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AMORE

Comprendere il tipo di una persona e qual è la loro Autorità interiore può essere immensamente utile
nelle relazioni quotidiane. Probabilmente la distinzione più potente e più importante è la differenza
tra l'Autorità interiore emozionale e il resto del pianeta. Con metà del pianeta con l'Autorità interiore
emozionale, è importante tenere presente che si muovono in un modo completamente diverso rispetto
a quelli che non hanno quel motore nella loro chimica.

Le persone emotive possono effettivamente vedere la vita svolgersi davanti a loro con il loro lento
modo emotivo. Difficilmente devono prendere una decisione. È affascinante vedere questo quando
viene visualizzato.
Quelli che non hanno il centro del plesso solare hanno definito la resa, come la loro chiave d'oro, ma
lo fanno in modo un po' diverso. Non c'è nebbia o foschia che offusca la mente. Hanno una finestra
chiara per il viaggio in anticipo. Quindi, possono dire "sì" o "no" al momento o "non ora" e ottenere
ciò che è corretto. Possono andare avanti, istantaneamente, con chiarezza mentre lo sentono nel corpo.
È importante che una persona "al momento" non attenda e prenda il suo tempo. Non va bene per loro.
Le persone emotivamente definite tendono a commettere questo errore con le persone aperte e non
emotive. Inconsciamente, la persona Emotiva sa che si muove lentamente e poi suggerisce agli altri
di "prendersi il tempo e pensarci". Questo può davvero essere davvero disastroso per loro. È utile
sapere se qualcuno è un tipo di persona "al momento" o "non ora".

Dopo aver superato le differenze emotive e non emotive, poi, vedi il modo in cui le aure si influenzano
a vicenda. È qui che puoi facilmente vedere, se c'è davvero qualche compatibilità o solo quanto
"accidentata" la corsa è avanti con il tuo amico.

"Easy Compatibility" è uno degli strumenti ludici del design umano. Puoi vedere in che modo due
persone si incontrano e se sia o meno adatto, semplicemente guardando i Centri e i Canali.
Devo avvertirti. Questo non è uno strumento per trovare il tuo amante, o i tuoi amici o il tuo lavoro.
Questo è uno strumento che ti offre un modo divertente per guardare ed esplorare i meccanismi in
azione, mentre ti muovi e ti relaziona con gli altri.
Facile compatibilità
Quando guardi il composito di due grafici, puoi vedere quanti Centri sono definiti e quanti sono aperti
e bianchi nell'unione di una coppia.
Questo rivela in modo molto semplice come due persone si divertono e trascorrono del tempo
insieme.

9 e 0, Nessun posto dove andare


8 e 1, Ci divertiamo un po'
7 e 2, Lavoro da fare
6 e 3, Meglio essere liberi
5 e 4, Non una relazione più

5 e 4, non una relazione più


Quando ci sono cinque Centri definiti e quattro aperti in un composito, come "5 e 4", non importa
quanto due persone si sentano come "migliori amici", a un certo punto andrà sempre in pezzi o
diventerà distante, in qualche modo.
Nulla deve accadere perché la relazione si disintegri. Si ferma appena un giorno fuori dal nulla. È
strano!

6 e 3, meglio essere liberi


Quando ci sono sei Centri definiti in unità e tre aperti, come in 6 e 3, è meglio con incontri brevi. Di
solito le persone con "6 e 3" non rimangono amici per più di qualche anno.
Lì non c'è davvero colla per tenerli insieme nella visione comune. Potrebbero rimanere in contatto
negli anni ma vanno in direzioni drasticamente diverse.

7 e 2, Lavoro da fare
Un sacco di coppie iniziano ad abbinarsi al "7 e 2", Composito da lavorare. C'è solo abbastanza
differenza per renderlo eccitante ed elettrizzante per la mente e abbastanza somiglianza da cadere
nella trappola dell'elettromagnetismo. È molto difficile.
Spesso, le persone fraintendono questo composito per significare che due persone devono condividere
il loro lavoro di vita insieme. Ma significa quasi il contrario. "7 e 2" Work to Do, significa che voi
due state vivendo da due prospettive totalmente diverse. La mente di un partner gioca con un centro
aperto e la mente dell'altro partner gioca con l'altro centro aperto. Questo dà la sensazione di essere
su due diversi pianeti e non vedere realmente "occhi negli occhi" sulle cose.
Con la grande differenza di prospettiva e l'essere mentalmente su pagine diverse, può creare tremende
battaglie di controllo. Può essere molto lavoro e una grande distrazione dal lavoro di una persona.
Può essere un po 'burrascoso e non troppo divertente, a seconda della chimica. Se ci sono grandi
differenze, come Tipo o Autorità interiore, sentirai sicuramente il "lavoro da fare", le lezioni e tanto
apprendimento.

8 e 1, divertiamoci un po'
Quando c'è un "8 e 1, Diamo un po' di divertimento". Due persone possono condividere il gioco e le
risate e relazionarsi di solito, abbastanza bene. Può essere davvero buono.
C'è anche l'opportunità di rimanere amici per tutta la vita con grande apprezzamento reciproco. È
abbastanza facile se non si complica con una relazione romantica.
9 e 0, Nowhere To Go
Con tutti i Centri riempiti in "9 e 0", c'è davvero "nessun posto dove andare". I due si accontentano
di sedersi in veranda, sorseggiare il loro tè e stabilirsi in un'unione soddisfacente di cene, letto e casa.
Cioè, a livello superficiale. Può sembrare davvero, davvero buono o può diventare terribilmente
noioso. Dipende davvero dalla chimica.
La maggior parte della gente gode di questo tipo di coesione se è risonante in chimica. Può sembrare
che tu stia uscendo con il tuo migliore amico e davvero non hai bisogno di nessun altro in giro. Oppure
può essere soffocante se la chimica non è risonante.

Dopo aver visto quanti Centri si stanno riempiendo nel grafico composito di due persone, puoi passare
al livello successivo di compatibilità e vedere come si collegano i Canali.

Compagnia, Dominanza, Compromesso ed Elettromagnetico

Un canale companion è quando entrambi condividono lo stesso intero canale nei vostri bodygraph.
Quando condividiamo un canale con qualcuno ci si sente davvero, davvero bene. C'è una grande
comprensione e identificazione nel modo in cui pensiamo ed elaboriamo. Può essere un canale
automatico "Best Friend" se il resto della chimica è risonante e complementare.

Poi c'è il Dominio. La posizione dominante è una persona che ha un intero canale e l'altra non ha una
definizione in quello stesso canale.
Questo può portare grande confusione cercando di capirsi l'un l'altro o può portare abilità che si
complementano con l'altra portando maggiore facilità nelle attività. Tutto dipende dalla chimica.

I canali di compromesso sono probabilmente i più impegnativi. Questo è quando una persona ha
l'intero canale e l'altra persona ha solo metà del canale.
Quando ciò accade, c'è una tendenza verso dinamiche di potere o controllo. Quello con un solo
cancello sente di avere questo senso in abilità o consapevolezza e vuole esprimerlo. L'altro ha l'intero
canale e non sente di aver bisogno dell'input dell'altra persona. È così che opera su un livello generale
molto basilare. Guardandolo nel tempo, inizi a vedere i giochi di potere e come una persona è costretta
a scendere a compromessi.

E poi ci sono gli elettromagnetici. Quelle sono le più difficili di tutte. Possono esserci agganci davvero
stretti con la persona sbagliata. Tendono a creare molti bambini, sesso fantastico, musica
meravigliosa, poesia e cibo delizioso. Riguardano anche rituali tradizionali di accoppiamento e
legame e le occasioni, i contratti e gli accordi che vengono con le impostazioni tradizionali, familiari
e tribali.
L'elettromagnetismo è una riunione di due porte, che si trovano su entrambe le estremità di un canale.
Gli elettromagnetici sono di natura drammaticamente diversa quando si verificano sul lato emotivo.
Quando due porte si incontrano, come in una connessione elettromagnetica, dal punto di vista
emotivo, la mente inizia a pensare: "Cool, siamo una grande coppia". Si sentirà delizioso e mescolerà
i succhi, ma ce ne saranno altri in arrivo. Questa è solo la sensazione delle due porte che si trovano
l'un l'altra e vengono solleticate ed elettrizzate. Una volta che un individuo agisce sulla connessione
elettromagnetica, aspettati molta distrazione dal lavoro sul percorso della vita. Tuttavia, ci sono delle
eccezioni.
L'elettromagnetismo può essere eccezionale quando si parla di comunicazione. Le connessioni
elettromagnetiche possono davvero godersi le loro conversazioni.

Solo la tua guida interiore ti porta nel posto giusto con le persone giuste.
E di solito non ha nulla a che fare con la compatibilità del romanticismo.

GANCI DEL CORPO EMOZIONALE

All'interno della forma umana i gangi tendono ad attaccarsi. Questi ganci sono le braccia del Corpo
Emozionale, un'entità che risiede nella nostra forma in tre parti: Corpo Fisico, Mente Emozionale e
Spirito, con il suo stesso impulso di vita. Ogni umano ha un corpo emotivo con ganci che si allungano
per connettersi e agganciarsi l'un l'altro, in qualche modo.

Questi ganci sono quelli che possiamo vedere come i cancelli sospesi che ondeggiano nell'aria da un
centro aperto o definito, cercando l'altro lato del canale.
Appendere cancelli da un plesso solare aperto può essere il più travolgente a causa dello slancio che
sta dietro la loro passione per i desideri e gli attaccamenti. I cancelli pensili del plesso solare
riguardano in particolare amore, sesso, relazioni familiari e denaro, che possono rendere il corpo
emotivo molto appiccicoso, bisognoso, astuto e aggressivo.
Puoi percepire la sensazione di un gancio del Corpo Emotivo attraverso il modo in cui la pancia si
sente quando una persona è vicina a te. Se c'è una tensione, un dolore acuto o un fastidio doloroso
nella regione dello stomaco, il Corpo Emotivo di qualcuno sta cercando di penetrare e agganciarsi
alla tua aura perché desidera qualcosa da te: attenzione, tempo o energia.

L'elettromagnetismo è di solito la causa per cui le persone si sposano o si innamorano. Con un


cancello sospeso che soffia nel vento, la frequenza del desiderio si sposta attraverso l'ambiente,
chiamando la sua controparte, l'altro lato del canale. Quando il cancello mancante arriva, completando
un intero canale, i due cancelli pensili cadono in un profondo romanticismo.

C'è un senso di sollievo che segue quando due porte si uniscono all'interno di un canale, spesso,
inducendo a pensare che la relazione sia fatale o una relazione di riporto da una vita passata. Una
connessione elettromagnetica può essere molto fuorviante, specialmente se è in armonia.
Segue una panoramica di un gruppo selezionato di potenti ganci emotivi dimostrato attraverso le porte
sospese del Plesso Solare. Attraverso la saggezza e la comprensione acquisite, concedete maggiore
compassione mentre imparate a personalizzare meno il comportamento degli altri.

CANCELLI A SOSPENSIONE ~ PLESSO SOLARE

Tieni presente che questa interpretazione è solo per il centro del plesso solare ed è un'interpretazione
ampia. Quando consideriamo l'intero corpo emotivo, guardiamo tutti i cancelli e i centri sul corpo
umano del disegno del corpo.
Gate 49:
Questa porta risponde favorevolmente se ricevono affetto da chi amano. Per esempio, la porta 49 è
naturalmente attratta inconsciamente da colui che ha la porta 19, che è seduta di fronte, creando un
elettromagnetico. Se il cancello 19 è affettuoso e genuino nel suo amore e nella sua lealtà e le due
porte sono in armonia, godranno di una piacevole casa, un conto in banca e un sacco di generi
alimentari.
Questo è il canale del matrimonio e se indaghi, troverai molti 49 collegati a 19's. È una scelta naturale
nel mondo materiale e per crescere una famiglia. Il 19 è la "moglie" che obbedisce al 49, il "marito",
colui che ha il controllo delle risorse, indipendentemente dal sesso. Se è in armonia, sono molto
contenti che trascorrono la vita in modo tradizionale. Se le due porte non sono in armonia, i problemi
possono sorgere.
(vedi le formule di armonia alla fine dell’analisi)

Gate 55:
Questa è la più instabile di tutte le porte emozionali perché è molto lunatica con alti estremi e minimi
estremi. Quando appare la porta elettromagnetica 39, improvvisamente, il 55 è innamorato e pronto
a stabilirsi in affetto. Il cancello 39 continuerà a prendere in giro fino a quando non sa con certezza
cosa vorrebbe fare. Questo manda il cancello in malinconia ed eccitazione, alti e bassi, come un
potente elisir di seduzione mantenendo i 55 in un gioco di inseguimento e sulle montagne russe
coinvolgenti ed emotive.

Gate 30:
Il cancello 30 ondeggia nell'aria sussurrando dolcemente, "Sicuramente, la mia anima gemella è
vicina". Per sempre, questo nastro mentale suonerà fino a quando non si troverà il cancello 41. Una
volta che il cancello 41 arriva, il sole può brillare, le campane possono suonare e Dio può parlare
perché finalmente i due, diventati uno.

Gate 6:
Gate 6 ama la succosità di relazionarsi con i suoi alti e bassi emotivi, dibattiti, discussioni e drammi
estremi. Un cancello sospeso è alla ricerca dell'amante perfetto per la perfetta esperienza sensuale che
è perfettamente fertile per la creazione, che solo i 59 possono portare. Una volta arrivato, il sollievo
arriva con la promessa di qualcosa di nuovo.

Gate 37:
Chiunque abbia questo cancello, di solito, fa una meravigliosa "moglie", maschio o femmina per il
cancello 40. È un bel cancello da avere in casa perché verrà servito il miglior cibo, la casa sarà pulita
e l'ordine comanda al ambiente. La porta 37 è molto felice quando sta creando e mantenendo la casa
con l'autorità naturale e il capofamiglia, gate 40.

Gate 22:
Gate 22 è il romantico. Chiunque abbia questo cancello che soffia nel vento, sta cercando il loro
compagno, gate 12, per tirare fuori la poesia dalla loro anima, per scrivere i testi della canzone che
hanno composto o solleticare il loro naso con la morbida fragranza della rosa. Finché arriva la porta
del destino 12, la malinconia va e viene, i desideri scritti e inviati sulle ali, spezzati o no, nessuno lo
sa fino ai 12 spettacoli.
Gate 36:
Gate 36 ha una straordinaria immaginazione nell'amore e nell'intimità, evocando le situazioni più
insolite. Una nuova esperienza, una nuova realtà sconvolgente, un sapore diverso, che cerca
l'esperienza più esotica, sensuale, trascendentale possibile, o una vita stabile, confortevole e tenuta in
posizione, che solo la porta 35 può fornire.

Tenete a mente, un elettromagnetico armonioso può far sentire due persone come se fossero destinati
a stare insieme, anche senza un terreno comune. La "viscosità" dell'elettromagnetismo può essere
complicata, allontanando uno dal loro scopo di vita, lontano da un buon lavoro o influenzando
negativamente le relazioni con la famiglia o gli amici.

La Linea numero 1 dell’I Ching è in armonia con la linea 4 e lo stesso vale per 3: 6 e 2: 5.
Esempio:
49.3 è in armonia con 19.6
12.5 è in armonia con 22.2
37.1 è in armonia con 40.4

e così via.

Easy Compatibility

Understanding the Type of a person and what is their Inner Authority can be immensely helpful in
day-to-day relating. All homes, schools and places of business should have an idea of how to best
support their people so that they are healthy, prosperous and thriving, yes?

Probably the most powerful and most important distinction is the difference between the Emotional
Inner Authority and the rest of the planet. With half of the planet having the Emotional Inner
Authority, it is important to keep in mind that they move in a completely different way than those
who do not have that motor in their chemistry.
Emotional people have a trajectory that brings life to them. Their golden key is surrender and patience
in a hazy fog with hardly any clarity at all, ever. They can actually watch life unfold before them with
their slow emotional way. They hardly have to make a decision. It is fascinating when you see this
come into view.

Those who do not have the Solar Plexus center defined surrender, as their golden key but they do it a
little differently. There is no fog or haze clouding the mind. They have a clear window for the ride
ahead. So, they can say “yes” or “no” in the moment, or “not now” and get what is correct.

They can move forward, instantly, with clarity as they feel it in the body.

It is important that an “in the moment” person not wait and take their time. That is not good for them.
Emotionally defined people tend to make this mistake with the open, non-emotional people.
Unconsciously, the Emotional person knows that they move slow and then suggest to others to “take
their time and to think about it”. That can actually be really disastrous for them.

It’s good to know if someone is an “in the moment” kind of person or “not now”.

Once you get past the emotional and non-emotional differences, next, you see the way in which the
auras impact each other. This is where you can easily see, if there is really any compatibility or just
how “bumpy” the ride is ahead with your friend.

“Easy Compatibility” is one of the playful tools of Human Design. You can look at how two people
come together and whether or not it is a good fit, just by looking at the Centers and the Channels.

I must caution you. This is not a tool to finding your lover, or your friends or your job. This is a tool
that offers a fun way for you to watch and explore the mechanics in action, as you move about and
relate with others.

Easy Compatibility

When you look at the composite of two charts, you can see how many Centers are defined and how
many are open and white in a couple’s togetherness.
This reveals, in a very basic way how two people enjoy and spend time together.

9 and 0, Nowhere to Go
8 and 1, Lets have some Fun
7 and 2, Work to Do
6 and 3, Better to be Free
5 and 4, Not a Relationship Anymore

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5 and 4, Not a Relationship Anymore

When there are five Centers defined and four open in a composite, such as “5 and 4”, no matter how
two people feel like ‘best friends’, it will always fall apart or become distant, in some way, at some
point.

Nothing has to happen for the relationship to fall apart. It just stops one day out of the blue. It is
strange!

6 and 3, Better to Be Free

When there are six Centers defined in togetherness and three open, as in 6 and 3, it’s best with brief
encounters. Usually people with “6 and 3” do not stay friends for longer than a few years.

There really is no glue there to hold them together in common vision. They may stay connected
through out the years but they go in drastically different directions.

7 and 2, Work to Do
A lot of couples begin to pair up at the “7 and 2”, Work to Do composite. There is just enough
difference to make it exciting and thrilling for the mind and just enough likeness to fall into the trap
of the electromagnetics. It is very tricky.

Often times, people misunderstand this composite to mean that two people are to share their life work
together. But it means almost the opposite. “7 and 2” Work to Do, means that the two of you are
experiencing life from two totally different perspectives. The mind of one partner plays with one open
Center and the mind of the other partner plays with the another open Center. This gives the sensation
that you are on two different planets and not really seeing “eye to eye” on things.

With the gaping difference in perspective and being on different pages mentally, it can create
tremendous control battles. It can be a lot of work and a huge distraction from one’s life work.

It can be a little stormy and not too much fun, depending on chemistry. If there are big differences,
such as Type or Inner Authority, you are definitely going to feel the “work to do”, the lessons and
lots of learning.

8 and 1, Let’s Have Some Fun

When there is an “8 and 1, Lets have some Fun”. Two people can share play and laughter and relate
usually, fairly well. It can be really good.
There is also the opportunity to stay life long friends with great appreciation for each other. It’s fairly
easy if it doesn’t get complicated with a romantic affair.

9 and 0, Nowhere To Go

With all of the Centers filled up in “9 and 0”, there really is “nowhere to go”. The two are content to
sit on the porch, sip their tea and settle into a fulfilling union of dinners, bed and home. That is, on
the surface level. It can feel really, really good or it can get terribly boring. It really depends on
chemistry.
Most people enjoy this kind of togetherness if they are resonant in chemistry. It can feel as though
you are hanging out with your best friend and you really don’t need anyone else around. Or it can be
suffocating if the chemistry is not resonant.

After you see how many Centers are filling up in the composite chart of two people, you can go to the
next level of compatibility and see how the Channels are connecting.
Companionship, Dominance, Compromise and Electromagnetic

A Companion Channel is when both of you share the same whole Channel in your bodygraphs.
When we share a Companion Channel with someone it feels really, really good. There is great
understanding and identification in the way we think and process. It can be an automatic “Best Friend”
Channel if the rest of the chemistry is resonant and complementary.

Then there is the Dominance. Dominance is one person having a whole Channel and the other has
no definition in that same Channel.

This can bring great confusion trying to understand each other or it can bring skills that compliment
the other bringing greater ease in tasks. It all depends on chemistry.

The Compromise Channels are probably the most challenging. This is when one person has the
whole Channel and the other person has only half of the Channel.
When this happens, there is a tendency towards power trips or control over. The one with only one
gate feels that it has this sense in skill or awareness and wants to express it. The other has the whole
Channel and does not feel that it needs the other person’s input. That is how it operates on a very
basic, general level. Watching it over time, you begin to see the power plays and how one person is
being forced to compromise.

And then there are the Electromagnetics. Those are the most, trickiest of all. They can hook us up
really tight with the wrong person. They tend to create a lot of babies, great sex, beautiful music,
poetry and delicious food. They also concern traditional mating and bonding rituals and the bargains,
contracts and agreements that come with traditional, family and tribal settings.

Electromagnetics are two gates meeting, that sit on either end of a Channel. The Electromagnetics
are dramatically different in nature when they occur on the emotional side.

When two gates meet each other, as in an electromagnetic connection, on the emotional side, the mind
starts to think, “Cool, we’re a great match”. It will feel delicious and it will stir the juices but there
is more to come. That is only the sensation of the two gates finding each other and being tickled and
thrilled. Once an individual acts on the electromagnetic connection, expect a lot of distraction from
life path work. However, there are exceptions.
Electromagnetics can be great when it comes to communication. Electromagnetic connections can
truly, enjoy their conversations.

Only your inner guide gets you to the right place with the right people.

And it usually has nothing to do with the compatibility of romance.


H O O K S O F T H E E M O T IO N A L B O D Y

Within the human form are tendrils reaching out looking to attach. These tendrils are the arms of the
Emotional Body, an entity that resides within our three-part form: Physical Body, Emotional Mind
and Spirit, with its own pulse of life. Every human has an Emotional Body with tendrils that reach
out to connect and hook into one another, in some way.

These tendrils are what we can see as the hanging gates that wave in the air off an open or defined
center, looking for the other side of the channel like it is demonstrated on the Human Design chart,
here, with Gate 37 hanging off of the open Solar Plexus and Gate 35, 9, 7, 18 and so on.

Hanging gates off an open Solar Plexus can be the most overwhelming because of the momentum
behind their passion towards desires and attachments. Solar Plexus hanging gates relate most
specifically to love, sex, family relationships and money, which can make the Emotional Body very
sticky, needy, cunning and aggressive.

You can feel the sensation of an Emotional Body hook through the way the tummy feels when a
person is near you. If there is a tightness, a sharp pain or an aching discomfort in the stomach region,
someone’s Emotional Body is seeking to penetrate and hook into your aura because they want
something from you: attention, time, or energy.

Electromagnetics are usually, the cause for people to marry or fall in love. With a hanging gate
blowing in the wind, the frequency of desire drifts through the environment, calling out its
counterpart, the other side of the channel. When the missing gate arrives, completing a whole channel,
the two hanging gates fall into a deep romance.

There is a sense of relief that follows when two gates come together inside of a channel, often, causing
one to think the relationship is fated or a carry-over relationship from a past life. An electromagnetic
connection can be very misleading, especially if it is in harmony.

Following is an overview of a selected group of powerful emotional tendrils demonstrated through


the hanging gates of the Solar Plexus. Through the wisdom and understanding gained, may you
bestow greater compassion as you learn to less personalize the behavior of others.

HANGING GATES & Their Emotional Hooks ~ SOLAR PLEXUS


Keep in mind that this interpretation is for the Solar Plexus center, only, and is a broad interpretation.
When we consider the entire Emotional Body, we look at all gates and centers on the Human Design
bodygraph.

Gate 49:
This gate responds favorably if they are receiving affection from whom they love. For instance, the
gate 49 is naturally, unconsciously attracted to the one who has the gate 19, which is sitting opposite,
creating an electromagnetic. If the gate 19 is affectionate and genuine in its love and loyalty and the
two gates are in harmony, they will enjoy a pleasant home, a fat bank account and plenty of groceries.
This is the marriage channel and if you investigate, you will find many 49’s connected with 19’s. It
is a natural fit in the material world and for raising a family. The 19 is the “wife” who obeys the 49,
the “husband”, the one who is in control of resources, regardless of gender. If it is in harmony, they
are very content spending life in a traditional way. If the two gates are not in harmony, then issues
can rise.
(see harmony formulas at end of article)

Gate 55:
This is the most volatile of all emotional gates as it is very moody with extreme highs and extreme
lows. When the electromagnetic gate 39 appears, suddenly, the 55 is in love and ready to settle into
affection. The gate 39 will continue to tease until it knows for sure what it would like to do. This
sends the gate 55 into melancholy and excitement, highs and lows, like a powerful elixir of seduction
keeping the 55 in a game of chase and on the addictive, emotional roller coaster.
Gate 30:
The gate 30 waves in the air whispering out softly, “Surely, my soulmate is near”. Forever, this mental
tape will ring until one finds the gate 41. Once the gate 41 arrives, the sun can shine, the bells can
ring and God can speak for the two have finally, become one.

Gate 6:
Gate 6 loves the juiciness of relating with its emotional highs and lows, debates, arguments and
extreme drama. A hanging gate is looking for the perfect lover for the perfect sensual experience that
is perfectly fertile for creating, which only the 59 can bring. Once it arrives, relief comes with the
promise of something new.

Gate 37:
Whoever has this gate, usually, makes a wonderful “wife”, male or female for the gate 40. It is a
lovely gate to have in the home because the best food will be served, the house will be clean and order
will command the environment. The gate 37 is most happy when it is creating and maintaining home
with the natural authority and breadwinner, gate 40.

Gate 22:
Gate 22 is the romanticist. Anyone who has this gate blowing in the wind, is looking for their mate,
gate 12, to pull the poetry out of their soul, to write the lyrics to the song they have composed or
tickle their nose with the soft fragrance of rose. Until the fated gate 12 arrives, melancholy comes and
goes, wishes wrote and sent on wings, heart-broken or not, no one knows until the 12 shows.

Gate 36:
Gate 36 has an extraordinary imagination in love and intimacy, conjuring up the most unusual
situations. A new experience, a shocking new reality, a different flavor, seeking the most exotic,
sensual, transcendental experience possible, or a life that is steady and comfortable and held in place,
which only the gate 35 can provide.
Keep in mind, a harmonious electromagnetic can make two people feel as if they are fated and
destined to be together, even with no common ground. The “stickiness” of electromagnetics can be
tricky, leading one away from their life purpose, away from a good job or negatively impact relations
with family or friends.

I Ching line number 1 is in harmony with I Ching line 4 and the same goes for 3:6 and 2:5.

Example:
49.3 is in harmony with 19.6 / 12.5 is in harmony with 22.2
37.1 is in harmony with 40.4 and so on.

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Soulmate

Growing up as a 6/2 was not easy. Those first 28 years were especially difficult. I did not know my
design and I became more lost in my life. The first stage is one of trial and error – which is basically
a third line theme. Imagine having to pass through a third line theme for 28 years when you are not
genetically protected by having a third line in your profile. I was so vulnerable those years and at the
end – very fragile. I did not know my strategy. I did not know my inner authority. I did not know
where I was open. By the time I had reached 26 years of age, I was emotionally and mentally unstable.
I have the Solar Plexus and Ajna centers open and I had been taking in and amplifying the emotions
and thoughts of others for all those years thinking that was me. On top of that, I was in the third line
phase of the tri-partite process making one mistake after another. For someone with an open Heart
Center trying to always prove my worthiness, making so many mistakes was deeply disturbing.

I had no security – nothing to hold onto. Growing up as a woman in the 1950’s and in an Italian
family, there was great emphasis on finding the right man, settling down and getting married. But
even deeper than this conditioning was the inner workings as a 6th line being. Each profile line has a
bonding strategy. The sixth line’s bonding strategy is soulmate or not. The bonding strategy is based
upon the 59th gate – the gate of sexuality and it’s the ability to breakdown barriers for greater union.
It is a genetic role gate that is established in our chemistry. I was searching for my soulmate for as
long as I could remember. And because the sixth line is on the Personality side – it was my passenger
that was looking. The devastation of the first 28 years affected my passenger – it was psychological.
You can only imagine the trial and error process I went through with men in those first 28 years
because in actuality I was living out the third line theme of bonds made and broken only adding to
my bewilderment and insecurity. I was divorced for the first time before I turned 23.

Because of the genetic imperative to find a soulmate – I started having boyfriends already in grade
school. And I was quite serious about them as well – each one was “it” (the soulmate I was looking
for). Looking back, I smile at who I was - so young and so serious. It is funny to think of my passenger
in the back seat searching for the soulmate. But back then it was not funny at all. And I was in the
trial and error process stage – add that to not living as a Generator nor making decisions based on my
inner authority – it was a recipe for disaster! And it was.

Another keynote for the 59.6 is the Dreamer. Oh boy, do I relate to that. I can even remember
dreaming about “the soulmate” when I was five years old although I didn’t think of it as that. Back
then, we had just gotten a TV and westerns were very popular. My dreaming was based on the male
leads of those shows. I also have gate 41 in my personality sun - a gate of fantasizing. So here I was
dreaming and fantasizing about the perfect relationship – the ultimate relationship. And it didn’t
matter how old I was – five years or fifty years – it was a genetic imperative. And I never said a word
to anyone about this: not as a child and not as an adult.

At the end of the first 28 years, I knew my life didn’t work. I actually went to India a week after my
28th birthday pulling away from life as I knew it. Unfortunately, because I still had no clue who I was
or how to be grounded in my life, I just continued dreaming of finding my soulmate. My mind was
certain that if I found my soulmate – I would finally feel secure in my life. Being on the roof didn’t
help very much though – I was pulling further and further away from life as I knew it. I thought it
was only meditating that brought objectivity but I know now that it was also the theme for me in the
second stage – the on the roof stage as a 6/2. I became more aloof and objective.

I met Human Design in my mid-forties and began to live by my strategy: waiting to respond. I began
to make decisions based on my inner authority: my sacral sounds. My whole life turned upside down
and inside out. I was pretty extreme in my experiment. I don’t know why. I do know that for me it
was a matter of life or death. In the beginning, rather than making me secure and stable – it was like
blowing up my whole life with a stick of dynamite. But as the dust settled, and days and weeks became
months and years, an inner strength began to grow inside of me. For the very first time in this life, I
had a strong foundation to stand on. There was an inner power that I had never experienced before.
With four open centers – three being the mind, the emotions and the ego – there could be no inner
power without my strategy and authority.

It was only after I completed my first seven years and passed through my Kiron return that I actually
stopped searching for my soulmate. I was off the roof and in myself. What a miracle that was! Even
before coming off the roof, I had begun to experience the perfection of life as it was. I had stopped
longing for this or that – or something to change so I could feel better about myself and my life. But
it was post-50 that everything really mutated.

There was no other way to get there but through my strategy and authority. Yes, it felt like a terrible
limitation to have to wait for something to come to me – and then to respond in sounds. It felt like
nothing would happen and I would never have the “love of my life”. But the irony was that by living
my life according to my strategy and making decisions from my inner authority, I truly met myself
for the very first time. It was the first time that the passenger was really relaxed in the vehicle. It was
the first time I really felt secure. I had an anchor to hold on to within myself.

Strategy and Authority allowed the two aspects of me – the conscious and unconscious – the
personality and design – the passenger and the vehicle – to relax into the correct relationship with
each other. There was no more fight – no more trying to control – no more longing for something
more. Strategy is what allowed the Passenger to surrender to the Vehicle – the Form. It allowed my
Personality and Design to live in deep harmony. The Personality is the Yang and the Design is the
Yin. I no longer look for stability outside. Equilibrium exists within me and is perfectly expressed by
the eternal Yin/Yang symbol.

I am no longer searching for my soulmate. I found it. My soulmate is within me. It is the deepest
union that can only exist between the Personality and the Design. When that is discovered nothing
else really matters. I survived the chaos of the first 28 years. I survived coming off the roof which is
a very vulnerable time for all 6 line beings. I have my doubts that I would still be alive if not for my
strategy and authority.

To live this final stage as myself is so far beyond any dreams I ever had. At 62 years of age, having
spent the first 50 years searching and longing for the soulmate – it is pure joy to discover that the
soulmate I have been searching for is within!

Mary Ann Winiger

www.key-to-you.com
RELATIONSHIP, SEX AND DESIGN
What is "Love"?

Discover How We Define Attraction, Companionship and other Partnership Dynamics

How we search for wholeness can depend on variations in how we are each designed, with Type and
life force being the main drivers.

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If you’re a single definition, open centers tend to be the main influence in how your mind is
affected when making a decision, whether you are Generator, Projector, or Manifestor.

If you’re a split definition, missing gates between your defined centers will influence you to
connect with themes you are missing in order to feel whole, making you naturally inclined to
seek out relationships.

Often what happens is that our minds interpret those missing gate themes as something we need
and look for in a relationship instead of trusting our strategy and authority.

It could be a romance, friendship, family relationship, or just an acquaintance… when we connect


with others, we experience attraction, compromise, and themes of dominance that form a unique mix
of our relationship qualities.

So where does Love come into play here? If we connect with someone through one of our love gates,
does it mean we have found love?

We have a tendency to think of love as some kind of possession, which is often defined by our
relationship status. If we happen to be in a relationship, then it’s easy to assume we have something
we can call love.

But if it doesn’t quite live up to our expectations, eventually it can lead to feelings of frustration,
bitterness, anger, or disappointment because it isn’t experienced the way it “should” be.

Have you ever asked yourself what love really is though? Why do we carry such strong notions of it
that often work against our best interests?

Ra Uru Hu once pointed out that homogenized ideas of love are used so trivially that “if you turn on
the radio, you’ll hear the word love so often it sounds like a detergent being sold.”

This acceptance of homogenized concepts of love is often what determines how we think we are
supposed to be “loving.”

Regardless of the relationship or form of expression, this can result in:

- Judging what the relationship means or not


- Seeking love to feel whole through other people
- Conflicts with a partner or family member to correct their behavior
- Constantly needing to prove you or the other is lovable
- Not being recognized for the unique kind of love each person naturally brings to the
relationship
- Remaining stuck in the same types of love conflicts
- Measuring how much love is in the relationship

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Human Design System Basic Concepts: Kinds of Chart Definition

One of the most important things to understand about why connections (and relationships of all kinds)
happen and last between us is that some of us function more independently than others by nature.
Connection possibilities depend on the particular configuration of your Human Design bodygraph
definition.

Definition is what is consistent and reliable within us; it is what creates our Type and determines our
Strategy and Authority. Definition in the bodygraph shows us a schematic of the way energy flows
within us. It also determines the way we operate, how we interact with and what we look for in others.

It's part of one of the most interesting human phenomena: the connections that happen when people
meet. Using the Human Design System as a framework, you can see the mechanics behind those
connections. Why and how we connect can be very complex and deep, but the truth is right there on
the surface of the bodygraph for anyone to see.

Split Definition - Approximately 45.89%


"You complete me." Introducing your significant other as your "other half" is a sentiment that almost
half the people on this planet deeply resonate with.
As a basic Split Definition, you have two separate areas of definition in your Human Design chart
that are disconnected from each other. You are choicelessly drawn to people who bring the aspects
that connect your areas of definition. The quality of your life depends on your bond with the right
other. When you find a person with the right bridging gate(s), you experience a sense of wholeness.
But just because you feel that way when you are with certain people doesn't mean they are correct for
you.
Here's the conditioning simple Splits need to be aware of:
It's possible to be blinded by bridges if you are a basic Split Definition. You could spend all your time
and energy looking for what you think you need (if just one gate would bridge your split) to be whole.
What you feel is “missing” that would bridge the two parts of you is what can become where you
focus all your attention and your decision-making upon.
If it takes two gates or a channel to bridge your split, then those themes become what you think the
other needs or is the other person’s problem, in order for you to experience what you think you need
in life.
Now we see how blame can enter the picture here and skew your perspective of your life.
More rarely, when it takes more than a channel to bridge your split, now you think the missing
elements in your design are what the world is missing, and that's why you don't have what you need
in life or feel whole.
Focusing on the qualities of any Gate(s) or Channels that would bridge your Split is attractive to your
mind, and this is where a basic Split's centralized "Not-Self" purpose is.
“What is the Not-Self?” In a Split Definition, not only do you have open Center Not-Self thematics
at work, but because of the dual areas of energy dynamics you were imprinted with, your mind is
seduced by decision-making strategies based upon those aspects that bridge your split. Fixating on
that openness will never bring you the fulfillment you are looking for, as your mind will come up
with strategies for coping with the unreliability of that energy and try to “fix” it through decisions or
bonds with others. But there's nothing missing, wrong or broken within you — though it may feel
that way sometimes.

Because of this inherent drive for wholeness, basic splits are responsible for the phenomenon of
monogamy and pair-bonding. Entering into the right bond correctly — with awareness — using your
Strategy and Authority to make decisions as yourself, you discover the beauty of a truly fulfilling
relationship.

Single Definition - Approximately 41.95%


"When I'm done, I'm done." These were words from a Single Definition woman during a recent Living
Your Design Awakening Program when discussing relationships.
Single Definition means that all the defined Centers in your Design are dependably communicating
in specific ways from the time of your birth until you leave this plane. Life-force energy flows
continuously through your defined Channels to the Centers, consistently determining your authentic
nature.
Single Definition gives you a consistent and reliable sense of wholeness within without the drive for
someone "to complete you". Unlike other kinds of definition, yours depends on nothing outside of
itself to bring parts of you together. Your operating system doesn't need outside energy to process
incoming information. You are designed to operate more independently than Splits and are self-
contained.
Because you have no built mechanism that looks for and creates an illusion of wholeness, like basic
Splits do, making a relationship successful can be a challenge as it is easier for you to simply walk
away (while a Split would be more likely to want to work on the relationship and stay together).

All the undefined or open Centers are where your mind is susceptible to conditioning. The
conditioning in these white centers is where you are likely to get sidetracked from making decisions
correctly as yourself. Follow your Strategy and Authority to discover the magic of your uniqueness.

Triple Split - Approximately 10.18%


It's all about movement for a Triple-Split, because of the fact that no single bridge, person or singular
moment brings you the same sense of wholeness. As a Triple-Split, you have three different parts in
your Design disconnected to each other and may involve two, or commonly all three of the Awareness
Centers in your Bodygraph, all of which operate on different time frequencies. Because each of your
areas of definition are highly specialized, and can be brought together with a variety of different
bridges, you are a complex being with extraordinary potential for assimilation and integration of
information through movement and over time.
As a Triple-Split, you have more in common with Single Definitions in that the open centers hold the
thematics of conditioning that can lead you away from your truth. Unlike the basic Split definition,
when you are in a relationship with someone who brings all the aspects of you together through
bridging areas of their split, it is not at all the same feeling for you. You can tend to feel trapped if
you are bridged the same way all the time, so it is important for you to get out into the public aura on
a daily basis. Not necessarily to socialize, or even for a very long period, but to make use of the way
you can be bridged in the diversity found among groups of people. Sampling the broad spectrum of
ways you could be brought together and synthesizing the different parts of you in this way is an
important aspect to understand as it is what makes you so unique. Being locked into the same way
you can be brought together all the time is not particularly healthy nor does it feel comfortable for
you.

You can be impatient and act without waiting for all aspects of you to be connected with integration
of relevant data. Through awareness of and experimentation with your Strategy, Authority and unique
way of synthesizing information, you can find fulfillment of your unique purpose in life.

No Definition - Approximately 1.41%


People with no definition — no defined Channels and therefore, Centers — are a very unique Auric
Type. These are Lunar beings, tied deeply into the movement of the moon through their Human
Design charts.

Quadruple Split - Approximately 0.57%


"The only Definition that is, without question, Polygamists". Ra Uru Hu, the Four Views
You can see how very rare Quadruple Splits are; still this accounts for approximately 1 in 200 people
on the planet. Quadruple Splits they are very fixed beings because so much is defined in their
bodygraph. What's so interesting is that if you are a Quadruple split, you appear differently to different
people, because of the aspects of you that emerge depending on what the other bridges within you.
You are looking for two specific bridging areas - two different kinds of fixed bonds.
Like the basic Split definition, conditioning potential for you is strongly focused on the bridging gates
between your Splits. What you need are consistent bridges that come from two or three others,
because of the many ways your four elements could come together and the fact that if one person
brings all those bridges you need, it locks you in a pattern that feels uncomfortable to you.

The general public aura does not benefit you like it does the Triple Split; what you are looking for
are tight bonds with the right others that allow all of the expressions of you to emerge. Through
Strategy and Authority, you find the correct bonds that allow you your unique expression of
fulfillment in this life.
Everything about the possibility of who you are is determined by your relationships. Everything…
And if you’re lost in the psychology of what your split brings to you, you’re blind to see those forces
that are correct for you in this life.

Ra Uru Hu
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Openness has the potential for Wisdom

Human Design helps you become aware of what those qualities that bridge your split or the centers
that condition your mind away from your authentic nature, which is what you are here to be wise
about in your life. Single and Triples, know the signposts of your undefined centers. Split and
Quadruples, study the bridges between your definition so that you are aware of when you get trapped
in making decisions that focus on what you are not here to be.

Remember the openness is where you are flexible and able to experience the full range of possible
experiences. Openness is where we "go to school" in life. The open centers and bridges between your
definitions don't define you, and can never be consistent or reliable. Conditioning here that you base
decisions on leads you away from your authentic nature. Experimenting with your Strategy and
Authority is what protects you mechanically from the allure of the openness in your design.

As a Human Design Analyst, Living Your Design Guide and BG5 Consultant, one of the most
rewarding and fulfilling things I’ve found in life is to truly see and understand how people operate.
The realizations in my own life as well as the positive feedback from the people who reach out to me
for advice has everything to do with the commitment and passion I have for this System and the time
I spend immersed with it. This information was synthesized from my training, including self-study
from Jovian's Definition videos and the two chapters on definition from the Four Views e-book helped
me tremendously in understanding the mechanics of how different kinds of definitions function, and
I know they can do the same for you.

By Andrea Abay-Abay
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The GENERATOR in the World and in Relationships

Generators who use their inherent energy correctly and follow the inner guidance of their Sacral
response are a powerful force that benefits the world, and they are magnificent to behold!

When their Sacral response had guided them to the “right” work for them, they have nearly
inexhaustible energy to do that work. And their natural penchant for achieving mastery drives them
to persist in improving their skills.

Because of their sustainable work force and life force energy, they tend to be steady partners in
relationships although their specific personality characteristics will be affected by the many other
energies in their Human Design Chart.

They are the energizer bunnies who can hold down a job, raise a family, get involved in the PTA or
other activities, maybe do volunteer work, stay physically active, and pursue various interests. Not
all Generators do all of these things…. but most of them could!
If You Are a GENERATOR . . .

If you’re not waiting for life to “come to you” and then responding to it so you know if you should
pursue something or not, you are going to experience frustration.

It’s likely that you’ve been going in a lot of wrong directions until now, trying to “just go do it” like
we’re taught by our society. Problem is… that’s just not correct for you. Hence, the wrong directions
and the frustration.

Sadly, our closest relationships often bear the brunt of this frustration. When you recognize and
follow your inner guidance, you’ll have less frustration spilling over onto others. And recognizing
that the frustration you feel is just energy can also help you minimize its impact on others.

Your brain will often work hard to try and figure out the right answers for you, but that is NOT where
YOU want to be making your decisions and choices. That’s what your Sacral Center is for.

However, frustration IS part of your personal learning curve, so you won’t be avoiding it entirely.
But if you learn to wait for things to show up so you can respond to them, AND you learn to honor
and follow your responses, you’ll be making choices in alignment with your energetic structure and
your inner Authentic Self, and you’ll minimize frustration and maximize joy and fulfillment.

You also need to be active enough during your day to be physically tired when you go to bed. It’s as
if you wake up each morning with a full tank of gas, and you need to use it all before you sleep. Then
you wake up with a new full tank the next day and do it all again. If you’re not sleeping well, try
getting more physical activity. This is especially true for Generator children, many of whom are
incorrectly diagnosed with ADD or ADHD.

If You Love a GENERATOR …

Understand that it is correct for them to wait for their inner guidance before they take action.
If you happen to be a Manifestor or Manifesting Generator, this may be uncomfortable and/or
frustrating to you.

Allow the Generator to wait for things to respond to, and allow them to honor and follow their
responses… even if their responses “appear” to not be logical.

The most respectful—and helpful—way that you can interact with a Generator is to ask them Yes/No
questions. This allows them a clear opportunity for their Sacral Center to respond and give them
guidance.

Don’t take their frustration personally. Recognize that it’s part of their process, and when you
support them in being true to their Generator nature you’ll help them minimize that frustration.

And, if you are a non-energy being (a Manifestor, Projector, or Reflector), don’t try to keep up with
the Generator in your life. You will wear down and burn out. Let them keep going while you take
care of yourself and manage your energy. Once this energy difference in your relationship is truly
understood and respected, you’ll both be happier.
The MANIFESTING GENERATOR in Relationships

Manifesting Generators who use their inherent energy correctly and follow the inner guidance of their
Sacral response are a dynamic and powerful force that benefits the world … and are magnificent to
watch in action!

When their Sacral response had guided them to the “right” work for them, they have nearly
inexhaustible energy to do that work and get it done FAST!

Because of their sustainable work force and life force energy, they tend to be steady partners in
relationships although their specific personality characteristics will be affected by the many other
energies in their Human Design Chart.

There are times, though, that you may feel left out of the Manifesting Generator’s world.

This is because:

– They are in their creative “groove” and don’t like to be interrupted

– They don’t “need” other people the way some Types do

– They like to get things done… FAST

– They have sustainable energy…they keep going and going and going

– They may forget to inform the people around them of their actions BEFORE taking them.

They are energizer bunnies who can hold down a job, raise a family, get involved in the PTA or other
activities, maybe do volunteer work, stay physically active, and pursue various interests. Not all
Manifesting Generators do all of these things… but they could!

If You ARE a MANIFESTING GENERATOR . . .

Your brain will often work hard to figure out the right answers for you, but that is NOT where YOU
want to be making your decisions and choices. That’s what your Sacral responses are for.

If you’re not waiting for life to “come to you” and then responding to it (so you know if you should
pursue that thing or not), then you won’t know what is truly “right” for you to apply your
considerable energy and competence to.

It’s likely that you’ve been rushing off in a lot of scattered directions until now, without waiting to
respond. Problem is… that’s just not correct for you. Hence, many “wrong” directions, accompanied
by frustration, anger, and impatience.

Sadly, closest relationships often bear the brunt of those reactions. When you wait for and follow
your inner guidance, you’ll have less frustration spilling over onto others. And recognizing that the
frustration and anger you feel is just energy can also help you minimize its impact on others.

However, frustration IS part of your personal learning curve, so you won’t be avoiding it entirely. It
takes courage to wait for, trust, and follow your Sacral Response… but everything in your life
(including relationships) will benefit when you do.
You’ll be more effective in your relationships when you work at being as respectful of others as
you can, watch out for power struggles, and learn to bend a little. Also, remember to INFORM those
who will be impacted by your actions BEFORE you take those actions.

Don’t worry about skipping steps, moving fast, and multi-tasking…you are designed for these!

You also need to be active enough during your day to be physically tired when you go to bed. It’s as
if you wake up each morning with a full tank of gas, and you need to use it all before you sleep. Then
you wake up with a new full tank the next day and do it all again. If you’re not sleeping well, try
getting more physical activity. This is especially true for Manifesting Generator children, many of
whom are incorrectly diagnosed with ADD or ADHD.

If You LOVE a MANIFESTING GENERATOR...

If you are not a Manifesting Generator but are in a relationship with one, follow these guidelines:

- Accept that they move fast, fast, fast, and may leave you behind at times. Don’t try to keep up–
you will wear down and burn out. Once this energy difference in your relationship is truly understood
and respected, you’ll both be happier. Most of all, enjoy the ride!

- Understand that it is correct for them to wait for their inner guidance before they take action.

- Allow the Manifesting Generator the time to wait for things to respond to, and the freedom to honor
and follow their responses…. even if their responses “appear” to not be logical.

- The most respectful—and helpful—way that you can interact with a Manifesting Generator is to ask
them Yes/No questions. This allows them a clear opportunity for their Sacral Center to respond and
give them guidance.

– Don’t take their frustration/anger/impatience personally. Recognize that it’s part of their
process, and when you support them in being true to their Manifesting Generator nature you’ll help
them minimize all of that.
Human Design and Dating

There has been lots of discussion, lately, regarding a Human Design dating website. It makes me
chuckle, I have been there too. A few years into my process with the science, I thought for sure a
dating site was the next big answer, even to the point of constructing a Human Design website in
2010, with my partner at the time, Richard Beaumont with Human Design UK. For months, ten to
fourteen hours a day, we worked to create a platform for lovers to meet through Human Design.

After approximately six months into the daily, grueling grind of website design, development,
functionality and management to develop the “perfect” Human Design mating system, it became
incredibly obvious, Human Design could not connect people through a dating platform. No matter
how you slice the dice, HD does not fit for mating. It was a big mistake and a huge waste of time and
money.

As Ra Uru Hu pointed out repeatedly, dating and romantic love have nothing to do with the Human
Design system.

When I first started studying electromagnetics, It was cool to see who I was attracted to and why. It
was very interesting to watch what would play through the electromagnetic connections and how my
body or mind would respond to the different types of connections. But what I have found is that
electromagnetics are hot and juicy but absolutely useless in making important decisions in life.
Electromagnetics create more confusion and lots of juicy romantic mental tapes that really distract
and busy the mind; they can be really, really fun, super yum and juicy and very, very tricky.
Electromagnetic mental tapes will convince a person into the most incorrect situations, they are very,
very powerful.

The Human Design Bodygraph does not indicate the gender of a person nor the romantic destiny, or
the “husband or wife”, nor does one see how many children they are going to have or how long they
will be in love.

So, no, Human Design and dating do not go together. Human Design was designed for: empowerment
of self through knowing and understanding how one operates so that one can get the best experiences
and feel good about who they are in the world. Through living that understanding, one naturally
travels the path that brings the best experiences, the right people and the correct environment.

So, how do you love and still be you?

The purpose of Human Design is to learn about who we are whole, centered and tuned into our body’s
voice, not our groin. So, using HD as a tool for mating, relating and creating bonds, is actually
working against the goal behind Ra’s vision with this science. After all, HD does teach the
importance of sleeping alone in one’s aura -far away from other bodies in order to empty out and be
Self.

Sleeping alone to empty the aura and waking up centered and clear, is the primary place to start so
one can see who they truly are. Keep in mind, it takes time to empty the aura when one has shared
intimate, sexual space with someone. It can take days, it can take weeks, it can take months even a
full year or more, depending on how long one has been merged and how many years one has been
sleeping with a lover, dog or child near them.

How is Human Design best used?

Human Design does show great connections for working together, creating community together,
supporting each other in endeavors and who has the potential to become a good friend.

Human Design is also a fabulous tool for understanding the personalities that surround one or who
one is working with. If someone is non-emotional and one is emotional, then there may be difficulty
relating and communicating; there are going to be misunderstandings, truth may get covered up,
hidden, distorted or not spoken and there will be this looming feeling as though both come from two
different planets: one is slow and one is very fast.

And then there are the defined Ajna’s. A defined Ajna can be very, very helpful in many cases.
However, they can be very difficult for an empty head who cannot take in so much information and
can cause a headache. Usually, a defined Ajna does not wait for an invitation to offer their opinion.
Often, they let others “know” what they know. A question I often hear from a defined Ajna is “Would
you like to hear about this?” It’s difficult to be honest because if one responds with “no’, it can seem
rude.

Equally challenging are the open Throat beings. The “unaware” open Throat Center being, aches for
attention with a streaming, non-stop, download of information and continuous interruptions. It is best
for the open Throat to not speak first, allowing the defined to initiate conversation. It makes a huge
difference in relating with the world, just understanding that simple rule.

And then there is the imprint of Types. Even if the Manifestor seems like the kindest, most loving
human on the planet, there is still the imprint of anger in their aura and for a Generator or Projector,
that can be a very tough energy to process in their system. A similar influence happens with
Manifesting Generators, which can be more impactful than the Manifestor. The same can happen
with the mix of other types, too, Projectors relating romantically, with the need for the right kind of
attention, to be recognized properly or simply, exhausted from keeping up with someone who has a
few motors and a Sacral defined. Projectors get the right recognition in the right kind of work, so this
misplaced need for energy in romance creates more problems than necessary and certainly, lots of
missed opportunities that Projectors crave.

And last, most importantly, is the relationship dynamic of the undefined and defined ego. As Ra has
stated in his lectures on romance, the undefined ego will compete with the defined ego until death.
This is an obvious truth in my experience. Often, undefined Ego’s copy the work of the defined ego
that they are hoping to destroy and desperately seek power over while they strategize the demise of
reputation and vie for positioning. Electromagnetics or not, it does not matter, the combination of the
two definitions creates fertile ground for serious, unpleasant trouble. Thank heavens for the law of
karma that brings balance.
What we find is that the key in romance is taking lots of SPACE so that one can feel their own
chemistry and true definition. And in that awareness, surrender to operating and fulfilling one’s life
path and destiny. That is how one uses Human Design.

But the mind… ahhhh the mind loves a good story.

Enjoy learning and watching the mechanics.

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The PROJECTOR in Relationships

While the natural role (and instinct) of the Projector is to “manage, guide and direct others,” the
Projector can only do so effectively when those others want to be managed, guided and directed!
As mentioned at the beginning of this article, most people don’t like to be given advice or told what
to do if they haven’t first asked for that advice or guidance.
Projectors who are not using their energy—and their inherent wisdom—correctly are often perceived
as:
- Pushy
- Bossy
- Nosy
- Annoying or irritating
- Bitter
- Or, they are simply ignored and literally not heard when they speak.

Projectors who are using their energy CORRECTLY are respected and sought-after for their
knowledge, talent, and guidance.
The truth is that Projectors need more attention and energy from other people than any of the other
Types.

What’s a PROJECTOR To Do?


The BEST approach for a Projector is to wait to be asked or invited before sharing their advice,
opinion, feedback, guidance, or direction.
When someone asks, they indicate that they want the guidance and inherent wisdom of that Projector
(even if that person is completely unaware that they are asking a Projector—that person is
unconsciously reacting to the Projector’s energetic configuration). That person will then hear and
appreciate the value of the Projector’s input, because they were open to receiving it.
The NEXT BEST approach for the Projector is to at least wait for some recognition and an opening
to speak into. Make eye contact and wait to sense an opportunity to speak without barging into a
conversation or seeming pushy or overbearing.
When using this NEXT BEST approach, the most effective way for a Projector to begin is to say
something like:
“I have some experience that may be helpful to you, would it be all right if I share it with you?”
“I have some insights about that, may I tell you about them?”
“Perhaps I could be of help, would you mind if I try?”
Please vary the question to suit your circumstances and personality, but I’m sure you get the gist from
these examples. Notice that each one is a Yes/No question requiring that the other person either gives
you permission to speak or does not. With their Yes response, you have a clear opening/invitation.
If the response is No, it’s usually best to wait.
Projectors are of course welcome to speak without waiting for any of this, and see what happens.
Human Design advocates that you listen to your own inner authority, not someone else (like me)
telling you what to do. But it’s likely you’ll find that things simply work better when you have been
invited or recognized first.

What Should OTHERS Do Regarding Projectors?


When you are the recipient of a Projector’s incorrect use of their energy and wisdom, it is easy to feel
irritated, turned off, and even repelled. This is normal. Even Projectors can feel turned off and repelled
by other Projectors!
However, you then miss the wisdom and advice that may very well benefit you.
Now that you understand a little about Projectors, the best thing YOU can do is:
- Recognize that their intention is to be helpful
- Recognize that they are inherently wise and usually have valuable input
- Recognize that they are simply not using their energy correctly
- Don’t take it personally

If you’re so inclined, give them some attention and energy and invite them share their ideas with you
If you just want to get away from them, get out of their aura for a while and then ask for their opinion
or guidance the next time you see them - before they offer it.
I welcome you to share below any success stories you have had as a Projector or as someone in
relationship with a Projector.

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Electric Love

Part I

Sarah and June made their way to the forest to play and discuss their project plans with Joe, Dylan
and Rose. It was a long, bumpy road as they drove through the hills and down the winding road that
would eventually take them to the gate of the forest.

It had been a couple of weeks since they had hung out and both Sarah and June were excited about
seeing their friends. Sarah was especially looking forward to seeing Joe. The two had formed a special
connection the last time the group had gotten together. Joe was especially charmed by the way Sarah
walked, moved about the room and played a cute, coy game of flirting; she was adorable, you could
not deny it.

Joe felt that there was something very special about Sarah. She was different and had a cool and aloof
way about her yet warm and fuzzy too. Joe was captivated and could not stop thinking about Sarah
since the group had last been together.

June was looking forward to meeting up with the group and hearing about what each person had to
report and share regarding their tasks for the new projects.

Rose had carefully prepared a sketchpad of ideas for the group to look at. Each sketch included
irrigation, excavation, composting and bed turning. It was an impressive amount of work that she had
spent almost fifteen hours a day for the past week researching and drawing.

Dylan brought his notes and his model demonstrating a new watering system that included a highly
sensitive instrument, which could regulate moisture. He had spent a great deal of time in designing
the model instrument that he would be presenting to the group today. He was feeling very proud of
his invention and was looking forward to the moment when he could share his brilliance.

Joe managed the finances and would present a financial report to the group once the research and
design teams had completed their presentations. Fortunately, the group had received a large donation
from a man in the community who was in support of the group’s common vision and project plan.
This allowed for each of the team members to obtain all of the tools, technology and material required
for manifesting their portion of the vision.

Sarah administered the art group and had a team of seven working with her at her design studio. She
spent half the year traveling abroad, attending festivals and adding the special spice she became
famous for, enlightened art installations of eco material and nature images.

“I heard you are a Projector, Sarah”, Joe says as he leans over to open the car door to assist Sarah
with the bag of groceries in her arms.

“You are emotional too, aren’t you?” Joe asks.

“Yes, I’m emotional honey, so watch out!”, Sarah laughs out.


“I’m a Generator, Sacral”, Joe adds.

“Ya, that’s cool”, responds Sarah and off she went into the garden leaving Joe with the bag of
groceries in his arms and the open car door.

Joe watches Sarah walk away and begins to fall into a deeper swoon.

“Wow, she is so hot. I love her body”, Joe whispers out loud.

“Hey Joe, you got water in your cooler?” Dylan calls out to Joe breaking the reverie of his
enchantment.

“Ya, help yourself, Dylan, there is one in there for you”, Joe calls out.

Joe was caught up in his thoughts and distracted from joining the group. He knew that Sarah was an
emotional Projector and that it might be a tough romantic connection for the two to come together,
him being a Generator and Sacral. He was prepared to do whatever it took to appeal Sarah into a date
and a romantic picnic where he could enjoy the delicious, unique way of being and the cute flirtation
that she often played.

June finished unloading the car and began to set up her tables. Soon, the group would gather and sit
near the fire and share their plans for the project and the research that had been conducted over the
past two weeks.

Rose took her seat on a log bench near the roaring fire that Dylan had prepared for the group at their
campsite. The heat from the fire felt good to Rose and reminded her of the time when she was a small
child and spent summers in Maine at the campground with her family. Thinking about those summers
reminded her of friends she had not seen in many years. Rose felt her mood dip into melancholy and
quietness.

Dylan noticed Rose change in demeanor and posture. Her shoulders were a little slumped over and a
distant look framed her face as she stared into the fire. Dylan walked over to Rose slowly and quietly,
“What’s the matter, Buttercup?”

“Oh, I was just reminiscing about my childhood and the time our family spent at the lake, camping
and sitting by the fire each evening singing songs with friends, laughing, enjoying the warm summer
nights in nature”, Rose responded.

Dylan began to feel a warmth of energy rise up inside of him as he listened to Rose tell her story of
summers past. He began to lose focus of the conversation as he noticed the deep blue color of her
eyes and the way one blonde lock fell over he forehead.

“She is so beautiful and sweet”, Dylan silently whispered in his mind.

Rose noticed that Dylan was being attentive and doting. She was touched and impressed by his
tenderness. Dylan demonstrated an eloquent and graceful behavior unlike most men Rose
encountered. Rose began to smile and cheer up as she sat with Dylan. She always felt better when
she was in his company. She knew his defined Spleen filled up her open Spleen and gave her that
yummy feeling of “safe and secure”.
Dylan continued listening to Rose as she shared her experiences at the lake house during her
childhood summers. Rose loved to talk, talk and talk. She was an open Throat Generator with
Emotional Inner Authority; Dylan was a Manifestor with Emotional Inner Authority.

Rose felt very, very juicy to Dylan as he drank in her beauty and her stories, the excitement and
charge of her animated way. He fantasized of making love to her as she continued to share, Rose felt
Dylan’s warmth towards her and it began to tickle her tummy and make her giggle.

June walked up to the fire where the two were sitting and suddenly breaks the reverie of adoration
between the couple, “Hey kids, how’s it going?”

“Hi June, Rose is sharing stories about her childhood summers at the lake house”, Dylan replies.

“Oh, I have heard all those stories!” June chuckles, “Rose loves telling stories. She talks a lot too”.

“I love your stories, Rose”, Dylan speaks out in defense of Rose and to soften the bluntness of June’s
comment. Dylan knew Rose talked a lot but he loved to listen to her voice and watch her move as she
expressed herself. He was deeply attracted to Rose and wanted very much to support her and help her
to feel comfortable and empowered.

“Do you have your tables set up and your presentations ready?” June asks Rose and Dylan.

“Yes, I’m ready and have all of my presentations set up”, Rose answers with a big smile.

“I’m ready to go too, June. Just let us know when you want to start. Do you need help with anything?”
Dylan replies.

Joe had unloaded Sara’s equipment from her car and was busy assisting her in setting up the table,
unpacking boxes and erecting her art installation models.

Joe didn’t need a table for his presentation. All he required was his computer, wide screen television
and cables, easy. Sarah, with her large art installations and heavy boxes, definitely required Joe’s
help. Thank heavens he was eager to please and assist.

Sarah knew that Joe and her shared the electromagnetic 50/27, a juicy, “feels like it’s fated” kind of
electromagnetic. With Sarah’s gate 27, she often rushed into taking care of some sick, poor animal or
a distressed human. She could give in easily to Joe if he tempted her with his own ailments. With
Joe’s gate 50, he wouldn’t know who or how to take care of and Sarah gave him that feeling of
needing his care. It was easy to create those kind of conditions with Sarah’s open Spleen and Joe’s
defined Spleen. Sarah would think that she needed him; Joe would feel like he finally found someone
he could really take care of and who needed him.

Each time Sarah and Joe were in each other’s company, the Sacral would begin to heat up. It was
obvious that they shared powerful connections electromagnetically, and that they were attracted to
each other and sharing similar thoughts being created by the electromagnetics.

When the electromagnetics would tickle between them, they would look at each other and giggle.
Every one in the group had predicted that the two would come together as a couple, eventually. With
that much electricity between them, they would be mating soon and creating a story.
Part II

June walked over to Sarah’s table to see if she would be ready soon so that the meeting could start on
time, at least close to it. June knew that Sarah would be late. She was always late by at least a half an
hour.

“Hey, Sarah, I see Joe has been busy helping you unload the car and setting up your art installations.
You must be almost ready for the meeting to start, yes?”

“Hi June, yes, I am almost ready. I am having a slight bit of a challenge with the hinge on one of my
folding signs. I think I am going to have to repair it before the meeting starts. It is one of my most
important pieces for the presentation. I really can’t do it with out it.”

“I can’t help but notice that there is something happening between you and Joe, Sarah. Are you
attracted to him?” June asks quietly as if she was almost whispering.

“Well, I like how he tries so hard to please me. That feels nice. I also like how he helps me with
everything. I don’t even have to ask.”

“But are you attracted to him, Sarah?”

“Well, he isn’t really someone that I would be attracted to, no. He actually turns me off. I am not
attracted to guys with his color of hair and I really don’t like his style.”

“Wow, you guys act like you are hot for each other. At least it feels that way. Let me see your charts
again. I am curious about your electromagnetics”, June says motioning to Sarah to open her computer
and pull up the charts.

Sarah opens her computer to show June the charts, “Here they are”.

I see you have the 41/30, Channel of Recognition. I’m sure that is making you guys feel very yummy
and warm inside. You probably inspire him and make him feel alive.”

“Yes, it does get hot in my body when he is around. I would never choose to sleep with him but I do
warm up and feel like may be it would be a nice experience if I kissed him and spent some romantic
time with him. I can’t decide”, responds Sarah.

“Let’s see… Joe has the 41.1 and you have the 30.3, nope, not in harmony. Are you sure you aren’t
just tripping on your electromagnetic and the fact that you two are so different?” asks June. “I mean,
you don’t have the Sacral defined, no wonder it heats up when you are near him”.

“Ya, that is probably what it is, the electromagnetic. I don’t know. I don’t want to miss a great
opportunity to be with a man who is really a good provider and maybe a good lover.”

“Oh gawd”, responds June as she rolls her eyes and turns to walk away. “Ill check on you in a few
minutes, babe.” And off she went to see how the others were getting along and if they are ready to
start soon.
From the beginning, the group had recognized June as the general manager and organizer of the
operations and strategy of the group’s vision. She would take scrupulous notes of each meeting,
maintain correspondence between the group members, managed the meeting calendar and maintained
the bookkeeping of all expenses and income. It was a big job but she enjoyed it immensely and she
was a natural.

June fixed her desk to the right of Joe’s stand where he had placed his large, desktop screen for his
presentation. With notebook, pen, recorder and a few articles, agendas and meeting notes to pass out,
she was ready to start.

Joe, Rose and Dylan made their way to the group center, ready to share their presentation and to listen
to each of the members share theirs.

“Where’s Sarah?” asks June as each person arrives and takes their place behind their table.

“She is getting her jacket from the car”, Joe pipes up in response.

“He knows her every step”, June thought to herself silently.

“Great. We will wait a few minutes more and maybe Rose can take the lead with her first presentation.
Does that work for you guys?”

“Sure, sounds good, June”, replies Dylan.

Sarah bounces into the groups meeting ring and makes her way to her table. As she walks through
the center, she trips on a twig and drops her basket, glass of water and jacket.

“Oh my gawd, she is soooo cute”, Joe silently whispers in his mind as he quickly jumps up to assist
Sarah in gathering her things up off the ground.

“Are you ok?” Joe asks as he leans over to pick up her jacket.

“I’m fine!” Sarah says as she smiles and continues walking towards her table and right past Joe.

Joe is left standing in the center of the group’s circle holding Sarah’s jacket and watching Sarah walk
towards her table.

“Um, Joe, could we please start the meeting?” June interrupts the deep trance that Joe seemed to be
lost in.

“Oh, yes, yes”, Joe responds and walks back towards his table a little bewildered and lost in thoughts.

“Rose, could you please begin the meeting by sharing your presentation on the design you have for
the gardens?” June asks.

Rose walks over to her easel where her sketches and drawings were displayed on a tablet.

“This is the design that I have created for the front entrance of the community home. I have also
included four season transition gardens into the design of the beds with half of the plants annual and
the other half perennial, which will double in size each year and eventually replace the annual planting
and offer four season color.”
The group watched carefully as Rose pointed to the sketches and identified garden areas, spoke of
the types of plants she desired in each garden, the care required and an approximate cost of all items
needed for the project.

June looked over at Dylan. He seemed lost in his thoughts as he watched Rose explain her drawings
and share her plan. You could see that he was not really listening, yet hearing every word. He was
obviously fantasizing about a moment in time when the two were alone, together. There was this faint
smile at the edge of his lips that spoke of playful secrets.

“Oh boy”, June said out loud without realizing it. With her open Throat Center and her open Ajna
and Head Center, it was bound to happen from time to time.

Everyone in the group looked over at June. It was one of those fatal feeling moments when the camera
is on you and you have to bare your soul gracefully or get fried. June knew it well as a 5/1 Generator
who often became the scapegoat. She could take it. She had a defined Will and it was obvious that
she was fearless and strong.

“I’m just thinking out loud, never mind”, June says with a chuckle and a wave of the hand. Rose,
Dylan and Joe sit staring at June for three seconds before Dylan breaks in and says, “I really like
Rose’s suggestions for the gardens. Do you think that Rose’s figures are realistic and fit in the plan,
Joe? June?”

“Yes, I think they are very fair and prove to have fantastic longevity. I’m looking forward to seeing
the other sketches that she has prepared”, said Joe.

“I like the ideas and they seem highly practical. I agree the idea of the perennials adding longevity to
the plan is brilliant. That will save us money over the long run”, June adds in.

“I would begin with looking at breaking down the costs according to gardens and then sub categorize
expenses for each individual garden. Then I would do a yearly projection of all expenses and then
subdivided again according to projects and gardens”, Joe adds. “Let me crunch some numbers on it
and create a budget. I will get back with you about the specifics when we meet at our next meeting”,

June looks over at Sarah and notices that her head is nodding as she begins to fall asleep. “Oh dear,
they would be a terrible match”, June whispers silently in her mind.

“I will really appreciate you taking the time to do that Joe. I am really challenged at sitting down and
focusing on spreadsheets”, Rose responds with a chuckle. “Just give me a plot of soil and let me do
my own thing, Mother Nature and I speak the same language.”

Suddenly, Sarah sits up straight with eyes open and interrupts.

“Nobody can design gardens like you can, Rose!”

“And nobody can design art installations like you, Sarah!”, responds Rose. “What do you have to
share with the group? I can’t wait to see what you have created!”

“Do you need help, Sarah?”, asks Joe. “I can help hold the installations while you explain them to the
group.”
“Uh, sure, thanks”, responds Sarah rubbing her sleepy eyes and gathering her momentum to move
front and center.

Each person in the group presents their projects and tasks performed, Joe gives his closing financial
report and the meeting ends allowing the group to disperse and enter into private moments with each
other.

“Sarah dear, can you please help me prepare the food for our dinner?” asks June.

“Be right there!” calls out Sarah as she tucks away the last art installation for the evening.

Sarah meets June at the tailgate of their car to grab the basket of food and cooler.

“Hey, you gotta do something about Joe. He is really falling for you and losing his center. Are you
really attracted to him? He keeps doing things that he thinks are going to make you recognize him
and maybe fall in love with him”, says June.

“I don’t know. I get a little excited around him but I know we are not a match. I’m not sure what to
do.”

“I think you need to see how you really feel. Either try it out or let him know you are not interested.
It is difficult for the group to focus our intentions when he is working so hard to get your attention.”

“Hey girls, can I help”, asks Joe as he suddenly appears around the back of the car.

“Sure, I’m going to go set the table and get it ready. You two bring the food and the cooler. I will
meet you there”, says June hoping that Sarah would take that as a cue to have a talk with Joe about
how she really feels.

“Do you want to take the cooler first or the boxes of food?” asks Sarah.

“Listen Sarah, I have been wanting to ask you out for dinner. Do you think we could go out tomorrow
night, maybe get some Thai food?” asks Joe.

“That sounds delicious! Ok, cool! I would love to!”, Sarah responds.

“But don’t you have to sleep on it and maybe push the invitation away since you are emotionally
defined, Sarah?”, asks Joe.

“Oh, ya, rite. I’ll let you know tomorrow. We’ll see. Ask me in the morning”, chuckles Sarah as she
grabs the handle from one side of the cooler. “Grab the other handle. Let’s take this cooler down
first”.

Joe grabs the handle, smiles at Sarah looking deeply into her eyes and fantasizing about the first kiss
they would have after dining at the Thai restaurant. He could hardly stand having to sleep a full night
and wait an entire day until he was alone with Sarah and moving closer towards that first kiss.

Sarah rolled her eyes as she started to walk away with cooler handle in one hand and Joe on the other
side. He never noticed that she rolled her eyes. He also wasn’t aware that he was behaving a little odd
and overbearing with his affection and desire.
“I’ve gotta say something to this guy”, Sarah whispers silently in her mind. “Maybe I wont go out to
dinner with him tomorrow night”.

Part III

Everyone was beginning to gather at the picnic table. June had placed a blue and white, checkered
table cloth on top of the picnic table and Rose had brought a lovely bouquet from her garden to place
in the middle. Daffodils, tulips, roses and hyacinths filled the bouquet. It was quite fragrant and a
spectacular display.

Sarah and Joe had brought everything from the car and arranged the dishes of food and serving ware
on the table.

Sara had assisted June in preparing the food at home before they left to come to the picnic camp out.
June had owned a restaurant in the past and was good at preparing food for groups. She was a natural
fit to create the kitchen and gather the supply of food. Sarah was a natural at assisting June. She loved
working in the kitchen and could move easily beside June, creating the different dishes that were on
the menu for the event.

Dylan stirred the camp fire so that it would be burning hot embers by the time dinner was over and
everyone could gather to warm.

“This looks great! I’m really hungry”, Dylan says as he walks up to the table.

“Sarah and June worked all day yesterday to prepare this beautiful meal, thank you ladies!” Rose
speaks out.

“Sarah, no matter what you do, it’s always amazing. You’re touch is magic”, Joe says next.

Sarah looks over at June with eyes wide open and a quizzical look. She knew that June had done most
of the work and that Sarah would never have been able to prepare this food without June present. She
didn’t even know the recipes. She felt odd in that moment and embarrassed to have attention directed
only on her. It was obvious that Joe was being obsessive and inappropriate. She thought it was sweet
though how he was putting attention on her. It made her feel special and odd at the same time.
Something was very wrong.

June smiled, “Yes, Joe, Sarah is amazing in the kitchen, she is a natural!”

June knew that Joe’s comment made Sarah feel odd yet special. She could see through Sarah’s body
language that she was feeling strange and that her comment would maybe diffuse the odd feeling. It
seemed to work.

“Let’s eat”, June speaks out to help the group move along into the next moment.
Each person takes their seat on the bench on each side of the table. Joe watches carefully which seat
Sarah chooses so that he can sit directly across from her. He loved being able to look into her eyes
and drink in her sensual beauty.

June grabs a folding chair to sit at the end of the table and allow comfortable room for place settings
and plates of food. Besides, she liked sitting on a cushion and her folding chair had her seat pillow
resting on top.

Dylan sitting across from Rose brought a smile to his face and a soft giggle from Rose. Their eyes
locked for a moment as they felt the tickle of their electromagnetics. They would probably kiss soon.
They could not fight the attraction.

Sarah looks over at June; “I love what you did with the nut burgers this time. Did you write down the
recipe?”

“You know I never write the recipe down. I think it just gets better and better each time we make it.”
June chuckles.

Sarah begins to feel her Sacral heat up. She looks over at Joe. He looks up at her and smiles. The heat
builds more and now Sarah is flushed and starting to feel nervous. She feels her Sacral stir and the
juices of a hot romantic connection begin to flow.

“Oh no”, Sarah whispers to herself. June looks over at Sarah. She knew exactly what was happening
to her. She smiled a half smile at Sarah. Sarah smiled a half smile back. They both knew what was
going on.

“I have this great idea Sarah”, Joe speaks out breaking the quiet spell of the group enjoying dinner
and the uncomfortable feeling that was rising up in Sarah.

Sarah knew that Joe was heading into a long speech about his idea and how it would happen. He was
good at coming up with great ideas and making big promises.

Sarah looked over at June and rolled her eyes. June smiled and nodded her head. Joe kept talking and
didn’t take notice that the girls weren’t interested in hearing another one of his ‘great ideas’ and the
false promises that would follow. They had watched it too many times. That was the original reason
why the group had been constructed in a democratic way, to keep an organized structure and not
allow one person to run over the group.

Joe’s monologue seemed to consume the entire meal with a few small, short pauses between his
speeches. The rest of the group grew tired of listening and soon finished their meals to move into the
next event for the evening.

The evening air began to turn cool and the fire was an inviting, cozy spot to gather after dinner. June
and Rose gathered up the dishes and food to put away for the night. Joe assisted with putting things
back into the car to keep the food safe from bears and raccoons.

Sarah assisted Dylan with stoking the fire and gathering more firewood.
“Wow, that heat between Sarah and Joe is really building, June”, Rose speaks out as they are gathering
the leftovers from dinner.

“Yes, I know. He is not her type though. She is having a hard time with the electromagnetics. Joe will
buy her a present or do something sweet for her and she gets confused and thinks she would like to
kiss him but that would be a disaster. I encourage her to wait out her emotional wave and see how
she feels in a few weeks before jumping on those sensations”.

“Ya, I have a similar thing happening with me and Dylan”

“You are both Manifestors though. That is good. It is better than an emotional Projector and a Sacral
Generator. Can you imagine?”

“Oh gawd, that sounds horrible!”

“Indeed”, said June.

“I love your art installations, Sarah”, Dylan speaks out as he and Sarah are gathering firewood and
stirring up the fire.

“Oh thanks, Dylan. I’m really excited about starting the project and getting it going. I can’t wait to
get into the studio and work with the crew.”

“Ya, I’m looking forward to creating the actual system from the model that I designed”.

Sarah sits down on a log near the fire to warm her fingers and toes. Joe walks over towards the fire
and sees Sarah sitting alone on the log. He hesitates because he doesn’t want to come on to strong.
He stops at the fire and decides to stand. He looks over at Sarah and quietly takes in her beauty as she
stares into the fire.

“Hey Joe, you think I can get the funding in time for my project so that the actual design will be done
in time?” asks Dylan.

“Sure, we can look at the budget and see where the priorities are and distribute a portion of the funds
your direction. We can take a deeper look at the plans.”

Joe continues his dialogue of finances near the fire with Dylan. Sarah was enjoying the quiet moment
warming by the fire and it seemed that Joe broke the sweet moment when he walked up to talk about
finances in his usual monologue. It annoyed Sarah and she decided to get up and walk away from the
fire and head towards the girls by the picnic table.

Joe noticed Sarah leave and watched her walk away while he continued his monologue with Dylan.
Dylan watched Joe be obsessed with Sarah and their electromaganetics and differences. It was the
same old story and a little ridiculous.

Joe went quiet for a moment and then looked at Dylan who was crouched near the fire.

“I am so in love with that girl. She is so sexy” Joe speaks out breaking the short moment of stillness
by the fire.

Dylan rolls his eyes and moves his hands closer to the fire.
“Oh my gawd. I don’t know what I’m going to do with that boy”, says Sarah as she walks up to June
and Rose at the picnic table. “I need help”.

“Honey, your Sacral is so activated by his presence. What are you going to do? Do you really think
you guys are a good match? Do you realize what you would be creating for yourself in the long run?
You guy’s are so different, a Sacral Generator and an Emotional Projector, drama central!” June
replies.

“I cant do that, no way”.

“Just remember that you are emotional and that you will feel different about him all the time. Watch
to see if you are consistently attracted to him over a few weeks. That will tell you everything you
need to know.” June says. “Don’t jump into it.”

“And, you are so passionate, Sarah”, Rose speaks up, “It would be good to give yourself time and not
get hooked into something that might be really wrong for you. I see how annoyed you become when
he talks all the time. It would only get worse for you”.

“Oh my gawd, you are so right Rose”, Sarah says. “I’m going to take my time and really be tuned in
as I navigate this one. I don’t want to repeat the same romantic drama story that seems to play out
over and over. I am so tired of that. I’m not sure what to do with all of this heat.”

“Just see it for what it is and keep reminding yourself, Sarah. You see how he talks all the time and
how it turns you off. You see how he imposes on you when you are not ready. You see how he is
very active, working, that is not you. You like to lie around and read books. That is already going to
be a problem because he really is not seeing you for who you are and he will expect you to keep up.
Remember when he said you could help him build the tree houses? Ya, right!” June chuckles.

“Ok, I’m going to take my time and try to see through this haze of sensuous feelings that are engulfing
me.”

“Good job! Hang in there, girl”, June laughs as she picks up the final box to carry to the car.

“Oh how lovely, Dylan! Thank you for keeping the fire stoked and warm for us”, says Rose as she
and Sarah approach the fire.

“Sit down here, Rose,” points Dylan to a nice flat log with a pillow sitting on top. Rose giggles and
walks over to the cushioned spot where Dylan had placed the pillow on the log.

Sarah and June sit down next to each other on a log. Joe stays standing at the side of the fire and
Dylan seats himself on the other side of Rose, seated on her cushion.

“I love the ideas that we shared today”, spoke up Joe. He loved to talk with his open Throat Center
and taking the center of attention. It was easy to do standing up and towering over most of the group.

June sat thinking to herself wishing Joe would pay attention to the fact that he has an open Throat
Center and the gate 23 conscious just above it. He loved to tell everyone everything that he was
thinking. It was draining and it made everyone in the group wish that they didn’t have to endure it. If
only he would take the time to look at himself and how he was impacting the group and productivity.
There was hardly a chance for anyone else to talk and offer creative inspiration. It was draining.

He would even mention that he loved to talk too much and had a slight little chuckle with it as if he
thought it was cute and ok. It was actually very annoying and the very thing that was pushing Sarah
away and any other romantic pursuit. It would become the one thing that would eventually turn off
every lover. Joe was oblivious. He loved talking, being the center of attention and making lots of
promises.

Sarah began to yawn and announced to the group that she was tired and going to go to her tent. Joe
looked over at Sarah, “Can I walk you to your tent?”

“Sure”, says Sarah a little disinterested and slightly annoyed.

The two walk towards Sarah’s tent at the back of the camping area. Often, she sets up her tent far
away from the rest of the group. She enjoyed her silence and time in her own aura, alone in nature.

“Sarah dear, thanks for all of the hard work that you have done for the group. I am really proud of the
efforts that you have put forth and I can see that this team would be nothing without you. I am going
to allocate a large portion of the funds from our starting capital budget towards your project. Thanks
for the hard work.”

Sarah stood in front of her tent looking at Joe for a few seconds without saying anything. It made her
feel strange that he was drawing her out as the sole cause of the success of the group and that he
wanted to allocate a large portion of the start up funds for her project. It felt incredibly wrong and out
of balance and made Sarah feel very, very strange. She didn’t like the excessive attention that Joe
was giving her and she suddenly felt a little sad.

“Good night, Joe” she said as she turned to walk into her tent.

Joe stood standing for a moment thinking to him self, “perhaps I should have offered her a company
car”.

The next morning, June was the first to rise from sleep. She put the pot of water on to boil for coffee
and tea and went to the car to gather the food items for breakfast.

With her four motors, she was always the first to rise and had plenty of energy to do lots of tasks,
more than most. June loved being busy and she loved nurturing the group by preparing healthy foods
and making sure that there was nutritious snacks available.

The coffee was made and all breakfast items were on the table. Sarah walks up rubbing here eyes;
yawning and waking up to start the day. Sarah didn’t like to talk in the morning and June knew this.
Sarah slowly made her cup of coffee and made her way to join June in the chairs where the sun was
breaking through and warming the day.

June liked to start her day with a quiet meditation with the sun shining brightly on her. Sarah loved
sharing this moment with June. It was one of their morning rituals.
Sarah sits down in the chair beside June and glances over with a warm greeting of a smile. June smiles
back. The two are quiet for a few minutes as the sun rises until Sarah turns to June, “June, I am really
glad that you encouraged me to wait with Joe in spite of the heat I was feeling with him. In the past I
would have gone for it and kissed him and then really, really regret it because he is so wrong for me
as a companion. I just can’t imagine being with him now”.

“Yes, yes, good job, glad you can see that.”

The end.

Written by Kashi Stone 2014

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What supports tribal bonding and security?

Anthropologist Helen Fisher (“The Anatomy of Love”) explored the natural history of mating,
marriage, adultery and divorce across the globe. She said we need three systems in place, that support
pair-bonding:

Lust (sex drive) to motivate us to find a range of potential mating partners.

Romantic love to make us focus on one individual at a time.

Deep attachment to allow us to stay together to raise a child through infancy or longer.

Although her research focused on the brain, hormones and behavioral traits, each of these systems
has an energetic counterpart in the human vehicle that supports species survival.

What energetic circuitry supports tribal bonding?

The soul blueprint of a human being is made of interconnecting energy centers, circuits and channels,
as described by the Human Design system updated from the I Ching system. There are 64 different
hexagrams/gates (core archetypes) distributed into various energy centers.

For example, the Figure below illustrates part of the circuitry in our body. The white box represents
the sacral energy center with 9 gates (e.g. Gates 5, 14, 29, etc.).
When two gates in different centers are joined, they form a channel with a specific function (e.g.
Channel of Preservation 27/50 and Channel of Connecting 59/6, as shown).

What supports tribal bonding and security?

These two channels are part of Tribal Circuitry, which is all about reproduction, family, caring,
support, contracts, agreements, resources, tribal defense, war and values. For example:

The Channel of Connecting (Reproduction) links Gate 59 (Sexuality, Intimacy, Genetic Strategy,
Fertility) and Gate 6 (Friction, Conflict, Emotional Balance, Diplomacy).

Gate 59 is the fuel/sexual energy used for mating (e.g. pursuer/pursued, bold/shy, bonds made or
broken/promiscuity, friend/not, seducer/gigolo or soul mate/one night stand).

Gate 6 meets the fertile power of Gate 59 with emotion, need and passion that bonds us. Gate 59
without Gate 6 is not emotional or nurturing. It’s fuel for sex, war and resources.

The Channel of Preservation (Custodianship) links Gate 27 (Caring) and Gate 50 (Values).

This intuitive channel is about nurturing, nourishment, taking care of the young, the weak and the
sick, teaching and educating them about tribal values, fairness and rules.

What supports tribal bonding and security?

What other channels contribute to tribal bonding?

The Channel of Sensitivity (Love and Marriage) links Gate 19 (Wanting) and Gate 49 (Principles).

This channel is about touching, flirting, dating, marriage, support or divorce. It’s about having the
sensitivity to know who belongs to the tribe or not.

The Channel of Family (Community) links Gate 37 (Friendship) and Gate 40 (Aloneness).

This channel is about making agreements, deals, bargains, contracts (e.g. marriage) and formal bonds
about work and resources (e.g. dowry). It’s about community bonding.

The Channel of Money links Gate 45 (Gatherer, King/Queen, Dominance, Possession) and Gate 21
(Treasurer, Control, Authority, Hunter/Huntress).

This channel is about creating and managing resources for the tribe. It’s the energy of power struggles,
being in control/not, or managing things together.

These tribal energies create strong drives for love, relationships, money and security in our families
or tribes. They’re also the source of conflict, strife, rebellion and war on our planet.

Final Thoughts

All of us are influenced by these energies running at the individual, tribal and collective levels,
whether they’re part our personal life plan or not. This is just a small glimpse at the energetic circuits,
channels and gates at play as interacting frequencies and emotional waves around us.
The tribal waves tend to ratchet up until they explode, then reset and start over. The trick is to develop
enough clarity and self-awareness (EQ or emotional intelligence) to recognize which of these waves
actually come from us vs. somebody else in the room just blowing off steam!?

They also serve to remind us that “intimacy” is not limited to just our physical relationship. Intimacy
needs to be cultivated and maintained in all areas of life (below).

All relationships are a work in progress – divinely designed to make us evolve.

What is Love?

ANDREA ABAY-ABAY

Ask a physicist, and they’ll tell you love is chemistry. Ask a romantic, and they’ll tell you it’s a
yearning that drives all great fables. The psychotherapist will tell you there are several kinds of love.
“Love” can be a generic term, for there are so many different nuances to the feelings of love.

One thing we can all agree on: it is impossible to thrive in life without love. Love can seem like an
eternal mystery, the idealized myth of fairytales… but when you begin to look at love through the
lens of Human Design mechanics, you’ll find that love is all about connectivity.

There are certain Gates in the Rave I-Ching that carry the frequency we call love. In Human Design
we call these (hexagrams) the “Love Gates.”

Whether you have all the Gates of Love consistently defined in your bodygraph, none of them or
something in between, the way you experience those feelings we term love is outlined in these ten
gates.

"If you allow someone to be who they are and they allow you to be who you are, then that's Love.
Anything else is torture." - Ra Uru Hu
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We have a false prophecy about the nature of love. We assume that we generate love in the world by
loving each other. This is a funny thing because this has nothing to do with what this love is all about.
It has nothing to do with loving your guru, friend or your dog. It has to be with being one with the
creative process, accepting surrender for what it is to be you and seeing in that surrender your own
beauty.

Only when you find surrender in your own beauty do you put love in the aura of the world. There is
no other way, no matter how sweet and nice you are and how much love you have within yourself
and how much love you want to put out in the world. It is not going to change the aura of our planet.

What changes the aura of our planet is human beings living their nature. That is the crux of what our
work is, so that human beings can just live out their nature without the morality, without the
conditioning; to see clearly what it is just to be themselves. That creates love in the world."

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Electromagnetics

The obvious instant connection when you meet someone is when "sparks fly between you." This
comes about when one person has one side of a channel and the other person has the other side. This
is called an "electromagnetic" connection. When the two people meet, the energy combines to define
the whole channel and the energies flow between the two centers. It can feel like a rush of energy in
an otherwise quiet part of one's being. The more of these connections there are in a relationship, the
more sparks fly. This can be very exciting, but too many of these connections bring a point when the
relationship overheats!

Friendship

When both partners in a relationship have the same gate or channel activation in their own design,
the two combine in an area of friendship within the relationship. It is as though both parties are
looking through the same window at the same view in their lives. Friendship leads to empathy and
having several friendship connections potentially strengthens the harmony in relationships.

Dominion

When one partner has an entire channel defined and the other partner has nothing in that channel, the
partner with the definition has dominion in that area. This is a particular unique energy that your
partner brings which you do not share in, but you may admire, appreciate or perhaps, simply tolerate.
When you are the one who has the dominion channel in your design, it is helpful for you to be aware
of the effect it has on your partner, i.e. you bring something to the relationship that your partner may
be aware of, but in which they may not be able to participate.
Compromise

When one partner has a whole channel defined and therefore he or she is accustomed to consistently
moving their energy in a particular way in that area of their being, but the partner only has a gate in
that channel, there exists a state of compromise in the relationship. This area of the relationship bears
much conscious attention. With compromises there can be potentially a mismatch of energy, leading
to a sense of resentment because there is always the feeling that one or other of the partnership
controls the flow in that part of the relationship.

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Definitions

Each person has a unique Design based upon his or her date, time, and place of birth.

In analyzing a Basic Human Design Chart one of the things looked at is whether the Channels that
have Definition connect with each other or not. There are people who have all their Definitions
between Channels connected to each other. Depending on how the Defined Channels connect, an
individual is considered to have that many Splits in their Design. The concept of Definition Type has
been used in Design as a way of describing a Chart. The construct is useful in describing the Design
Chart of an individual in terms of their Strategy in managing their energetic process in their daily life.

No Definition

An individual who has No Definition in Type is someone in whom the Design Chart has no Channels
Defined; these individuals are Reflectors.

Single Definition

A Single Definition Type applies to a Chart where there is Definition in a Channel or more than one
Channel and the Channel or Channels that have Definition form one stream of connected energies. A
Single Definition person is at some level self-contained because their Definition forms a single
potential of energy, which reliably flows in them.

Split Definition

A Split Definition occurs when two areas of separate Definition do not connect to each other. Because
of this Split in the flow of energy in the Split Definition Chart, that person always seeks a Bridge,
i.e., a Gate or Channel that links the separate energetic Definitions together.

Triple Split Definition

The Triple Split Definition person is someone who has three separate Channels of Definition in their
Design Chart that do not connect to each other in the Defined Channels of energy flow. These
individuals need several Bridges to connect these Defined Channels.
Quadruple Split Definition

The Quadruple Split Definition is someone who has four separate Channels of Definition in their
Design Chart that do not connect to each other in the Defined Channels of energy flow. Often these
individuals have all centers Defined but not all connect to each other.

(For statistics analysis of the frequency of occurrence of different Definition Types see, Statistical
Analysis of Definition Type in the Human Design System, Waking Design Chart, by Eleanor Haspel-
Portner, Ph.D., on the www.unifiedlifesciences.com web site in the Research section).

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The Sacral Center and the Movement of Life Force, "Sex" energy

Human Design: Sacral Sex Design

by Chetan Parkyn

In Human Design, the Sacral Center is seen as the Sex center, the powerhouse, the "Generator" and
source of Life Force Energy. Just like a mechanical generator, at the outset, the Sacral Center takes
time to gather momentum, but once its energy is applied, it keeps on going, supplying and
relinquishing its life force energy into whatever it is being directed. For a "Generator" in Human
Design, the most important thing for them is to be clear they are engaging their energies into activities
and with people that are really suited to them.

The Sacral Center has 9 differing gates emanating from it and 11 differing ways in which its energies
can be unleashed. Sacral, Life Force, Sexual energy has a multiplicity of expressions.

The Root - Sacral, Format Connections

The Root Center in the body graph provides the place from which we receive the impulse to
regenerate. Adrenaline energy, from the root center, is supplied to the Sacral center through one or
more of three different channels, accenting the mode in which the sacral center will operate. The Root
Center is associated with stress and an "adrenalized" Sacral center can operate ceaselessly. Again, it
is so important that Generators apply their energies to those things to which they get a clear personal
response. If you have one or more of these channels in your design, you are the one who provides the
impetus to what is going to happen sexually in your relationship.

The Spleen - Sacral, Caring Connections

The Spleen Center, biologically the immune system, relates to the area of health and well-being for
the human body. Sacral energy connecting into the Spleen provides Life Force energy into everything
relating to caring. Sacral, Sex energy when applied to caring increases or depletes the life force of
those to whom it is applied. It happens frequently in human relations that there can be confusion in
how "caring" and "sexual" approaches are interpreted. The source of the energy is the same, the sacral
center, but the intent is very different energetically. If you have one of these channels in your design,
you care. Sex is an option!

The Throat - Sacral, Manifesting Connection

In Human Design, the channel 20 - 34, the channel of Charisma, provides direct access between the
source of Life Force energy and the Throat, the place of manifestation. Inevitably, anyone who has
this channel in their design tends to be constantly in motion and it is of utmost importance for them
to direct their energies to people and activities which are right for them, rather than frittering away
their precious life-force energy into needless activities. If you have this channel in your design, you
might find yourself too busy doing other things to stop and have sex!

The Self - Sacral, "Tantric" Connections

There are 4 channels connecting between the Sacral center and the Self center. The Self center, in
terms of Human Design, is seen as the seat of the soul., the place from where we are guided in our
lives by Existence, by our Higher Self. When sacral, sex energy rises to the self center, there is the
inherent possibility of transmutation. In other words, sexual energy can be streamed into
superconsciousness, base metal transformed to gold, as in the teachings of tantra. Conversely, when
the energy falls and the Self pours its energy into sex, the gold gathers dross. The key to tantric,
transmutational energy is timing, and anyone who has one or more of these channels in their design
has an inner sense of timing to which they are naturally attuned with their sacral response.
Transformation through the play of Sexual energy is a part of life. If you have one of these channels
in your design.... the heavens are the limit! (But hell also could be on your map!)

The Emotional - Sacral, Sex Connection

In Human Design biology, when it comes to sex, its expressions can be found in the most obvious
forms in the Emotional, Solar-Plexus center. Emotions are involved in everything to do with pleasure,
whether is be food, sex, or excitement, and yet, the emotional center is the biggest mystery for all
humans. Often, people are dissuaded from evaluating their emotions on any pretext because emotional
sensitivities are perceived as perhaps "unstable" or "unmanly." As a result, many people have
apparent problems with their eating habits and their association with natural sex. And yet, it is the
emotions which align us with everything that is truly "human." There is an increasing obsession in
the world with food and sex to the point where each of us has to resolve from within our self, exactly
how it relates to us through our emotions

The Emotional Center operates in a wave motion, cycling through highs of hopes, expectations and
delights, to lows of pain, disaster and despondency...and back again! Sex, in its expression, will
always, when left to its own devices, follow the same pattern, from lows to highs and back again.
(There are those who can transmute sexual energy, through tantric techniques, so that the energy
remains on a high.)

The Procreation Cake Mix

The Channel 59 - 6, between the Sacral and Emotional centers, is the channel of intimacy and
procreation. The 59 provides the role for intimacy and the 6 either accepts or avoids the intimacy. In
biological terms, the 59 gives us a genetic strategy, expressed in our outward behavior so that we can
attract a mate who has a suitable gene match, in the 6, for healthy procreation to take place! The genes
are not concerned with the personalities involved in the slightest, they just want a gene match, so by
a strange trick of the genes, we are often brought into relationship purely to satisfy procreation! We
might feel aggrieved at this, considering the genes to be "having their way with us," but in Design
terms, providing one enters into the relationship according to one's type, fulfillment is assured.

If you have the 59 - 6 channel in your design, you are always penetrating other people's emotional
field and they might feel "invaded," but they will certainly have the opportunity to experience
intimacy. Also, in your own life you are likely to be extremely fertile. (personally, my 59-6 is
activated by gate 2, which I was recently told means that I may not be that fertile. Fine by me)

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Human Design: Sexual Streams

I'm making my way through the Sexuality Manual and wanted to leave some notes here, mixed with
the Chetan Parkyn article from a few years back (I'd leave a link but I've been through 3 computers
since then and have lost bookmarks).

Sex is emotional and emotions are sex. Sex runs through a Motor, not an Awareness center. The
Splenic center, an Awareness center, has the mirror image of the sexual streams, through the Splenic
runs the Caring streams, runs what can sustain a sexual relationship. First, here's the Sexual Streams.

3 Streams of Sex: the Marriage/Tribal Stream, the Romance/Individual Stream, & the
Excitement/Collective Stream

We all have 64 gates and 9 centers, the lack of definition is where we are open. We all have a sexual
side. Some of us have definition, some of us are open sexually. The less amount of activations of
sex, through these streams, the more intrigue/curiosity with sex. We want what we are not, the more
we can tend to ''hold on.'' The areas where we have definition, we're consistent.

Marriage/Tribal Stream

Each stream has it's own sense, touching, hearing, seeing. The tribal stream of marriage is all about
the Touch. Words mean very little in a stream with no connection to the throat. From the Root at
Gate 19 to the Emo SP at Gate 49 & Gate 37, leading up to the Ego at Gate 40.

Food and Sex are very intertwined. In the Tribal/Marriage realm, it's about who has the food, not so
much the eating it. Who has the food/sex, where's it getting distributed, all those contracts and
bargains.

Gate 19 - Gate 49 Channel of Sensitivity

Gate 19 is the flirt, Gate 49 has the resources. Here we see the channel of the Bride and Groom, the
flirtation before marriage, the setting up of the marriage, the preliminaries.
Gate 37 - Gate 40 Channel of Marriage

Gate 37 is the gate of Friendship, gate of the mouth. Gate 40 is the gate of aloneness, the gate of the
stomach. This is the marriage contract itself.

Tribal sexuality can become very creative. It's very sensual. Ra brings up an important point here
that sex can become very oral, and reach beyond penis-in-vagina sex, because most of the world has
a issue of fecundity. In order to prevent pregnancy, there's a lot of sexuality that can be found in this
stream that goes beyond procreation.

Romance/Individual Stream

This is the Romance/Individual Stream. From the Root at Gate 39 to the Emo Solar Plexus at Gate
55 & Gate 22 through to the Throat at Gate 12.

This stream loves words, there's a connection to the throat. What happens here is the pulse
mechanism, it's individual, the creativity is either On or Off. The feeling here is based on ''I''. As in,
“I feel good or bad because I'm being”. (picky sexually, strange sexually, limited sexually, etc.) And
the words mean more than the actions. This is a stream where Romantic Love is highlighted. Sex is
Love, not a commodity like the Tribal Love/Sex and not just another Collective exciting experience.
Consummation is best pushed aside in favor of love songs, poetry, etc.

Excitement/Collective Stream

This is the collective sex, all about ''sharing'' with the collective. This is visual, so that the sex can be
remembered, and shared. Starting at the Root at Gate 41connecting up to the Emotional Solar Plexus
at Gate 30 & Gate 36 to the Throat at Gate 35.

And insatiable drive to keep moving forward. Sex here is very exciting with the focus on the
experience itself rather than the person or people involved.

Blame can be found in the collective stream. Where we see the ''I'' being highlighted in the Individual
stream, the ''You'' is highlighted in the Collective. ''I feel this way because you.

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Chetan Parkyn HDS Article 4:

''The marriage and property sex stream runs from the root center, through the emotional center to the
ego/willpower center. It moves energetically through the realms of loving, honoring, marrying and
obeying. It is based in a contract of who fulfills what and who belongs to whom in a relationship. It
is very tactile, as in holding and touching and is also community oriented, in that everyone knows
who "belongs" to whom (and in certain cultures, what they had to pay to get them!).

The Romance and disillusionment sex stream runs from the root center through the emotional center
to the throat, where it speaks out in "sweet nothings" and poetry. Consummation of romance is the
trial because the chase is more engaging than the culmination. This stream is acoustically oriented,
based in sounds and sighs, therefore our love songs promise a perfection which is perhaps just
unobtainable.
The excitement and disappointment sex stream draws us through experiences one after the other. This
is the stream of the Kama Sutra where every fantastic possibility must be explored. The need for
fulfillment of desire may be felt as impersonal, where the experience itself is more important than the
other person involved in the experience. Desire can even burn out in a state of boredom when all
conceivable eventualities have been explored. With advancing age and maturity, the need to
constantly fulfill changing experiences diminishes.

Accepting our sexual nature

In each of these sacral connections and sexual streams it can be seen that we are drawn along through
the possibilities of pleasures and the possibilities of dissatisfaction. We are slaves to our biology when
sexual energy runs us, making our choices for us. However, when we are clear about our own
relationship to our own sexuality, we feel an inner sense of satisfaction and balance.

Sexual compatibility begins with recognizing our own personal unique sexual makeup and then
allowing for a merging with the energies of our partner. Sexual energy plays through many forms. It
is the life force which moves within us and life is our nature and our delight.''

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The Ego Circuit and Love

In addition to being the circuit of materialism, the Ego circuit is a circuit of love. This is how it works
physiologically: The Ego circuit represents the body that needs support (love). After conception, the
Ego circuit is built by the Heart center. Right from the beginning it's all about love as a basic nutrition
from one body to the new one (and not to reject it) that this vehicle can be built. It's all about giving:
As a result, the channel 21–45 means: Only what you have, possess, can you give. If you have love,
you can give it away and by giving it away you will discover that you can never lose it. Instead, it
will increase by giving it away, it maximizes. You only really “have” something if it becomes more
by giving it away.

Egoism is all about wanting and having, possession, not wanting to give it away because of the fear
of losing it, poverty, which is stored in the body. It minimizes. If someone supports you with all the
love of his heart, you will feel it immediately as strength in your whole body, which you can be aware
of as a better (or the best possible) tone in your muscles. But if it is able to take away your strength
and weakens the tone of your muscles in your whole body, it is egoism. Therefore the main theme in
this circuit is: fear of manipulation/being manipulated. So in dealing with love, there is always this
fear.

The defined Ego center must leave this fear behind (it is related to a past incarnation, where this center
was open) because in this life it is protected. People with a defined Heart center can never be
manipulated. They will immediately feel in their body, which gives clear signals, that they do not
want to be manipulated. Therefore they don't need to be egoistic as a protection based on fear. They
can stop it and act with love. They really do not even need to be angry. If it is real love that's
“manipulating” you, an open heart can surrender without any fear. The defined Heart center has to
realize all the love inside. They have to bring out all this love they really have and give it to all the
people as a support. On the right side (19 up to 40) to all the people they feel familiar with; on the
left side (54 up to 26) to the subjects and all the people they have to deal with in their job. By the
way: On another level, the stream of memory carries a lot of information and fears, stored in the
physical body from past incarnations, related to love-themes.

The open Heart center can always have this deep fear of manipulation within a love relationship and
has to learn to handle it. It has to be aware of this fear coming up again in the body and the fear will
always be felt in the body through the tone of the muscles, like a seismograph for manipulation. It
can make you very angry, harden your body (muscles) and if you keep on being that hard on the
physical level it will weaken you after a while. But most of all, the open Heart center has to be aware
of an upcoming fear or the tendency to put someone in charge of a manipulation where there is
actually none and no reason for it. It is only related to one's own memories, stored in the physical
body, where such a manipulation has happened, while this situation today seems to be similar, but it
is not. It can also be a memory from a past incarnation, which wants to lead you through a clearing
process.

Love relationships can give us a great opportunity to face and let go of these old fears of being
manipulated, which can also be rooted in our childhood, where we were deeply dependent and often
manipulated to love our parents, despite of needing to be needed.

Gate 26 is part of the cross of leadership. Within this defined channel - which is deeply rooted in the
muscles of the body as a strength for the job you really love - a leader does not want to be under
control or feel like s/he is. No matter what one thinks about, it is just a physiological charisma of the
body, chemistry, part of the aura. The 21 is part of the cross of tension, and it is producing
physiological signals/symptoms or gets sick if it is under the control of foreign forces. It needs to be
in control to bring all the love out to the community. It's also a physiological charisma of the body,
as a part of the aura, a “chemistry” of the body that can have deep attraction as well as it can lead to
deep rejection. It is the coin of Love and Hate.

A 21 has to make sure, that the money-festation is not disturbed and possibly brought into a wrong
direction based on emotional energy, by controlling (as well own) the emotions.

A 51 has to have the strength to make sure that the first step into their own individual mystical way
is not rooted in manipulation out of the memory (of fear) of this life or before. If it is not rooted in
manipulative intention, it will be seen as innocence. Everyone has their own part in the game of love
and the fear of manipulation, which can always lie underneath. It's not a subject of the mind. It's a
purely physiological language (and awareness through the tone/strength of the muscles!) of the body,
only based on smell and touch, no matter what we can see and listen to, without eyes (17, 11) and
ears (57, 22, 43).

September 1999

Martin Grassinger

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The Gates of Love

There are many places that the expressions of love can come from within the Human Design system.
As we approach Valentine’s Day, let us take a look at some of the gates and examine what kind of
love they may pour forth. The table below gives a detailed look at some the love of some of the gates.
Relationships

RA URU HU

Right from the beginning, from the very beginning, when I first began to show people their designs,
their first inclination was to compare it to somebody else’s. It’s one of the most magical things about
the structure of the BodyGraph, that it’s so easy for us to work with composites.

It’s so easy for a first-time novice who has just received their chart to look at the relationship of their
chart to somebody else’s. And not so much that they understand in depth what they’re seeing, but
they can see the connections and similarities.

First understand Yourself

When you begin your process in Human Design, naturally you’re going to want to know what
somebody else’s design is, particularly in terms of what Type they are. And the moment that you look
at their chart or the moment that you calculate their chart and you compare it to your own, the obvious
is really where you begin.

Remember, this is one of the most important things to understand. At the very beginning of looking
at any kind of partnership is to really understand yourself. At the moment that you’re really clear
about yourself then you’re going to be much more aware of what’s happening to you in a relationship
with anyone else.

The first thing you have to be clear about when looking at yourself is to look at the whiteness. What
I mean by that is that if you look at your BodyGraph you will notice a limitation in the number of
Gates that can be activated in a design. There are only so many imprinting forces. The vast majority
of your design, even if it looks like it’s colored in a lot, is not activated. It’s open, it’s white.

Receptors

Now, remember something about openness. Whether that openness is in a Center, a Gate, or a
Channel, it does not mean it’s empty or broken, and it doesn’t have to be fixed. What it really is, is a
receptor. These are receptors. Remember that when you’re looking at your BodyGraph, what you’re
looking at is your differentiation—what makes you different from the other person. What makes you
like everybody else is where you’re open because this is where you’re conditioned.

When you’re looking at your design, and you’re looking at what is activated and colored in, you’re
looking at what is fixed and reliable in you; it’s not going to change. It is your difference, and it’s
why everything in Human Design is based on trusting what is fixed to make decisions. Because those
decisions are going to be correct for you, for your differentiation.

Most human beings make decisions based on what they’re not, based on their receptors, based on
wanting to be like everybody else because they feel guilty, because they’ve been shamed into it,
conditioned to it, motivated to it, whatever the outside conditioning rationalization happens to be.

Live out your Uniqueness


And yet, we’re not here to be like the other. We’re already very much like the other, we’re the same
specie. But what’s so important for us is to live out our uniqueness. If we don’t live out our
uniqueness, then the whole never flourishes. So in looking at your openness, recognize that these are
receptors that connect you to the outside world. They connect you to the other.

When you look at the way in which humanity is designed at the genetic level, you will see that we
have a basic genetic imperative. And that basic genetic imperative is to make more. It’s all your genes
truly care about. If they don’t make more they die off. And they don’t want to die off, so they make
more.

The other thing is that genes don’t want to make more with the same. They always want to make
something new. And the more they keep on making something new, the greater the possibility of
being able to withstand a mutation and to survive.

One of the basic things to grasp about what it is to be a human being is that we are designed to be
attracted to what we are not. In other words, we are designed genetically for the very survival of our
species to be attracted to the conditioning field.

Obviously that’s a trap. There’s no question that that is a trap. That conditioning to the outside making
the outside so attractive leads to human beings abandoning who they are to try to be something else.
And that is not the point. So we have this deep, deep conditioning that is out there that we are naturally
attracted to.

Now, we meet that conditioning field in different ways. Today I’m in the middle of International
Human Design School professional trainings. I’ve been working with professional analysts on
partnership analysis. Something that is enormously important. Particularly in our deep personal
relationships, whether between partners or parents and children, this kind of insight into the
mechanics of your relationship with somebody else is absolutely essential.

Problems in Relationships

I want to remind you of something. The problems of most relationships are that they were never
entered into correctly, and that the participants in the relationship don’t operate correctly as
themselves. That really is what it’s all about. And it’s very important to grasp.

One of the most difficult things for me over the years is the awakening of people to their design, their
nature, what’s correct for them, and for them to go through the dilemma of the realization that
relationships they’ve been involved with are not correct for them. And often that is very disturbing,
obviously.

These relationships can involve family, business, children, so forth and so on. And it’s not my
business to want people to revamp and distort their lives. I’m simply concerned about them being
correct.

Enter into Relationships as Yourself

But when we come to speaking about partnership, the best partnerships are the ones that you’re going
to enter into correctly as yourself. And the best way to maintain a relationship, develop a relationship,
or have a relationship flower is to respect the nature of the other being.
The most important thing that one learns about mechanics is that you can’t change anyone. You can
condition them; but you cannot change them. And the moment that one realizes that your relationship
is not going to get better if you change or the other changes, you’re already on your way.

It’s one of the essentials of this knowledge: to see that regardless of what the external conditions are,
whether that has to do with your personal relationship with friend or colleague or child, or whatever
it may be, all of it is about the correctness that you bring to that relationship. If you’re correct in that
relationship then it is going to work for you. If you’re a Generator and somebody comes to you and
asks you if want to be with them and you go ah huh, then that relationship is going to be correct for
you.

I’m not saying, by the way, that that relationship is going to be perfect, that it’s going to be nothing
but sweetness and roses. It’s not about that. It is about the correctness of it. If you’re a third line being
and you enter into a relationship correctly, in all likelihood there’s going to be problems because
you’re a third line being.

You’re there to discover what doesn’t work. And the complexity of relationships between human
beings is vast, there are so many things that can be found that do not work. But it doesn’t mean that
the relationship was not correct. If you entered into it correctly, the relationship is going to be
precisely what it it’s meant to be.

Respect the Nature of Others

The other thing is that in your personal relationship with others, once you have access to this
knowledge, it doesn’t really matter whether they know or not. It’s not like you have to teach them
Human Design. You don’t. When you’re dealing with your children, if you have children, knowing
their design allows you to stop being a conditioning force that’s negative in their lives.

If you just treat them according to the demands of their strategy, if you carefully shepherd them
towards operating correctly as themselves, you can do that simply by respecting their nature.

Oh, yes, there are deep complexities in the way in which we meet, in the various ways in which we
connect to each other. There are all kinds of ways of analysis of partnerships. But at the very, very
basic foundation of any relationship, you don’t have to go deep into all of its intricacies and
mechanics. You have to be correct yourself. You have to insist on being treated with respect according
to your nature. You treat others that way. And you enter into new relationships according to your
Inner Authority.

If you do that, you will see that those new relationships are relationships that are rewarding for you.
And that the problems of the past, the problems that you’ve had in relating with others in the past can
disappear. That’s something very special.

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Split Definitions and Relationships

RA URU HU

This article is an excerpt from the transcript of the audio lecture “Split Definitions and Relationships”.

The Nature of Relationships

This subject today is one that I’ve wanted to talk about for a very long time. I think it is something
that is not particularly well understood. It has to do with the nature of relationships to begin with:
Why do we have them and what is it within the mechanism (of a relationship) that actually makes it
possible? As every one of you know, one of the most difficult things in life is to maintain
relationships, and to maintain quality relationships—whether those quality relationships are with
friends, lovers, children, parents, whatever it may be—we all understand that this is quite difficult.

It isn't as if it's obvious that this is something we’re designed for. One of the things I talk about a lot
is genetic imperative; that is, within the context of what it means to be conditioned, we are designed
to be conditioned. This is the way the genetic imperative works. So, we have all of these receptors,
and all of these receptors are going, “I want it, I want it, I want it.” But that doesn't mean those
receptors inherently know what to do when they get what they want. They don’t. It's just, “I don't
have it, and I want it. That's all it is.

So, this is not about relationships, it has nothing to do with the relating process. It has to do with, “I
want it. I don't have it.” And of course this is the nature of what is to be human. There are people who
have died because the other person wanted what that person had. That’s the movie. “I want it.” But
that has nothing to do with relating; nothing.

So, where does the relating part come from? Where is this? We know that in Human Design, we have
a Quarter of Duality. It’s inherent in the mandala, this Quarter of Duality that says there is a process
we must go through. We know that we’re a bio-form and the whole reason we’ve got this, “I want it”
is so that we can have the sexual reproduction that comes with that. But even in the Quarter of Duality,
it simply gives frameworks in which the binary can function. But it’s still not about relating.

You can go into circuitry, and you can go to the collective circuitry that's all about sharing, and you
could say (mmm sound). After all, everything about the collective circuitry truly is about you and me,
you and the other. But it’s still not about relating.

Split Definitions Carry the Responsibility for Pair Bonding

Then we come to today’s subject, which is a nice way to lead up to the fact that to be a split definition
is to carry the responsibility for pair bonding. Now, that’s really something to understand. The only
beings on this planet who are equipped by design to be in a relationship are split definitions (referring
to simple splits).

I’m a single definition, I know that I don't belong in relationships. Try to have one with me and you'll
see. Yet, at the same time, it's clear to me that the moment I'm dealing with a split definition, it's like
I'm going to school in the duality game. Only split definitions can actually teach you how to be with
somebody. And when I say that, I'm idealizing, of course, because the not-self being the not-self; let’s
put that aside for a moment.

When I think about the split definitions themselves—and obviously, I know many and I’ve worked
with many—there is so much we’ll go through. There is so much in their process that is so distracting,
and that turns what is their very gift into their problem.

When we talk about splits, we always talk about that problem: getting hooked on the bridge, and it's
the wrong bridge because it's not just a bridge — it’s all the crap that comes with the bridge. And
they're the ones, if you look at people who complain about their relationships and their “this and that,”
they’re splits. In the duality game, this is the movie. The not-self split definition goes through this
lifetime of relationship horrors and blunders. By the way, if a blunder leads to having children, it's a
messy blunder, all of this without any sense of true awareness.

Split Definitions Teach Everyone How to be in a Partnership

But the split definition that’s correct is here to teach everyone else how to be in a partnership because
they know what's missing for them. They know what it means, that being with another makes an
enormous difference in their lives. And I'm not just talking about a lover, I’m talking about all
relationships. It is only in the split definition that there is this potential to really make a partnership
work. You cannot expect a single definition, a triple-split, and particularly a quad, to be able to make
a relationship work, they don't. They’re the problem in the relationship, because they’re not designed
for it.

They don't know what it means that through the other they can find wholeness. Think about how
profound that is. You’re a split definition, you're correct, you enter into a relationship correctly and
it gives you a sense of wholeness. That sense of wholeness gets translated as a value in terms of the
quality of that relationship. You understand immediately the benefit you're deriving from that
connection; immediately. But if you're a single definition and you enter into a relationship, the
relationship isn't giving you any sense of wholeness. “I don't need anybody,” by Design.

So, the whole concept of relating and the bargains that have to be made, and the compromises and
the “this” and the “that,” — you have a split definition that has a compromise on their bridge and
they’ll live with it. You’re a single definition and you have a compromise with whomever, you're
taking knives out of your pocket. “I don’t want to have anything to do with you.” Because there’s
nothing that says you can't afford to give these people up.

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Relationships in the 21st Century | Human Design Charts for Relationships

MARCH 30, 2015 BY THE SUCCESS TRANSFORMATION

Love and Being in Love

Many languages carry the description equivalent to “falling in love.” What is it that takes place when
you are suddenly overtaken by this amazing sense of recognition? Do some chemicals get loosed
inside making you behave strangely, or is there some truth to the tale that Cupid has shot you with
one of his magical arrows? Are you bound to “fall,” or is there ever the possibility you might “rise in
love?”

The honest answer is that although there have been myriad attempts to explain love; romantic love
remains a mystery to us all. With Human Design, there are several clear indications as to what is
actually going on between two people. Relationships can be clearly seen whether they be love
relationships, family, or business relationships.

In this article, I examine how we can simply and easily bring harmony and fulfillment to all our
relationships. Human Design works from the premise that we do not come here to suffer; we come
here to be, and to express Authenticity. When we appreciate who we are, we experience Self-love,
and only when we find Self-love can we truly impart love into all of our relationships.

A brief history of relationship

There are many legends of great and fantastic romance stories where the lovers meet, struggles are
endured, resolution comes, and everyone lives happily forevermore. And then I remember that they
had no plumbing or cars or telephones or email or FaceTime, and in fact, the way of life experienced
in those not too distant times was completely different. So perhaps, the whole story, or the true story
has never been told.

We are not far removed, if at all, from the age of ‘goods and chattels,’ when marriages were arranged
to ensure political and financial stability, and young people are traded like cattle. Many couples today
have prenuptial agreements and you only have to witness one California divorce to find out who is
considered worth what in a relationship. There are still many segments of society that insist their
children only relate within their own group, be that material, political, religious or racial, but slowly,
the global village opens the possibilities for a dramatic shift in how we all perceive relationship.

We live in an age that fosters a complete reexamination of how and why people come together and
relate. Indeed relationships are changing and there is an urgent need to be clear that, if we are going
to be in relationship and have ongoing reflection from the people around us, then we need to become
wise in recognizing exactly what those reflections are and what they mean to us. There is no such
thing as an intrinsically good or a bad relationship but there is the possibility of an intelligent,
interactive and loving relationship.

Partnerships seen through Human Design

In Human Design, it is a simple matter to draw up an individual person’s chart and read from that
chart exactly how that person is designed to interact within the world, consistently. When we bring
two people’s charts together and overlay them, a new picture is developed which clearly shows the
coming into being of an entirely new energy form. The combined chart precisely shows the distinct
energetic ways in which the two people unite. Let’s look at some people we all know and have heard
much about to see how their relationship dynamics are illustrated by Design.
LOVE LANGUAGE BY DESIGN

Love language is something we often hear about in the world of psychology, popularized by Gary
Chapman. I had the idea for this post awhile back and I’ve struggled with how to put it together
because I tend to try to avoid oversimplifications according to one aspect of our chart. However, I
think there are a few ways to look at this and it’s always good to explore how we might better support
our partners and the VIP’s in our life. I also want to clarify that most of us will have 2-3 prominent
love languages. In addition, we each have an amalgamation of needs based on various combinations
of astrological placements and elements of our Design (like Variables + Profiles) as well as how we
were nurtured. This is just a jumping off point to explore + potentially open up communication.
Gaining awareness around how to support our people can not only offer us a deeper, more intimate
connection and ease in our relationships, but also more patience for the dynamics of our unique
combined energy, and more permission for our partners to be more fully themselves.

Find out my why’s for the energy type love language associations above, below, + some additional
ways to support the folks in your life. I added the Moon signs b/c the Moon is the most personal
planet and it is how we feel deeply nourished. While I will try to dismount from my “stop ignoring
the importance of the Moon sign” soap box here, I will say that the Moon is how we relate to each
other, which feels pretty important when it comes to our relationships (maybe even more so than the
simplified relationship astrology we often see based on our Sun signs… ok, now I”m done ;).

GENERATORS

Physical touch is about intimacy, fostering deeper connection on the physical level, releasing some
oxytocin. It can be about sexual connection but also non-sexual affection. I selected touch for
Generators because anytime you can help a Sacral being (MG’s included) get their focus out of their
heads and into their bodies, you are supporting them. You will also find this is true for many folks
with certain emotional waves, that touch can be the thing to melt their defenses. You can additionally
nourish Generators (+MG’s) by asking them yes and no questions so they can feel into their intuitive
response and follow their joy. And, you can nourish Sacral folks by helping them get their energy out
at the end of the day. One of the quickest ways to flush out excess sacral energy is with an orgasm.

Also think: Taurus + Scorpio moons for touch + physical closeness

MANIFESTING GENERATORS

Quality time is spending time with your loved one, giving them all of your attention (putting the
devices away). This also includes active listening, good communication + thoughtful conversation
(which is why you see Gemini down there ;). I selected quality time because Man Gen’s are often
flitting about, staying busy (which we don’t want to judge or try to change) and can be helped by a
time out from the going, going with some Q.T. MG’s need to play and anytime you can remind them
of this + even do it with them, it’s a win. As Sacral beings they would benefit from all of the Generator
support as well.
Also think: Gemini, Cancer, Sagittarius + Pisces moons for QT

PROJECTORS

Words of affirmation is about verbal validation, appreciation, encouragement and recognition. This
is definitely one of their main love languages, as recognition is written into their Aura. Tell them how
much you appreciate them, help them to feel seen and heard. This is also a way you can deeply nourish
Projector children… offer them recognition before they have to ask for it. Invite them into your life
and also honor when they need down time or rest without putting judgement on them.

Also think: Aries + Leo moons for words of affirmation

MANIFESTORS (+ REFLECTORS)

I chose gifts for Manifestors simply because it can be a way to encourage their creativity and also to
offer them love while still giving them freedom and allowing them to initiate in other ways (I could
just as easily have selected acts of service and put gifts for Reflectors because this is about offering
gifts that are meaningful to your partner, which is about showing them they are truly seen). Show
them a little appreciation when they get home with a well thought out gift or by drawing them a bath
for some much needed down time emptying out. While it is a Manifestors Strategy to Inform it is
helpful for both members of the relationship to do so, to utilize it as a gateway in to greater intimacy
as well as creating ease where there might otherwise be conflict.

Also think Libra + Capricorn moons for gifts

REFLECTORS (+ MANIFESTORS)

I picked acts of service for Reflectors because they are so nourished by the element of surprise as it
is their emotional theme. While they need their partner to honor their requirement for time alone +
rest, creating a well timed surprise can be just the thing to express your love. This could even be time
spent creating a space in your home that is just for them or helping them to step into + honor their
correct Environment. ;) Acts of service is somehow making life a little easier for your partner and is
perfectly aligned for those folks who believe actions speak louder than words.

You see the Signs below are often associated with service + giving which is why they benefit from
some balance. They tend to give A LOT and are nourished by getting some in return.

Also think Cancer, Virgo + Aquarius moons for acts of service

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