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Christmas Gatherings with Family can be Stressful and Full of Conflict Heres how to Survive the Family during the Holiday Season: 1- BRING A BLANK CHALKBOARD
The eraser principle- One of the things that stresses us out over having to be at the Annual Christmas Family Dinner is remembering last year and the one before that. We all have that mental chalkboard to remind us how weve been hurt. Every action, every word- faithfully jotted down in our minds. How Uncle Ed said mean things to your overweight daughter. And your cousin showed off his new Porsche right after you mentioned what a hard year it had been financially. And your Mom kept asking if youd ever find the person to spend your life with. Fun times, man. Fun times. As you approach that gathering again this year, Remember to Forget. Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs - 1 Cor. 13:4-5 Seriously. Take time, list it out. Action Point List: What accounts do I need to erase? Am I willing? The basis for forgiveness is never what theyve earned or deserve, but is always what God has done in my life, forgiving me of my sins. Lets get to some definitions: Forgive- to release a person freely and completely from the debt he or she has built-up through improper or injurious words or actions...without any expectation of repayment or amends. Note: Forgiveness is not conditioned upon it being requested by the other person. If I hold unforgiveness and anger in my heart, I dont hurt others as much as I simply stress out myself and my immediate family, in a sense giving the other person permission to keep hurting me. How the Blank Chalkboard changes Christmas gatherings: Releases the tension and sets you free to focus on and enjoy the time with your family
Road-bump ahead: It probably wont change the other person. Theyll still probably act like jerks. See it as a gift from God to help you love people who are unloveable. That way, you grow through their thoughtless words and actions. And pray for them.
How it changes Christmas gatherings: It gives you a grid for deciding when to fight/leave and when to flex/compromise- kills some of the anxiety. Gives you a chance to communicate major issues in advance, seeking peace and reconciliation
- Smile and resist the urge to fight back. Give compliments and tell them you are grateful God has blessed them. - Look to the truth beyond the truth. How sad must she be to have the need to make others feel inferior just to feel good about herself? Pray for her. Sincerely and with heart. How it changes Christmas gatherings: Gives you peace, centers you on whats really important and places you outside the turmoil of the family