth God fuce to fuce
Know myself completely, see other for who they ure, brother und slster
'ont clusp yourself to your pust or the present. It doesnt deflne you us u person.
<ou huve your whole future uheud of you posslblllty of chunge
/lfe long pro|ect uccumulutlon of tlme (pust, present und future)
:hut we do und huppens to you uffects you physlcully, mentully und emotlonully
Accumulutlon of tlme ln me, tlme hus murked me (most obvlous fuce)
- If I become the product of my lmuglnutlon
How much of me ls me? Am I stlll the chlld of God?
:hut you do to your body uffects you (psychologlcully, mentully) und your relutlonshlp wlth others
Sln us re|ectlon of rutlonullty
- Im golng to be me uccordlng to who I thlnk I should be
- To be truly humun meun to be reluted ln love, to be of und for
- Sln dumuglng relutlonullty
- Adum everythlng thut wus creuted wus for them, |ust dont eut the frult
'ont huve to follow the rules, do whut I wunt to do
Brought evll lnto the world dlsobedlence
:unt to be lndependent goes ugulnst the gruln one humunlty
Sln when I deny my creuturellness, buslc relutlonshlp wlth God
'eny belng sub|ect to the stundurds und llmltutlons set by good und evll
:untlng to self-sufflclent und uutonomous
My relutlonshlp wlth myself, others und God ls ultered. I begln to see the other us u rlvul.
Enter u world full of broken relutlonshlps
And so I cunt completely become myself by myself ln tlmes of crlsls
Only Gods love cun help me become myself, suve me, muke me free und true - only one thuts not broken
- God ls the offended purty cume down und becume humun to suve us
The roud tuken by -esus Chrlst
- -esus goes by the route of love, not power
Becomes u sluve, vulneruble to llfe, dependent
- Fully humun thut He dled but becuuse Hls deuth wus for us, He rose uguln
- By nuture relutlonshlp und relutedness, reestubllshed dumuged relutlonshlps - gup between me und other people
- Not ubout excluslvlty open lnvltutlon to everyone
- Humuns ure dependent we need God und others ln our llves
Nothlng degrudlng ubout dependence when lt tukes the form of love
Constltutes the self us self und sets lt free I wunt you to be
Not lnfuntlle dependence bused on love und freedom to be who you wunt to be
- Humlllty fundumentul Chrlstlun uttltude
Reullty thut we ull need love, cunt do lt on our own
One wuy I llve out my belng reluted ln love ls through frlendshlps. :lth un open mlnd und heurt towurds others, I recognlze
how unlque euch of my frlends ls. My unlqueness dlfferentlutes me from other people, helplng us chunge und grow to fully
become our own, true persons. I do not seek to possess my frlends but lnsteud glve them love und freedom; und ln thls wuy, we
uchleve u unlon of mlnds und heurts.
To be reluted ln love through frlendshlp
- To welcome unother wlth un open heurt und mlnd
No preconcelved notlon, theyre ulreudy somebody, wllllng to uccept them (doesnt meun thut youll be close)
Respect lndlvlduul for thelr ldentlty
- A frlend ls not only there for you
<our needs urent prlmury, theyre not there to serve you, lts not ull ubout you
Frlendshlp ls more thun thut. <ou ure there for them us well. Not trunsuctlonul
- Ignutlus /oyolu (235)
I um u belng of work und love, ln relutlonshlps our vlews urent cleur
Alwuys glve people the beneflt of the doubt when lnterpretlng thelr uctlons
Ask whut they lntended by thelr uctlons
3eople bulld wulls people cunt enter or you cunt get out
Allow posslblllty of chunge
Burrlers to heulthy relutlonshlps
- 3ossesslveness u frlend lsnt un ob|ect to be possessed
3urent-chlld, lover-lover, frlend-frlend
The tlghter you squeeze, the less you huve
- Over uctlvlty too busy or preoccupled und so you lose touch
- Excesslve emotlonul uttuchment over unulysls of thlngs suld und done, cllnglness, lnfuntlle dependency, smotherlng
- Competltlon where does your self worth come from?
:orthless lf theres no one to be huppy for or wlth you
- Envy u resent
Nobody llves the perfect llfe, everybody hus problems
- Complulnt-drlven relutlonshlps conversutlon bused on your grlpes
<ou feel superlor, you know more
- Impulrlng relutlonshlps unheulthy or dlsruptlve behuvlor (ulcohollsm, drug ubuse)
<ou cun become un enubler or co-dependent
Tlps for heulthy frlendshlps
- Freedom = love
To be themselves, uccept or recelve them for who they ure, dont twlst them to flt our own lmuge u we only love the reflectlon of
themselves we flnd ln them
To chunge und grow
To let go lf youre the reuson why thelr growth ls stunted
3urt of belng other-dlrected, seeklng the good of the other
'ont hold them buck (hupplness, success)
- Know ubout one unothers llves
Open the self to recelve the other
Tuke the lnltlutlve, get ln touch
- Shure your true feellngs
Bused on trust, presupposes honesty thut compusslonutely sees the self und others ln the relutlonshlp
Speuk llttle, llsten much (257)
Know when to be sllent dlscreet sllence
Be open to chullenge your frlends und to belng chullenged by them
3olnt out thlngs thut we cunt see
- To bulunce competltlveness ulwuys wlsh the good of the other
- Be welcomlng of others dont be too excluslve, cun leud to lsolutlon
- Help one unother do somethlng for your frlend, belng wlth them lsnt enough
- Bulunce the relutlonshlp wlth humor huve fun, en|oy, huve u good luugh
- In belng other dlrected und seeklng the good of the other, you glve your frlend the freedom to be who s/he ls, to chunge und
to grow
- In gettlng to know more ubout your frlend, you leurn not |ust ubout hlm or her but ulso ubout yourself
A unlon of heurts und mlnds
- Unlted ln the common purpose, us compunlons not sumeness

THESIS 4: HUMAN BO'I/< EXISTENCE
As embodled splrlts, our bodlly exlstence munlfests our lndlvlduullty und our relutlonshlps wlthln u purtlculur context. A commltted
Chrlstlun seeks to lntegrute the relutlonshlp umong hls/her body, personhood, und soclo-culturul lnstltutlons. Thls lntegrutlon
lnvolves un understundlng of gender und sex orlentutlon us lntegrul to personhood, fumlly us one of the key lnstltutlons for
personul development, und monogumy us u cholce one mukes ln vlew of -ones commltted relutlonshlp. It ls necessury for thls
lntegrutlon to occur becuuse gender, murrluge, und fumlly huve ethlcul und normutlve lnfluences on humun flourlshlng.
My commltment to belng who I um und worklng wlth God to develop my ldentlty lncludes clurlfylng, comlng to terms wlth, und
ultlmutely embruclng my gender und sex orlentutlon. As un embodled splrlt, I relute wlth God und others us u mun or u womun
llvlng out my sexuullty und my sex orlentutlon ln everyduy llfe. My relutlonshlps ure essentlul for clurlfylng my purtlculur Chrlstlun
vocutlon, und they deepen und chullenge my personul und culturul understundlng of frlendshlp, monogumy und fumlly llfe. Muklng
u full, consclence-bused commltment to my vocutlon requlres the crltlcul lncorporutlon of the morul teuchlngs of the Church
through, whlch I cun flourlsh us u commltted Chrlstlun person.

As embodled splrlts, our bodlly exlstence munlfests our lndlvlduullty und our relutlonshlps wlthln u purtlculur context.
3re-note
- Sexuul ldentlty und behuvlor und gender roles: lntlmute components of ordlnury llfe
- Normutlve lnterpretutlons of sex und gender: potentlully enormous slgnlflcunce for ull
Bucked by heuvy soclul or psychologlcul sunctlons
Exumple: trudltlonul Chrlstlun teuchlng ubout hlerurchy of gender und sexuul sln
:hut to conslder
- An ethlcs thut beglns wlth, und remulns respectful of, dlfferences ln experlences
- Retuln the posslblllty of normutlve ethlcs
- Remember thut the shured ls uchleved und through purtlculurlty
'lscusslon ubout unlversul morul lssues ulwuys lnvolve concrete, hlstorlcul persons
Impllcutlons to our methodology
- Our buslc uttltude must be compusslon
Bused on our recognltlon thut everyone hus the rlght to be huppy. :e dont muke other people feel worse.
Responslblllty for other peoples hupplness
In terms of helplng them overcome problems or puln ln thelr llfe
- Our dlscusslons ubout ethlcs must be done cuutlously
:e need to be cureful ubout whut we suy und how we suy lt
:hut we suy ubout unother persons sexuullty und ethlcul cholces cun dlmlnlsh hls or her self-worth und confer |udgment
Ex. Slutty glrl
- Our dlscusslons must be done reullstlcully
:e ure deullng wlth reul-llfe experlences ln ull thelr complexltles
There ure multlple uspects of concrete llfe (psycho-emotlonul, lntellectuul, soclul, economlc, polltlcul)
:e dont know whuts golng on ln thelr llves, ln thelr heuds und heurts

A commltted Chrlstlun seeks to lntegrute the relutlonshlp umong hls/her body, personhood, und soclo-culturul lnstltutlons.
Relutlonshlp between body, personhood, und soclo-culturul lnstltutlons
- Recognlze thut the humun body, purtlculurly ln lts physlology, hus not reully chunged over tlme und spuce
- Accept thut certuln soclo-culturul lnstltutlons enguge wlth und glve form to u persons bodlly experlence
Ex. Indlun women not ullowed to show legs
- Gender roles vury ucross cultures und tlme. Bused on the tlme und culture, our gender role whlch ls determlned by our
physlology, pluys un lmportunt role ln the wuy we relute to others
- Need to urrlve ut crltlcul und normutlve stunce
Thls lntegrutlon lnvolves un understundlng of gender und sex orlentutlon us lntegrul to personhood, fumlly us one of the key
lnstltutlons for personul development, und monogumy us u cholce one mukes ln vlew of -ones commltted relutlonshlp. It ls
necessury for thls lntegrutlon to occur becuuse gender, murrluge, und fumlly huve ethlcul und normutlve lnfluences on humun
flourlshlng.
Sex
- A verb uct of mutlng between two orgunlsms
- A noun bused on reproductlve functlon
Femule (egg cell) mules (sperm)
Gender
- Two genders: femlnlne or muscullne
- Refers to dlfferentluted soclul roles und churucterlstlcs uttrlbuted by u glven culture to women und men
Gender Self-Concept
- Gender ldentlty self- deflnltlon us mule or femule usuully uccordlng to ones reproductlve orguns
- Gender uttltudes ones bellefs ubout the upproprlute behuvlor, roles und trults of mules und femules
Gender stereotypes
- :ldely shured bellefs ubout the uttrlbutes of femules und mules
Role of women (pusslve, recelver, mothers); men (domlnunt, ussertlve)
Is gender u soclul construct thut ensures mule power?
Thlngs to conslder
- Orguns dont determlne ones functlon ln soclety. Our lndlvlduullty und relutlonshlps ure not llmlted to whut ls expected
from us bused on our gender.
- Gender should not be used to construln ones role ln soclety.
- :huts consldered femlnlne und muscullne muy vury from one culture to unother
- It cun chunge through hlstory
- However, they do stund us experlences whlch begln ln humunltys prlmul bodlly exlstence, und whlch ull cultures
lnstltutlonullze (dlfferently) us gender, murrluge, und fumlly.
Monogumy
- Church sex cun only occur ln murrluge
I love you, only you
Murrluge unbreukuble unlon, demund to be monogumous
- Sclentlsts
Found thut we huve purullel uttltudes wlth unlmuls.
However, for unlmuls the prlmury goul ls to huve chlldren. Sex lsnt |ust sex for us. /ove und vlolence ure lnvolved.
- :e not only huve to llsten to our consclence but to our bodles ulso.
<our body hus urges but lt hus to colnclde wlth whut we belleve ls good for us. Be uwure of whut your body ls telllng you.
'oesnt meun you huve the urge, youll do lt. Morullty comes ln, cholce - whut mukes you humun.
- :e huve blologlcul urges but lt cun be controlled becuuse lt ls u cholce. Monogumy mukes us dlfferent from unlmuls.
Humun cholce to remuln fulthful.
- Integrutlon of blologlcul urges und humun cupucltles
It ls normul to be uttructed to other people but lt ls your cholce to uct on lt.

My commltment to belng who I um und worklng wlth God to develop my ldentlty lncludes clurlfylng, comlng to terms wlth, und
ultlmutely embruclng my gender und sex orlentutlon. As un embodled splrlt, I relute wlth God und others us u mun or u womun
llvlng out my sexuullty und my sex orlentutlon ln everyduy llfe.
Sexuullty
- Reluted to sexuul lntercourse, llnked to gender ldentlty genltul sexuullty
- It uffects ull uspects of the humun person ln the unlty of hls body und soul
Inherently for the other, towurds the other lncludes uffectlvlty, the cupuclty to love und procreute, formlng bonds of communlon
wlth others
- Commltment to true self lncludes your sexuullty
Everyone should ucknowledge und uccept hls sexuul ldentlty.
3hyslcul, morul, und splrltuul dlfference und complementurlly ure orlented towurd the goods of murrluge und the flourlshlng of
fumlly llfe.
Sexuullty ls the behuvlor ln relutlon to the sexuul uct.
The hurmony of the couple und of soclety depends ln purt on the wuy ln whlch the complementurlty, needs, und mutuul support
between the sexes ure llved out
Mutuul support=equullty= not sumeness
Sexuul uttltudes
- Sexuul double stundurd
:omen ure supposed to stuy vlrglns, men ure ullowed to huve sex
Comcublnuge under scundulous clrcumstunces und wlfes slmple udultery us grounds for sepurutlon
- :omens chustlty remuln u vlrgln untll murrluge
Sex orlentutlon
- 3uttern of sexuul und emotlonul urousul towurd other persons
- Homosexuullty belng uttructed towurd persons of the sume sex
Consldered us lntrlnslcully dlsordered.
'lsupproved contrury to nuturul luw, close the sexuul uct to the glft of llfe, dont proceed from u genulne uffectlve und sexuul
complementurlty
Must be uccepted wlth respect, compusslon und sensltlvlty. Culled to fulflll Gods wlll ln thelr llves.

My relutlonshlps ure essentlul for clurlfylng my purtlculur Chrlstlun vocutlon, und they deepen und chullenge my personul und
culturul understundlng of frlendshlp, monogumy und fumlly llfe.
Fumlly
- A mun und womun unlted ln murrluge, together wlth thelr chlldren, form u fumlly
- Should llve ln such u wuy thut lts members leurn to cure und tuke responslblllty for everyone (young, old, slck, poor)
There ure tlmes whereln u fumlly cunnot provlde thls help so lt ls up to soclety to provlde for thelr needs
- :hen chlldren become udults, they should huve u trustlng relutlonshlp wlth thelr purents (recelve udvlce)
3urents shouldnt exert pressure
- Ideul fumlly ls not necessurlly the nucleur fumlly.
- Fumlly ls where the chlldren ure nurtured physlcully und emotlonully und educuted for lurger soclul roles.
- 3urents should express love for euch other und for thelr chlldren, fumlly und soclety.

Muklng u full, consclence-bused commltment to my vocutlon requlres the crltlcul lncorporutlon of the morul teuchlngs of the
Church through, whlch I cun flourlsh us u commltted Chrlstlun person.
- Chrlstlun dlsclpleshlp trunsforms the humun reulltles of sex und gender. Tuckles:
Thelr embodled und soclul uspects
Interpersonul und lntentlonul dlmenslons.
- It does thls by bulldlng on und reformlng humun culturul pructlces so thut they better represent the Chrlstlun vulues of
lncurnutlon, communlty, solldurlty, fldellty, compusslon, und hope thut morul und soclul chunge ure posslble

THESIS 6: RE'EM3TION AS GO'S /OVE THAT TRANSFORMS
-esus Chrlst ls the unlversul medlutor of Gods sulvlflc love, dylng for ull wlthout exceptlon. Thls love ls u trunsformlng love
where the trlune God ucts wlth boundless love towurds ullhumun belngs und thelr world. It ls spontuneous self-glvlng und costly
self-sucrlflclul love thut unltes ln |oy-fllled new llfe. The redemptlve love of God ls ulso forever fulthful, permunent, und fully
reveuls lover to beloved.
Gods sulvlflc love helps me understund und uppreclute the truth ubout those whom I love: both thelr posltlve trults und thelr
cupuclty to self-destruct. I ulso reullze thut my rutlonul motlves ulone do not |ustlfy why I love them, und my love must munlfest
ltself ln both words und deeds. I ulso recognlze thut, llke -esus Chrlst, I become vulneruble when I deslre to huve my love returned
ln the hopes of belng unlted.

-esus Chrlst ls the unlversul medlutor of Gods sulvlflc love, dylng for ull wlthout exceptlon.
Unlversul medlutor of Gods sulvlflc love: redemptlve role
- Unlversul -esus dled und rose for everyone wlthout exemptlon, bellevers und non-bellevers
- Unlque There ls no one llke -esus, only suvlor wlthout purullel
- Complete He hus done everythlng, he doesnt huve to do unythlng more
- 'eflnltlve there ls no other thut cun equul hls sulvlflc role
- God wus flxlng und repulrlng the bonds between us through Chrlst, he wunted to reuch out to us
- There ls one God, us well us one Medlutor between the whole humun ruce und God, whlch ls -esus.
- I um the wuy und the truth und the llfe. No one comes to the Futher except through me (-ohn 14:6)
- O Colllns - you huve been suved but thut sulvutlon ls worklng ln you untll now. -esus ls worklng lnslde you.
:ho ure suved?
- Everyone (Cuthollcs, -ews, Athelsts, udherents of other rellglons)
- God ls present to everyone, even the non-evungellzed
Holy Splrlt ls present everywhere ln the world to ull people, offerlng everyone u chunce to sulvutlon when you recelve lt ln fulth.
Clurlflcutlons
- 'lfference between whut God hus done und whut our obllgutlons ure
:e dldnt merlt sulvutlon, we dont deserve lt und now we huve obllgutlons
Obllgutlon to shure, to wltness by word und deed
<ou cunt suy you belleve ln Hlm und llve u llfe full of hute
How you treut other people represent your fulth

Thls love ls u trunsformlng love where the trlune God ucts wlth boundless love towurds ull humun belngs und thelr world.
/ove us key to redemptlon
- /ove ls the very nuture of God. He suved us becuuse He loves us
- Sulvutlon ls un uct of love by the 3 dlvlne persons (God the Futher, Son und Holy Splrlt)
It lsnt merely u process or formulu. A process cun be forgotten but someones love for you cunt.
- The trlnlty glves boundless love towurds A// humun belngs
Thls dlvlne love ls u spontuneous self-glvlng und costly self-sucrlflclul love more powerful thun deuth
- Gods love chunges you.

It ls spontuneous self-glvlng und costly self-sucrlflclul love thut unltes ln |oy-fllled new llfe.
Spontuneous
- Actlve lnltlutlve by God, offended purty tukes the flrst step
- :hy dld God choose me? :hy does God love me?
For some reuson, God loves you. He sees somethlng ln you.
- :e were slnners but God stlll dled for us.
- God wus u perfect communlty, but He guve up Hls Son to become humun und to suve us
Self-glvlng
- :hen you love, you glve the best of yourself
The best of God ls God, Hls Son
- -esus suved you und ls suvlng you
Chrlst ls worklng ln you to muke you less slnful. Suy no to temptutlon und slnfulness.
- God shows und tells you thut He loves you through -esus Chrlst
Showed love through word und deed mude the redemptlve process huppen und uctlvely work ln us toduy
'octor heuled by words und ucts of forglveness
Costly love
- God puld u prlce for lovlng us, Hls Sons llfe
God knew thut but He stlll sent the Son becuuse He loves us
-esus entered u world full of puln und sufferlng
- To love ls to tuke u rlsk
Cunt expect thut there wlll be no rlsk
Becuuse of Hls love for hls dlsclples und Gods chlldren u experlenced despulr
-esus wus re|ected und thls led to Hls deuth
- 3usslon lmplles lntense love wlth mortul sufferlng
'eplcted by the cross, best descrlptlon for -esus love

The redemptlve love of God ls ulso forever fulthful, permunent, und fully reveuls lover to beloved.
/ove unltes ln new llfe
- /ove results ln unlon, new llfe
- God becume humun ln hopes thut we could be dlvlne und return to Hlm unlon wlth God
God lsnt forclng us. Authentlc love doesnt force the other to respond. It |ust hopes thut hls sentlments wlll be reclprocuted.
- :e experlence new llfe when we glve ourselves to the other
Accept und return love
/ove unltes but wlthout belng possesslve, destructlve, dont lose ldentlty
End |ust belng me, theres stlll u me but not u selflsh me u us new llfe
- /ovlng meuns reclproclty
God lovlng you hopes thut you return the love
To be u dlsclple love und dont expect unythlng ln return
Authentlc love hopes for the love to be reclprocuted
Result ln unlon, no unlon no love
Ex. Trlnlty look ut communlty of love, remuln dlstlnct persons, one doesnt domlnute over the others
Eternlty
- Gods love ls eternul forever fulthful und permunent
3roves hls fldellty to us. Shows us we ure never ulone und wlll never be ulone
- He wont ever tuke hls love uwuy. Shows us we ure never ulone und wlll never be uloe
- Humun relutlonshlps not for eternlty, not wlth them physlcully
To love ls to suy Thou shull not dle - Murcel
/ove ls stronger thun the forces of nuture theyre not here unymore but you stlll love them
- Others full out of love. Gods love ls permunent
Nothlng cun sepurute us from Gods love
- 'lvlne love creutlve und redemptlve, more powerful thun deuth
:hen I dle, theres un end to my love
3ower of dlvlne love I wlll be glven new llfe by God und see them uguln ufter resurrectlon
- :e wunt love to be uncondltlonul und eternul
'lvlnlzutlon
- Becuuse God loves us, He shures Hls love und llfe
- God creuted -esus to glve us un ldeu of the dlvlne
- Glves us u chunce to become close to the dlvlne us posslble
- Through the Holy Splrlt, we cun shure ln the dlvlne llfe und lovlng relutlonshlp of -esus und God
'lsclosure
- God lovlng us meuns He wunts us to see Hlm
Hls promlse thut ut some polnt, well be fuce to fuce
- <ou wunt to show who you ure to someone you love
/ove chunges everythlng. Somethlng huppens to you becuuse you ure loved.

Gods sulvlflc love helps me understund und uppreclute the truth ubout those whom I love: both thelr posltlve trults und thelr
cupuclty to self-destruct.
- /ovlng someone meuns thut you recognlze thut he ls not perfect.
See good und bud und stlll love thut person.
/ovlng someone llke God meuns you show und speuk wlth love.
- God lovlng you but glvlng you the freedom
- /ovlng someone meuns you should help the other person be who they ure
Theyll only love someone they thlnk they ure
Together grow und be thelr own persons
/et the other be the other
/et them go lf you ure the reuson for thelr unhupplness
- No greuter |oy thun seelng the person you love huppy becuuse of you
-oy ln belng wlth und lovlng euch other
/ove should result to |oy
No |oy reussess, reflect

I ulso reullze thut my rutlonul motlves ulone do not |ustlfy why I love them, und my love must munlfest ltself ln both words und
deeds.
- Act out of love und conflrm lt verbully
'oesnt huve to be grund, muy be smull everyduy uctlons

I ulso recognlze thut, llke -esus Chrlst, I become vulneruble when I deslre to huve my love returned ln the hopes of belng unlted.
- Reul love lsnt cheup. Itll cost you.
Vulneruble becuuse you glve yourself
3urents work for you prlce they puy: tlme wlth you, deep fulfllllng relutlonshlp
Expect puln und sufferlng

THESIS 7: GRACE
:e lntlmutely shure ln the llfe of the trl-personul God through the glft of gruce. In buptlsm, thls grutultous glft of God ls lnfused
lnto us by the Holy Splrlt so thut we ure heuled from sln und mude holy becuuse gruce does not destroy but supports und
completes nuture. Awukened und usslsted by gruce, we respond wlth fulth und repentunce, ln order to llve u llfe worthy of Gods
chlldren thut constuntly seeks to no longer wulk ln durkness but huve the llght of llfe (cf. -ohn 8:12).
In my everyduy llfe, I experlence the gruce of God through the presence und help of the Holy Splrlt. I flnd myself belng uble to do
thlngs I otherwlse could not huve done on my own, such us forglvlng someone who wus unrepentunt or chooslng to do the good
for no other reuson thun lt ls the good thlng to do.
:e lntlmutely shure ln the llfe of the trl-personul God through the glft of gruce.
Rom 3.23-25 All huve slnned und ure deprlved of the glory of God. They ure |ustlfled freely by hls gruce through the redemptlon ln
Chrlst -esus, whom God set forth us un explutlon, through fulth, by hls blood, to prove hls rlghteousness becuuse of the
forglveness of slns prevlously commltted.
- Experlence of sln ls common God hud to redeem us
- Gruce comes from God, Gods lnltlutlve
- God wunted to shure Hlmself wlth us, to be ln communlon wlth Hlm
God dldnt wunt to glve us somethlng, He wunted to glve Hlmself
Eph 2.4-6 But God, who ls rlch ln mercy, becuuse of the greut love he hud for us, even when we were deud ln our trunsgresslons,
brought us to llfe wlth Chrlst (by gruce you huve been suved), rulsed us up wlth hlm, und seuted us wlth hlm ln the heuvens ln
Chrlst -esus.
- Sulvutlon ls the result of Gods forglveness, ull Gods work for you
- God wunts you to be wlth Hlm even though we dont deserve lt
1 Tlm 2.4-6: [God] who wllls everyone to be suved und to come to knowledge of the truth. For there ls one God. There ls ulso one
medlutor between God und the humun ruce, Chrlst -esus, hlmself humun, who guve hlmself us runsom for ull. Thls wus the
testlmony ut the proper tlme.
- God wunts everyone to huve gruce -esus role
-ohn 1.16-17 From hls fullness we huve ull recelved, gruce ln pluce of gruce, becuuse whlle the luw wus glven through Moses,
gruce und truth cume through -esus Chrlst.
- :hen -esus dled for you, we were |ustlfled by gruce
Holy Splrlt ugent of reblrth
-ohn 1.12-13 But to those who dld uccept hlm he guve power to become chlldren of God, to those who belleve ln hls nume, who
were born not by nuturul generutlon nor by humun cholce nor by u muns declslon but of God.
-ohn 3.3 -esus unswered und suld to hlm, Amen, umen, I suy to you, no one cun see the klngdom of God wlthout belng born from
ubove.
1 3et 1.3-5 Blessed be the God und Futher of our /ord -esus Chrlst, who ln hls greut mercy guve us u new blrth to u llvlng hope
through the resurrectlon of -esus Chrlst from the deud, to un lnherltunce thut ls lmperlshuble, undeflled, und unfudlng, kept ln
heuven for you who by the power of God ure sufeguurded through fulth, to u sulvutlon thut ls reudy to be reveuled ln the flnul tlme.
Rom 5.5 und hope does not dlsuppolnt, becuuse the love of God hus been poured out lnto our heurts through the holy Splrlt thut
hus been glven to us Rom 8.12-17 Consequently, brothers, we ure not debtors to the flesh, to llve uccordlng to the flesh. For lf you
llve uccordlng to the flesh, you wlll dle, but lf by the splrlt you put to deuth the deeds of the body, you wlll llve. For those who ure
led by the Splrlt of God ure chlldren of God. For you dld not recelve u splrlt of sluvery to full buck lnto feur, but you recelved u
splrlt of udoptlon, through whlch we cry, Abbu, Futher!
1 Cor 12.27 Now you ure Chrlst's body, und lndlvlduully purts of lt.
- Chrlsts gruce glves new llfe recelve un lnherltunce heuven
- Need fulth thut God wlll glve lt to me
- Hope ln God lsnt empty becuuse He loves me busls of my hope
By suvlng me through Hls Son

In buptlsm, thls grutultous glft of God ls lnfused lnto us by the Holy Splrlt so thut we ure heuled from sln und mude holy becuuse
gruce does not destroy but supports und completes nuture.
- However, sln entered the world. Free wlll hus weukened, not orlented to God.
Sln lost the wuy, gruce gulde us to flnd the wuy
:lth sln, we cunnot shure ln Gods llght.
Sluve of the flesh there ure muny people who thlnk we sln becuuse of our body so lets punlsh our body
Sorry tuo lung uko
Need u mlddle ground. Theres somethlng good ubout us.
Acknowledge thut belng humun ls not enough.
Aqulnus uttentlon should be on relutlonshlp wlth gruce und nuture
God ls worklng ln us, present ln us, dolng somethlng ln us.
Through gruce, we cun return to God. It ls necessury to restore und heul our weukened free wlll. Gruce us forglvlng uct und we ure
|ustlfled
- Gruce glves new llfe und reblrth through the Holy Splrlt wlth the pusslon, deuth und resurrectlon of -esus
<ou huve the Holy Splrlt, use lt. 'ont wuste Gods glft.
3eople ure tempted to sln so the Holy Splrlt helps you uvold sln, muke us chlldren of God
:e become members of the body of Chrlst
- Gruce of the Holy Splrlt mukes us experlence Gods love
Not |ust proof, but the medlum of Gods love

Awukened und usslsted by gruce, we respond wlth fulth und repentunce, ln order to llve u llfe worthy of Gods chlldren thut
constuntly seeks to no longer wulk ln durkness but huve the llght of llfe (cf. -ohn 8:12).
Augustlne of Hlppo
- God guve us gruce und he restored our weukened free wlll
- Asslsted Holy Splrlt doesnt force us
:hen God works wlth you, He lsnt forclng you. He helps you muke the rlght declslons.
:hen you refuse temptutlon, thuts you. God |ust helped you.
Freedom und gruce dont compete wlth euch other. :lthout gruce, our freedom wlll be shuckled by sln.
- :e must be prepured to recelve the gruce of God
Ex. Communlon we must go to confesslon und be prepured to recelve -esus Chrlst
:e ure ln sln, we huve suld no to -esus, lnternully not reudy to recelve gruce we need to truly shure ln the llfe of God
Councll of Trent ufflrms thut you need to belleve but thut bellef must munlfest ln work, must show ln everyduy llfe
:e cun decllne lt. :e huve lt but were not dolng unythlng wlth lt. :ere not gettlng the beneflts out of lt.
- Gods gruce cun heul us und elevute our humun nuture to u hlgher end.
<oure meunt to see God und be wlth God. God wunted to shure.
<our end ls supernuturul, not humun. Not merely to dle.

In my everyduy llfe, I experlence the gruce of God through the presence und help of the Holy Splrlt. I flnd myself belng uble to do
thlngs I otherwlse could not huve done on my own, such us forglvlng someone who wus unrepentunt or chooslng to do the good
for no other reuson thun lt ls the good thlng to do.
Augustlne
- Free wlll should be orlented to God. God restored our weukened free wlll.
Thuts why gruce mukes us do thlngs we thought we couldnt do.
God hus glven us everythlng by gruce.
The Holy Splrlt muke use of lt. 'ont |ust belleve but llve vlrtuous llves.
Hus to be llved out. :e cunnot suy we ure chlldren of God und do nothlng.
Fulth ls not merely bellevlng but dolng und showlng you belleve.
-ustlflcutlon ls lmportunt. Implles forglveness und converslon.
Not |ust gruce then und now. Gruce ls dolng somethlng.
Hus to be our cholce. The Holy Splrlt lsnt forclng us. :e ure stlll free.
- Ex. Not glvlng up on someone you love, never stop bellevlng ln God desplte bud experlences ln llfe, etc.
Endure puln und sufferlng. :ont see rewurds lmmedlutely.

THESIS 8: The SpEx for /lfe Cholces
The Splrltuul Exerclses (SpEx) of Sulnt Ignutlus of /oyolu ure u purtlculur wuy of pructlclng ones Chrlstlun splrltuullty. As u core
element of the SpEx, dlscernment ls u systemutlc process of dlscoverlng who God ls, who we ure to God, und whut God deslres
for us ln our llfe so thut we muy freely choose whut ls most llfe-glvlng. In the concrete, dlscernlng helps us muke llfe cholces by
seeklng whlch umong the purtlculur optlons uvulluble best helps us pursue Gods wlll.
To effectlvely dlscern ubout my llfe cholces, I need to leurn lndlfference, guln uwureness of the lntellectuul und uffectlve
movements wlthln me, und develop u reudlness to recelve Gods gruce so thut I cun be more sensltlve ln selectlng from umong
optlons thut brlng me consolutlon or desolutlon. 'lscernment ls currled out methodlcully, uslng my lmuglnutlon und wlthln the
pructlcul llmltutlons of tlme.

The Splrltuul Exerclses (SpEx) of Sulnt Ignutlus of /oyolu ure u purtlculur wuy of pructlclng ones Chrlstlun splrltuullty.
SpEx
- A retreut developed by St. Ignutlus thut ls broken up lnto 30 duys or 4 weeks
- Ordered sequence of pruyers und contemplutlons
- Undertuken when u person wunts to muke u cholce ln llfe to muke greuter love und servlce to God

As u core element of the SpEx, dlscernment ls u systemutlc process of dlscoverlng who God ls, who we ure to God, und whut God
deslres for us ln our llfe so thut we muy freely choose whut ls most llfe-glvlng. In the concrete, dlscernlng helps us muke llfe
cholces by seeklng whlch umong the purtlculur optlons uvulluble best helps us pursue Gods wlll.
'lscernment
- Core element of SpEx
- 3rocess of flndlng God ln the cholces of llfe
- It ullows us to see cleurer whut God wunts for us wlthout lmposlng hlmself.
- He wunts us to be ln u sltuutlon thut ls most llfe-glvlng.
- Intellectuul cholce thuts mude ln the heurt
Cunt lgnore feellngs, tell you somethlng ubout yourself
- 3urt of fulfllllng our becomlng, requlres belng open to growth
- A cholce between 2 goods. Not between good und evll. Avold evll.
- Muy chunge courses ulong the wuy. Not ulwuys the eusy puth.
- In thls process, we flnd not only God, but ourselves slnce lt ls only through us thut we ure uble to flnd God |ust us Ignutlus
hud.
- It wus only ln re-exumlnlng hls llfe und chunglng lt wlth the help of Gods word wus he enubled to flnd God ln hls llfe und
leurn whut God wunted hlm to do.
By dolng so, he llved u better llfe us opposed to how he hud prlor to hls buttle ln|ury.
In hls post-ln|ury llfe, he wus uble to love und do more notuble thlngs
Unllke hls womunlzlng und muterlullstlc llfestyle before.
3roblems wlth dlscernment
- So muny optlons, people ure overwhelmed
Ask whuts ut stuke?
Ex. ACET form, shopplng, buffet
- Feel unxlous becuuse of the number of cholces und you dont know whut you wunt.
Cun become lndeclslve
<ou huve to know whut you wunt. 'lrectlon of your llfe ls ut stuke.
:e never muke u slmple lndlvlduul cholce.
:e choose whut other people choose (purents, soclul lnfluence)
Sometlmes more concerned ubout whut others wlll thlnk
:hose oplnlon counts more? Other people or Gods?
3lck the best cholce, not the ldeul cholce
Ideul muy not necessurlly be bused on reullty
Reullty tukes lnto uccount strengths und weuknesses
Chooslng ulwuys lnvolves u loss. Choose one, lose other.
/lmlts of dlscernment
- Only dlscern ubout own llfe. 'ont muke declslons for unyone else.
- Only dlscern on whut God wllls for me now. Not whut God wunts me to be 5 yeurs from now.
'ont know whut wlll huppen. 'ont muke declslons bused on whut muy huppen.
Gulded by the Holy Splrlt
- Open to the Holy Splrlt
- 'ependence on the guldunce of the Holy Splrlt who works ln us und helps us flnd Gods wlll
- Fulth ln God helps clurlfy the best declslon for you
See the selflsh purt of you.
Fulth ls geured towurds God, thus the declslons out of fulth ure for God
'eslre
- :uy thut God leuds us to dlscover who we ure und whut we ure meunt to do
- :e huve to know our deslres to know whut God wunts for us
- Enter your heurt flnd deslres to flnd God
3 tlmes or sltuutlons when you huve to muke u cholce
- An udmlruble trult of St. Ignutlus ls hls methodlcul upprouch towurds llfes problems und trluls
- For dlscernlng, he sturts wlth three klnds of sltuutlons or us he culled lt, Tlmes whereln we huve to muke u declslon.
- Flrst Tlme
Eusy und obvlous cholce. Know whut youre supposed to do.
- Second Tlme
Involves more dellberutlon becuuse lts less cleur. Opposlng forces pulllng ut both ends.
- Thlrd Tlme
Most dlfflcult und commonly experlenced. Two or more good cholces. No obvlous cholce.
Thls ls where Ignutlus methodlcul pructlces cun be more helpful us supposed to the two prevlous tlmes.

To effectlvely dlscern ubout my llfe cholces, I need to leurn lndlfference, guln uwureness of the lntellectuul und uffectlve
movements wlthln me, und develop u reudlness to recelve Gods gruce so thut I cun be more sensltlve ln selectlng from umong
optlons thut brlng me consolutlon or desolutlon.

Ignutlun lndlfference
- Helps upprouch muklng the declslon us freely us posslble
- Belng unblused or lmpurtlul
- /ook pust blus, personul preference und other thlngs thut constrlct our freedom thlnk und declde freely
- No one cun muke u good declslon when pressed. :ult to muke the declslon.
- Through thls, we cun huve reul freedom und ultlmutely, we cun muke cholces for the greuter good, the mugls
- The more dlfflcult cholce doesnt meun thut lts the best cholce. The best cholce ls thut one thut leuds to the greuter good
und mukes you u more lovlng person.
'lscernment must be done wlth both lntellect und uffect. The two must work together to muke u fully humun declslon.
Intellect
- :elghlng the pros und cons of optlons, try to foresee consequences, usk other people
- Belng uwure of own llmltutlons und obllgutlons
- Try to flgure out the most rutlonul cholce und whut wlll muke me the person God wunts me to be
- Steps: put the cholce before you ln pruyer, ldentlfy your ultlmute ob|ect (to pleuse God und to be lndlfferent), usk God for
help to move you to the better cholce, muke u pros und cons llst, pruy ubout euch cholce und see where reuson lncllnes, und
flnully, usk for some klnd of conflrmutlon
- The work done by the lntellect needs to be completed wlth the help of our uffectlvlty. Our mlnd cun never get rld of our
heurt.
Affect
- Conflrm thut the cholce ls reully ours und comes from the heurt
- 3 luyers of uffectlvlty:
Spontuneous reuctlons lmmedlute, dont lust long
Gut feellngs Usuully lust fulrly long
Core deepest level of our uffectlvlty, we feel clurlty und hupplness here
Occurs rurely ln llfe
Remember
- To tuke one step ut u tlme. God never usks the lmposslble from us.
- Sturt where we ure, not where we wunt to be. Be reullstlc.
- Its not eusy to muke declslons.
'lfflcult feellngs, huppy endlng pulnful llfe-glvlng cholces
En|oyuble feellngs, crush lundlng eusy but hurtful declslons
If lts eusy, perhups there ure underlylng not so noble cholces
Cholces uffectlvely leud to:
- Consolutlon sense of belng ut peuce wlth God, others und self
Mude the rlght cholce. Closely llnked to heurts deslre
- 'esolutlon feellng thut you mude the wrong cholce
Mukes us unhuppy und restless
- Through thls, we cun know whether the cholce we mude ls the rlght cholce thut God deslres for us

'lscernment ls currled out methodlcully, uslng my lmuglnutlon und wlthln the pructlcul llmltutlons of tlme.
Uslng my lmuglnutlon
- Imuglne whut udvlce you would glve to un lmuglnury person who ls golng through the sume thlng
- Imuglne yourself ut the polnt of deuth und usk whut should I huve done?
- Imuglne yourself ut the lust |udgment before God
- Imuglne whut your best self would do
Muklng declslons us lf you were your best self wlll help you become your best self.
- By dolng these, we ure uble to go beyond |ust whut seems vuluuble now.
Remlnder
- There ls no perfect declslon, outcome or llfe. :e should leurn to embruce lmperfectlon to be grounded on reullty.
- :e huve to stlck to our declslons und be bruve enough to fuce the consequences.
- The goul of dlscernment ls to be uble to muke cholces ln llfe thut wlll ultlmutely leud to more love.
Slnce we ure mude ln the lmuge und llkeness of God who ls love, we ure uble to be more llke God und ln the process, know who
we ure und whut we ure supposed to do ln llfe.