A guide to having a lip

Labia is the ability to communicate in an eloquent way, with wit and being
persuasive. This ability is often associated with a seductive and attractive
communicative style . Something that is not surprising... since it is well
known that few things seduce us more than a good combination of well-
spoken words.

How to have the gift of gab to seduce and fall

in love
-The gift of gab guide-.
Can lip service be improved? In the past, I have asked myself this
question on many occasions. Not having that magical gift since my
glorious escape from my mother's womb forced me to search for it again
and again. Especially from the age of 13, when my sexuality decided to
boil over without warning.

And of course, I couldn't settle for looking at those beautiful female faces
without articulating some decent words that would make them smile. So I
don't know if it was because of persistence or because it was too heavy,
the lip got tired of running away from me, discovering me several of its
tricks. Which leads me to be able to say yes. Loud and resounding!

We can improve our lip service and we're going to do it!

3 Ways to develop lip skills

God how I love models! On this occasion we are going to base ourselves
again on the magic number, which as we all know is 3. Dividing our
options for improving lip skills into three blocks.

Philosophy of life and wisdom

Our interests, dreams, attitudes, and above all, what we believe in and
what we don't believe in, determine the stamp we give to what we say.
Like great politicians, we can communicate a set of values and beliefs in
our messages. Making our message more attractive by projecting, for
example, courageous beliefs.

Having a clear idea of who we are and being up to date in discovering

everything that is deep within ourselves, will be vital in a path of self-
discovery. Similarly, the wiser we are and the more things we know, the
more interesting knowledge we can share with others. It's as simple as
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Observation and psychological knowledge

Knowing the psychological patterns of human behavior will also help us to
communicate much better. We can adapt our messages to the needs,
interests, attitudes, emotional states, etc., of any person or audience we
want to captivate.

So that if, for example, a man attacks us, reproaching us for something,
we can better understand what has led him to take offense. Vital
information to take into account in order to adapt the next thing we tell you
to these motives.

That is why one of the most important factors for speaking more and
better is to be very attentive to what we are listening to and saying. To
learn about the film you have to watch like a hawk! Likewise, the more we
know about topics such as emotional intelligence emotional intelligence
and emotion management, the better.

Communication and social skills

Communication is the visible face of the two previous points. That is, the
functional part of the way we communicate. If, for example, we know how
to communicate emotionally and we have that skill well trained, we get
people to understand what we feel and identify with our message.

Another example would be to use humor, which is just another form of

emotional communication. This helps us to better hold the attention of
others by being more humorous and entertaining.

3 exercises to train your lip

In my story Let madness take possession of us, taken from my own
experiences, you will find a very clear example of how useful all this is to
seduce and fall in love. In fact, a good exercise to improve your language
skills and to learn better all the knowledge we will see, is to analyze all
these stories.

Another very useful technique would be for you to write your own
conversations. Imagining what you might say to a guy or girl you like and
what they might say back. You can use everything we are going to explain
as a basis. In fact, years ago I used to do this very thing mentally.
Imagining myself engaging in creative conversations with girls. I used to
do it before I went to sleep, while waiting for sleep to find me.

How to develop your fluency through

the power of influence
-Lip service is like an orchard. The more we influence it with different
stimuli and the more we put it into practice, the more it bears fruit. To do
so, we are going to look at different sources of influence in order to
develop the 3 blocks we saw earlier.
-Reading about philosophical topics to cultivate our ideas and thoughts.
-Listen to music with good lyrics in our language, concentrating on the text
and its combinations.
-Watching humorous monologues to model the way comedians
communicate and cultivate funnier attitudes. They can develop through
their influence different types of humor: absurdity, exaggeration or irony.
-Read poetry or novels by authors who frequently play with the lexicon in
their writing: "Ships that sail among the emotional glow of our love". Check
out my poems here: We live in poetry.
-Read erotic novels if we intend to adopt a more suggestive language with
the use of double entendres to sexualize conversations.
-Writingor creative exercises to improve our ability to combine words and
express ourselves attractively. For example, combining random words in a
context where they do not usually appear.

Observation to communicate with

intelligence
The effect of observation through mindfulness is twofold. On the one hand
it brings us to the here and now, helping us to disperse insecurities. On
the other hand, and more importantly, it guides us in knowing what to say
and how to say it, adjusting our messages to the motivations, needs and
attitudes of the listener. To do so, we will look at three factors: text,
context and behavior.

Observe the text

The text is made up of everything we say and hear. To communicate more
fluently, we can prolong our conversations thanks to the conversational
threads and the associations we make from those threads. Let's see some
examples with a brief explanation extracted from my book Wake up
beauty:

To detect these threads we only have to look at those words that serve as
leverage to keep talking.

Detecting conversational threads:

I just came from doing sports and I'm super tired.

This sentence contains no less than five conversational threads. Let's look
at some possible answers by pulling from each of them:

Vengo: Well, I've been at home all day without seeing sun or shade.

To do: With so much work, I don't even remember what a gym is

anymore.

Sports: What envy! I'm looking forward to Monday to go play soccer with
my friends.

I am: Well, in my case I am fed up with so many hours of study. I'm going
to get stiffness in my ass from sitting.

Tired: I'm so tired that I feel like an elephant and four resentful
pachyderms have fallen on me. I'm sick of so many computers.

In this way we extract the key words from each sentence to continue the
conversation through one or more of them.

How to pull strings to prolong conversations

A frequent failure occurs when we do not pay attention to these threads
and are more in our thoughts than in what we are talking about. This often
causes some insecurities that lead us to continually change the subject
without providing continuity and naturalness to the conversation.

-I've just come from playing sports and I'm super tired.
-Normal, now you take a shower and relax.
-Yes, although for that I'll take a bath instead.
-Well, what about work? Did you finally talk to your boss?

Let's now see how we would do it by pulling those threads:

-I've just come from playing sports and I'm super tired.
-I've been doing a study marathon all day. Can that be considered a
sport?
-I'm sorry, but to be considered a sport you have to sweat at least a
little....
-And what sport did you just do? It is
to imagine you sweaty in context. Well, at least a little...
-Ha ha ha! You should not imagine what you will never see.
-That's a low blow. But don't worry, my vision has not been offended. It is
spreading its wings in full flight dreaming of that image. Though now you
will never know how I have decided to delight myself with you.

Similarly, having a small base of conversation topics that interest us and

practicing different approaches on how to talk about them will help us. For
that I leave you my articles: Interesting topics of interesting conversation
topics.

See the context

The context is the set of circumstances surrounding an event. If we meet
someone in a bar, the context will be everything that surrounds that
encounter: the décor, the people and what they do, the staff, etc.
If, for example, a waiter drops a glass and you have been attentive to the
context, you might think of using it to make a joke: -Don't worry, he is
David de Gea's cousin. It's not going through a good time... Let's give it
time.

We make an ironic joke taking advantage of a second context and using

something current to make humor, such as the bad play of the goalkeeper
of the Spanish national team in the last World Cup (as long as it is
something sufficiently current and recent that the people we are
addressing also know).

Another example could be:

-That car that just passed reminds me of the one my father had when I
was a child. I remember climbing on his feet and making me think I was
driving. What a silly face I had, and how excited I felt.

Here instead of making a joke, we take advantage of the context to create

an emotional connection based on a past experience. In addition,
childhood experiences often have a greater impact to that end. How
beautiful we were!

Observes behaviors and traits

Undoubtedly the other person or persons with whom we are conversing,
are a great source of information to wind our lips. But we don't stop at the
external. We can also take a look at ourselves: "On top of being sincere,
look how well I dress! If I am a partisan...".
We will focus mainly on:
• Ways to act
• Ways of thinking
• How they dress
• Gestures and movements

The information we get from the other person will make us adapt our
message to that person. Do we talk to a friend the same way we talk to
our mother? Right? What about a girl or guy you like from one you don't?
I'm sure they don't either.

Our mind has its natural strategies and depending on the information we
get about what works best with each person, we tend to adapt.

Let's look at an example:

If you are trying to seduce a guy/girl and you detect that this person likes
to go slow and that there is romance between the two of you to create a
connection, your communication should be more emotional. If, on the
other hand, it is a person you met one night and you sense that the only
thing he or she is looking for is sex, your communication should be more
sexual and provocative.

It seems like the most obvious thing in the world, but it is sometimes
overlooked. So that's all said and done! And this influences all kinds of
contexts. If that person we are talking to is a work friend who is going
through a bad time, we will be more careful not to offend them, won't we?
Always keep in mind the conditioning! Both current and past...

Emotional communication to seduce

and fall in love.
In order to communicate emotionally and radically increase our lip service,
especially in order to seduce, we will base ourselves on the Emotional
Communication model of my book Awaken Beauty. This is based on the
development of our own natural creativity, as it is not structured in steps. It
is observation that tells us how to communicate and in what way,
appealing to our instinct.

It will keep us focused on meeting the needs for entertainment (small talk),
support (qualification), acceptance and romance (emotional connection),
and play and sex (sexualization).
 Small talk
Small talk comprises any type of conversation that lacks depth and
emotional direction. We use it to share information and understand each
other, but it is superficial when it comes to connecting with emotions.
However, it is the type of communication that we use the most on a daily
basis, which is the basis for developing the rest of the variables of the
model we are studying.

Example of a conversation:
-What a hard class today....
-Yes, I didn't think I'd make it to the end alive.
-Have you been a crossfit member for a long time?
-No way! Just a couple of weeks
-Ha ha! Well, I've been at it for a year and I'm still sticking my tongue out
of my mouth.
-Yes, it seems that the more you can, the more you get.
-Exactly, that's what it's all about.

Note that any ordinary chat falls into this category, even if it is entertaining
and there is a good conversational atmosphere. As long as we do not
make the other person feel accepted, valued or excited, we are still here.

Qualification
Qualification consists of communicating those traits, both our own and
those of others, that differentiate us. Being compliments when
communicating them positively and criticisms or judgments when
communicating them negatively. Of course, here we will concentrate on
implementing the positive qualification. What in seductive contexts would
establish a connection or a deep meaning of why that person is the
chosen one to share our time with.

Example of qualification:
-You know what, Pedro? As we talk I can't help but remember that first
mysterious look that had me totally enraptured when we first met in the
pub. I feel that you hide a lot of depth inside you. As if you were a real
mystery yet to be discovered.

At the same time qualification is highly correlated with emotional

connection and sexualization. It is not independent of them, because
when we qualify we may also be generating a romantic and sexual
connection. You can see more about qualification in my article: Praise to
seduce.
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Emotional connection
Can we direct the conversation to make you fall in love
and fall in love? Absolutely yes! But for that we will have to feel mutually
understood and accepted. These are needs that must be met in order to
later inject fire into them through romanticism and sexual passion.

Let's take a look at some individual sentences:

-I don't know how you do it but... I feel really good when I'm with you.

-You make me feel very special. Just seeing that little smile of yours
makes it impossible for me to hide mine.

-If you look at me like that you're going to fly me off the planet. So please
be careful ehhh. You have to teach me how to land first!

-Every night I go to bed reliving those deep feelings that you managed to
awaken in me and that were dormant. That innocent and tender smile,
that deep and luminous gaze, and those sweet and sensual kisses.

As you can see, this variable of the model is closely related to

qualification. In fact, they complement each other.

Example of conversation:
-When I failed with my first venture, I couldn't help but feel dejected. As if I
had failed an important part of myself. -I understand you perfectly! The
same thing happens to me. What matters most to me is not what others
say or whether I will be able to get ahead or not. It is the fact of failing
myself.
-Exactly. So the way to get myself together was to try again. Over and
over again. And thanks to my first failure I was able to end up doing
something that I am really passionate about.
-Yes, we never know if a failure is for better or worse. I'm really enjoying
talking to you about all of this....

The emotional connection responds to a union and mutual understanding

where feelings are shared. Only from that union can an intense
connection be created that leads to romance, or in the case of no sexual
interest, to a deep and fruitful friendship.

Sexualization
Sexualization consists of generating sexual tension with words and
nonverbal language. It awakens our deepest and most sexual desires. A
current that takes us to the edges of the deepest and darkest precipice of
pleasure.

Some sexualization phrases:

-Stop looking at me like that or I don't know if I'm going to be able to
contain myself any longer.

-I'm sure we'll be able to restrain ourselves and not do anything sexual
tonight," I whisper, moving closer to her to smell her perfume closely.

To generate sexual tension, how we talk is more important than what we

say. This is because it tends to be very suggestive language. It is vitally
important to have an attractive non-verbal language. A slow and sexual
voice, a confident and slow body language, a penetrating and deep
gaze...

Sexualizing requires courage and control of the situation, because when

we do not have the interest and willingness of the other person to be
seduced, it can be uncomfortable. But if we do it well, with wit and a
nonverbal language between intimidating and jovial, it is captivating.

Example of a conversation:
-You know the way you look at me is driving me crazy, don't you? -he
murmurs at length just inches from her lips. His voice cracked under the
strain. You can't even imagine what I can imagine what I would like to do
with every inch of your body.
-I doubt you're ready for that. We don't want your little heart to break... do
we?
-Don't worry about that, my heart likes strong flavors. If we did not love the
risks of this life, what else would we have left?
-Maybe you should try it and see if it's worth it," she insinuates with a
mischievous gesture that melts me.
-I know it's going to be worth it," I conclude emphatically before kissing
her.

This is pretty cool, isn't it? Let's see who says no! More information in my
article: Seducing by transmitting sexual tension.

Be an emotional roller coaster

How to start a conversation
Using the Awaken Beauty communication model
Let's see an example of what would be a chat conversation, where it is
easier to identify the different elements.

The important thing is to realize how any time we use our lip service to
flirt, we are talking with: small talk, qualification, emotional connection,
sexualization or several of these at the same time.

The conclusion I want you to draw is that you have to continually vary
from one to another. Seducing with more dynamic, unpredictable and
attractive conversations, thanks to the power of the gab. Opting more for
one variable or the other depending on the communicative desires of the
other person.

Example of a flirting conversation

-Hello, rose princess," I say, referring to something I said to her the night
before. I hope you haven't already forgotten about me. I really enjoyed
talking to you yesterday. I don't know if more than now contemplating the
photo that you have put on, but that's the way it goes, hahaha. (Small talk
+ Emotional connection + Sexual tension, by photo commentary).

-Hello Mr. Seducer ;). I see it didn't take you long to talk to me. Thanks for
the compliment on the photo :p. (Chala trivial)

-hahahaha. If I like a girl, I'm not going to be able to talk to her whenever I
feel like it, hahaha. (Chala trivial + Qualification, communicating traits in
my personality such as rebelliousness).

-Yes, it is true. That's right, that's right, with personality.

(Small talk + Qualification, by telling us that we have personality)

-Wouldn't you expect anything less from me? (Small talk)

-I don't know... I still don't know what you are capable of (Sexual tension).

-I don't think you want to know yet, little princess. Are you never going to
give me a break, or is it just me? (Sexual tension)

Observe the different ways of speaking...

-It seems so to you :p. How was your night? (Chala trivial)

-Having a chocolate with churros at home shortly after saying goodbye to

you, and shortly before the sheets of my bed claimed my presence.
(Small talk)
-Hey, in that case your night ended very sweetly. (Small talk)

-I think we have very different concepts of what it is to end a night in a

sweet way. (Sexual tension)

-A chocolate is not sweet enough for you? (Small talk with a sexual
twist)

-It depends. Maybe picking it off the top of your body is sweet enough for
me. Do you think you can sweeten a good chocolate even more? (Intense
sexual tension)

-That was a straightforward one. Even the chocolate would be surplus to

requirements. I would go overboard with sweetness. (Sexual tension)

-I had noticed that you were a smart girl, but if you're also sweet, it can
only go from strength to strength," he said.
better. (Qualification + Sexual tension)

-With me things always get better (Small talk + Qualification + Sexual

tension).

-In all aspects or only in the sexual aspect? (Sexual tension)

-In all of them, in all of them. Although to receive affection you'll have to
give it to me first, doll. (Sexual tension + Emotional connection)

-I just know I can't forget that smile. Though the tenderness of your gaze
often creeps into my thoughts
also. (Emotional connection)

-It's taking me a while to get you out of my head too, although I foresee
that by tomorrow I might have managed to do it.
:p. (Emotional Connection + Humorous Small Talk)

What if that man or woman

that I like rejects me?
It is very simple, we can use everything we have learned in the model
previously studied to respond to these rejections. The idea is that after
your lippy answers, that man or woman will begin to perceive you as more
attractive. Or to put it another way, the more you talk the more she starts
to like you.

Some of them, when they are flirting with a refusal, immediately leave
depressed. But what if I told you that rejection does not always happen
because we are not liked? How would you like it if I told you that most of
the women I've been with and had relationships with, initially rejected me?
Some without mercy, by the way.

If you want to find out how I did it and start using lip service to manage
those rejections, check out: Love Rejection: What to to do when a man
or woman rejects you.

AIDA to have a lip

ATTENTION - INTEREST - DESIRE - ACTION
The AIDA method has been used for many years in communication. It is
widely known by both advertisers and marketers. Here we are going to
see it in a very summarized form to help us to have a better conversation.

Attention
We need attention so that our message is digested. Novel stimuli make
them pay more attention to us, as well as increase the other person's
interest in what we are telling them.

Interest
If we talk about something the other person is not interested in, we are
wasting our time. It's like trying to pick up a girl by talking about how cool
the latest Nike sneakers are.

Ask yourself if what you are going to talk about arouses the other person's
interest. For example, qualification is something that often arouses great
interest, as we all love to be told positive things about ourselves.

Desire
You have to get the other person to want what you are proposing.
Stimulate their desire and attraction to you.

If, for example, we say mischievously to a guy, "Nothing is going to

happen between us tonight, unless you make me change my mind, of
course... will you be able to? We will be stimulating their desire to play
(seductively speaking) through sexual innuendo.

Action
It consists of encouraging progress. Salespeople have to materialize their
sales with the customer's signature.

In seduction matters, these advances would materialize in actions such

as: kissing the other person, meeting for a next date, taking him/her home,
etc. Summarizing this part in having the necessary courage to "finish the
job" helping us with our lip service so that what we propose is accepted.

The 3 basic skills

Next we will look at the 3 basic communication skills to communicate with
more fluency. Helping us to manage conflicts, respond to rejections and
connect with the person we like. These are absolutely essential not only to
speak more, but also to do so with greater charisma.

Empathy
Empathy is the ability of a person to put him/herself in the place of another
person. In this way we can find out or intuit what this person feels or
thinks. It is essential to have a good tongue, as it will help us to
understand her and thus extract a great deal of information to continue the
conversation. It will also help us to avoid unwanted conflicts and
misunderstandings.

On the other hand, if that person feels that you listen to them and
understand them, they will be more interested in talking more with you,
and therefore in extending themselves more in their conversations, and in
turn this will lead to more and more conversational threads. Find out
more about empathy with conversation examples here: Empathy:
How to be more empathic to seduce and fall in love

Assertiveness
Assertiveness is a behavior and communication style that lies somewhere
between aggressiveness and passivity, and is considered to be the most
conducive to establishing lasting and comfortable conversations.

Passive people tend to be less talkative, while aggressive people tend to

talk too much and always try to be right.

In order to be more verbal, try to communicate without disrespecting

anyone and always respecting the opinions of others without being afraid
to expose your own. For this, it will be ideal if you learn to manage your
emotions from observation. Find out more about assertiveness here:
Guide to assertive communication and here Observant emotional
management.

Emotional communication
Emotional communication is the external expression of our perception of
reality, as we feel and experience it.

Do you want to know how to have a lip? Well, if you learn to

communicate emotionally, expressing your feelings as women do in their
long conversations between friends, your conversations will become much
longer and you will connect better with people.

To seduce and captivate someone is indispensable. In addition, you can

add a heightened sense of humor, which is also part of emotional
communication. For that I leave you these other articles:

Emotional communication: Expressing emotions

Communicating with a better sense of humor

Be positive and always keep a good mood.

Good humor is essential to have a good lip, it provokes a lot of positive
states to bring out our creativity and we know what to say at every
moment and how to do it in a funnier way.

We all want to be with people who generate positive emotions and who
are cheerful. A good smile is the key to many doors. When you talk to
someone just try to make what you do or say generate positive emotions.
There are people who never stop talking about what they dislike about
others.

A great example of the generation of negative states is jealousy, capable

of destroying many relationships by continually talking about the various
issues that hide and generate negative emotions such as overwhelm. If a
topic of conversation generates negative emotions or conflict, ask yourself
if it is really necessary to talk about it, or if it can be avoided. It draws on
the empathy and assertiveness seen above.

If sometimes you find it hard to keep calm and you are dominated by
emotions, here is a technique that can help you: A technique
to keep calm
 Flows naturally
In order for our mind to be clear and for us to have a lot of lip service we
need to feel natural and to free it from our thoughts.
useless. It is necessary to flow so that our head is not thinking about
other things.

Hence, it is especially catastrophic to try to speak more through learned

phrases. For this would focus you to be looking for answers in your
memory. As if you were in a parallel world instead of focusing on capturing
those answers through what is actually happening during each
conversation.

Learn to leave your mind blank

The practice of meditations such as Mindfulness helps us to live in the
now and to be able to pay attention to the present moment, and therefore,
to be more creative. Dissolving fears and anxieties that hinder our
communication flow. Although it is also important to overcome those fears
and insecurities by working on them.

In my book Awaken Beauty I comment on this fact by developing the

following metaphor: could you write a beautiful poem on a piece of paper
completely full to overflowing? No, isn't it? For neither can you say
anything eloquent if your mind is full of insecure thoughts.

Therefore, improving your self-esteem you will also be able to speak

more and better. Self-confidence is crucial. We have to get rid of those
natural fears of what others think of us, accepting ourselves as we are.
This will give you the freedom you need to speak without sabotaging
yourself from your thoughts.

Guided meditations to improve your speech

With thousands of positive reviews on YouTube, I have been developing
for years. guided meditations in MP3 with
Hypnosis and NLP techniques. These will help you feel freer and more
confident in your
relationships. In this way your creativity to speak more will increase.
This being one of the many benefits benefits of meditation to improve
improve our social skills.

Clear your mind

The so-called "structured seduction methods" also limit our creativity to a
certain structure and patterns to follow. This makes us continually think
about how to carry out the method and prevents us from being free and
creative in what we say and do. Thus, they prevent us from having the
natural lip that needs mental fluency. That is, to have a clear mind.

Here is an article to show you the importance of flirting without

methods. Feeling the true seduction of the now: Seduce
generating intense connections

Therefore, be natural and although it may be difficult to learn something

new at first, you will end up learning from your mistakes and creating your
own system.

How to flirt by WhatsApp using The

gift of the gab
I invite you to check out my new guide to incorporate all the knowledge
from this article into your WhatsApp conversations. It is very useful for the
development of our lip training by talking through a chat, where we can
see what we are saying in writing: Guide How to flirt by WhatsApp with
the Conversation.

2 techniques to have more lip

The power of associations and mind maps
When I studied creativity in my undergraduate degree in Marketing, I
came across two creative techniques that are extremely useful to improve
our lip service. Some resources that curiously I found again in my
specialty of Creative in fashion design.

From the first time I learned them, I started to put them into practice. I then
began to teach them in my courses with surprising results. These are the
basis of my workshops on creative communication.

Its effectiveness is absolutely brutal with a little practice and consistency. I

am talking about associations and mind maps. Two techniques that I
explain in depth with many examples in my book Awaken Beauty, and that
you can learn for free in my article: what to talk about on a date.