DECEMBER 2011/KISLEV-TEVET, 5772

Happy

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Chanukah

A special way to give . . . . . . . . . . . . . . And to Enjoy

Soloway Blood Bank Drive
Sunday, December 18
9 AM - 12:30 PM
When you "deposit" in our "account" you and your family can "make withdrawals," AND you are helping your Temple "family" and community. The greatest gifts are health and life, so our Blood Bank is scheduled, for your convenience, on the day of ChanukahMania. Email Marla Ostroff at marlahoicowitz@gmail.com or Jamie Ostroff at ostroffj@gmail.com with your phone number and the time you'd like to give.

Sunday, December 18
9 AM - 11:30 AM
Fun for the whole family! Crafts and Activities for Preschoolers and older! Two new exciting additions this year! We will be producing Peace Poles, to be used in our new outdoor classroom. Everyone who attends will be asked to contribute a word of peace in one of the many world languages. Our wishes for peace are much stronger when we work together. Recycled Menorah contest ~ families or groups will work together to make a Menorah out of recycled items you bring with you. Start saving your recyclables for this fun event right now! Please bring in a brown bag filled with food items to be donated to the Interfaith Food Pantry. Then take your brown bag and fill it with your art projects. We are assisting others and being green at the same time.

ChanukahMania!

NEVER TOO EARLY TO SHOP FOR CHANUKAH!

Visit the Womens Connection Gift Shop where youll find the very best in gifts for the home, for your children and grandchildren and maybe a little something just for yourself . The Gift Shop is open on Tuesdays during Religious School hours, during the oneg shabbat on Fridays, and on Sundays and other days by appointment.

Schedule of Services
Clergy Rabbi Daniel M. Cohen, D.Min. Rabbi Ellie Lynn Miller, M.A.R.E. Rabbi Harvey S. Goldman, Emeritus Rabbi Herbert Weiner, Emeritus Cantor Theodore Aronson Cantor Joan Finn Lay Leadership Jay Rice, President Rob Ozer, VP Jules Nissim, VP Sue Wishnow, VP Max Weisenfeld, VP Lisa Tilton-Levine, VP David Leit, VP Wendy Ferber, VP Jeff DuBowy, Treasurer Lynne Crawford, Secretary Executive Director Leslie Y. Sporn School Directors Carol Paster, Preschool Mindy Schreff, Religious School Program Director Tracy Horwitz, LSW JFS Social Worker at TSTI Beth Sandweiss, MA, MSW Bulletin Sunny Seglin Phone: 973-763-4116 MEMBER CONGREGATION UNION FOR REFORM JUDAISM Contact us at info@tstinj.org Visit our website at www.tsti.org Ph: 973-763-4116 Fax: 973-763-3941

Friday, December 2 Vayetze Womens Connection Shabbat Service, 7:30 P.M. Bass Sanctuary Building Saturday, December 3 Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M. Gross Bet Midrash Bnot Mitzvah of Lucy Reynal and Emelia Gertner 10:15 A.M. Bar Mitzvah of Jared Levi 10:30 A.M. Friday, December 9 Vayishlach Shabbat Service and Scholar, Jane S. Gerber, The Impact of Sephardic Jews on the Contemporary Jewish World , 6:00 P.M. Bass Sanctuary Building Saturday, December 10 Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M. Gross Bet Midrash Bar Mitzvah of Claudia Steiner and Marc Steiner, 10:15 A.M. Friday, December 16 Vayashev Shabbat Service, 7:30 P.M. Saturday, December 17 Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M. Gross Bet Midrash

Friday, December 23 Miketz Shabbat Service, 6:00 P.M. Bass Sanctuary Building Saturday, December 24 Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M. Gross Bet Midrash Friday, December 30 Vayigash Shabbat Service, 6:00 P.M. Bass Sanctuary Building Saturday, December 31 Minyan Service, 9:15 A.M. Gross Bet Midrash Friday, January 6 Veyechi Family Shabbat Service, A Biblical Journey 6:00 P.M. Shabbat Service, 7:30 P.M.

Happy Chanukah! Light your first Chanukah candle on Tuesday, December 20 (24 Kislev) in the evening.

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iPads at temple we will be able to ensure that all students will have access and we can begin to implement this approach. Finally, the built-in camera on the iPad means that our students can be more creative than ever in putting together learning opportunities, demonstrating their knowledge, sharing their creativity. In addition, they will make it easier than ever to capture what takes place in our congregation on a daily basis.

Temple Innovations: A Think Tank You Can Join!

On November 6, we began an open conversation discussing innovative ways we can create additional meaningful experiences here at TSTI. On December 18 at 11:30 a.m., the conversation will continue and we would love for you to join us. In addition to sharing specific programmatic ideas we will examine the core values that make our congregation what it is and explore how we might better share, enrich and deepen them. If you were not able to attend the first meeting we encourage you to attend this one.

Rabbi Cohen, Rabbi Miller, President Jay Rice

A Thought to Share
The snow that fell this October caused an unbelievable level of destruction. As I drove around, our local streets looked more like the streets of a war torn village than the beautiful colorful neighborhoods we expect at this time of year. I felt such a tremendous level of sadness for the trees that were so broken and battered. Many of us were left without power, experiencing a new level of cold. I know there were some that stayed in their homes and braved the cold while others moved in with neighbors , family or friends who fortunately still had power and heat. I was impressed with the care that people had for one another. Everyone was asking, Are you okay? Is there anything you need? How can I help? At the end of what was a very long week for many, my son Jack was the Shabbat child in his preschool class. As always it was a pleasure to sit on the Bima with our preschool students welcoming Shabbat with story and song. In Jacks classroom the children were seated waiting to say the Shabbat blessings when the teacher began to say, We are so lucky today and a little boy jumped in and shouted, Because we have power! All the kids agreed. This October, many of us experienced the discomfort of being cold and or homeless for just a few days but far too many in our country experience this everyday. As we prepare to go into the winter holiday season we are lucky enough that we can be generous and give to those who have very little. If you have new/unopened toiletry items, new or gently used toys, books and clothing, and small household items in good condition please drop them off at temple from December 9-14. These items will be taken to the Interfaith Food Pantry of the Oranges to be distributed prior to the start of the holidays. Another way that we can express appreciation and gratitude is to say blessings. For 8 nights of Chanukah we are able to take a few minutes to light the Chanukiah and say the blessings before tearing into presents. On the first night we say 3 blessings, one for lighting the candles, one for miracles and finally the shehechiyanu (for giving us life, sustaining us and enabling us to reach this season). On nights 2-8 we say only the first two blessing. By saying the blessings it reminds us to take just a little bit of time to be thankful. So here is a bit of a challengeOn the first night of Chanukah after lighting the candles have your family take a minute to answer the questions, What are you grateful for and why? and What modern day miracles do you see in the world? Then write a blessing of your own that can be included as part of your Chanukah tradition. I would love to hear the blessings that you create.

From the Rabbis Study

Dear Friends I am thrilled to share with all of you that The Carvel Foundation has approved a grant of almost $20,000 which will allow TSTI to create a stateof-the-art technology lab filled with iMacs and iPads. The obvious benefits will be felt by the students in our Iris Family Center for Early Childhood Education and the Linda and Rudy Slucker Religious School, but the impact will hopefully be felt congregation-wide. For the past few years we have been urged to do more with technology in our school. Despite my love of technology, until now I believed it would be a distraction from our core educational goals rather than an enhancement to them. Two things have changed over the past months that now make it the right time to pursue this educational enhancement. First, we are a beta site for a new Jewish online learning endeavor by Behrman House publishers. Second, because of the amazing work Rabbi Miller and the Religious School Board have done over the last few years, as well as the transformative impact our new Religious School Director Mindy Schreff has already had, our days of organizational and communication strife within the religious school are thankfully behind us. Our grant request was presented to the Thomas and Agnes Carvel Foundation Board of Directors this past summer and unanimously approved last month. I am excited about the possibilities that this grant affords us as a congregation, and I am excited to have the opportunity to be a model for what other religious institutions can do with technology if they are similarly inclined. So what will this new technology lab enable us to do? First, the new Behrman House technology portal is something that has the potential to transform Jewish education. While much of it will be focused on what students do at home, there is an in-school component. This lab makes this possible. Second, there is some excellent education material available for both desktop and iPad environments and the purchase of said software is built into the grant. In addition, I have personally been working on an iPad-based tutorial software system for prayer preparation. Previously this would have excluded any student who did not have an iPad in their homes and was therefore not acceptable for us to employ. Now that we will have
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The Presidents Point of View

I must confess, December 25 has always been a special day for me. My mothers mother was a Polish born immigrant. She was the most revered and loved person in our family. She was the loving wife of my grandfather, a committed socialist who was regularly fired from jobs every time he tried to unionize the workers. She raised not only her three children (my mother was the youngest) but two cousins whose mother had died at an earlier age. These 5 children gave her 8 grandchildren (I was the youngest). In her later years, my Grandmother came to live with us. I got to see firsthand just how amazing she was. Despite having arthritis so severe that she could not straighten her hands, she was constantly cooking and baking for our family. When I would come home from school to do my newspaper route, I would find that she had rolled and rubber banded all my papers. I never heard her say a harsh word about anyone. My Grandmother had so many wonderful attributes. What she did not have was a birthday. She just did not know the date of her birth. This was not uncommon among Eastern European immigrants. The Jewish communities of Eastern Europe were leery of going to the towns where the gentiles lived. Registering a birth required such a visit. In our case, the family decided that December 25 would be my Grandmothers birthday. Why December 25? It was the one day that everyone would have off from work. It allowed the whole family to come together to celebrate. There was a beehive of activity the days before December 25. My Grandmother would be working and baking non-stop, her special chopped eggplant, chopped liver and other Jewish delicacies. And she would bake dozens of cookies which I always believed were baked just for me. December 25 would arrive and my family would come from all over; from Brooklyn and Atlantic City. My aunt and uncle who wintered in Florida would come back; my aunt and uncle from Rochester, New York would drive down to New Jersey, often driving through blizzards. Nothing would stop my family from being with my Grandmother on her special day. My grandmother died in 1968 when I was 16 years old. I still try to visit her gravesite once a year. When I read the date of her birth inscribed on her memorial stone, December 25, so many wonderful memories return.
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Linda and Rudy Slucker Religious School

Chanukah, also known as the Festival of Lights, occurs very close to the Winter Solstice, the shortest day of the year. This is a time of year when we really concentrate on bringing our unique light to the world. The Jewish call for peace, equality and justice is more relevant now than ever, and it is incumbent upon us to continue the work of spreading peace and light in the dark months of winter. This year, as part of our ChanukahMania celebration, we will be producing Peace Poles to be used in our new outdoor classroom. Everyone who attends will be asked to contribute a word of peace in one of many world languages. Our wishes for peace are much stronger when we work together. The Peace Pole Project started in Japan in 1955 by Masahisa Goi, who decided to dedicate his life to spreading the message, May Peace Prevail on Earth in response to the bombings on Hiroshima and Nagasaki. Peace Poles are handcrafted monuments erected the world over as international symbols of Peace. As we continue to learn to honor one another, our environment, plants, animals and all creations on Earth, we hope the vision of global peace will gradually become a natural way of life. We look forward not only to the process of working together to spread messages of peace, but to having our messages shared with everyone who visits our outdoor classroom. ChanukahMania is just around the corner. This is a wonderful opportunity for our congregation to come together during the dark days of winter. We hope that you will join us on Sunday, December 18 from 9-11:30 as we celebrate the holiday together with crafts, food and meaningful mitzvah projects.

Mindy Schreff
Religious School Director

College Prep
TSTIs opportunity for 12th graders to explore thoughts and issues regarding college preparation
TUESDAY, JANUARY 3, 7PM-8:30PM

Meet with a panel of currently enrolled college students.Explore what college life is all about. Three colleges will be represented to allow you to hear different experiences and perspectives. Programs take place during Hebrew High School but you do not have to be registered in Hebrew High to attend these programs.

The Iris Family

Womens Connection
Treat yourself to a Spa Retreat! Join the Womens Connection on Sun., Jan. 29, from 11am-5pm at the Short Hills Hilton Eforea Spa. Enjoy the pool, gym, spa lunch and yoga, plus a 15% discount on spa services. There is a 24 person limit, so please reserve your spot with a check of $50 made out to TSTI Womens Connection addressed to: Ilysse Rimalovski, 24 Euclid Avenue, Maplewood, NJ 07040. Please RSVP by Nov. 21. Questions? Email ilysse@thrivewell.com. Book Discussion with Rabbi Cohen: Whats better during the winter than curling up with a good book, and then talking about it with friends? Come join Rabbi Cohen and WC Members in the mansion to discuss Joan Leegants novel Wherever You Go. Monday, February 13, 7:30-9:00. RSVP to Sue Brand at Suebrobj@aol.com. Save the Date for Seder: Thursday, March 15, 6:00-9:00 pm.
You dont want to miss this annual event where WC members, friends, mothers and daughters come together to celebrate Passover!

Its hard to ignore writing about the incredible freak snowstorm that we experienced at the end of October even though you are reading this article most likely after Thanksgiving. It wasnt so much the snow that we were all talking about in the preschool the next few days. It wasnt even the loss of power we had all experienced. What touched us all was how much devastation of the trees had occurred. It wasnt just the fact that branches fell on property or that they had blocked streets. It was the sheer volume of the loss of limbs from old trees that had been in our neighborhoods for a century. Perhaps we are more in tune with the effects the storm had on our natural environment as a school because we are committed to exposing children to the awe and wonder of the great outdoors. As you read this article, TSTIs Iris Family Center will have already broken ground for its Outdoor Classroom. The new project has been designed to balance the effects of too much screen time and not enough green time. We want the children to use all 5 senses in the garden areas. They should see the variety of colors and shapes in the natural world, they should hear the sounds of rustling leaves, smell the scent of flowers and herbs. They should be able to taste the literal fruits of their labors. They should touch the difference between a fuzzy lambs ear leaf and a plant with thistles. We are not alone in our concerns about too much screen time. In an October 21, 2011 New York Times article entitled A Silicon Valley School That Doesnt Compute, Matt Richtel reports that the chief technology officer of eBay sends his children to a nineclassroom school here. So do employees of Silicon Valley giants like Google, Apple, Yahoo and Hewlett-Packard. But the schools chief teaching tools are anything but high-tech: pens and paper, knitting needles and, occasionally, mud. Not a computer to be found. No screens at all. They are not allowed in the classroom, and the school even frowns on their use at home. I am proud that our teachers were all concerned about the loss of so much of our natural landscape. I am even more proud that many of them spent the past few weeks wondering how to get all those tree stumps and odd logs over to the school so we could use them as teaching tools, as benches, as climbing opportunities, and as flooring for our natural pathways.

Summer Camp Scholarships: Womens Connection is

offering scholarships for Camp! If your child will be attending a Reform Summer Program for the first time, he/she may be eligible for a WC Scholarship. E-mail Wendy Ferber for details at wferber@pride-products.com.

TSTI Womens Connection Spa Retreat

Please return to: Ilysse Rimalovski, 24 Euclid Avenue, Maplewood, NJ 07040. Please RSVP by Nov. 21.
Name________________________________________________ Phone________________________________________________

Carol Paster
Preschool Director

Email_________________________________________________ Check enclosed $___________________

TEMPLE LOVES FOOTBALL!

NFL NIGHT FOR TSTI THURSDAY, DECEMBER 8 at 7:30 P.M.
Old Friends and New Come watch the NFL Game and participate in some great activities with fellow TSTI members at Miami Mikes, a sports bar at 130 Route 10 W in East Hanover. (Near the Ramada Inn.) We have a private room for TV viewing and some football related activities involving Picking Teams/Players/Trivia Chance to Win $$ Contact Andy Nadel anadel@prideproducts.com or Jeff Karp jkarp@spifunds.com if you would like to attend.

Shabbat, Scholar and Supper

Join the congregation as we hear from Shabbat Scholars at our
6:00 pm worship services. Continue learning at the Shabbat dinner following services. All are welcome to attend services; registration and fee required for dinners.

Jane S. Gerber December 9 at 6:00 pm

Shabbat dinner to follow
Jane Gerber is Professor of Jewish History and Director of the Institute for Sephardic Studies and the Center for Jewish Studies at the Graduate School of the City University of New York.

The Search Begins

Our beloved Cantor Aronson is retiring on June 30, 2012. We are currently planning a series of events to express our appreciation and thanks to him. At the same time, we have begun our search for a new Cantor, something we have not had to do for 45 years. This is an exciting and challenging journey. To ensure the very best outcome, I have appointed a Cantorial Search Committee. I have chosen 9 temple members who I believe represent the diversity of our congregation and bring to the process a wealth of talent and wisdom. The committee is chaired by Past President Arnie Budin and consists of Matty Goldberg, Adam Leight, Judy Epstein, Peter Messeri, Debbie Bernstein, Breena Fishback, Andrea Baum and Renee Helfenstein. Rabbi Cohen, Rabbi Miller and I will sit as ad hoc, but active members. The Committee would like to hear from you if you have ideas to share about the qualities and skills we should be looking for in a Cantor. Please submit your comments to Chairman Budin at budinarn@aol.com; and Thank You!

Topic: The Impact of Sephardic Jews on the Contemporary Jewish World

In 1948 approximately one million Jews lived in the Muslim world. Their roots stretched back over two thousand years, in some cases pre-dating the arrival of Islam by over one millenium. By the year 2000 only about 60,000 Jews remained in Muslim lands. Professor Jane. Gerber will offer an overview of why the Jews of the Middle East and North Africa left their ancestral homes, where they went and how they impacted the Jewish communities in their lands of refuge. After dinner she will answer questions on her presentation and discuss the historic relationship of Jews and Muslims and of Judaism and Islam.

Jay Rice, President

SHABBAT SCHOLAR AND SUPPER

Dinner fee is $25 per member, $36 per non-member. Registration and payment due one week prior to event.

Renaissance Group
Silverstein, Elly and Larry Silverstein chairs of our annual Chanukah dinner are looking forward to seeing you on Friday, December 23. Preceding the Chanukah dinner, we will take part in Shabbat services which begin at 6:00 P.M. As in past years we ask that you bring a gift suitable for a child up to 13 years of agegifts no more than $10.00which will be distributed to needy children in our area. Hats, gloves, mittens, scarves are just some of the items you might select. Mark your new 2012 calendars for Wednesday, January 18 for our LUNCH AND LEARN afternoon to be led by Sheila and Tom Slutsker er. Slutsker. Detaiiled information to follow

Name(s): ______________________________________ Day Phone: ____________________________________ Eve phone: ____________________________________ Email: ________________________________________ Jane S. Gerber December 9, 2011 Shabbat Supper: ______ @ $25 per member = _________ TOTAL = _________ Please return to Temple, 432 Scotland Rd., South Orange, NJ 07079 c/o Tracy Horwitz

Mimi Braun

Our Bnai Mitzvah

Jared Evan Levi December 3, 2011 Jared is the son of Renee and Andrew Levi, brother of Jaime, and grandson of Ingrid Levi. Mitzvah Project: Jared volunteered with The Friendship Circle and developed a special relationship with a child with autism. Lucy Rose Reynal December 3, 2011 Lucy is the daughter of Pam and Jonathan Davis and Kristine and Max Reynal, sister of Ted, Charlotte and Julien, and granddaughter of Marjorie Abel and Marjory and Richard Davis. Mitzvah Project: Lucy befriended a woman at a senior citizens center and wrote her biography. Emelia Jane Gertner December 3, 2011 Emmy is the daughter of Liz and Jon Gertner, sister of Ben, and granddaughter of Doreen Gertner and Roz and Henry Weinstein. Mitzvah Project: Emmy is raising money for Paws for Patients, a program that brings therapy dogs to St. Barnabas Hospital to interact with patients. Claudia Marguerite Steiner December 10, 2011 Claudia is the daughter of Alison and Paul Steiner, sister of Kate and Marc, and granddaughter of Joy and Justin Stone and Patricia and Ralph Steiner. Mitzvah Project: Claudia revisted her elementary school for a few months and helped second graders with their homework. Marc Brian Steiner December 10, 2011 Marc is the son of Alison and Paul Steiner, brother of Kate and Claudia, and grandson of Joy and Justin Stone and Patricia and Ralph Steiner. Mitzvah Project: Marc provided a foster home for dogs that would have been euthanized in shelters.

Taste of Junior Youth Grouping 8th Graders Tuesday, December 13 7-9pm

8th grade students -- take this great opportunity to try youth grouping for the evening. Creative programs are designed and implemented by our 12th grade Hebrew High students. 8th graders will enjoy a fun, active, educational program followed by a great dessert. This program takes place during our Religious School 8th grade program; you do not have to be enrolled to attend the program. If you do not currently attend our 8th grade program, please RSVP to Tracy Horwitz at thorwitz@tstinj.org.

STISY MIDNIGHT RUN December 3 5pm-11:00pm

Were collecting warm winter sweaters, jackets, scarves and toiletries to distribute to those in need in NYC on December 3 -- and well take donations right up to that date. Please drop off your donations in the bins in the Religious School wing.

Green Team Recycling Tip

Little Mermaid
If your young ones arent so young anymore, consider sending their favorite childhood DVDs to Kidflicks, an organization run by four sisters whose goal is a library of family-friendly movies for every Childrens Hospital and pediatric department in the country. (kidflicks.org)

STISY/Hebrew High Pizza Party

December 6, 7-7:30pm
9th 12th graders - All are welcome!!
Enjoy some delectable Pizza, Pasta, Salad and Dessert! Come have an awesome time! Enjoy the true STISY experience, followed by Hebrew High!! You do not need to be enrolled in Hebrew High to attend, Please bring one can of food to donate to a local soup kitchen!

Contributions in memory of loved ones and in honor of the simchas in our lives are acts of loving kindness. We are grateful for your generous support of Temple through various Temple Funds.
TEMPLE TRIBUTES
IN MEMORY OF Robert Geffen, stepfather of Helene Sorin Jay & Ellen Rice Aquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber Helene & Jack Fersko Richard Annisfield Helen & Frank Davis IN HONOR OF Bar Mitzvah of Joshua Baum The Bernstein-Donald Family Cindy, Mike, Danny & Tracy Sonnabend Sunny & Mark Seglins new granddaughter Cindy, Mike, Danny & Tracy Sonnabend Lauren & Rob Jacobsons new grandchild E,E,M & E Grosovsky Bat Mitzvah of Melanie Albert Cindy, Mike, Danny & Tracy Sonnabend Bat Mitzvah of Rebecca Connelly Cindy, Mike, Danny & Tracy Sonnabend Bar Mitzvah of Jack Langberg Margie Feinberg Bat Mitzvah of Marleigh Freidman Joanne Hill IN HONOR OF Janet Schwamms dedication to the Interfaith Food Pantry Hope Pomerantz Bar Mitzvah of Joshua Baum. Lisa & Rob Ozer Bar Mitzvah of Adam Present Lisa & Rob Ozer IN APPRECIATION Ed Schwarz, Sarah Jane Jelin & Willa

TRIBUTES

All in the Family

Mazel tov to:
Robin Maxwell and Charles Kligman on the birth of a granddaughter, Sadie Juliette Kligman. Parents are Josh Kligman and Libby Henninger. Leslie and Jerry Holtz on the marriage of their son, Josh, to Jennifer Rosen. Linda and Rudy Slucker on the birth of a granddaughter, Avery Caroline Slucker. Parents are Jody and Ron Slucker. Susan Holzman on the engagement of her daughter, Laura, to Patrick Quinn. Toby and Rick Staenberg on the birth of a granddaughter, Avi Ilana Staenberg. Parents are Jordan and Aaron Staenberg.

POMERANTZ FUND FOR ADULT JEWISH ENRICHMENT

IN MEMORY OF Robert Geffen, stepfather of Helene Sorin Hope Pomerantz Steven Pomerantz IN HONOR OF Bar Mitzvah of Joshua Baum Hope Pomerantz Andy Bernstein receiving the Riki Jacobs Award Hope Pomerantz SPEEDY RECOVERY Mimi Braun Hope Pomerantz

CANTOR ARONSONS DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATION Sherrie & Jeff Binder

CANTOR FINNS DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN APPRECIATION Sherrie & Jeff Binder

PRAYER BOOK FUND

IN MEMORY OF Joe Resnick Jerome Lieb Philip Grand, husband of Susan Grand Judie & Ed Gold Helen Sopko Wendy & Michael Kay IN HONOR OF 90th birthday of Dr. Norman Lieb Jerry Lieb SPEEDY RECOVERY Frankie Weiss Arnold & Gert Zoref

NORMA BENISCH MANSION RESTORATION FUND

IN MEMORY OF Robert Lowell, husband of Barbara Lowell Norma Benisch

In Memoriam
HELENE HEMMENDINGER Wife of Joel Hemmendinger ROBERT MARLIN Father of Suzanne Ben-Menachem AQUELLA PECHURA Mother of Paula Lieber BERNICE PLAFSKY Wife of Nathan Plafsky STEVEN SCHILSKY Husband of Beth DiDomenico HY STARR Father of Jerry Starr DANIEL WEISBERGER Father of Carol Eckenthal LAWRENCE WEISS Father of Judy Konicov

RABBI COHENS DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN MEMORY OF Robert Geffen, stepfather of Helene Sorin Emily & Alex Friend Arlene & Michael Gordon Elyse Greenbaum Susan & Jules Nissim IN HONOR OF Milestone birthday for Elissa Caterfino & Hal Mandel Felice & Glenn Zalk IN APPRECIATION Sherrie & Jeff Binder Barbara Glickman Helene & Rob Sorin

MELVILLE & ROSE BERLOW FUND

IN MEMORY OF Robert Geffen, stepfather of Helene Sorin Matty Goldberg SPEEDY RECOVERY Frankie Weiss The Renaissance Group

LINDA & RUDY SLUCKER RELIGIOUS SCHOOL FUND

IN MEMORY OF Frieda Mayers, grandmother of Rachel Pasternak Sandy & Don Miller Aquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber Ellen & Jay Rice IN HONOR OF Linda & Rudy Sluckers new granddaughter, Avery Caroline Slucker. Ellen & Jay Rice

PEARL & SAM GREEN PRESCHOOL FUND

IN MEMORY OF Aquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber Jesse & Leslie Bayer

RABBI MILLERS DISCRETIONARY FUND

IN MEMORY OF Robert Geffen, stepfather of Helene Sorin The Wishnow Family Lisa & Rob Ozer Aquella Pechura, mother of Paula Lieber Lisa & Rob Ozer

JOSH LITTMAN VIDEO FUND

SPEEDY RECOVERY Frankie Weiss Matty & Dan Goldberg

SUSAN ACKERMAN SOMMER FUND FOR SOCIAL JUSTICE

IN HONOR OF The marriage of Joshua, son of Anne & Bart Sussman Ellen & Jay Rice

ALEXANDER PERMISON FUND FOR ADULT EDUCATION

IN HONOR OF Gary Potters becoming President of Maplewood Country Club Ellen & Jay Rice

May their memories be for a blessing

IN HONOR OF Bar Mitzvah of Joshua Baum Ellen & Jay Rice

WOMENS CONNECTION FUND FOR REFORM JEWISH SUMMERS

IN MEMORY OF Robert Geffen, stepfather of Helene Sorin Sunny & Mark Seglin Deborah & Gary Shedlin

We Remember Our Loved Ones Through Gifts to Temple

Manuel Miller Remembered by Gail Amsterdam Ria Zucrow Remembered by Lisa Block Beatrice Block Emil Block Remembered byPaula Block Harry Brody Remembered by Robert Brody Stacey Solomon Remembered by Greg Busch Melvin Chirls Remembered by Allen Chirls Nathan Cohn Remembered by Steven Cohn Paul Densen Remembered by Sarah Densen Barry Silverstein Remembered by Janis Drake Marilyn Druin Remembered by Melvin Druin Marvin Epstein Remembered by Richard Epstein Meyer Roesch Remembered by Estelle Fine Joseph Fink Remembered by Gloria Fink John Matlosz Remembered by Marianne Gershon Jill Giles Remembered by Gerald & Roslyn Giles Helen Gellis Remembered by Howard Gellis Kurt Kombert Remembered by Lorie Grebin Melba Lapidus Remembered by Bettye Green Charles Kahn Remembered by Robin Kahn Jane Koch Remembered by Richard Koch Eileen Krandel Remembered by Craig Krandel Mary Malkin Kushner Remembered by Robb Kushner Barney Larkey Remembered by Lois Larkey Marvn Mesnick Rememered by Wendy Lazarus Albert Kaplan Remembered by Irene Leiwant Celia Lieberman Remembered by Ronald Lieberman Alvin Meiseles Remembered byBruce Meiseles Sandi Miller Remembered by Scott Miller Sidney Schilling Remembered by Miriam Payson Richard Peckman Bertha Peckman Mildred Hall Remembered by Mildred Peckman Jacob Rosen Remembered by Howard Rosen David Lenusky Remembered by Ruth Ross Rose Rosenbaum Remembered by Eileen Roth Edith Scharf Remembered by Joel Scharf Judy Mello Remembered by Michael Schwamm

David Feldman Remembered by Robin Slavit Robert Braitman Remembered by Renee Spelman

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Sonia Steinhauer Remembered by William Steinhauer Louis Turen Remembered by Elaine Turen Henry Gerstl Remembered by Joan Turk

Anna Grushkin Remembered by Frankie Weiss Peter Weissenberg Remembered by Adam Weissenberg Alice Whitty Remembered by Stephen Whitty

This story is just one of the many stories I have about the experiences of my grandparents and my father who immigrated to the United State from Eastern Europe. I am sure that all of us have similar wonderful stories. Will these stories survive? As the years go by and we are farther away from these events, I fear that stories of the Jewish immigration and absorption into American society will die away. That would be such a shame because our children and grandchildren should know about their heritage. As singer songwriter Marc Cohn wrote From places no one here remembers come the things weve handed down. So, I suggest that we all take a little time to write down the stories of the immigrant generation and pass them onto the new generation. And, if you want to share them, I would love to read them. Please send them to JAYJRICE@gmail.com. Happy Chanukah & New Year,

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Did you know that both the Chapel and Sanctuary provide devices to assist the hearing-impaired? There are a limited number of devices available, so if you need one, please ask an usher when you come for services. 10

Parent-Baby Groups
Come and meet with other parents to discuss your baby and the changes you are experiencing: Your babys feeding & sleeping patterns Your babys physical and emotional development Sleep deprivation Relationship and emotional changes Decisions about child care & returning to work Underlying the group work is the idea that parents come to know their babies best and are their own experts. Each parent is given time to discuss discoveries with his/her baby. The presence of the babies in the room, sparks observation, conversation, and reflection, which adds to a multi-layered group experience! Small ongoing weekly group beginning January 26, 2012 in Maplewood Refreshments will be served For more informaion and to register, contact Group Leaders: Susan Siegeltuch, LCSW Tricia Stern, LCSW, MPH 973-378-8635 973-761-0902 siegeltuchsd@aol.com trish@sternsteps.com

Positive Developments, Associates in Psychology 90 Millburn Avenue, Millburn, NJ

Positively Me Groups for Children

A 6-week program focused on promoting healthy emotional development and self-esteem Topics include: empathy, assertiveness, problem solving skills, and stress management Small, interactive groups starting in January 2012 for children in grades 2-5 Parent Workshops (one 90 minute session each) Sibling Relationships: Everyday Strategies for Keeping the Peace with Elena Jeffries, Ph.D. Educational Testing 101: How Assessment and Interventions Can Maximize Your Childs Potential with Nancy Corral Ziebert, Ph.D. Dont Worry When They Worry: Strategies for Managing Your Childs Fears with Nancy Distel, Ph.D. Space is limited. For more information or to register, please contact us at groups@positivedevelopments.net or visit our webwebsite at www.positivedevelopments.net

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68 OLD SHORT HILLS RD, LIVINGSTON, NJ

(973) 422-0600 (800) 938-6372

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